Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Sept 3, 2024 1:39:44 GMT
I thought about this today. I'm single, but I don't really ever feel lonely. I'm an introvert at heart so I'm very happy in my own company.
There are times that I miss being part of a couple. It would be nice to have someone to watch TV with or go to the movies, but it's not an overwhelming feeling.
I wouldn't want to go back to my ex, but I miss the 'couple' aspect sometimes.
What about you?
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Post by epeanymous on Sept 3, 2024 1:52:28 GMT
I am married to someone who needs zero alone time and chatters nonstop, and my youngest is a velcro kid. At work I have around 150 students and I am in meetings all the time. It’s a lot! But that one year I was in SF half of each week, living alone, with no meetings, I was not lonely at all.
ETA: I am realizing this may have been a thread for single ladies and sorry if I should not have responded!
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Post by chaosisapony on Sept 3, 2024 2:13:35 GMT
I've pretty much always been single. It's pretty rare that I feel lonely, probably because I have a great group of friends and some family nearby that will do things with me. But yeah, every so often I think it would be nice to have a boyfriend to just hop in the car and go on a trip with or watch a movie with. But then I think about what relationships entail and I remember I am just not interested in all of that.
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Sept 3, 2024 5:57:58 GMT
I am single and I love my alone time and my me time.
The only time I've felt a bit......not sure I would say "lonely" >> more like stir crazy, was during the covid shut down and distancing. Off work for a couple months. It was a lot of hours to fill in a day......day after day after day after day, etc.... by myself.
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theshyone
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Post by theshyone on Sept 3, 2024 5:58:40 GMT
I am lonely. My health keeps me very isolated.
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SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Sept 3, 2024 11:26:35 GMT
I'm widowed and very rarely do I feel lonely. Don't get me wrong, it happens every now and again but for the most part I'm ok being alone.
I don't think I'll ever get involved with someone again (I do NOT have the patience to go thru the dating BS I'm seeing on line and hearing from friends), so the fact that I'm fine alone is a good thing.
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Post by lisae on Sept 3, 2024 11:57:24 GMT
I am lonely. My health keeps me very isolated. I'm sorry. {{hugs}}
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Sept 3, 2024 12:55:28 GMT
I am lonely. My health keeps me very isolated. I'm sorry to hear that. We are here for you.
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Sept 3, 2024 12:58:23 GMT
I'm especially introverted at the first of the week. If I don't see anyone from Monday-Wednesday, I'm pretty happy just left to my own devices. About Thursday, I start to think that I should venture out and see people then by the weekend, I've had my loneliness tank refilled and I'm good to go for a few more days.
I don't think I'll ever get married again but it would be nice to have someone to hang out with to watch tv or just go out to dinner. I do miss those parts of having a partner but if I don't get it, I'll still be ok.
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Post by gracieplusthree on Sept 3, 2024 13:13:03 GMT
My husband died almost 21 years ago. I'm used to being single now but at times wish there were someone to simply chat with when I get home from work..or when they get home from work. Someone to go to the store with(other than my daughter who is great and goes with me places quite frequently).
It's the bond and basic day to day stuff I miss.
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Post by peasapie on Sept 3, 2024 13:41:57 GMT
I'm blessed with a few very dear, longtime friends and, separately, neighbors who enjoy getting together now and then.
In my life there have been times when I moved to a new place and was lonely, but I joined groups like Meetup or art gatherings where I met new friends. I also like being alone to read, draw, sew, etc.
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Post by aprilfay21 on Sept 3, 2024 13:49:41 GMT
I live with my husband, 4 kids, and elderly aunt. My house is always chaos, work is stressful and my DH owns the company so we're on the phone all the time. When we get home DH just wants to chill and relax so I'm lonely in the sense that I don't ever really have anyone to TALK to. Like, actual conversations about life and stuff outside of kids and work.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Sept 3, 2024 14:49:34 GMT
No.
I was never planning to get married but then I did.
It's just enough to have someone go and do things with, travel, etc.
When he goes hunting for the weekend (which will be most every weekend now through Christmas) I enjoy the time at home, alone.
Fortunately I have a solid friend group and the sports events, lunches, happy hours and dinners with them are just enough that I'm not a hermit.
For me, the mix of both is perfect.
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Sept 3, 2024 14:59:18 GMT
I do. I am 73 and very independent and have always been so. After my husband died I moved to a big city to be closer to family. They have their own lives with 2 kids so I don't see them as often as I would like. I wouldn't want to be married but I do miss the "right" companionship. I do have several wonderful friends. My life is rich and full but being alone day after day does make me lonely.
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Post by airforcemomof1 on Sept 3, 2024 15:05:33 GMT
Sadly yes.
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Post by essiejean on Sept 3, 2024 15:06:19 GMT
I crave some alone/lonely time in my life. My DH is retired so is around the house all day all week - so weekends he is anxious to go do "stuff" away from home. I'm the opposite. I have been away from home all week and just want to veg at home. I am around people 24/7 it seems so on the weekend if DH want to golf or anything else I am 100% in favor so that I can savor some alone/lonely time.
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Post by disneypal on Sept 3, 2024 16:25:11 GMT
I am fortunate. I don't get lonely. I am alone a lot but not lonely. I am a busy person, always doing something crafty or busy in the house and such. I do quite a bit of volunteer work and I'm involved with different things at church. I love going out, even if by myself, to see movies, or explore nearby towns and historic sites. I go to museums and exhibits and sometimes I enjoy having someone with me and other times I actually prefer going alone because I can take my own sweet time and just focus on what I want to focus on instead of feeling like I am holding someone up.
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Post by smasonnc on Sept 3, 2024 16:49:32 GMT
I am fortunate. I don't get lonely. I am alone a lot but not lonely. I am a busy person, always doing something crafty or busy in the house and such. I do quite a bit of volunteer work and I'm involved with different things at church. I love going out, even if by myself, to see movies, or explore nearby towns and historic sites. I go to museums and exhibits and sometimes I enjoy having someone with me and other times I actually prefer going alone because I can take my own sweet time and just focus on what I want to focus on instead of feeling like I am holding someone up. Except for the church part, are you me? 😄 DH and I do things together and I see friends frequently, but I like my alone time, too.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Sept 3, 2024 16:55:42 GMT
No, even when I was in my post-divorce single phase, I was busy enough that I didn't feel lonely. However, now that I am in a relationship where we enjoy each other's company and go most places together, its really nice to have that person with me consistently. I do sometimes sneak away for some "me" time, especially if I just want to go browse a store since DH wants to get in and out as quickly as possible. He's a scheduler, and there is always the "next thing" on his list. My introverted self needs a little downtime, so I use his bike riding or gym time to recharge my batteries.
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Post by mayceesgranny on Sept 3, 2024 17:07:47 GMT
I am rarely lonely - I'm busy all the time with my kids, grandkids, my mother and dh. But DH was just gone for a week. During that time I watched what I wanted, ate what I wanted, visited the grands and spent time in my craft room. BUT.... I was surprised that I really did miss him at the end of those 7 days. It was nice to have someone else in the house to talk to and to cook with and go to bed with. If it was more than a week I think I might be lonely at times.
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pinklady
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Post by pinklady on Sept 3, 2024 17:11:56 GMT
No, not at all. I like me and I like doing things by myself like going out to eat, to the movies or even traveling. Honestly, the pandemic/COVID was great for me in that I got all the alone time I could ever want! I was bummed when the world started opening back up and people wanted to start getting together. every so often I think it would be nice to have a boyfriend to just hop in the car and go on a trip with or watch a movie with. But then I think about what relationships entail and I remember I am just not interested in all of that. I sometime think it would be great to have a boyfriend but then I talk to my BFF and hear how miserable she is and thank my lucky stars I only have to worry about me.
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Post by teacherlisa on Sept 3, 2024 17:25:11 GMT
Single empty nester here. I really don't ever get lonely. I am an introvert and have a lot of hobbies and activities I like to do alone. I live in a small town so I have a lot of people I run into if I am out and about. If I sit down for happy hour for example, sooner or later someone I know will also be by. I do wish I could find the love of my life and a girl bestie, but so far, no luck in either department
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Tearisci
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Post by Tearisci on Sept 3, 2024 17:51:25 GMT
So sorry! I know how that can feel.
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Post by quinlove on Sept 3, 2024 17:54:19 GMT
I am fortunate. I don't get lonely. I am alone a lot but not lonely. I am a busy person, always doing something crafty or busy in the house and such. I do quite a bit of volunteer work and I'm involved with different things at church. I love going out, even if by myself, to see movies, or explore nearby towns and historic sites. I go to museums and exhibits and sometimes I enjoy having someone with me and other times I actually prefer going alone because I can take my own sweet time and just focus on what I want to focus on instead of feeling like I am holding someone up. Except for the church part, are you me? 😄 DH and I do things together and I see friends frequently, but I like my alone time, too. Me too. Except for the church, volunteer, movies, historic sites, and museums. Basically, I am alone a lot and don’t get lonely.
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Sept 3, 2024 18:02:00 GMT
I don't get lonely too often, especially having six animals. But I do have times (a lot) that I miss my late husband. It's been 3 1/2 years since he died and I think I will always miss him and I definitely have zero desire to date.
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Post by ~summer~ on Sept 3, 2024 18:30:28 GMT
I have a full life - a partner and grown kids and a lot of friends, plus work and hobbies.
I get sad/blue sometimes…but I don’t ever really feel lonely. I actually need a lot of time alone.
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Post by KelleeM on Sept 3, 2024 21:44:25 GMT
Yes. I’m grateful that my adult son lives with me (but he needs a job). My husband was my best friend and he’s been gone almost 5 years. I have absolutely no interest in dating and don’t have much of a social life.
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Post by mom on Sept 3, 2024 23:21:12 GMT
I am very happily married and an empty nester. That said, my DH is very outgoing and is always on the go and always runs into people when he is out. He absolutely hates being at home and not doing something. Very rarely does he turn down a social invite. I, on the other hand, am an introvert and hate being on the go all the time. I need lots of 'me' time. Very rarely do I get lonely --- Im great going shopping by myself, staying at home and watching tv, scrapbooking, etc. I have friends that I can go to lunch with and see everyday if I'd like, but that is way too much 'peopleing' for me. I like to be alone and can appreciate the quietness.
If I do find myself getting lonely, it's usually because I am just missing my mom or my adult kids.
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Post by deekaye on Sept 3, 2024 23:27:33 GMT
I was talking about this very thing last weekend to my bestie. I'm married, work FT in a busy hospital department, have a large family and plenty of friends, including my bestie friend so no, I never feel lonely but I DO crave being alone sometimes, know what I mean?
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Post by Delta Dawn on Sept 3, 2024 23:27:48 GMT
There is a meme of someone having one friend to text all day long Well I have 2 of them. I consider myself lucky. They are the best friends imaginable. I have other friends, too. This is just my life. Those friends are amazing.
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