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Post by scrappintoee on Sept 20, 2024 22:33:52 GMT
jeremysgirl....I always appreciate your very thought-provoking posts ; I've learned a LOT about many topics from them. I also think/ analyze a lot like you do. I don't usually post my thoughts, because I don't have enough knowledge to comment (for example---your recent thread the environmental impact/ costs of food). Sheesh, I learned info in that thread that I had no idea about! But I LOVE to read all the replies. Dh and I were celebrating our anniversary at a nice restaurant recently. Couples/ families staring at their phones THE ENTIRE TIME shocked / saddened me. I can understand scrolling for a little while, but even after their dinner was served ? ! I kept thinking I just need to "get with the times" and accept that's just how it is, but I HATE it! What will it be like in 2 years? 5 years? etc.
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Post by scrappintoee on Sept 20, 2024 22:37:55 GMT
jeremysgirl said: I have often thought about how much nicer things would be if I could set up a board just for my family members. They are the people I'd miss if I left Facebook. I would be open to a private site, or just a basic version of Facebook for connecting and I'd be willing to pay for it.One of DH's brothers created a facebook page just for our family members, and I love having a separate group for that. I wonder if your Mom would stop texting you every five minutes  if she could post whenever she wants on your private family page?
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Post by scrappintoee on Sept 20, 2024 22:53:24 GMT
jeremysgirl ...arrgh! "Quick Quote" hasn't worked for me lately (awww....poor scrappintoee and her 1st world problems!  ) I don't mean to hijack your thread, but your comment about listening to CDs on your boom box reminded me of something my know-it-all sister said a few years ago. I was road-tripping with my Dad, and just in case the rental car couldn't play my ipod, I brought CDs. (one of my awesome nephews used to call me the "queen of contingencies" and marveled at how I always had a back-up plan for *everything.* ) Older, gaslighting sis told me "no need to bring CDs, ALL rental cars can play MP3s now....NO ONE listens to CDs anymore"....( she ALWAYS makes these emphatic, innacurate statements!) Welll....guess what? The car I rented ONLY had a CD player. I was so happy I'd brought my CDs (just in case!) and so was my Dad. I mean... we were going on a road trip---we NEEDED to sing!  /highjack over
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Post by alsomsknit on Sept 21, 2024 15:15:03 GMT
Jonathan Haidt, who wrote The Anxious Generation was on Mayim Bialik’s YouTube channel LinkIt was an interesting discussion. His book is on my TBR. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 21, 2024 15:31:22 GMT
Jonathan Haidt, who wrote The Anxious Generation was on Mayim Bialik’s YouTube channel LinkIt was an interesting discussion. His book is on my TBR. I read it. Very well done. I listened to the podcast too. You know what I liked about it most? Mayim was able to tell him honestly what has happened in the life of her and her children as a result of cellphones. Sometimes I feel like everybody is like, yeah I'm not going to admit I or my kids have a problem despite the fact that there is data which suggests kids are on their phone up to 7-10 hours a day. And then if you actually do get a reluctant, well this might be a problem, there seems to be this attitude of but what can you do? Or the even more adamant technology is so great for X, Y, Z reasons that I'll overlook the bad parts of it. It has changed us as a society. Do I love that I can Google an answer to almost everything I want to know? Sure I do. But do I realize that some things really were better before email/smart phones/social media? Yes. And I miss that. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Sept 21, 2024 15:34:18 GMT
jeremysgirl....I always appreciate your very thought-provoking posts ; I've learned a LOT about many topics from them. I also think/ analyze a lot like you do. I don't usually post my thoughts, because I don't have enough knowledge to comment (for example---your recent thread the environmental impact/ costs of food). Sheesh, I learned info in that thread that I had no idea about! But I LOVE to read all the replies. Dh and I were celebrating our anniversary at a nice restaurant recently. Couples/ families staring at their phones THE ENTIRE TIME shocked / saddened me. I can understand scrolling for a little while, but even after their dinner was served ? ! I kept thinking I just need to "get with the times" and accept that's just how it is, but I HATE it! What will it be like in 2 years? 5 years? etc. It is funny because my rule (for me and Jeremy) is if we sit in a restaurant we are there for an experience. If we want to ignore each other and scroll phones, just get takeout. With that said, the two of us have plenty of interaction so sometimes we get out to eat and we are like, so what do we talk about now? 😂 |
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Post by guzismom on Sept 22, 2024 12:46:00 GMT
My GenZ daughter has opted out of most (if not all) social media...she no longer has Facebook, Twitter; has never had TikTok or Snapchat. She still has Instagram as her sister posts pictures from her many interests/hobbies/travels and she wants to maintain that connection as a way to support her sister...but she literally signs on, looks at/likes the pictures, then signs off. She has repeatedly cautioned us, her parents, on the damage social media can do to our satisfaction with life and mental health. She has a very old iPhone (8!!!) that she uses to find information (like directions, restaurants primarily), text, and listen to music.
On the other hand I, a borderline baby boomer, know that I spend way too much time online. Perhaps I will make limiting my use of the internet my new year's resolution. Being retired, I have a LOT of unstructured time; and all our entertainment (TV, movies, music) comes through the computer...so, it is a challenge. My biggest social media presence is FB...I don't use instagram (except to like my daughter's photos), snapchat, TikTok, twitter, etc. I watch/listen to a lot of YouTube videos; mostly history based, some scrapbooking, podcasts about my football team...but a new one for me is political commentary. Maybe I should delete this one? Yes, I think I will. No more political videos.
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Post by guzismom on Sept 22, 2024 13:13:51 GMT
I disagree. My rule is if I pay for it, I choose when and how to use it. If someone else doesn't understand my rule, that's on them. I don't expect anyone to answer me immediately just as I would not expect them to answer a telephone call when I choose to call them. Nothing needs to be written or rewritten. Do you work? Because that's all well and good on your private time but knowledge workers really don't have this level of agency. And you've never been involved in any kind of dinner or visiting where someone has pulled out their phone?I love that my Millennial daughter (and to a lesser extent her GenZ sister) will not hesitate to ask her peers to refrain from using their phones while on a social visit. Of course, exceptions to every rule exist (like answering calls from babysitters); but she is clear that she hasn't invited her friend over or out to dinner to watch her scroll through her instagram. She had one friend who was constantly on her phone; after a few discussions about it with the friend, and the friend's unwillingness or inability to change, she (my daughter) distanced herself from the friend. She obviously feels very strongly about it. ETA: thanks for the link to Mayim Bialik's YouTube. |
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