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Post by librarylady on Jan 3, 2015 0:59:57 GMT
All that is almost too much at one time.
I pray for a good outcome for you and your family.
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Post by peasapie on Jan 3, 2015 1:03:46 GMT
Oh gosh, I'm so sorry to read this. What an awful lot for you both to deal with all at one time. I'm hoping your husband gets the best possible news about the type and location of his cancer, and wishing you strength in getting through whatever you will face with this.
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 3, 2015 1:06:00 GMT
Jenjie, right now being a hot mess once in a while is healthy. You have way too much to deal with!
It's completely normal to freak out over something small or not timely. My freakout moment was over who would shovel the snow...and it was in May!
Hugs to you and your DH. I am praying for the very best of news for you.
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Post by tincin on Jan 3, 2015 1:09:08 GMT
I can see why you might have been in a funk for the holidays. So much has happened in your life the past couple of months. Here's hoping good news is coming your DH's way soon.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 1:11:46 GMT
Prayers for you as you go through this very trying time. And prayers your husband is recovering very soon.
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Post by lindas on Jan 3, 2015 1:16:31 GMT
Wow, that's a lot for one person to have to go through. Hugs to. You and you DH and prayers for good news for his DR.
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Post by greenlegume on Jan 3, 2015 1:22:12 GMT
That is just way too much to deal with in such a short span of time. I can relate. This has been an extremely difficult month or so in my life as well. I'm so sorry and sending you lots of good thoughts. You know what? You really can't do it all. I am not a conventionally religious person, but I know that you are, and I'm pretty sure there are some excellent bible verses about this. I hope they will bring you some peace and comfort and help you with being ok. Sending some hugs, too. You are absolutely right. And those verses are doing their job. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) Are you doing ok? I'm glad they are ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) Eh, I'm hanging on. Thank you for asking. You will let us know what you hear on Wednesday? I will be watching for an update, and thinking of you in the meantime.
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Post by mallie on Jan 3, 2015 1:22:20 GMT
I am so sorry for your troubles.
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Post by pb on Jan 3, 2015 1:23:16 GMT
Sending positive thoughts your way. And please take a few minutes each day for yourself even if it is sitting in a quite closet.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 3, 2015 1:23:19 GMT
When life sends crisis after crisis you keep breathing and somehow find a way through. You are very spiritual ,so let your faith hold you up and point you where you need to go. My prayers are with you.
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Post by caro on Jan 3, 2015 1:25:26 GMT
I'm sorry Jenjie for all you're going through and your DH. Hugs and prayers.
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Post by kikitwo on Jan 3, 2015 1:27:49 GMT
Wow! That's a lot for one time. Sending thoughts and prayers your way.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jan 3, 2015 1:30:39 GMT
I am sorry this all hit at once ~ life can be overwhelming but this reaches beyond that. Sending positive thoughts, prayers and big hugs.
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jan 3, 2015 1:31:31 GMT
When it rains it pours!! I am so sorry that you are going through all this and hope that your husband gets good news about the CT scan. It's so hard to wait for results!!
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Post by jillonthehill on Jan 3, 2015 1:32:58 GMT
Hugs to you!
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 1:36:51 GMT
You are absolutely right. And those verses are doing their job. ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) Are you doing ok? I'm glad they are ![:)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/MNrJDkDuSwqIMVw33MdD.jpg) Eh, I'm hanging on. Thank you for asking. You will let us know what you hear on Wednesday? I will be watching for an update, and thinking of you in the meantime. I will. Thank you.
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Post by KelleeM on Jan 3, 2015 1:36:53 GMT
I'm so sorry you have so much to deal with, and all at once. I hope you hear good news on Wednesday. You will both be in my prayers.
As scrapmaven said, sometimes so much piles on all at once and you just have to breathe and do the best you can. (((hugs)))
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 3, 2015 1:37:20 GMT
I'm so sorry you're having such a pile-up of hard times. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg) Condolences for your recent great loss, and prayers for a return to health for your husband. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by ellen on Jan 3, 2015 1:38:09 GMT
Oh my, you have been dealing with a lot. As someone who recently lost a parent I understand how overwhelming that is. Every loss is different, but when I've talked with others about losing parents we all agreed that it's a weird world we live in for a while. I often felt like I was the only one standing under a little rain cloud while everyone else was fine. It wasn't something I could just shake. I've come to the conclusion that the only way to get through that sadness is that you just have to feel it before you can start to feel better. You are still in the early phases of it. My mom died in May and I am so much better than I was in those first few months. I'm glad you are feeling better than you were last week. They aren't kidding when they say the holidays are hard when you're grieving. It just doesn't seem fair that your husband would become sick on top of all this. I hope that from here on out everything goes as smooth as possible for your him. At this point, surgery might very well be the solution for him. If it's not, they'll do something else. Uncertainty is hard to live with, but they'll figure out what it is and come up with a plan for him.
Cut yourself some slack. With the birthdays and holidays over, you can slow down a bit. One of the best things I did for myself in those first hard weeks was give myself jobs like, "Sit in this chair outside until you have counted 20 hummingbird visits." I read a lot of books. I'd be in bed wide awake at night and my mind wouldn't shut off, so I'd pull out my kindle and read. I'd often remind myself that my mom would want me to keep going and that was what got me to make dinner for my family, walk the dog, etc. I'm sorry this got so long, but I found it was helpful when people who had lost a parent talked to me about what it was like for them. It gave me faith that I would eventually get through the darkness too.
I'll pray for your husband and family.
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Post by kristi on Jan 3, 2015 1:41:37 GMT
{HUGS}
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Post by purplebee on Jan 3, 2015 1:42:49 GMT
Prayers for you and your husband...hugs
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Post by Gravity on Jan 3, 2015 1:47:41 GMT
((HUGS)) I hope your husband gets good news soon.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 1:55:37 GMT
Oh my, you have been dealing with a lot. As someone who recently lost a parent I understand how overwhelming that is. Every loss is different, but when I've talked with others about losing parents we all agreed that it's a weird world we live in for a while. I often felt like I was the only one standing under a little rain cloud while everyone else was fine. It wasn't something I could just shake. I've come to the conclusion that the only way to get through that sadness is that you just have to feel it before you can start to feel better. You are still in the early phases of it. My mom died in May and I am so much better than I was in those first few months. I'm glad you are feeling better than you were last week. They aren't kidding when they say the holidays are hard when you're grieving. It just doesn't seem fair that your husband would become sick on top of all this. I hope that from here on out everything goes as smooth as possible for your him. At this point, surgery might very well be the solution for him. If it's not, they'll do something else. Uncertainty is hard to live with, but they'll figure out what it is and come up with a plan for him. Cut yourself some slack. With the birthdays and holidays over, you can slow down a bit. One of the best things I did for myself in those first hard weeks was give myself jobs like, "Sit in this chair outside until you have counted 20 hummingbird visits." I read a lot of books. I'd be in bed wide awake at night and my mind wouldn't shut off, so I'd pull out my kindle and read. I'd often remind myself that my mom would want me to keep going and that was what got me to make dinner for my family, walk the dog, etc. I'm sorry this got so long, but I found it was helpful when people who had lost a parent talked to me about what it was like for them. It gave me faith that I would eventually get through the darkness too. I'll pray for your husband and family. Ellen thank you. Maybe next holidays it will hit me. I really didn't have time to think much about christmas without my dad because my Dh had just had surgery several days prior. I'm a bit concerned that by the time I actually get to feel anything it will be so far removed that my family will think what's the big deal now, it happened months ago.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 2:00:52 GMT
Go easy on yourself. Do what you can to get through each day and let the rest go.
Praying for some good solid answers for your DH and holding you up, too!
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Post by marienadine on Jan 3, 2015 2:06:31 GMT
((hugs))
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jan 3, 2015 2:12:05 GMT
Wow, Jen. You have been dealt some seriously tough stuff. I'm glad that the specialist was quick to order the scan. I hope that you hear positive news on Wednesday. Hugs and prayers coming your way.
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Post by Belia on Jan 3, 2015 2:13:13 GMT
I'm so sorry. Hopefully now that new year's has passed things will slow down a bit. I am sending nothing but peace and light your way.
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Post by mimima on Jan 3, 2015 2:21:29 GMT
Hugs and prayers
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 2:23:51 GMT
I'm so sorry for all you've gone through with you Dad and all you're going through now with your DH. Lots of positive thoughts for your DH's health. ((HUGS))
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Post by bdawnb on Jan 3, 2015 2:24:14 GMT
Ellen thank you. Maybe next holidays it will hit me. I really didn't have time to think much about christmas without my dad because my Dh had just had surgery several days prior. I'm a bit concerned that by the time I actually get to feel anything it will be so far removed that my family will think what's the big deal now, it happened months ago. jenjie, I am so so sorry you have been hit with so many things at once. I know that with the loss of my niece, that no matter much time has passed, someone's grief for that will be looked at as "not a big deal". Time passing never defines the time or way that loss can finally sink in, especially when you are going through other emotional roller coasters. I will be keeping you family i my prayers.
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