Nanner
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Jun 25, 2014 23:13:23 GMT
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Post by Nanner on Jan 3, 2015 2:24:23 GMT
You have had a lot on your plate at one time. Hoping for the best with regard to your husband.
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calgal08
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Post by calgal08 on Jan 3, 2015 2:25:25 GMT
thinking about you and your family.
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Post by bearmom on Jan 3, 2015 2:27:13 GMT
I hope you get answers soon. Prayers for you and your family!
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Post by alittleintrepid on Jan 3, 2015 2:30:56 GMT
Jenjie, you are always quick to post an inspirational story and have positive thoughts and prayers for those in need. I hope we, your peas, can support you similarly through this difficult time. Prayers for you and yours.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 2:32:00 GMT
Ellen thank you. Maybe next holidays it will hit me. I really didn't have time to think much about christmas without my dad because my Dh had just had surgery several days prior. I'm a bit concerned that by the time I actually get to feel anything it will be so far removed that my family will think what's the big deal now, it happened months ago. jenjie, I am so so sorry you have been hit with so many things at once. I know that with the loss of my niece, that no matter much time has passed, someone's grief for that will be looked at as "not a big deal". Time passing never defines the time or way that loss can finally sink in, especially when you are going through other emotional roller coasters. I will be keeping you family i my prayers.
Thank you Dawn.
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Post by tidegirl on Jan 3, 2015 2:46:56 GMT
((Hugs)) I hope they are able to pinpoint what is going on and set up a plan for your DH. That is a lot to have going on all at once. I am sorry for the loss of your dad. Good luck and do take care of yourself too.
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Post by cakediva on Jan 3, 2015 2:48:52 GMT
(((Hugs))) to you and yours Jenjie
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Post by flanz on Jan 3, 2015 2:48:54 GMT
I think I was doing a good job of compartmentalizing. I had to be strong for my mom, I had to write and deliver a eulogy, I had to go with Dh to appointments and take care of him and the family. I was wondering why I was doing so well. And then that quick, the next day I was a hot mess. Any one of us would be feeling the same. We can be strong for a time, then we need to let others carry us for a time.... I'll keep you and your husband and your children in my thoughts. Jenjie, please ask your friends, neighbors, family, co-workers, anyone at all, for any help you could use. often people really don't know what to do and are more than happy to have a tangible way to help. Is there anything the refupeas can do for you or your kids right now? xo
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Post by Linda on Jan 3, 2015 2:55:57 GMT
((((Hugs))) and prayers
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uksue
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Jun 25, 2014 22:33:20 GMT
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Post by uksue on Jan 3, 2015 2:59:01 GMT
That really is an awful lot to deal with. My prayers are with you and your family at this time.
I am a cancer survivor: it's scary and tough but don't forget there are millions and millions of good results amongst the fewer bad ones.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 3:02:21 GMT
That really is an awful lot to deal with. My prayers are with you and your family at this time. I am a cancer survivor: it's scary and tough but don't forget there are millions and millions of good results amongst the fewer bad ones. Thank you that's what I tell my husband. And Congratulations to you!
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Post by gajitldy on Jan 3, 2015 3:10:23 GMT
God bless and I will keep you and your husband in my prayers. You are always so kind to everyone. I am very sorry you have to deal with this.
Diane
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 3:10:35 GMT
I think I was doing a good job of compartmentalizing. I had to be strong for my mom, I had to write and deliver a eulogy, I had to go with Dh to appointments and take care of him and the family. I was wondering why I was doing so well. And then that quick, the next day I was a hot mess. Any one of us would be feeling the same. We can be strong for a time, then we need to let others carry us for a time.... I'll keep you and your husband and your children in my thoughts. Jenjie, please ask your friends, neighbors, family, co-workers, anyone at all, for any help you could use. often people really don't know what to do and are more than happy to have a tangible way to help. Is there anything the refupeas can do for you or your kids right now? xo Thank you so much but we're good. I did call on a few friends to make desserts for my dad's funeral but right now unless somebody offers something specific I'm not asking. I may need something more later and don't want to wear out my welcome. SIL sent me home yesterday with 3 days worth of dinners, that was great. Another sil took my kids in very last minute for Thanksgiving dinner. That was so appreciated.
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Post by scrapnatya on Jan 3, 2015 3:19:29 GMT
Sending lots of hugs and strength. Curl up under a very soft blanket and watch a happy-ending movie and have a good therapeutic cry.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jan 3, 2015 3:35:01 GMT
(((hugs)))
That's too much for any one person to deal with at once.
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gina
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Jun 26, 2014 1:59:16 GMT
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Post by gina on Jan 3, 2015 4:04:44 GMT
((hugs)) I hope it started and ended with the mass that was removed.
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Post by katlaw on Jan 3, 2015 4:16:11 GMT
So overwhelming. Our 2014 has been like that. Since the end of May we have spent so much time in doctor's offices and hospitals with my mom and my uncle. It really is exhausting and frightening. Hugs to you.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jan 3, 2015 4:44:09 GMT
I wish I could give you a big hug right now! Prayers for you and your hubby and family.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 3, 2015 5:10:53 GMT
(((Hugs))). So sorry you are having to deal with so much at one time. The waiting for answers is just awful.
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Post by Chips on Jan 3, 2015 5:35:24 GMT
Jenjie, I am so very sorry and my thoughts and prayer are with you and your family. Even though we are constantly f'ed up by illness, death, divorce and crappy things, we preserve somehow someway. In my life as a pea I remember many times where the Peas have been a light in my darkness and saved me from drowning.
The Peas are all here for you in thoughts, prayers, light and anyway we can help.
Love and healing for you, your dh and family.
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Post by scrapmomof2 on Jan 3, 2015 5:47:05 GMT
Oh my gosh...so much in such a short time frame. I am so sorry for all of this happening right now. Hopefully you'll get some time to process and grieve for your dad, and then find the strength to deal with your husband's illness. (((hugs)))
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Post by janniepea on Jan 3, 2015 6:09:30 GMT
I too am praying for your family now, that's just way too much. I'm asking God for His mercy and grace and peace right now. And healing for your husband now too.
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Jan 3, 2015 6:18:02 GMT
Beyond words: how many tests you have to face. Wishing you the strength you need to wait, as waiting can be the hardest part.
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Post by miominmio on Jan 3, 2015 6:25:55 GMT
((Hugs)) to you!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 7:45:07 GMT
jenjie {{{{{hugs}}}}} and prayers for you, your husband, children, and family. I will add to my prayers that the cancer started and ended with that mass. Let some things fall off of your list, don't beat yourself up for that, and be kind to each other (including yourself).
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 9:54:27 GMT
Jen, all things considered, you have been through a lot of #%^* and you have coped with Grace. Anyone else would have broken down. I hope you will accept the duah I would like to do for you sweet father in heaven and your husband who is about to begin the battle of a lifetime. He will win, though. That awful c word has nothing on him and the jenjie family will survive and thrive well beyond this.
We are behind you shoving you in the right direction, leading you down the path walked by others and standing beside you on either side of you holding you up.
xox
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michellegb
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Jun 26, 2014 0:04:59 GMT
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Post by michellegb on Jan 3, 2015 10:20:00 GMT
I think I was doing a good job of compartmentalizing. I had to be strong for my mom, I had to write and deliver a eulogy, I had to go with Dh to appointments and take care of him and the family. I was wondering why I was doing so well. And then that quick, the next day I was a hot mess. Any one of us would be feeling the same. We can be strong for a time, then we need to let others carry us for a time.... I'll keep you and your husband and your children in my thoughts. Jenjie, please ask your friends, neighbors, family, co-workers, anyone at all, for any help you could use. often people really don't know what to do and are more than happy to have a tangible way to help. Is there anything the refupeas can do for you or your kids right now? xo She said what I was thinking so much better than me. I'm so sorry. Sending positive thoughts, prayers and big hugs!
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 10:49:57 GMT
Oh my what a lot to cope with at one time. ((((((hugs)))) and prayers that results will be positive for your husband. I'm so sorry for the loss of your father. Just let the smaller things in life go and concentrate on the important things jenjie .There are far more important things for you at the moment than dealing with other incidental things in everyday life. Take care x
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Post by 2peafaithful on Jan 3, 2015 11:38:11 GMT
I am so very sorry! That is so much. Praying for you and your now. (((hugs)))
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Post by jenjie on Jan 3, 2015 14:05:47 GMT
So overwhelming. Our 2014 has been like that. Since the end of May we have spent so much time in doctor's offices and hospitals with my mom and my uncle. It really is exhausting and frightening. Hugs to you. I'm sorry! Hugs right back to you. For us it's been different things one right after another since summer. Dh had a problem with his wrist, they were talking surgery but decided to try a cortisone shot but not expecting it to work. Thank God it did. Before we were done with that, his nana was in the hospital having surgery and it's always complicated with Her and we are Her powers of attorney so we were involved a lot with that. Before she was finished we started with my dad. Nana thought she would need another surgery but thank God that's not the case. BTW my phone keeps autocorrecting Her to capitalize. It's not a passive aggressive thing towards nana! LOL
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