Nicole in TX
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Post by Nicole in TX on Feb 3, 2015 0:33:01 GMT
I had the messiest bedroom when I was a teen. Now I am one of the more organized people I know. My mom's harping did nothing to bring me over to the neat side.  |
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Post by cakediva on Feb 3, 2015 3:02:34 GMT
Well, seeing as my own view is "why make the bed if you're just going to get back in it" - making the beds is not a hill I'm willing to die on with my 3.
They go in spurts - mostly the girls, with keeping rooms tidy. And then a time of mess.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 3, 2015 3:13:13 GMT
Interesting responses. I just feel better about life when the bed is made. To each his own.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Feb 3, 2015 3:14:41 GMT
I'm too tired to read three pages of responses (maybe I'll come back to it) but maybe you should tell DS: Listen, as soon as you show me that you CAN make the bed, I will stop requiring you to do so. You and your Future Spouse will thank me if I make sure you know how to do it.
Because honestly, I personally never make the bed unless I've just washed the sheets. Otherwise, I just straighten out the sheet and quilt before I get into bed for the night.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Feb 3, 2015 3:25:59 GMT
truthfully, an unmade bed does not get judgement from me and definitely would not make me think a potential partner was unsuitable.
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TheOtherMeg
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Post by TheOtherMeg on Feb 3, 2015 3:38:53 GMT
*raises hand* Another one who likes the sheets & blankets pulled up so the "inside" of the bed stays cleaner. I don't insist upon a full-on, perfectly made bed, but I want the covers pulled up. Additionally, I don't like street clothes on the bed; jammie's only.
I wouldn't like a person to sleep under (or on top of) just a blanket or comforter unless the blanket/comforter is washed often. We change sheets weekly, but blankets/bedspreads/comforters are washed less frequently.
In our house, we shower before bed (and DH & I shower again in the morning, though the timing of mine varies).
No food in the bedrooms unless the occupant is sick. Other than that, I don't really care how clean/messy the kids' rooms are.
Yes, I realize now, after typing this out, that it's a bit much. I'm actually a pretty laid back mom. Apparently, this is one of my "issues."
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Post by Flowergirl on Feb 3, 2015 3:39:20 GMT
We make our beds every day. It's just habit. In our home, making bed = pulling up a sheet and comforter or quilt and straightening the pillows. Takes a couple minutes max. The kids started making theirs when they were little. DS says the only days he makes his bed at college is if he just washed his sheets or they're hosting an athletic recruit. But when he's home, he makes it every day. DD makes hers daily as well. No one will mistake it for a Pottery Barn Teen photo shoot, but that's fine. I don't nag if it's not done, but they usually do it as a matter of course. Their rooms usually have stuff around them, but they're not too messy.
OP--I'd say if it's important to you to have beds made, let your DS know that and ask him to respect that. If it's not a big deal to you, close the door so you don't need to look at it.
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Post by smokeynspike on Feb 3, 2015 5:51:24 GMT
I don't even make my own bed consistently so that would not even be an argument in my house. There are more important things to worry about than making a bed, IMO.
Melissa
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Post by freecharlie on Feb 3, 2015 5:54:09 GMT
Yeah, I don't care, but I don't have my bed made 90% of the time.
If it is a thing for you, however, then he needs to follow your rules.
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Post by tincin on Feb 3, 2015 10:35:33 GMT
I've always felt like everyone in my family needed a space to call their own. For my sons that was their bedrooms. I made them muck them out a couple of times a year but other than that they were free to keep them any way they wanted. We didn't really have food in the bedrooms so that was never an issue. So no,a made bed is not a hill I would die on.
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 3, 2015 12:30:53 GMT
It is not simply a matter of personal preference, there is more to making your bed everyday. Adm McRaven's speech, full text and video
That said, we got our kids comforters, a fitted bottom sheet and pillow cases, making the bed was "easy" shake the comforter. I get the touchy feely-ness of this concept but it's really a load of poppycock... well, for me anyway. Making the bed gives me zero satisfaction or sense of pride. It's a pointless task. Actually doing something that accomplishes something, now that's where I get a sense of pride. Sorry. I get what's being said, but I think that depending on making your bed for a sense of accomplishment first thing in the morning is silly. There are more important things to be proud of. At the end of life, is anyone going to care that they made the bed everyday? No. As for the OP, I think making the bed daily is a stupid rule and it wouldn't be something I would argue with someone about. It's just a bed. Their bed. Who will honestly care if it's made or not? What difference to the world or to the household will a made bed make? None, as far as I can see. |
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Post by bearmom on Feb 3, 2015 13:09:33 GMT
It is not simply a matter of personal preference, there is more to making your bed everyday. Adm McRaven's speech, full text and video
That said, we got our kids comforters, a fitted bottom sheet and pillow cases, making the bed was "easy" shake the comforter. I get the touchy feely-ness of this concept but it's really a load of poppycock... well, for me anyway. Making the bed gives me zero satisfaction or sense of pride. It's a pointless task. Actually doing something that accomplishes something, now that's where I get a sense of pride. Sorry. I get what's being said, but I think that depending on making your bed for a sense of accomplishment first thing in the morning is silly. There are more important things to be proud of. At the end of life, is anyone going to care that they made the bed everyday? No. As for the OP, I think making the bed daily is a stupid rule and it wouldn't be something I would argue with someone about. It's just a bed. Their bed. Who will honestly care if it's made or not? What difference to the world or to the household will a made bed make? None, as far as I can see. My first task of the day that I'm most proud to accomplish is that I actually got out of bed and made it to the shower  . |
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 3, 2015 13:12:22 GMT
I get the touchy feely-ness of this concept but it's really a load of poppycock... well, for me anyway. Making the bed gives me zero satisfaction or sense of pride. It's a pointless task. Actually doing something that accomplishes something, now that's where I get a sense of pride. Sorry. I get what's being said, but I think that depending on making your bed for a sense of accomplishment first thing in the morning is silly. There are more important things to be proud of. At the end of life, is anyone going to care that they made the bed everyday? No. As for the OP, I think making the bed daily is a stupid rule and it wouldn't be something I would argue with someone about. It's just a bed. Their bed. Who will honestly care if it's made or not? What difference to the world or to the household will a made bed make? None, as far as I can see. My first task of the day that I'm most proud to accomplish is that I actually got out of bed and made it to the shower . Yup. That's so true. Actually getting my ass out of the bed is definitely a feat to feel accomplished over. |
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Post by anxiousmom on Feb 3, 2015 13:17:58 GMT
My first task of the day that I'm most proud to accomplish is that I actually got out of bed and made it to the shower . Yup. That's so true. Actually getting my ass out of the bed is definitely a feat to feel accomplished over. Not to mention the fact that this morning, before 6:30 am I got up, got into non-pajama like clothes, folded a load of laundry, made the boy his lunch for today, made the boy breakfast and more important than anything else-made a pot of coffee. Now, I get that I made the boy breakfast and lunch and he is 16 and perfectly capable of doing it himself-but I am not working now and it kind of gives me warm and fuzzy mommy feelings to think that I am starting MY day off being all super mom and shit.  |
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Feb 3, 2015 13:26:27 GMT
Yup. That's so true. Actually getting my ass out of the bed is definitely a feat to feel accomplished over. Not to mention the fact that this morning, before 6:30 am I got up, got into non-pajama like clothes, folded a load of laundry, made the boy his lunch for today, made the boy breakfast and more important than anything else-made a pot of coffee. Now, I get that I made the boy breakfast and lunch and he is 16 and perfectly capable of doing it himself-but I am not working now and it kind of gives me warm and fuzzy mommy feelings to think that I am starting MY day off being all super mom and shit. Rock on! Now that is impressive. I made my SO's lunch this morning. But only because I was making mine at the same time and it didn't make sense to have all that stuff out and then put it away so he could pull it out again to make his lunch. So I hear ya. Except for the super mom thingy... |
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Post by travelsoul on Feb 3, 2015 14:05:43 GMT
As a teenager I never made my bed. And my room was a pig sty. Now I keep everything neat and I make my bed every day. I like to get into a neat and clean bed every night, so that's why I make it. I didn't start caring about the cleanliness of my living area until I lived on my own. That is when I started to feel pride for a clean and orderly space. This is me exactly! I was nicknamed miss piggy when I was little because I never picked up my room. My first roommate was a complete neat freak so she kept the common areas of the house spotless. My room, still a wreck with clothes everywhere. It wasn't until my mid 20's when I lived alone that I changed overnight. I'm now the cleanest, most organized, person I know. My mom and grandma are still amazed to this day when they come to my house. |
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Post by Scrapbrat on Feb 3, 2015 15:14:37 GMT
I do make our bed in the mornings, but I have never really cared if the kids made theirs. Just seems like there are a lot more important issues to focus on with a teen.
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Post by gloryjoy on Feb 3, 2015 15:23:19 GMT
That is not a battle I was willing to fight either.
My boys just had comforters, it was a simple shake and throw on the bed and they still didn't make them, and I still didn't battle them on it.
There are way more important things to stand fast on.
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Post by genny on Feb 3, 2015 15:30:21 GMT
My bed only gets made when a large crowd is coming or if the sheets have just been changed, so I don't fuss at the kids about it. DS makes his bed on his own without prompting when he became a neat freak about 2 years ago, before that it was always just a big pile of bundled up blankets. I'd just let it pass, he may come around on his own like DS did.
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Post by eebud on Feb 3, 2015 15:46:47 GMT
I never fought the room battle with DS once it started to become a battle. He could close his door and I didn't have to see it. When he was young, I taught him to clean up after himself, put things away, make the bed, etc. etc. etc. When he was teen, he started the messy phase and I would close the door if he didn't and leave it. Thing is, periodically, he would spend time in his room cleaning everything up and putting everything away and would make the bed. Of course, it shortly went back to a mess but then he cleaned up again. He is not the tidiest person today but he is not all that messy either. He doesn't have a lot of storage in his house though so that makes it hard to keep everything neat looking. It's his house though and he can do what he wants. When I visit, the room I stay in has always been straightened up nicely for me and I make sure I leave it the same, or better, than when I arrived.
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Post by peasful1 on Feb 3, 2015 16:21:10 GMT
I don't make my bed every day. Who the hell cares? Not anyone who actually sleeps in that bed.
I'm pretty lenient with my kids and their rooms. They also each have their own bathroom. I do have a certain tipping point, though. Which is why I just generally stay out of their rooms.
I don't think making a kid make their bed will necessarily determine how helpful or neat they are in general as a human being in their future household.
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