What's wrong with me? What personality disorder is this?

OMHECK! You are not the crappiest person ever! It is called justice. It is calling being fair and NOT ENTITLED! Ugh....I'm so tired of the entitlement people have.

Anyway, maybe therapy? I've been doing this can't remember where I found it. it's funny but not meant to be if you know what I mean. You blow up the balloon and put all of your anger and pain inside. Then let it float away. I tell my kids put it in the balloon of pain. Seriously it helps. Silly as it sounds.

I really think I would write a letter to the district about the kid. I'm passive though. I'd do it anonymously.

Also why did all of you that worked not speak up when these people got in line? I'd say. All the workers and families to the front!

I often feel like you do although I would never act upon my feelings either. I sometimes feel my greatest challenge - what I was put here for- is to become more tolerant. I see people in my circle getting away with murder and enjoying wealth and perfect health and I think- why can't I have that? At the same time, as a Christian, it horrifies me that I think like that sometimes.

I don't think it makes us bad people and I do think that there must be some way of changing this behaviour . I find myself singing the dreaded 'let it go' so many times a day! I try to rationalise things by reminding myself that God has a plan for us all. If you are not of faith however,I'm not sure how else you can rationalise how unfair life sometimes appears to be.

All of those situations would frustrate me too! I agree with the poster that says so many feel entitled. We all make stupid mistakes, but there are some that won't admit their mistakes and feel entitled to have things their way all the time.

When I get frustrated, I "vent" to one of my friends. They usually agree with me, and I feel better. Or they give me a different way to look at it and even though they may not agree with me, sometimes looking at it in another way helps.

But for your situations, I would be angry too, and I support you in your feelings!

I, too, feel this way sometimes, but I've just learned to let it go. I don't want to waste any of my precious time worrying about others. And remember, karma comes around and sometimes these entitled people get just what they deserve!

Life happens. Talk to your GP and she will suggest someone you can talk to about your feelings. You are totally justified feeling the way you do.

You are probably ahead of most people because you recognise some things you need to work on. Not knowing your background, I am going to tell you what helped me. I listened to theses cds: Battlefield of the mind.

Even if you are not religious, controlling your thoughts is something that can be learned and improves quality of life for anyone and everyone around them.

Oh darling, hugs!!!! I've been in the potluck situation multiple times and now pretty much just plan on not working it and not attending and not eating because of the behavior of a large part of the crowd.

I tend to be very black and white on rules/laws/etc and luckily I am in a job position where that is supported by my CEO, etc. I could never work frontline management because I don't have the ability to bend rules as needed/wanted. I can tell my managers what I think the best path is, but if they don't choose it, they get to deal with any repercussions.

It definitely isn't you, but I will say that I often have to go to my outlet (quilting) to shut my brain off from things like what you posted. And I have tended to volunteer in different ways than I used to because of things I saw with some volunteer groups (like did I feel like they or I were really making a difference).

As to other's kids or jobs, I truly have found that most of the time, what goes around eventually will come around. Not really karma, but consequences. Not usually in my timing though.

Out of curiosity, you don't happen to be a Libra, are you?

i find that i can get to this level of righteous (sometimes to the point of petty!) when i am feeling stressed and unappreciated otherwise. Maybe take a look at where you are putting your energy and decide if you are getting value out of those activities.


For the potluck - i definitely feel your pain. We had a lot of that in the pagan community potlucks...to the point where finally someone in charge of the kitchen established the tradition that parents with young kids can go first, then the kitchen/ritual staff, then everyone else. Because otherwise, it was really frustrating.

I don't think you have any personality disorder, I think you're just overwhelmed. This would be the closest personality disorder that would fit your problems: borderline personality disorder

I'm so sorry you're having such a hard time.

I'm like you - a rule follower (probably has to do with Catholic upbringing). I was a letter writer(or an e-mail) when I felt there is an injustice. I've calmed down. Now I type the letter, get it off my chest, and then trash the letter. It feels good to put it all down and release it. Give it a try.

This is happening already with my four year old. She is very much a rule follower like me, and notices right away when someone isn't being nice, playing fair or following the stated rules. All I can do is tell her that in our family we don't do things that way, and that she is not/we are not the boss of the playground/school/whatever and try to redirect and move on.

DH had this quote stuck on our fridge for a long time, and I think it kind of applies here:
My feeling is that if there is something in a situation that I can actually, realistically CHANGE, then I would try to change it. If not, all I can do is change my attitude about that situation because that is something that I can control.

Do the right thing and know that you are doing the right thing. You can't control the behaviour of others. While it can be frustrating at times, you are going to have to let this stuff go. Life is not fair and it's never going to be fair. Live your best life and remember that right is right even if no one is doing it and wrong is wrong even if everyone is doing it....

Here is my take on it, but I have seen this from another side. My mom is like this, how you explained yourself. But as she has gotten older (she is 71) it has made her VERY bitter towards a lot of people and situations. I feel like it has robbed her of her happiness. She is a rule follower, honest, but not perfect. She is quick to criticize and perhaps when she was younger, she held some of it in but now she lets it out. It occupies her time "profiling" other people and pointing out the injustices. It's like she is just waiting for a situation to happen so she can comment on it. In a weird way, sometimes to me, it comes off as jealously or trying to make herself feel better. But really who it is hurting? No one but herself.

Okay, now that I said that part, I one would stop your negative thought process. Unless it truly does effect your personal life, you need to let it go. Enjoy what you are doing and don't let this negativity train in your thoughts continue. This advice is perfect


My counsellor told me always stop yourself and realize that everyone in the world, or the people & situations your encounter, while they seem like they are doing something bad or worse than you, on the flip side can do something better than you. I know that seems strange, but you need to build up your tolerance and find good in other things that will make you quick to see past the unfair or unjust situations. We are always going to have situations that are unfair, that part is never going to change.

It is good that you realize you need help with this, because I really think that when someone thinks like this, it is robbing them of a better state of mind. Adding all that extra stress on yourself is only going to hurt you.