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Post by psoccer on Jul 26, 2014 0:02:05 GMT
Thinking of you, and I hope that everything will work out soon. I never understand why people play these games with their children.
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Post by lindah on Jul 26, 2014 0:35:50 GMT
Praying that all works out soon in your favor.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 1:54:31 GMT
7/25 update - had another hearing, he hasn't filed crap yet and the judge is very aggrivated and told him he strongly recommended he get an attorney. he said this is for texas to decide and all he can do from his end is leave my daughter up there with her dad until texas does get to decide. he is going to have a private meeting with the kids on monday and reconvene again next friday... we really just got nowhere and i'm beyond frustrated Dear heart - think about this: why would the ex file the right stuff when he's already been told he will lose? He's got what he wants for now - DD is staying there until someone makes TX follow the correct procedures. I think this is where you have to take more action.... Just my 2 cents.
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 26, 2014 2:03:03 GMT
thinking good thoughts for you - hoping that a Texas judge sees sense.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 26, 2014 2:05:20 GMT
Does your DD want to stay with her father>?? Your DS is there also right?? Good luck...ex-DH sounds like a peach although, your DD might be fanning the flames also.
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Post by gypsymama on Jul 26, 2014 3:46:01 GMT
she does want to stay there, she's got everyone up there convinced that i abuse her... bigtime bad stuff like slamming her into walls and things like that... cps has been here to investigate, supposedly NY cps is as well but they have not spoken to me... and yes my son is there too. they called me last week asking if i would consider a trial run of one school year letting her live up there and that brycen could come home but when i tried to talk to them about that tonight they went off on me saying it was just about the child support to me and totally misrepresenting what happened in court today, so i'm really not sure what to do next... waiting to see how the hearing next friday goes i guess. stepmom says they filed in texas last week but what i could hear (i was on speaker phone which broke up constantly) she called the court in our old TX county and nothing was filed, so i'm waiting on papers as well. i would rather agree to her just staying there if she wants than risk having both of them taken away from me right now...
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Post by Chips on Jul 26, 2014 3:57:23 GMT
here is my update post from later down the thread, post hearing [HASH]1 i think we got the best results we could get - i asked why the jurisdiction isn't in TX, where the kids have been for 7 years and the judge said "that's what i'd like to know as well" and told my ex he needs to file this in TX! yayyyyy! he has 30-45 days to make progress or its being tossed out. we have another hearing in 2 weeks and he promised we would hit closer to the start time, lol. he formally granted "emergency" custody to my ex but the kids are there until aug 23rd anyway so that wasn't really any big thing. he took special note that school here starts aug. 25th and that the kids need to be returned with their original plane tickets if nothing is done by then. no discussion of the allegations, cps junk, her wishes, any of that, just logistics i guess you'd say. 7/25 update - had another hearing, he hasn't filed crap yet and the judge is very aggrivated and told him he strongly recommended he get an attorney. he said this is for texas to decide and all he can do from his end is leave my daughter up there with her dad until texas does get to decide. he is going to have a private meeting with the kids on monday and reconvene again next friday... we really just got nowhere and i'm beyond frustrated OMG, I am so sorry your ex is being such a sh!t!!! Ugh. Have you been able to talk to your kids? ((((hugs))))
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Post by gypsymama on Jul 26, 2014 4:27:15 GMT
for the most part no... ex and his wife are claiming that i NEVER call or talk to them other summers and don't know why i want to now... talked to my daughter the other night when they were trying to convince me to just let her stay but that's it.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 26, 2014 14:25:57 GMT
she does want to stay there, she's got everyone up there convinced that i abuse her... bigtime bad stuff like slamming her into walls and things like that... cps has been here to investigate, supposedly NY cps is as well but they have not spoken to me... and yes my son is there too. they called me last week asking if i would consider a trial run of one school year letting her live up there and that brycen could come home but when i tried to talk to them about that tonight they went off on me saying it was just about the child support to me and totally misrepresenting what happened in court today, so i'm really not sure what to do next... waiting to see how the hearing next friday goes i guess. stepmom says they filed in texas last week but what i could hear (i was on speaker phone which broke up constantly) she called the court in our old TX county and nothing was filed, so i'm waiting on papers as well. i would rather agree to her just staying there if she wants than risk having both of them taken away from me right now... Is there any way you can facetime her or talk to her privately to see what is behind all these accusations?? Maybe phrase it along the lines of if she wanted to try living there, all she had to do was talk to you...not make stuff up. She's probably (and I don't know this to be true) thinking you'd be mad if she asked so she lied instead. 12 year olds don't think beyond themselves. Kids always think the "grass is always greener" someplace else. If you're ok with a trial run--go for it. You're not a bad person by letting her stay there.
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Post by wezee on Jul 26, 2014 15:24:49 GMT
The judge seems to be on your side. (((HUGS)))
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Post by NanaKate on Jul 26, 2014 15:37:54 GMT
Terrible. (((HUGS)))
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Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2014 17:52:26 GMT
I don't even know what to say. {{{{{ hugs }}}}}
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Post by Really Red on Jul 26, 2014 18:06:46 GMT
So frustrated for you. This is just incredible. I am so sorry it's happening.
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Post by I-95 on Jul 26, 2014 18:11:49 GMT
I'm confused.... Did you have physical custody, but not granted by the Texas court? Why didn't you get it transferred to Texas when you moved there? The NY Judge granted you XDH temporary custody, but with no date? He (the Judge) knew they were supposed to be back in TX to start school, but the he didn't order XDH to send them back?t your XDH had done nothing... You had another hearing but your XDH had done nothing so...what? He continued the emergency custody order? Until when? Why can't you file in Texas to have the original custody order recognized in Texas? I understand what the manipulative drama queen is doing, but what about your baby? He's only 5, he needs to be home with his mama. Are you married (sorry for all the questions, I'm just trying to figure out how you got side swiped like this) Did you have any idea that XDH would do this? I'd be going out of my mind!!! ETA...sorry, I see it was AUGUST they are due back, I saw the 25th, looked at my computer date and thought 'OMG, that was yesterday', so ignore the part about him sending them back ....yesterday ![:blush:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/R6yG4nI0YHiVm0wktwl4.jpg)
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Post by scrappinmama on Jul 26, 2014 18:56:22 GMT
I'm so sorry. I would be worried sick about my kids right now. I hope things get straightened out for you all soon.
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Post by gypsymama on Jul 26, 2014 20:19:42 GMT
i can't seem to get the quote thing to work but i wanted to give some answers... we have talked on the phone twice and once she was all friendly and we talked about what she wanted to do then the next day she changed her mind and said she wanted to still stay at her dad's and was yelling and telling me how abusive i am and that she doesn't know why i'm suddenly calling her "baby girl" (her nickname since birth) and that she hates me and is scared and doesn't want to talk again...
I95 i will try to clear up the confusion... i still live in tx just not the same county as our divorce was filed... that's the county he and his wife tried to file in and i guess the clerk told them they would just transfer it to NY, but i don't want it transferred and the judge in NY seems to think jurisdiction belongs here where i live and said he wants a judge to rule on it not a clerk.
i am married, for 2 years, he and my kids get along great and we were all blind sided. i have grown sons (20 and 18) who live at home and they are just as stunned as we are - we had no idea any of this was happening until i got a visit from cps a week after the kids went to NY.
and yes i am going out of my mind... i tried emailing them last night telling them we could figure out things on letting her stay there but not my 5 year old and they are now claiming they have already filed down here and to let the court decide...
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Post by fruitysuet on Jul 26, 2014 20:24:57 GMT
This is such a nightmare for you, I am so sorry you are going through it.
I wish I had some words of wisdom, but I don't - I just wanted to let you know I have you in my heart and really hope this can get resolved sooner rather than later.
I just wonder if the kids see Dad as the good guy, if he doesn't have them too often for the normal nitty gritty of every day life they may think that life is rosy there, come getting back into school and everything being in a normal routine and having to follow rules and so on may make them realise life if not all sunshine and flowers there any more than it is back home with you.
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Post by I-95 on Jul 26, 2014 21:26:01 GMT
Thank you. What a freaking nightmare! I'm so sorry. I'll send positive vibes that you at least get your baby back. I hope your DD changes her mind because that's still going to leave a huge hole in your family. Divorce sucks when stuff like this happens....says someone who threw a fit at 11 and demanded to go live with her dad...However, my folks got along really well and I'm sure if they hadn't agreed it would be OK, then I would have been right back with my mom, attitude and all. Wishing you the best.
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Post by gypsymama on Jul 26, 2014 21:55:22 GMT
thank you all for your kind posts. i can't talk about this on facebook so its helping so much to be able to get it all out here!!
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 26, 2014 22:06:11 GMT
I can hardly read through this thread as this was my number one nightmare when my kids were little. My ex would refuse to bring them home (randomly) and all kinds of other awful things...and because of the circumstances, it would have been a huge fight that there were no guarantees that I would win even though I had primary residency. As I read your posts, it makes my stomach hurt and while I have no advise, I just wanted to say that I am sorry that you are going through this.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jul 26, 2014 22:57:53 GMT
I just can't imagine what you're going through.
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Post by toby2014 on Jul 26, 2014 23:06:17 GMT
I couldn't read and run. Wishing you the best outcome. Keep us posted if possible.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jul 26, 2014 23:22:28 GMT
I hope things go okay for you
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Post by cycworker on Jul 26, 2014 23:44:25 GMT
I am praying for you. The situation is awful and I hope you fight him, hard. I would be so angry at him playing this game I`d do my damnedest to have even his visitation taken away. What a bastard he is. He doesn`t deserve access to your kids given how he`s behaving. Given you have the older boys who can attest to the fact you weren`t abusive to them growing up, I`d hope you should easily disprove all this and get your kids back.
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Post by piapea on Jul 26, 2014 23:51:06 GMT
Hugs! Lots of them.
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Post by gypsymama on Aug 1, 2014 20:55:32 GMT
ok i'm typing up a generic quick note to all my people feel free to ask questions b/c i know everyone is not totally updated on this... bottom line is that lyle filed for ny to have emergency jurisdiction and for full custody and the judge just dismissed his petition!! he said its up to lyle to get things filed in texas and that its out of his hands! lyle claims he filed "something" in mitchell county july 13th or so but that he is waiting on papers so that he can have me served. i don't know if he filed to have the case moved to ny or if he filed for custody but as of right now he has no more temporary custody or emergency anything and if texas hasn't said so by august 23rd the kids need to be on the plane to texas!
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ this is what i just emailed/texted to all my friends and family.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 1, 2014 21:00:43 GMT
Great news!
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Post by scrappert on Aug 1, 2014 21:03:05 GMT
It's a step in the right direction! I hope it continues for you. What a horrible mess. ![:(](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/mYSUyHtG9Jrcmm_ydVcK.jpg)
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Post by molove on Aug 1, 2014 21:14:01 GMT
I'm really sorry about all this. I know it must be crazy stressful. Those sweet kids are gonna turn 18 by the time this is over, I swear. He will have created and perpetuated drama through their entire lives. This is what they will know--dad and mom fought over us. That will be their memory and it's really awful. I do not understand parents that don't see the outcome. They don't see even 5 years down the road. No insight or big picture thinking at all.
And literally, your kids will turn 18 one day and they get to choose the relationship they want with their dad. I have a feeling he won't be happy with that outcome. For now though, fighting for custody, being unable to work out a plan that is fair and peaceful is only messing with them. I truly hope a judge, wherever that judge is, sees this and shuts it down.
He is using the legal system to hurt you, keep contact with you and harass you.
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Post by Sue on Aug 1, 2014 22:03:32 GMT
I'm so sorry you and your children are being put through this. Hopefully for all of you, this is the first step in the right direction towards getting this whole issue resolved in your favor.
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