scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 11, 2014 23:53:24 GMT
I recently learned that a friend was totally amazed and hurt, her family aghast, when her new husband smashed the first bite of wedding cake into her mouth. I thought this was common, if strange, but she had never seen it? What about you... Did you or would you smash the cake into your new spouse's face or neatly feed that first piece?
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 11, 2014 23:56:20 GMT
It is fairly common. Some do just a little bit, some rub it all over the face. I explained to DH before the wedding that I would not find it funny or cute and that he would only be married a couple of hours if he did it. He did not.
My brother and I were the only ones of our generation of cousins who did not partake in this tradition.
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Post by ferblover on Jul 12, 2014 0:00:48 GMT
While I have heard of it I think it is a stupid thing. Rude, stupid, and rude. My husband and I were on the same page on this issue at our wedding thankfully.
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Post by salem on Jul 12, 2014 0:02:54 GMT
I'm not crazy about that tradition. I've seen it done many times from a little smear to a great big face wash. I think it's kind of gross and maybe a little disrespectful especially if only one of the newly married couple chooses to do it.
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Post by lumo on Jul 12, 2014 0:03:31 GMT
Seems like that's something that would have been discussed beforehand.
For us, it was a big, resounding NO.
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Post by SabrinaP on Jul 12, 2014 0:07:26 GMT
I haven't seen anyone do it in a long time. I'm not a fan of this silly "tradition."
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Post by hennybutton on Jul 12, 2014 0:12:53 GMT
I certainly hope this "tradition" is going the way of the dollar dance. Both were very common when I got married 25 years ago and when I married the first time 32 years ago. I actually had to tell DH that I didn't want either at our wedding. All our cousins and friends were doing it. I haven't seen either cake smashing or dollar dances at any weddings of my daughter's generation.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 12, 2014 0:14:22 GMT
Have heard of it, didn't do it and wouldn't like it.
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Post by jemali on Jul 12, 2014 0:16:07 GMT
We discussed this before our wedding and agreed not to do it.
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Post by winogirl on Jul 12, 2014 0:19:14 GMT
Oh, hell no. My now dh and I were married at city hall, but even my jerk first husband wasn't stupid enough to do that to me; I think would have had it annulled the next day. Unless both parties agree beforehand, it's disrespectful.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 0:23:43 GMT
Let me preface my wedding cake was FULL of alcohol (rum and I mean a whole mickie of it on the bottom layer. Who knows about the other tiers. DH at the time took one bite and then another and another. He was having so much fun with the cake that he wouldn't have thought about smashing it into my mouth. It also isn't Japanese custom to do this.
I forget if my sister and her husband did. Probably.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 12, 2014 0:24:26 GMT
I'm not crazy about that tradition. I've seen it done many times from a little smear to a great big face wash. I think it's kind of gross and maybe a little disrespectful especially if only one of the newly married couple chooses to do it. I agree. Stupid and rude. Not funny at all. |
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Post by pierogi on Jul 12, 2014 0:27:32 GMT
Not a fan. Outside of a nose dab, I think it's mean. We didn't do it.
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Post by NanaKate on Jul 12, 2014 0:36:37 GMT
No cake smashing at weddings in our family...
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Post by mom2jnk on Jul 12, 2014 1:41:46 GMT
Common around us, somewhat. Rude, disrespectful, and stupid, absolutely.
Do not see the humor in it. At all.
Twenty some years ago, DH and I did not.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jul 12, 2014 1:42:04 GMT
I have seen it many times, but I think it is horribly disrespectful unless agreed to ahead of time. I can't imagine wanting to risk messing up a beautiful dress and perfect hair and makeup for this "tradition."
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Post by seikashaven on Jul 12, 2014 1:45:32 GMT
We fed eachother a bite of cake but that's it. I told my DH if he smashed it in my face there he wouldn't have a wife very long.
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Post by luv2scrapaboutmykids on Jul 12, 2014 1:45:38 GMT
Wow she must live under a rock somewhere. That has been a "Tradition" a Stupid one but still one for like 20 years or more. My sister and her husband were married 20 years ago and it was just a new trend.
I think it is the dumbest thing.
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Post by Cheesy on Jul 12, 2014 2:12:57 GMT
Nope, no cake smash. Also didn't do a dollar dance, bouquet toss, or garter toss.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 12, 2014 2:20:42 GMT
I have seen this done at receptions, but I despise the practice. It seems so antithetical to what the day is all about.
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Post by turangaleela on Jul 12, 2014 2:26:13 GMT
My husband and I had a very serious talk about this before our wedding (long before it, months) and I explained that I thought it was disrespectful and a Very Bad Idea. I made him promise to not do it (I didn't think he would, but his sense of humor is a little nuts sometimes), and we ended up feeding each other the cake on forks.
I've seen it happen in a million Funniest Home Videos-type shows, but never in person (though I didn't attend my first wedding until I was 18, in 1990, so that might have something to do with it).
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 12, 2014 2:26:35 GMT
DH and I are very much screwballs so we knew we would do something funny with the cake.,.i did tell him not to go crazy if he did because of my dress. We did smashed a small part on each other and right when we did my MIL said in front of everyone "I hate when people that that...it's so trashy"  |
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Post by scrapsuzy on Jul 12, 2014 2:28:25 GMT
Didn't do it, and haven't ever seen it done in real life except at the trashiest wedding I've ever been to. And that's what I think it is... trashy.
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Post by utmr on Jul 12, 2014 2:30:29 GMT
No. Absolutely not. I think it's rude and disrespectful to someone that you have - literally - just promised to "love and honor" to behave this way. Not very loving.
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Post by OSUBuckeyeFan on Jul 12, 2014 2:37:51 GMT
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Post by AN on Jul 12, 2014 2:42:21 GMT
Both DH and I were totally anti-smash. We fed each other with forks. It was great.
I do find it odd that a bride-to-be would have never heard of it though? It was something I specifically addressed with DH ahead of the wedding it.
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Post by Peamac on Jul 12, 2014 2:43:34 GMT
When DH and I got married (24 yrs ago) it was a new thing. I warned DH that I'd never forgive him if he did that to me. I really don't get why a bride would want that- what a mess to clean out of the dress, hair, face? Have to redo makeup? I don't get the appeal.
ETA-
Why would someone want to do something like that, causing the one of the guests of honor (the bride) to miss so much of the reception? Your poor cousin!
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 12, 2014 2:44:16 GMT
We did not smash the cake on each other at our wedding. None of our friends did either. I take that back, one (ex) friend did. It was fitting for them, as they fight NON-STOP with each other. I would have been super pissed if my brand new husband decided to smash cake into my face. There's no need for that aggression with cake.
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Post by Mary Kay Lady on Jul 12, 2014 4:58:05 GMT
I think it depends on the couple. I've seen some couples that almost get into a food fight with their wedding cake. I think it's low class and rude. I made my husband promise that he wouldn't do it and he didn't. If he had, I would have been very angry.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 5:02:30 GMT
Trashy.
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