would you refuse to care for this child

I agree with you 150%. Trust is a two way street. You've reached a dead end with this child and the parents.

As the parent of a child who is non verbal and not toilet trained, I would NOT want you taking him to the bathroom if I thought you did something to cause an injury. Why is the school telling you to continue helping this child?

FTR, I am NOT saying I believe the parent. I don't understand the administration at your school.

I would think, legally, the school wouldn't want you helping the child. I think you are perfectly within your right to refuse to put yourself in this situation. Nothing good will come of it.

That's awful. Nothing worse than such an accusation. I'm sorry that happened. I don't see anyone on this thread suggesting that something else happened, though. Perhaps you misread someone's post.

If I were you, I would NOT change that child again. Why would the parent even want you to, if they think you did anything.

Yes

Can the child be moved to another class ?

There needs to be a 2nd adult present from now on.

Honestly, after receiving such a complaint I'm surprised that your administration (principal, special ed supervisor, or whoever it is) would even allow the current toileting plan for this student to continue as is. There needs to be a new plan prepared. I don't see why a second adult could not be present--maybe in the doorway or around the corner from the stall so that the child does not have to feel like a million people are watching him/her during this personal moment. 

I would have to say no. I'm surprised your supervisor is allowing this child or parent anywhere near you or any other employee after false accusations.

Jennifer

It's a poor use of time and resources for two people to change this child when one can. That one should not be you if the trust has been broken. I would not leave myself open to another incident. Someone else should change him.

Ok, I must be missing something.

There is a bathroom protocol in place that you followed and, when there was doubt, you were cleared because a) you had done nothing wrong, and b) the protocol provided proof that you had done nothing wrong. It sounds to me like the protocol in place works, since you were investigated and cleared.

If my child came home and told me that something had happened in the restroom, I would demand an investigation, too. Who knows what the child said the first time they told the parent about the so called incident? This parent may be off there rocker, but they may also have thought they were acting with cause.

As to continuing to handle the child, I would be concerned that there is no longer any trust between you and the parent. How can your supervisors ask you to continue handling such a duty for this child when they know that this parent is suspicious of you? Unless you and the parent are able to meet with the supervisor to discuss the protocol and how you follow it, I would have a hard time with this child again. Who can be upbeat when dealing with someone whose parent is just looking for a reason to jump on them?

Marcy

Having been an aide, I cant figure out your statement 'some people refuse to change'. Hello, that's the job!Ya get used to it. Protect yourself.

I was thinking similar thoughts. I BELIEVE YOU.
But under the circumstances I think a responsible parent would suggest someone else change their child, to avoid confusion or issues in the future. No harm, no foul, let's move on...
Maybe you can suggest the school require this, in a way that doesn't show on your record? You are justified wanting to step away...

While I understand what you are saying, your post comes off as a bit accusatory.

two adults at all times. continue to change child or have parents come in to change if that is an option.