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Post by nyxish on Jun 5, 2015 23:20:23 GMT
My guy has moved to MI (from NY) to take a job, and so in order to continue paying my mortgage... i need to rent a room, preferably 2 of them. This becomes a fascinating puzzle, since not only do i need to find 2 people i reasonably think i can live with and can live with me, but i need to find 2 people who can also live with each other ....and me. This should make for GREAT STORIES LATER, i'm sure.  So i am writing up a rental application. Aside from the basic rental application things (rental history, employment, references) what kinds of things would you ask a potential housemate? What would you let a potential housemate know about living with you? i am being upfront about the fact that my guy moved to another state and it's totally what is best for him and his career, but it sucks for me. i am dealing, and sometimes i'm grumpy, sad, or moody and will be anti social. Also that i will go visit/he will visit on occasion. i'm being upfront about the fact that i can be cluttery, but i'm working on purging stuff, and that it's a house in the woods: we do get spiders. Also that my 18 year old cat is one of the main downsides of living here ...because as beautiful and sweet and loving as he is... he will pee in corners, because he's also a douchepickle. That the hens are funny and hilarious, but they also love to hang out on the deck and look in the house... so we have to hose off the deck pretty regularly. That i am liberal, quirky, forever losing my shoes or glasses, and pagan.... tho really not all that devout, lately. That my friends sometimes descend on the house and we are a cheerful, boisterous, chattery bunch, but that will be rare. And that my friends are all pagan too, and some of them ... range from delightfully different to just kinda strange.  That we have to be mindful of parking, and that really, please plan to invest in snowtires for winter. Just yes. That i have strict rules for smokers (ie: please field strip your butts and don't leave the filters on the ground for the hens to eat.) Good idea? Bad idea? Just plain basic decency? Anything i am really, really missing? Also: what kinds of house rules do you think would be reasonable? i'm thinking like "i'm not goign to go in your space, there is no reason to go into mine....bedrooms are private space." and "common areas are to be kept clean... private ones do need to not be growing things." "please don't leave friends that are strangers to me alone in the house without clearing it with me first - i don't want to come home to find a stranger wandering around the house with no warning" "please don't have manky monkey sex in the kitchen" "do not kick the chickens" etc |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 5, 2015 23:26:36 GMT
Expectations of cleanliness, especially in shared areas such as kitchen, living room and any shared bathrooms.
Are you ready to have their eclectic collection of different to strange friends stop in for a boisterous party?
Because if you acknowledge something about yourself you'll likely collect people who want to live like you do (as in have friends over, not be super neat, have pets which may or may not go well with yours)
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Post by trainscrapper on Jun 6, 2015 1:18:44 GMT
Groceries! Can always cause issues. Shared? Things with names on them off limits? Each person have their own cabinet? Just a thought. As far as rent goes, late fee if payment is late? Day that money is due? Laundry - specific days, each has their own day,can use whenever, can only use after ?a.m. and before ?p.m. Next of kin or emergency contact info. - may sound silly but I had a roommate that would get up at 2:00 a.m. to go walk on the beach. None of my business, but I asked what was I to do or who do I contact if worse case scenario, something happened? Good Luck with your search. I hope all goes well.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jun 6, 2015 1:20:50 GMT
Set up rules for food. Everyone gets a shelf in the fridge? A cupboard? You'll make dinner for everyone because all your recipes feed four anyone? Every night is you're on your own? Can they use your dishes?
You might want to know what hours people are working-- if someone's on third shift, they're going to want to sleep during the day, and they may expect you to be quiet while they're trying to do that. And vice versa.
Also, be sure you've reviewed your local landlord/tenant rules, especially the parts about how to evict someone you don't like, because usually notice requirements are strictly followed.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jun 6, 2015 1:21:33 GMT
Oh, and, how will your insurance company feel about two boarders? Do you want THEM to have renter's insurance?
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jun 6, 2015 1:28:52 GMT
One of thethings that got under my skin when I shared a rental was definitely the groceries. It really pissed me off to come home and find I had no milk when I KNOW I bought some. Sure, they would tell me later that they had 'borrowed it', but what good is that doing my Frosted Flakes, bucko?
We also had issues w/the utilities. My roommates at the time didn't like the fact that I had an electric blanket and expected me to pay a larger share of the electric bill. I kid you not. I told them since I had an old fashioned wind up alarm clock, that as soon as they got rid of their clock radios I would get rid of my blanket.
These were idiots people in their twenties, so I would like to think if you take in more mature people, these things won't be an issue for you.
Covering the topics of cleanliness, personal space, house guests, renter's insurance, etc. are good suggestions.
Don't forget smoking & pets.
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Post by christine58 on Jun 6, 2015 1:30:27 GMT
No offense but your guy needs to be helping you out with the mortgage even though he's not there. I think taking on roommates can be stressful, dangerous (unless you know them already) and might even be illegal where you live. What's your city/town code on this?? Is there a code on renting out rooms etc?
I'd find another way to pay the mortgage...too many possible issues. And get that "guy" to help you...especially if he's on the mortgage or you bought this house counting on his share...
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2015 1:38:33 GMT
Toilet paper was an issue in our shared house when DH and I were undergraduates.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2015 3:28:02 GMT
Where did you hide the last body?
Or.
Where would you hide a body?
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Post by desertgirl on Jun 6, 2015 12:10:19 GMT
Use of the TV, if you are into TV. Door locking issues (DD had this issue with her largely unknown roomies). Exactly who cleans bathrooms, shared floors, etc. Who takes out the garbage.
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Post by nyxish on Jun 6, 2015 19:21:56 GMT
Good points all, thank you. It's a big scary thing to be facing, but i am trying to be hopeful. My biggest worry, as many people have mentioned, is kitchen - food and general cleaning of. Where did you hide the last body? Or. Where would you hide a body? i did actually put a question on my form about whether a shared housing situation had ever sent a person on a killing spree....or if there had been a killing spree for other reasons... No offense but your guy needs to be helping you out with the mortgage even though he's not there. I think taking on roommates can be stressful, dangerous (unless you know them already) and might even be illegal where you live. What's your city/town code on this?? Is there a code on renting out rooms etc? I'd find another way to pay the mortgage...too many possible issues. And get that "guy" to help you...especially if he's on the mortgage or you bought this house counting on his share... You are obviously making a great many assumptions about my situation, my house and my relationship that are incorrect. This is already a rental property, and renting is allowed here. Unless i move out of my home, there really isn't another option. But thanks. Expectations of cleanliness, especially in shared areas such as kitchen, living room and any shared bathrooms. Are you ready to have their eclectic collection of different to strange friends stop in for a boisterous party? Because if you acknowledge something about yourself you'll likely collect people who want to live like you do (as in have friends over, not be super neat, have pets which may or may not go well with yours) Hmm. Good point. It's stuff i'm working on - the clutter and purge - but is not at the ideal situation. |
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Post by librarylady on Jun 7, 2015 3:00:32 GMT
Try to watch a few Judge Judy episodes on roommate problems
In our city, the Catholic church agency has a roommate matching service--perhaps there is a similar agency that can help you.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 7, 2015 3:14:13 GMT
You are obviously making a great many assumptions about my situation, my house and my relationship that are incorrect. This is already a rental property, and renting is allowed here. Unless i move out of my home, there really isn't another option. But thanks. You live in the house (where you pay the mortgage), but it's a rental property?  Wouldn't it be your primary residence? I don't think it's an awful or scary thing to have roommates. I would have rules about the TV, food, and hours that it needs to be quiet in the residence. Maybe a rule about visitors of your roomates not making your residence a permanent place. I had a roommate who had a boyfriend over frequently. |
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 7, 2015 3:30:00 GMT
I'd personally ask who their sports teams were, make it known that during hockey no one is to distract me...
I would want to figure out the tv situation, who controlled and when. Temperature preferences.
I would not share a house with a smoker. The smell follows them.
I say all that knowing that I had a roomate I had never met because my roomate moved out and subleased her room to a guy from her hometown without me knowing. Luckily Caleb and I ended up getting along really well, so it worked out for us. We had no rules, no prior agreements or anything
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That we have to be mindful of parking, and that really, please plan to invest in snowtires for winter. Just yes. That i have strict rules for smokers (ie: please field strip your butts and don't leave the filters on the ground for the hens to eat.) 
Wouldn't it be your primary residence?
