MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Jul 8, 2015 12:43:30 GMT
FurryP, that is so rude and inconsiderate! I am sorry that happened to you.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 8, 2015 13:14:03 GMT
Here is another one. Do not congratulate the mother of a stillborn baby for having ' 'an angel to intercede for you in heaven'. This was said to my beloved sister in law by a nun. She slapped her. And who could blame her. The nun dared to forgive her. She told her where to stuff her forgiveness and removed her children from the catholic school.
It is often difficult to find the words, but quite honestly, there are some people who would be better off saying nothing.
Sorry that Jenjie was the recipient of an ill considered comment.
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Post by peasapie on Jul 8, 2015 13:32:17 GMT
Here is another one. Do not congratulate the mother of a stillborn baby for having ' 'an angel to intercede for you in heaven'. This was said to my beloved sister in law by a nun. She slapped her. And who could blame her. The nun dared to forgive her. She told her where to stuff her forgiveness and removed her children from the catholic school. It is often difficult to find the words, but quite honestly, there are some people who would be better off saying nothing. Sorry that Jenjie was the recipient of an ill considered comment. That's horrible. I have some pretty horrific nun stories myself, for another day... ---------- You probably don't want to show up at a repast you did nothing to help with and loudly announce that you would have done things completely differently. ...And this is reason number 247 of why I no longer see my SIL and brother.
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Post by rumplesnat on Jul 8, 2015 13:36:19 GMT
My dad died in October. My mom was telling my aunt, who's husband died about 10 years ago, how difficult of a time she was having. My aunt responded with, "Well, it doesn't get any better". Luckily my mom and I were able to laugh about it when she told me, but seriously??!!?? ![???](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/huh.png)
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Post by gramasue on Jul 8, 2015 14:54:44 GMT
Jen, I did not see your OP, but certainly do understand how upsetting some people's behaviour can be and I'm sorry that you have been subjected to this. You are kind to state that their intentions were probably good, and for the most part you are right, but you know, I came to realize that there are people who will make your loss and grief about them. Those are the ones you ignore as best as you can. You know the ones I mean - "Oh, I just never know what to say" or how about "I'm just not comfortable going to funeral homes". I love that one - as if you are having the time of your life, but it's just not their thing. When my DD died, I had to bite my tongue several times. We own a small motel, so we have an office for checking in customers at the front of the building. A neighbour of ours had heard about our loss and came in the front office, put her hands up on the counter and just stood there, staring at me with a look of shock on her face. I kept waiting for her to say something and finally I said "Oh Lisa, just say something please". She then went on about how she just couldn't believe it! That was so uncomfortable for me, but she did finally say she was sorry for our loss. Somehow, though, I've never forgotten that. It was so strange.
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