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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 17, 2015 15:29:03 GMT
You know the feed at the top right hand corner that says things like "so and so likes this page" or "so and so says I hate frogs on this page".
Twice now this stupid thing has gotten me in trouble!
The first time I was mocking anti vaxxers on a link a friend shared about the importance of vaccines. My cousin is an anti vaxxer and saw what I posted via the stalker feed and sent me some private messages and then complained to her mom who mentioned it to my mom... WTH. Things smoothed out and I unfollowed her so I don't have to see her nonsense.
Then, my daycare lady has been bugging me lately with taking off a lot of days and such. My office is relocating across town at the beginning of next year so I thought it would be a good idea to find a new daycare center and make a break when my office moves since current daycare will be across town now and not close to work. So I joined a group on facebook called "finding daycare in such and such town". And it showed up in the stalker feed. And my daycare lady saw it. And immediately texted me to ask if I was pulling dd out of her care. I mean within 2 minutes of me joining the group she was texting me. I explained that my office is moving next year and since her place will be clear out of the way I was looking to move dd, but not for at least 8 or 10 mo. Which is the truth!! She was okay with that but I would have never told her this early, I would have just given the standard 4 week notice.
Ugh, the stalker feed is just annoying! I guess I should just keep my mouth shut! Or stay off facebook.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 17, 2015 15:36:20 GMT
I wonder if there is a way to block that???
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Post by retrofunscrapper on Jul 17, 2015 15:39:56 GMT
I'm totally with you. I *detest* this "feature". It is a fairly recent change, and so far I haven't been able to find any solution for keeping your "likes" and such to yourself. If anyone does hear of a way to keep your likes from showing up in friends' feeds, please let us know. This crap has completely changed the way I operate on FB; I feel that I have to censor my own likes. Edited to add: I have seen lots of other online complaints about this, but so far folks have said that (even after contacting FB) there is no workaround... at least not yet. Boo, hiss...
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Post by choppedliver on Jul 17, 2015 15:48:25 GMT
Damn, I forgot about that thing. I have it blocked so I don't see it but in sure other people are still seeing my posts.
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Jul 17, 2015 15:50:00 GMT
Some people have that feed and others don't. I really dislike it. FB tries to hard to connect everyone when they don't need to be connected.
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Dani-Mani
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jul 17, 2015 16:02:55 GMT
I do too. I feel like all FB is now is who liked what. And I don't care!!
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Jul 17, 2015 16:04:35 GMT
It may not be so much the stalker feed, but the fact that you like something or comment on something comes up in MY newsfeed. Which is annoying when the SAME THING keeps popping back up to the top. I don't even look at the stalker feed over there, it moves so fast.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 17, 2015 16:06:53 GMT
I hate it. I realize FB is a public platform, but they are making our actions on SO public to others that it does make people think twice about the way we use the site.
And I hate seeing what friends of friends like. I don't even KNOW these people. Why in the hell do I care they "like" Oeros?
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Post by melanell on Jul 17, 2015 16:07:21 GMT
There's been this thing going around on my FB feed about trying not to use the Like feature anymore, and myself and other friends of mine are trying it. It helps reduce the amount of posts on my feed that are just my friends liking things and it also seems to encourage actual conversation because you're not just liking everything your friends & family post.
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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 17, 2015 16:22:52 GMT
I am not a super active FB user I post on my wall a couple times a month. but I do scroll through twice a day usually. Dh tells me that FB is lame and that I should just close my account since I was complaining about it last night! But I do find a lot of use in FB. Lots of news and pics of my far away relatives and stuff. Plus I am the leader of a family group and we use the page to stay in touch and to plan every years family reunion. So I don't feel like I can just give it up but I should probably watch what I say!
I was just annoyed!
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 17, 2015 16:24:12 GMT
I don't post much but I find myself glancing at what my friends are doing/commenting on, and frankly - it's their business. If it went away, my feelings wouldn't be hurt at all. It makes FB even more of a time suck than it already is, for me.
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Post by MaryMary on Jul 17, 2015 16:26:33 GMT
Yeah, I don't care about what my friends like. I just want to see what they actually share.
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 17, 2015 16:29:03 GMT
Weird...I don't have a column on the side. All of the likes and whatnot show up in my actual news feed and it drives me NUTS! You used to be able to turn that feature off for each individual person, but you can no longer do that, and I cannot find a way to make that stuff disappear. I don't care what other people like, or who they have friended.
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Post by gryroagain on Jul 17, 2015 16:29:11 GMT
It bugs me too, and it keeps me from "liking" articles or things that would be controversial to people on my friends list. Facebook as a whole just stresses me as it combines all my neat categories of people in one place- my family, my home school mom friends, my when I was in the military friends, my military spouse friends, my kids activities friends, my work friends,heck my kids friends even, etc etc. All in one place. I don't veer into my feelings on political/social issues with certain people because it causes drama, and now bam- everyone is together and seeing all the sides of me that perhaps I don't want to share with them. Blocking each specific person from each specific post is a pain, so I just keep Facebook very bland. It does prevent me from joining groups or sharing articles sometimes, but I guess that is just how it works. Nothing I would join or share is considered controversial by the majority of people, but those minority who get outraged are a pain and I can't u friend them as they are usually related to me, or a kids teacher for something, etc.
Doing away with everyone seeing your likes would certainly help curb the "mixing" that I hate about Facebook.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2015 16:32:28 GMT
I hate that feature. Especially because I have a SIL that sits by her computer going through the stalker feed so that she knows everything about everyone. Drives me nuts.
And never mind that a lot of the stuff my friends are doing with their other friends is showing up in my newsfeed. I might as well become friends with these people.
I realize there is nothing private about fb but its gone too far, all in the name of connecting people.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 17, 2015 16:33:13 GMT
I hate it too. My mother sees EVERY little thing I do and then goes and "likes" my activity sometimes. DH and I sold the extra tents we had via a FB garage sale group. My mother is a member of the group and saw everything and followed each and every transaction. In one of the pictures I posted, you could see my dog. I joked and said "beagle not included." My mother jumps in and starts liking people's comments about the dog and anyone who said they'll get a tent (we had 4). I was so annoyed with her that I ignored her texts afterwards "did you sell everything?" OH FFS woman, leave me alone! I will say this though - I know that my Dad's in-laws think his sister is a sinner and will go to hell because she is finally able to marry her partner in our state. I know that one of DH's cousin is the exact opposite of me when it comes to just about every hot button topic out there. And I'm sure both sides of my family think I'm going to hell because of my views.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 17, 2015 17:26:29 GMT
I'm not sure why you'd be annoyed by your mother liking everyone's comments. It seems so petty.
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Post by alexa11 on Jul 17, 2015 17:55:43 GMT
Weird...I don't have a column on the side. All of the likes and whatnot show up in my actual news feed and it drives me NUTS! You used to be able to turn that feature off for each individual person, but you can no longer do that, and I cannot find a way to make that stuff disappear. I don't care what other people like, or who they have friended. I don't have that column either.
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Post by valincal on Jul 17, 2015 18:14:28 GMT
Ugh. I forgot about that feature. I'm always on my iPhone or iPad and it doesn't appear there.
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Post by annabella on Jul 17, 2015 18:26:32 GMT
This is why I never comment on any articles on facebook. lol But I hate it when I rsvp yes to an event and a friend sees it and tells me they want to go too.
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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 17, 2015 18:36:48 GMT
This is why I never comment on any articles on facebook. lol But I hate it when I rsvp yes to an event and a friend sees it and tells me they want to go too. Had that happen too!
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 17, 2015 18:41:22 GMT
I guess I didn't even knoe about this thing
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 17, 2015 18:46:36 GMT
I'm not sure why you'd be annoyed by your mother liking everyone's comments. It seems so petty. Just like I wouldn't want my mom observing my transactions on eBay, Craigslist, or Etsy, I wouldn't want her monitoring Facebook transactions. Seems like the intention of those selling groups is a convenience, so someone closely follow another's activity there could be annoying to a lot of people, without being petty.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Jul 17, 2015 18:53:01 GMT
Facebook is not private. I guess you're destined to always be annoyed.
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 17, 2015 18:55:02 GMT
Yeah, I don't like it either. A neighbor, that I barely know and am friends with there, asked me for a ride to work after she'd locked her keys in the car. On the way, she said, "I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin." Last week, my cousin died, and I didn't say anything about it on MY page, so the only way she would have known was to be looking at my posts on some of my other cousin's pages. It weirded me out.
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Post by gryroagain on Jul 17, 2015 19:01:10 GMT
Similar to the craigslist liking, I get people who see I've liked a picture of DD from her dance studio's page or just something they have posted (the dance studio) and then when I see it later it's got 5-6 comments and they are all my family or friends...who live no where near the studio, don't attend it or have kids that do, etc. It's really sweet, but it's a little weird since it appears DD has a personal "fan club", lol. I took me a while to figure out how they were finding this stuff, since I didn't post the pictures or info, the school Facebook page did. Then I realized by me "liking" it, they could all see it too.
I'm not annoyed people are saying nice things about my kid, I swear, I'm just weirded out by the information chain. I'm sure I could quit Facebook altogether and avoid it, but I wish we could just hide our likes or follows from everyone, without going in and doing it one person at a time. It's very cumbersome.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Jul 17, 2015 19:01:31 GMT
Facebook is not private. I guess you're destined to always be annoyed. Interesting that you came to the conclusion that I will always be annoyed. On the other hand, in the past you've told me that you're glad you don't live a humorless life like I do, so I'm not exactly surprised by your tendency to generalize about people's lives based on something very minor and specific. ETA: Oh, crud, I just realized I mixed you up with somebody else. Sorry! Not deleting 'cause my fault. ( lisacharlotte)
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jul 17, 2015 19:07:57 GMT
I'm rarely on my computer, which is the only way I see the "stalker feed". If I'm on my phone, I don't see all that nonsense! I'm glad for that, it would drive me insane. But it does make you think twice about what you comment on or like, because pretty much all of your friends can see it!
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Post by Bitchy Rich on Jul 17, 2015 19:17:06 GMT
Yeah, I don't like it either. A neighbor, that I barely know and am friends with there, asked me for a ride to work after she'd locked her keys in the car. On the way, she said, "I'm so sorry to hear about your cousin." Last week, my cousin died, and I didn't say anything about it on MY page, so the only way she would have known was to be looking at my posts on some of my other cousin's pages. It weirded me out. If one of those people has their settings set to "friends of friends" or "public" your comments would have made the post appear in your neighbor's newsfeed, just like any one of your own status updates would.
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Post by gritzi on Jul 17, 2015 20:42:58 GMT
I detest it also!! No one needs to know if I liked a page, commented on a page or joined a group. Previously (a long time ago) one could somewhat hide that info & info that others' posted. Unfortunately that option has been deleted.
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