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Post by bc2ca on Jul 22, 2015 22:26:57 GMT
The jerk will be the one boo-hooing the most at her funeral, I bet, and the main reason will be GUILT. Sadly, he will be crying hard at her funeral one day, but I really don't think it will be because of guilt. My BIL had a strong sense of (unearned) entitlement and no guilt over taking what he thinks should be his or apologies for his behavior ever.
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Post by marianne on Jul 22, 2015 22:35:59 GMT
The guy goes beyond assholian... like freebird said, total dick! I'd be very concerned about him being involved with any travel she does in the future.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 22, 2015 22:40:03 GMT
WHAT??? That is pretty low. He sounds like a real douche.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Jul 22, 2015 22:47:23 GMT
I have no words for him. He is not even humane
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Post by tinydogmafia on Jul 22, 2015 22:48:24 GMT
What a douche. How awful for your MIL.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2015 22:57:57 GMT
That's just terrible, makes me want to cry for the MIL.
I hate when I see the elderly being treated so poorly.
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Post by akathy on Jul 22, 2015 23:00:40 GMT
I can't believe someone could treat their own mother like that. Your poor MIL
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Post by Peamac on Jul 22, 2015 23:23:08 GMT
My gramma would travel from Texas to Pennsylvania on the Greyhound bus, even in her 80's,(she didn't drive and didn't like to fly) but she was quite spry and in good health. and that was 20-30 years ago. I don't blame you for being mad at your BIL! Glad she's able to fly back.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 22, 2015 23:24:22 GMT
I honestly think your husbands side of the family needs to get together in person/Skype/phone and confront him. This is wrong on so many levels.
I really hope he isn't taking any anger out on her, I seen this a lot when I worked home health.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jul 23, 2015 0:22:52 GMT
I've known a lot of assholes in my life but your BIL is unbelievable. He should be put down.
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Post by Woobster on Jul 23, 2015 0:27:16 GMT
Duuuuuude.... What an ass!!
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Post by penny on Jul 23, 2015 0:38:56 GMT
WTF?!?? Who does that??
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 23, 2015 0:43:15 GMT
My father is 83 with mobility issues and partial deafness, and I would feel uncomfortable putting him on a bus were that his fondest wish and heart's desire. I just can't imagine. I am glad that your MIL has family members who care enough to be upset about this, but I worry about her being under the supervision of someone who would make that decision.
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Post by mallie on Jul 23, 2015 0:52:01 GMT
We're not sure how long the bus ride was, but given the options it would be 12-16 hours. There are lots of unanswered questions, but the bottom line is BIL did not put her on the bus because it would be more comfortable or a better choice for her. He did it because he was mad about something. I wouldn't be surprised if he was mad at her for not buying them plane tickets. He has no money, so they only fly if MIL or one of his girls pay. MIL is from a culture that reveres men/boys and would not question or complain about being treated this way by a man. It is the rest of the family that is horrified. BIL knows he can't justify what he did, so let everyone believe they drove together. MIL let him get away with it because she didn't want anyone being mad at him. As I said in the OP, our niece has already bought a ticket for MIL to fly home. She was so upset when she realized what her dad did she called my DH. We would never have heard about it from MIL. I am horrified that anyone would put an 82 year old with heart problems, diabetes, mobility issues, and bathroom problems on a bus period, let alone to punish her for not buying plane tickets. That said, I have to ask -- did your MIL raise her sons to believe they were entitled -- as men who are revered and never to be reprimanded -- to treat women like this?
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jul 23, 2015 0:59:13 GMT
....and the award for ASSHOLE of the year goes to.... bc2ca's bil
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Post by mlana on Jul 23, 2015 1:07:30 GMT
The jerk will be the one boo-hooing the most at her funeral, I bet, and the main reason will be GUILT. I disagree. Anyone capable of such a thing won't feel any guilt. He had his reasons for doing this and they were good ones, so why should he feel guilty - his thought process. Marcy
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 23, 2015 1:47:23 GMT
Unbelievable!!!
and good for niece buying her a plane ticket.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 1:55:55 GMT
Idk, I'd have a hard time not exposing bil to everyone... everyone should know who they're dealing with. As much as I love to avoid conflict, I'd also be on the phone with the nozzle (thanks, freebird) and instruct him to never do that again.
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Post by tincin on Jul 23, 2015 1:56:11 GMT
We're not sure how long the bus ride was, but given the options it would be 12-16 hours. There are lots of unanswered questions, but the bottom line is BIL did not put her on the bus because it would be more comfortable or a better choice for her. He did it because he was mad about something. I wouldn't be surprised if he was mad at her for not buying them plane tickets. He has no money, so they only fly if MIL or one of his girls pay. MIL is from a culture that reveres men/boys and would not question or complain about being treated this way by a man. It is the rest of the family that is horrified. BIL knows he can't justify what he did, so let everyone believe they drove together. MIL let him get away with it because she didn't want anyone being mad at him. As I said in the OP, our niece has already bought a ticket for MIL to fly home. She was so upset when she realized what her dad did she called my DH. We would never have heard about it from MIL. She might let everyone believe he drove her but you can bet your britches that I would make sure everyone knew exactly how she got there.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2015 2:01:52 GMT
Your DH really needs to confront his brother about this. If one of my siblings did this, they'd get an earful.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 23, 2015 2:53:04 GMT
I want to throat punch him just reading that! I would be so angry. I have a douchebag BIL too, so I get it completely. Thank God I won't likely have to cross paths with mine ever again in my lifetime.
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Post by gina on Jul 23, 2015 2:53:58 GMT
Woah! That's a new level of low.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 23, 2015 3:19:09 GMT
There is just no excuse for it. I am curious though if she brought him up believing that women were second class citizens? I have seen a few women take a lot of crap from men because it was their culture to do so. I just don't understand it. It isn't in my nature or upbringing to treat or be treated that way.
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Post by lucyg on Jul 23, 2015 3:30:37 GMT
That is so disturbing. I hope your DH and his sister can step in and make sure the BIL isn't being abusive in other ways.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 23, 2015 3:35:25 GMT
No words.
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Post by ceepea on Jul 23, 2015 3:44:09 GMT
Are you freaking kidding me?? That poor woman. Sorry you have to deal with him.
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Post by mom on Jul 23, 2015 3:56:42 GMT
Oh my gosh. This makes me so mad.
If your husband doesn't beat the sh*t out of him, I will.
Who does that?!? For real. Who would put their aging mom on a bus by herself?
I seriously hope your BIL is exposed for a jackhat that he is. Seriously. I would tell every family member I could think of. And BIL better hope he didn't ever need my help in the future because he would not be getting anything from me.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 23, 2015 4:08:44 GMT
Oh no, your poor MIL! I am stunned beyond belief that someone could treat their elderly mother this way. Your BIL is a special kind of prick.
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Post by anniefb on Jul 23, 2015 5:20:05 GMT
Just WOW! Any other words I could type would make y'all blush That^^
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Post by anniefb on Jul 23, 2015 5:21:42 GMT
Oh no, your poor MIL! I am stunned beyond belief that someone could treat their elderly mother this way. Your BIL is a special kind of prick. Yep, just left me lost for words.
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