LeaP
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Post by LeaP on Aug 11, 2015 21:24:00 GMT
We (as a family) have been very good about thinning many things: clothes, books, kitchenware. Our biggest stumbling block , the things that don't easily fit into a category. Part of me knows I should just put on my big girl pants and throw stuff away, but I'm stuck. Please tell me what you do. First world problem , I know.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 11, 2015 21:26:08 GMT
What kind of things are you talking about?
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Post by scrapsotime on Aug 11, 2015 21:27:30 GMT
I don't deal in categories. If it is not serving any purpose out it goes. Doesn't matter what it is.
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lesley
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Post by lesley on Aug 11, 2015 22:31:36 GMT
I allow myself one nice storage box of bits and pieces that don't go anywhere else but that I don't want to throw away. Once the box is full, I go on the basis of 'one in, one out'. It kinda works...
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Post by raindancer on Aug 11, 2015 22:51:18 GMT
My way to get through this dilemma is to imagine I am packing up to move. I have to pay a premium for every box. "Would I pay money to take *this* item with me?" If the answer is no, then I toss it or put it in the give away pile.
I allow myself one "box" of miscellaneous when I move so I do the same thing when I'm just purging/cleaning an area.
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perumbula
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Post by perumbula on Aug 11, 2015 22:52:44 GMT
Those are the ones that get me too. We're in a huge purge right now and I am having a hard time. Even if it doesn't have an easy to understand category, it doesn't mean it isn't useful. I've decided to not worry about what it is so much about "is it useful? Do I use it often enough to keep it around? Where do I use it? When do I use it?"
For example, our snow pants are used as part of our winter gear, but we don't have room in our coat closet for all of them. They do have to be easy to get to though. I can't get rid of them because we do use them a few times a year, and it's too expensive to buy all new ones for the times we use them. Where do I put them during the winter? I've also found some exposed rolls of film that need developed, but obviously don't have a real place in my home. Where do I put them until I can get them down to the store?
I have a spot for bills in my house, but I don't have a spot for coupon books (like from JoAnn and Costco) or papers that need to be kept for a short time. It all gets dumped in a kitchen drawer with other crap leaving me with a mess that almost makes me call on Anoia every time I try to open the drawer.
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Post by myshelly on Aug 11, 2015 22:59:41 GMT
I guess I'm having a hard time imagining the kinds of things you are talking about. Could you give some examples?
I'm very "a place for everything and everything in its place." If it's not important enough for me to create a place for it, I don't keep it.
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Post by disneypal on Aug 11, 2015 23:05:50 GMT
If it isn't anything you really use or anything you truly love (very special to you), then toss it.
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Post by scrapulous on Aug 11, 2015 23:48:10 GMT
I know what you mean.
It seems I'm always buying gifts for showers or graduations. I usually buy the gift a couple of weeks before the event, when it's convenient to go to the store. So the gift just sits, wrapped, on the counter or in the corner until the event. Do I need to create a "home" for gifts? I don't really have extra closet space.
I'm always taking stuff to Goodwill. Almost every week. So I always have a bag in the corner of my office that the family knows is the Goodwill bag. They put stuff in there that they no longer want/use/need, and on Mondays I take it to Goodwill, which is next door to the studio where my dd takes keyboard lessons. So there's always a bag in the corner of my office.
Etc. None of these types of things are truly permanent, but I guess I still need a place for them, behind closed doors, so they don't clutter up the house. I just wish my coat closet were bigger so I could put stuff like this in there. It barely fits our coats and the vacuum cleaner.
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Post by cyndijane on Aug 11, 2015 23:57:38 GMT
I have nothing to add, because I'm with you. I married a pack rat, so I'm overrun with "bits and bobs" even high I'm decluttering all the time.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 11, 2015 23:58:32 GMT
Those are the ones that get me too. We're in a huge purge right now and I am having a hard time. Even if it doesn't have an easy to understand category, it doesn't mean it isn't useful. I've decided to not worry about what it is so much about "is it useful? Do I use it often enough to keep it around? Where do I use it? When do I use it?" For example, our snow pants are used as part of our winter gear, but we don't have room in our coat closet for all of them. They do have to be easy to get to though. I can't get rid of them because we do use them a few times a year, and it's too expensive to buy all new ones for the times we use them. Where do I put them during the winter? I've also found some exposed rolls of film that need developed, but obviously don't have a real place in my home. Where do I put them until I can get them down to the store? I have a spot for bills in my house, but I don't have a spot for coupon books (like from JoAnn and Costco) or papers that need to be kept for a short time. It all gets dumped in a kitchen drawer with other crap leaving me with a mess that almost makes me call on Anoia every time I try to open the drawer. Living in south central Texas I don't have to give much thought to cold weather gear. Some years I never even put on a coat, so sad. Ideally I would put the pants in a box/basket at the top of my entry closet out of prime real estate but easily reachable with a step stool. The rolls of film would either go in my purse or on my errands shelf for the next time I went to Walgreen's, also in the entry closet. Since you know they will be ongoing, I would make a spot for the commonly used but not easy to categorize papers, preferably with your other paperwork. Downstairs I keep all of my paperwork in this Staples Apprentice. Not attractive but so perfect for what I need. There is a coupon hanging file, but only because I don't know if it will be my husband or myself who will end up using it. Otherwise I would keep them in a file in my glove compartment so that I always and them available. I used to do this and would sort through them at red lights to remember what I had and throw away expired coupons.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 12, 2015 0:11:16 GMT
I know what you mean. It seems I'm always buying gifts for showers or graduations. I usually buy the gift a couple of weeks before the event, when it's convenient to go to the store. So the gift just sits, wrapped, on the counter or in the corner until the event. Do I need to create a "home" for gifts? I don't really have extra closet space. I'm always taking stuff to Goodwill. Almost every week. So I always have a bag in the corner of my office that the family knows is the Goodwill bag. They put stuff in there that they no longer want/use/need, and on Mondays I take it to Goodwill, which is next door to the studio where my dd takes keyboard lessons. So there's always a bag in the corner of my office. Etc. None of these types of things are truly permanent, but I guess I still need a place for them, behind closed doors, so they don't clutter up the house. I just wish my coat closet were bigger so I could put stuff like this in there. It barely fits our coats and the vacuum cleaner. I face these exact issues, so frustrating! Our coat closet is all of 2 feet across, maybe 2 and a half. We are fortunate that there is a 4 foot cavity in the garage wall right next to it and we are currently in the process of getting estimates to expand the closet. For now, the vacuum cleaner is kept in the garage, the goodwill boxes in the trunk of our vehicles. I have a large spare drawer in our Butler's pantry/not a pantry where I am able to keep items to return to or give toother people. For gifts, I keep a year round gift box in my craft room closet. Which works because that is where we keep the wrapping paper and cards. I just wrap it and move it to the drawer downstairs when it gets close to the occasion.
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Post by perumbula on Aug 12, 2015 1:10:47 GMT
dewryce those are good suggestions, but most of them presume closet space my home currently does not have. My front closet is a joke and does not have space for items we are not currently using. I'm hoping we'll have space for these things in the master closet when we finish it. I'll just have to deal with it for the next few months while we work on that. (The current project that's been the impetus for all this purging.)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 2:56:14 GMT
We (as a family) have been very good about thinning many things: clothes, books, kitchenware. Our biggest stumbling block , the things that don't easily fit into a category. Part of me knows I should just put on my big girl pants and throw stuff away, but I'm stuck. Please tell me what you do. First world problem , I know. Donate!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 3:11:16 GMT
We (as a family) have been very good about thinning many things: clothes, books, kitchenware. Our biggest stumbling block , the things that don't easily fit into a category. Part of me knows I should just put on my big girl pants and throw stuff away, but I'm stuck. Please tell me what you do. First world problem , I know. Why does it need to fit into a category before you can decide to discard it? I feel like I'm missing something here... I can see why you might want it to fit in a category after you decide to keep it because that would affect where you put it for storage. But the basic question of "do I use this enough to keep it" doesn't need a category.
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Post by slicksister on Aug 12, 2015 3:12:34 GMT
We have the possibility of moving in the near future and the place we will be moving into is Tiny with a capital T so I have spent the past 6 weeks going through every drawer, box, cupboard, closet etc. I'm a pretty organized person and I take stuff to the thrift store every couple of months but it was amazing the stuff I got rid of. I have allowed myself one small plastic container about twice the size of a shoebox as a misc. bits and bobs box.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 3:37:42 GMT
whenever i declutter i tell myself, one day you will be dead and this item won't matter morbid i know, but it works
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Post by akathy on Aug 12, 2015 4:39:16 GMT
If I don't love it or use it I either trash or donate it.
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Post by LeaP on Aug 12, 2015 4:40:48 GMT
Thanks for all the responses and suggestions.
By bits and bobs I mean the coin collection in the Venetian box, the ceramic box from Mexico with barrettes inside, the Alessi lemon squeezer on a shelf, the tin with a Lego + glue stick + Pantene serum + change...stuff! With a specific category I can see stuff that is redundant, with bits and bobs I am more challenged because that #$%^ glue stick might come in handy!
I think a large part of the problem is not having a home for everything. If the important things find a home the rest can be tossed. There are four of us and I often feel like Sysiphus. I roll the boulder into the closet and the others take it out.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Aug 12, 2015 5:06:10 GMT
I don't deal in categories. If it is not serving any purpose out it goes. Doesn't matter what it is. Precisely. A charity shop will sell on most things. Your bits and bobs might be exactly what someone is looking for.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 12, 2015 5:20:54 GMT
dewryce those are good suggestions, but most of them presume closet space my home currently does not have. My front closet is a joke and does not have space for items we are not currently using. I'm hoping we'll have space for these things in the master closet when we finish it. I'll just have to deal with it for the next few months while we work on that. (The current project that's been the impetus for all this purging.) I feel your pain, ours is only 2.5' across, it's laughable! Have you used all of the verticle space in your existing closets?
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Post by PEArfect on Aug 12, 2015 5:22:53 GMT
Are the boxes you mentioned sentimental? Do you like them? Would they look nice displayed somewhere? Can they be used as creative storage? If not donate them. Glue sticks I would put with office supplies. Pantene serum in the bathroom. Change in a container until it's full enough to take to the bank. Lemon squeezer in the kitchen. Legos with toys or donate.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 12, 2015 5:37:14 GMT
Thanks for all the responses and suggestions. By bits and bobs I mean the coin collection in the Venetian box, the ceramic box from Mexico with barrettes inside, the Alessi lemon squeezer on a shelf, the tin with a Lego + glue stick + Pantene serum + change...stuff! With a specific category I can see stuff that is redundant, with bits and bobs I am more challenged because that #$%^ glue stick might come in handy! I think a large part of the problem is not having a home for everything. If the important things find a home the rest can be tossed. There are four of us and I often feel like Sysiphus. I roll the boulder into the closet and the others take it out. If you love the coin collection in the Venetian box and/or the Mexican box and enjoy looking at them, I would find a place of honor for them on a shelf. Do you have other items from that person/trip you can display them with? If you don't love them, good time for those big girl panties you were talking about ITA with the main issue not having a place for everything. Perhaps as you go through this purging process with your family, keep a small box of items you want to keep but don't know where to put them? After a while you might find a lot of items in one category that need a home, generic craft items for an example. Some advice I read that has always worked for me is put it where you use it. We keep a pretty change bowl on the entrance table because that is where DH empties his pockets when gets home. Where do you put on the serum? I keep a few hair items together in the powder room cabinet downstairs for touch ups so I don't have to run back upstairs. I had to look up the juice squeezer and now I'm curious which one you have Do you use it? Then can you store it with other fruit utensils (melon ballets, apple corers, strawberry hauler)?
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Post by Linda on Aug 12, 2015 5:46:21 GMT
I don't have a front closet - there is one closet/bedroom and that is it - no linen, no coat, no broom... snowpants aren't needed here (FL) but what about a storage ottoman or something like that to keep them in - non-visible but easy access. Or will they fit in bedroom closets or in a box under a bed? film and coupons go into my purse - I have a pocket folder on my desk to toss random sheets of paper that don't need filing or to be kept longterm but I'll need again soon Gifts - I have a tote for gifts but if I didn't have space in my bedroom closet for it, I would probably use a decorative box (like a hat box or something) that I would be ok having visible. Goodwill - I'm still working on a solution for - we have a milk crate that sits on top of the recycling bins...classy and decorative neither of them are "coin collection in the Venetian box, the ceramic box from Mexico with barrettes inside, the Alessi lemon squeezer on a shelf, the tin with a Lego + glue stick + Pantene serum + change...stuff!" are the coins special or just change? change, take to the bank and run through the coin counter. special...keep. Ditto for the ceramic box - do you love it? Is it useful for the barrettes and do you use barrettes? Do you squeeze lemons or was that a one time use item that wasn't as awesome/useful/cool as you thought it was. The tin? I think it's helpful to have ONE (small) spot where random stuff gets tossed and go through it every so often and return the Lego to the Lego box and decide whether the glue stick is dried up or needs to go back to the desk/craft stuff and collect the change etc... But yes - if everything HAS a home, then it's easier to put things IN their home.
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Post by candleangie on Aug 12, 2015 5:55:23 GMT
I use the "four flights of stairs" policy.
You're moving. To the fourth floor. The elevator is broken and you don't have any bags or boxes.
You've moved EVERYTHING else up the stairs, one item at a time. Is it worth going down to the car, and then schlep it up four flights of stairs to keep it?
Works remarkably well.....lol
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 6:15:50 GMT
My friends are getting lots of stuff from me...3 bottles of new Bath and Body Works body wash Make up New in package (not old or used) I just don't have room for it. New hair brushes (in the package Clothes and more clothes...oh goodness the list goes on!
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Post by gsquaredmom on Aug 12, 2015 6:48:18 GMT
Those items go into the junk drawer.
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Post by leftturnonly on Aug 12, 2015 7:57:08 GMT
I don't deal in categories. If it is not serving any purpose out it goes. Doesn't matter what it is. Where do things go when they go out?
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Post by scrapsotime on Aug 12, 2015 11:57:19 GMT
I don't deal in categories. If it is not serving any purpose out it goes. Doesn't matter what it is. Where do things go when they go out? Depends, could be Goodwill, Salvation Army, Trinity Mission, or to family or friends if someone can use it. If it's broken beyond our ability to repair it goes to the curb and you'd be surprised how much of that stuff is scavenged before the garbage truck gets to it.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 12, 2015 12:42:37 GMT
Thanks for all the responses and suggestions. By bits and bobs I mean the coin collection in the Venetian box, the ceramic box from Mexico with barrettes inside, the Alessi lemon squeezer on a shelf, the tin with a Lego + glue stick + Pantene serum + change...stuff! With a specific category I can see stuff that is redundant, with bits and bobs I am more challenged because that #$%^ glue stick might come in handy! I think a large part of the problem is not having a home for everything. If the important things find a home the rest can be tossed. There are four of us and I often feel like Sysiphus. I roll the boulder into the closet and the others take it out. put the lemon sqeezer in the kitchen with the meal prep tools. Is it redundant there? Is it useful? No? get rid of it. Put the h pantene serum and barrets with your hair care stuff. Is it useful? No, get rid of it. Put the glue stick with other crafting items.. ideally with your glue gun. Put the lego with the kids toys. Put the change in a designated change spot. Decide if the "coin collection" is sentimental enough to keep. Decide if the decorative boxes are sentimental enough to keep. If yes, find a place to display them or a task to use as storage of specific items instead of a catch all
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