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Post by totravel on Aug 26, 2015 6:13:19 GMT
Big hugs!!
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Post by manda on Aug 28, 2015 6:44:36 GMT
I thought about you on and off yesterday after I posted. DH and I married in our mid and late 30's. We had broken up at one point, but stayed in touch and talked all the time. I think it's harder when you're "fully formed" adults, with your own patterns, to make the leap and commitments, even when you feel like you're ready. I hope this works out the way it's supposed to, and whatever way is best for you. Take a few deep breaths and all "that". We're here for you. This pretty much sums up how I feel right now; I think. We have both been independent and alone our entire adult lives. And perhaps even our high school years. So that is a long time. We may be done. Or we may not. Honestly I really need to think about what I want before I can determine how to proceed either way. I realize that. Hugs! It sounds like both of you have very strong feelings for each other. Take it one day at a time. Talk, talk, talk...share openly. Don't put any expectations on each other. At some point, you both will figure out, whether you are meant to be together or not. This is kind of where we are now. We are talking more now. Who knows why. I would normally just walk away after a breakup. And though there is part of me wants to do that now just because that is what you do after a breakup, I'm inclined to have the light contact and email exchanges that are occurring at the moment. One day at a time. I also reserve the right to change my mind and decide to not reciprocate what is going on at the moment. I agree that we'll figure it out eventually. Which is why I avoid the "omg, RED FLAGS, abort" group. I understand why the caution is encouraged, but I'm okay for now with what's going on at the moment. Just taking it in stride at the moment. Again, I need to figure out what I want and go from there. It's always hard for me to do that.
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