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Post by pjaye on Aug 26, 2015 15:35:54 GMT
If you don't know, this does happen on the internet and on message boards a LOT. There really are people who do this, make up illness, children, marriages, deaths of non existent children and spouses etc. They do it because they can, and it gets them attention or fills some need in them to try to belong to a certain group. Of course it sounds illogical to more rational people because it often gets them negative attention, and we wonder why anyone would go to those lengths...yet they do. Ever watched the show Catfish?
I'm not one of the ones saying she is making it up...I'm saying that this behaviour is her consistently, and if some sort of mental illness is present, it isn't any worse than normal...this is what she always does and how she always posts, been doing it for years. I do think she uses the mental illness as an excuse when she knows her posts have gone too far, but I believe at the time of her posts she knows exactly why she's posting about & she does it to stir the pot. However I do not believe everything she posts about her life, it's clear aspects of that are more her imagination and trying to fit in than anything based in reality.
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Post by penny on Aug 26, 2015 16:54:41 GMT
If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm not looking for how you'd handle it with the OP or someone online, but how you'd handle it in a more ordinary situation like a dinner out or hanging in the backyard...
I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said? And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic? If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviour?
For background, I have done CBT and different therapies to learn how to notice and manage symptoms of my issues (severe depression, PTSD, anxiety and panic disorders), and usually can catch myself and then try to use some of the skills I've been taught... It doesn't always work, but it's an option... I also have had discussions with close family and friends about symptoms they might notice, and told them it's okay to broach the subject with me if I don't seem okay...
As far as mania goes, the only experience is a friend who has it and gets loud, angry, and very intense... She's been spoken to and disciplined at work for her behaviour towards coworkers when her mania is bad, but I suspect that because it's a workplace, her words/actions are discussed but not her health so I've never seen a friend/family type discussion about it...
Anyone who answers - TIA... This thread must hit close to home so I appreciate its not the easiest place to share...
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Post by lesley on Aug 26, 2015 17:15:06 GMT
If you don't know, this does happen on the internet and on message boards a LOT. There really are people who do this, make up illness, children, marriages, deaths of non existent children and spouses etc. They do it because they can, and it gets them attention or fills some need in them to try to belong to a certain group. Yes, but when people make up illnesses, they usually go for cancer or something that will garner them sympathy. They don't tend to choose mental illness, which will not.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Aug 26, 2015 17:26:07 GMT
If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm not looking for how you'd handle it with the OP or someone online, but how you'd handle it in a more ordinary situation like a dinner out or hanging in the backyard... I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said? And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic? If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviour? For background, I have done CBT and different therapies to learn how to notice and manage symptoms of my issues (severe depression, PTSD, anxiety and panic disorders), and usually can catch myself and then try to use some of the skills I've been taught... It doesn't always work, but it's an option... I also have had discussions with close family and friends about symptoms they might notice, and told them it's okay to broach the subject with me if I don't seem okay... As far as mania goes, the only experience is a friend who has it and gets loud, angry, and very intense... She's been spoken to and disciplined at work for her behaviour towards coworkers when her mania is bad, but I suspect that because it's a workplace, her words/actions are discussed but not her health so I've never seen a friend/family type discussion about it... Anyone who answers - TIA... This thread must hit close to home so I appreciate its not the easiest place to share... I can't answer everything since I'm posting during a short break. But for me, I have 1 sister that is bi-polar, 1 sister that has multiple mental diagnosis, including bi-polar, anxiety and phobias and a 26 yr old dd that is also bi-polar. We do not excuse or make excuses for our mental health issues. My one sister has pulled a knife on family members and two other times has been involuntarily committed. We didn't just ignore her actions saying they were due to her diagnosis. We don't just let her verbally or physically assault people because she is mentally ill. We do discuss it with her, we do try to act/react appropriately when she crosses the line. Those responses and reactions depend on the situation and what has transpired.
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Post by pjaye on Aug 26, 2015 17:42:52 GMT
If you don't know, this does happen on the internet and on message boards a LOT. There really are people who do this, make up illness, children, marriages, deaths of non existent children and spouses etc. They do it because they can, and it gets them attention or fills some need in them to try to belong to a certain group. Yes, but when people make up illnesses, they usually go for cancer or something that will garner them sympathy. They don't tend to choose mental illness, which will not. Not true at all. You obviously haven't seen Catfish, they make up everything you could possibly imagine, men claim to be women, women claim to be men, older people claim to be younger and vice versa, people who have kids say they don't people who don't say they do. They make up careers, jobs, where they live and it goes on and on. Some people live out a complete fantasy life on line and suck other people in with their stories, it's not only about trying to get sympathy...the reasons can be very complex, sometimes it just that they want to be someone other than who they are because they are dissatisfied with their own lives. I'd bet there are some other regular posters here who do this and we have absolutely no idea. Remember we just recently had a long term member who posted a fake photo of herself, for no apparent reason.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 17:48:44 GMT
If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm not looking for how you'd handle it with the OP or someone online, but how you'd handle it in a more ordinary situation like a dinner out or hanging in the backyard... I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said? And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic? If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviour? For background, I have done CBT and different therapies to learn how to notice and manage symptoms of my issues (severe depression, PTSD, anxiety and panic disorders), and usually can catch myself and then try to use some of the skills I've been taught... It doesn't always work, but it's an option... I also have had discussions with close family and friends about symptoms they might notice, and told them it's okay to broach the subject with me if I don't seem okay... As far as mania goes, the only experience is a friend who has it and gets loud, angry, and very intense... She's been spoken to and disciplined at work for her behaviour towards coworkers when her mania is bad, but I suspect that because it's a workplace, her words/actions are discussed but not her health so I've never seen a friend/family type discussion about it... Anyone who answers - TIA... This thread must hit close to home so I appreciate its not the easiest place to share... There are several things that have turned my life around, but the two biggest are the right medication and the support of my family and closest friends. I have had both manic and hypomanic (less severe) episodes. When this first began in my twenties I would feel rage I will never be able to properly explain. I never knew what the phrase "my blood was boiling" meant until then. I felt like I was crawling out of my skin. Some of the things that came out of my mouth were absolutely horrendous. Sometimes I realized it as I was saying it and I literally could not stop myself. As soon as the fury passed I would break down bawling and apologizing. Other times I had no clue and wouldn't until my husband and I talked about it later. (FYI this applied to email and later text rants as well) I only ever made real progress with this once I learned about the disorder and accepted how it affected me and when I found medication that worked for me. This took years upon years. Until then, my husband went to therapy himself (I insisted) and would repeat in his head "she has bipolar disorder" over and over. He knew not to take things personally. And he worked his butt off making my appointments, taking me to them and giving me my medication until I was able to do it myself. I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said?Initially, no I didn't see it. Using the above example, I felt guilty thinking I was just getting mad for no good reason, over-reacting and generally just being a horrible person. As I educated myself and spoke with counselors and my husband about specific examples, I was able to see it more recognize it more easily. Being properly medicated so I could see situations clearly helped a lot. Now that I have it controlled with medication and behavior modification I can usually tell when my illness is impacting my thoughts, words, or actions. Of course, it comes several days after the episodes first begin apparently. I'll tell my husband I feel like an episode is beginning and almost without fail he will say "You haven't stopped talking for 3-4-5 days" And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic?Now? Absolutely. I made a point of asking my husband to remember specific details of issues I had so we could discuss it when I was more rational and able to benefit from it. I learned so much that way. I learned what behaviors could be tied to it and spoke with my counselor so that I could recognize it in myself.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2015 17:50:00 GMT
If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm curious as well.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 26, 2015 17:52:05 GMT
If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm not looking for how you'd handle it with the OP or someone online, but how you'd handle it in a more ordinary situation like a dinner out or hanging in the backyard... I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said? And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic? If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviour? For background, I have done CBT and different therapies to learn how to notice and manage symptoms of my issues (severe depression, PTSD, anxiety and panic disorders), and usually can catch myself and then try to use some of the skills I've been taught... It doesn't always work, but it's an option... I also have had discussions with close family and friends about symptoms they might notice, and told them it's okay to broach the subject with me if I don't seem okay... As far as mania goes, the only experience is a friend who has it and gets loud, angry, and very intense... She's been spoken to and disciplined at work for her behaviour towards coworkers when her mania is bad, but I suspect that because it's a workplace, her words/actions are discussed but not her health so I've never seen a friend/family type discussion about it... Anyone who answers - TIA... This thread must hit close to home so I appreciate its not the easiest place to share... This is a hard question to answer. Sometimes I recognize the signs, sometimes I don’t. At first, I didn’t get it at all. At first I really liked being manic. I felt confident in myself, I had unlimited creativity, lots of energy, I didn’t need to sleep. I did not realize that my behavior was unusual---at first. But then it started getting worse and I seemed pretty powerless to control it anymore and that’s when I accepted that I was not normal. I can recognize it now, I feel quite jittery, bounce my leg while I’m sitting, feel wide awake during normal sleeping hours, racing and obsessive thoughts in my head. CBT helps with these very manageable types of things. Thankfully, that is the extent of my mania now. But back when I was unmedicated or going through medication changes, my behavior has been bad at times. And generally, I am aware that my behavior has been bad. For instance, once during a mixed episode (mixed is where the bipolar anger comes from), I threw a bottle of vitamins at my husband and they ended up going straight through my kitchen window, breaking it. He made my coffee wrong. This was before I took mood stabilizing meds. I knew my behavior was wrong. But at the time, I felt very irrational and unable to control it. The best I could do was apologize after I had calmed down. Unmedicated mania is different on different people. The mixed episodes are when my behavior is generally bad. Mania usually results in odd behavior for me. Talking loudly, being paranoid, very delusional. Once I went to the store in a manic state. As I was going into the store, I got waved over by someone trying to get me to sign a petition to put a certain issue on the ballot. I disagreed with the issue. I spent I don’t know how long following the petition signature person around the parking lot of the store as he was trying to collect signatures, I was telling people not to sign it. I eventually left when he threatened to call the police on me. I never even went inside the store. By the time I got home, I was in a place where I was having hallucinations and unable to communicate anymore. Everyone around me knows what to look for and before I go to my psychiatrist appointment (every three months if I’m stable, more often if I’m not), I ask my husband what he has thought about my behavior. It is very important to me to have feedback from other people because they notice things that I don’t. And I can’t even apologize or correct the behavior if I don’t know that I’m doing it. Medicated, I can handle the little symptoms with behavior modifications. Unmedicated, I am very out of control and feel powerless to stop it, even if I know I’m wrong.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 18:13:44 GMT
If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviorI do now. If my issue is irrational anger (which is no where near what it used to be) my husband typically ignores it until I am calmer and then brings it up when it will do some good, if I don't beat him to the punch. I do a lot of self talk when I get upset at any point now. Really try and think before I speak and talk myself down as it were. And I can do this because of my medication and lots of practice. Shopping is is one we are still working on. For the most part I have it under control, and when I am manic I typically will not go into stores and try to stay off my favorite shopping websites. If I need something John will go in for me, this is a way I told him he could help me and he is happy to do it. Normally if I do shop online I do more self talk and weed out the excess. And then I am careful to show him my cart because I know I am not very rational in my spending thinking. Usually this works very well. Just these past 2 weeks it didn't. I am having a mixed episode, hypomanic and depressed. It's a bad combination. So I did a lot of online shopping overnight at 6 different places. Told him about it when he woke up, and tried to talk myself out of it during the day. Cleared my carts of a lot of it over the next 24ish hours. I still had a lot in them that I really, really wanted. I was very emotional and showed him everything and asked what he thought. This was a rare exception where we pulled the trigger to the tune of $450 worth of supplies, even though I had just spent several hundred (planned) the week before. Looking back, he knew how crazily and irrationally sad I was, crying at the drop of a hat and he just wanted to make me feel better. It worked and I have plans to strictly limit my spending through the rest of the year. So, it's not always perfect. For background, I have done CBT and different therapies to learn how to notice and manage symptoms of my issues (severe depression, PTSD, anxiety and panic disorders), and usually can catch myself and then try to use some of the skills I've been taught... It doesn't always work, but it's an option... I also have had discussions with close family and friends about symptoms they might notice, and told them it's okay to broach the subject with me if I don't seem okay...This is exactly how I handle it. I have actually reminded them many times because I truly want to learn from past experiences, and if I don't recognize them or their impact I need my people to help me with that. I have a close group of people who are 100% on board, understand and are supportive. They have made all the difference. I have to do the work but I couldn't do it without them. Those that aren't on board have at least learned that giving me a hard time about things will get them no where. I calmly explain the reality of how my disorder affects me and ways we manage it, and don't allow myself to feel bad if they don't get it and still judge me. To be clear, I am not rude or angry with them. They are just questioning how I live my life, why I don't work, why I take some meds instead of others, why I need meds at all because surely I can just deal with it, why I have it harder than themselves or their friend so-and-so who has bipolar disorder but is completely fine and she didn't need medication/do what I do.
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Post by ingrid6 on Aug 26, 2015 18:39:05 GMT
Yes, but when people make up illnesses, they usually go for cancer or something that will garner them sympathy. They don't tend to choose mental illness, which will not. Not true at all. You obviously haven't seen Catfish, they make up everything you could possibly imagine, men claim to be women, women claim to be men, older people claim to be younger and vice versa, people who have kids say they don't people who don't say they do. They make up careers, jobs, where they live and it goes on and on. Some people live out a complete fantasy life on line and suck other people in with their stories, it's not only about trying to get sympathy...the reasons can be very complex, sometimes it just that they want to be someone other than who they are because they are dissatisfied with their own lives. I'd bet there are some other regular posters here who do this and we have absolutely no idea. Remember we just recently had a long term member who posted a fake photo of herself, for no apparent reason. I've read most but not all of the replies but did want to address this. pjaye I'm sure you're right about people making up all kinds of stuff including jobs, kids, illness, etc. (note to self, need to see what Catfish is) It's just hard for me to understand when it's not something that would even cross my radar. Heck, most of my posts are on the "What's for dinner" threads (and yes, 4 of my 6 kids really have gone back to the university - though one is just visiting and yep I'm really loving 10 days of not cooking ) and on the Happy B-day threads to which I am sincerely wishing people a happy b-day. But if I tell you (general "you") about my state, town, job, adorable dog, etc (which I have done) I don't understand the point of lying. I'm lucky to have met 4 peas (from 4 different states!) in real life and am friends with others on fb. Definitely 'real' people that I consider friends. I'm not questioning you, I just can't imagine having to make up stuff for attention. I think it's really sad.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 18:57:53 GMT
As far as mania goes, the only experience is a friend who has it and gets loud, angry, and very intense... She's been spoken to and disciplined at work for her behaviour towards coworkers when her mania is bad, but I suspect that because it's a workplace, her words/actions are discussed but not her health so I've never seen a friend/family type discussion about it...
I was unfortunate that this all boiled over while I was working at a job I loved. I never really got angry at work, but I was very emotional to the point of tears. A few kind ladies checked up on me and supported me. Everyone else just stared at me. Anyway, I handled that by rushing out of the room, going to the ladies room. Mania affected my job in other ways (taking on too much work, racing thoughts, not able to read code I wrote the day before, and finally crashing into depression and not able to complete my projects). I handled that as best I could by explaining to the people I worked closely with what was going on, and my bosses though I had no legal need to do so. My bosses told me to smile more I walked around looking too depressed. My co-workers either understood until it impacted their projects negatively again or treated me like I had a communicable disease.
In a family/friend situation it depends on the group. For the most part it is not an issue anymore, I am able to successfully manage my behaviors. With my close circle, they tolerate my racing speech/thoughts/actions. Sometimes they will gently tell me to take a deep breath, but there is no judgement there. They accept it as part of who I am. For others, an example. We stay at my in-laws many times a year. There are times when I need to walk away so I will just go to our room. My husband has my back and will cover for me if needed. I have snapped at my MIL a couple of times in situations where I would normally be able to bite my tongue. One was warranted, the other not as much. She just let it go, I think she was in shock both times. The time I was wrong, I apologized a little while later when I had calmed down.
My friends and family know about my bipolar and I have taken great pains to both explain to them why I act like I do and to manage it. They know the work I have put into it, and exactly how hard I try. So when it is necessary they give me a little leeway. When I go overboard I give a sincere apology without being asked and take steps to ensure it doesn't happen again.
My mom is also bipolar so I also know how it feels to be on the other side of things. And I will admit it is very frustrating. She doesn't always go to the doctor or tell her doctors the truth. She doesn't really try to alter her behavior too much and won't go to counseling anymore. But as frustrating as it is, I keep in mind that she does not have someone like my husband to help her. I try what I can but live almost 2 hours away, it's just not the same. Also, she was diagnosed after I was, while in her 50s. That is a lot of years of learned behaviors to overcome. So if it's just the 2 of us I let a lot of the minor things go when they happen, and then bring them up gently later when she will be able to hear what I have to say.
There have been a couple of times she was actually yelling at me and would not stop. I had to raise my voice and be firm and basically tell her to knock it off. One was over the phone and one was in person. Over the phone after she stopped yelling I calmly told her that I felt she was cycling and we weren't getting anywhere, but that it was important and I would like to discuss it when she was feeling better. In person, it was the same thing but she was staying in town with me so we basically acknowledged that it was an issue and agreed to table it so we could enjoy the rest of our time together.
There have been instances where she became very upset, overly mad, at a salesperson or cashier and started being very rude. Often I will quietly tell her tht I would check out for her if she wanted to go outside to smoke while I finished up. If I was not able to do that I discretely whisper in her ear that she is overreacting and to please be nicer. It doesn't always help enough, if that is the case I apologize after she has walked away. Then I talk to her about it once she has calmed down a bit.
She was once on the phone with her insurance company about an accident and was speaking so fast and so disjointed she was barely comprehensible. I wrote a note for her to ask her to tell them she would call back. She shook her head. But she really wasn't doing herself any favors so I had to take the phone and tell them she was having a hard time explaining things so I was going to have her draw it and that I would call them back. She was pretty upset at the time, but it needed to be done.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2015 19:41:00 GMT
We've now come to know of the stress she's under, her mental issues and her problems thinking clearly and rationally and you're still trying to hold her to a standard of rational and logical thinking that she isn't capable of at the moment? But have we? We can't be sure that we aren't being toyed with by a troll who has lost her spreadsheets, not her sanity. I think that about at least a couple of people here, but not Delta Dawn. These quotes sum it up for me: I highly doubt a troll would go to that much trouble, just to further their story. And all that artbabe and everyone else shared. Unless I'm missing something, there's plenty to back up Delta Dawn's claims, but I don't see a lot to base the troll theory on.
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Post by artbabe on Aug 26, 2015 19:44:16 GMT
"If I could ask people who deal with mania - yourselves or in family/friends, how do you handle situations where the person's behaviour is hurtful or rude or crosses a line? I'm not looking for how you'd handle it with the OP or someone online, but how you'd handle it in a more ordinary situation like a dinner out or hanging in the backyard...
I'm wondering if the person can notice or sense the mania in themselves, or if it's something that they realize after something's happened or been said? And I'm curious if during non-manic times they understand the ways they change when they become manic? If you were to point it out to them that their mania is acting up, do they have coping mechanisms or skills to manage their behaviour?"
You certainly don't have to take it when someone crosses a line. It is absolutely acceptable to tell them that. If you tell them they are being manic they might believe you or they might not. It matters where they are in their illness. You need to try to remove the person from the situation, or if that doesn't work, just walk away. Just because someone is mentally ill doesn't mean you have to accept bad behavior. It just means you have to understand where the bad behavior is coming from.
Sometimes I recognized when I was being manic or hypomanic, sometimes I did not. Even now, fifteen years after, I'll think of old situations and all of a sudden it becomes clear to me that I was seeing everything through a skewed perspective. But for 15 years I've thought something happened one way and then "light bulb!" I see that it was totally different.
I think I would recognize myself being manic now if it happened. The problem is, as someone earlier mentioned, sometimes mania feels really good. I was energetic, creative, bubbly, etc. I was eccentric and unique and fun. In some ways I feel like I gave up some very good parts of myself when I got the medication right. But I don't miss the massive depressions, and the scary rages. Someone here mentioned they felt like they were jumping out of their skin. That is absolutely the truth. I remember pounded myself against walls over and over trying to get the rage out. What most people don't realize is that the mixed states are the danger zones. When you are depressed and manic at the same time it is awful.
There are definitely coping mechanisms that work. I developed a lot of them even before I was ever diagnosed. I think one of the reasons that it took so long for me to get help is that I was really good at finding "work arounds" in situations. Usually I could hold it together at work (not always) but 4 o'clock came around and the beast came back. It can be exhausting trying to keep yourself in check all day so you will "pass". I had to pretend to be sane when my insides were screaming. I get tired just thinking about it.
I know to avoid triggers. I usually stay away from situations that involve emotion. Most of the time I don't watch tv (except comedies) or watch movies or even listen to music because they are emotional triggers. People think it is weird that I don't listen to music but it is something I have to do for me. I'll even leave stores if certain music is playing.
I can be an impulsive shopper, as some people here have mentioned. My downfall was scrapbook supplies (surprise, surprise). I am a classic hoarder of craft materials. I didn't buy supplies for over a year because I was dating someone. He moved away recently and here come the boxes of supplies again. I recognize it and I need to cut that shit out but it is hard. I don't feel depressed but I know I am because that is when the scrapbook supplies start piling up.
I do recognize these behaviors and try to take steps to avoid those situations. It is a constant fight, however, even with medication.
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Post by foolana on Aug 26, 2015 19:45:36 GMT
Thank you to every one who shared their stories about being or having bipolar people in their lives. I'm sure that my responses here didn't help anything at all and for that I'm sorry. I appreciate each one of you who shared your personal medical struggles here. I know for sure that it helped a lot of us to understand more about bipolar disorder.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 19:51:01 GMT
Thank you to every one who shared their stories about being or having bipolar people in their lives. I'm sure that my responses here didn't help anything at all and for that I'm sorry. I appreciate each one of you who shared your personal medical struggles here. I know for sure that it helped a lot of us to understand more about bipolar disorder. I think it's great that people are trying to understand it better, even if it doesn't affect them or someone close to them
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Post by foolana on Aug 26, 2015 20:00:20 GMT
Thank you to every one who shared their stories about being or having bipolar people in their lives. I'm sure that my responses here didn't help anything at all and for that I'm sorry. I appreciate each one of you who shared your personal medical struggles here. I know for sure that it helped a lot of us to understand more about bipolar disorder. I think it's great that people are trying to understand it better, even if it doesn't affect them or someone close to them Thank you for your bravery.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 26, 2015 20:03:35 GMT
Thank you to every one who shared their stories about being or having bipolar people in their lives. I'm sure that my responses here didn't help anything at all and for that I'm sorry. I appreciate each one of you who shared your personal medical struggles here. I know for sure that it helped a lot of us to understand more about bipolar disorder. It was nice of you to say that. I am very open about it. I don't mind questions at all. I think the more we talk about it, the less stigma there is as people can see that it really does touch many of us and I think it's encouraging to people who have bipolar people in their life who are really struggling to see that many of us can be treated and be successful people. I was really reluctant to take meds. I did counseling for a long time because I did recognize I had a problem. But seriously, good medication and CBT makes all the difference in the world.
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Post by foolana on Aug 26, 2015 20:06:51 GMT
Thank you to every one who shared their stories about being or having bipolar people in their lives. I'm sure that my responses here didn't help anything at all and for that I'm sorry. I appreciate each one of you who shared your personal medical struggles here. I know for sure that it helped a lot of us to understand more about bipolar disorder. It was nice of you to say that. I am very open about it. I don't mind questions at all. I think the more we talk about it, the less stigma there is as people can see that it really does touch many of us and I think it's encouraging to people who have bipolar people in their life who are really struggling to see that many of us can be treated and be successful people. I was really reluctant to take meds. I did counseling for a long time because I did recognize I had a problem. But seriously, good medication and CBT makes all the difference in the world. I think you're very brave. I've always tried to let my daughter know that her struggles are nothing to be ashamed of. No one would blame a person for having any other medical problem and mental illness is no different.
Thank you again for your help with my daughter's issue.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 20:31:54 GMT
foolana, I didn't realize your daughter had a mental illness. I'm with jeremysgirl and am very open about it, there is nothing to be ashamed of and the more people are exposed to information the more they will be able to understand. And hopefully with that, comes compassion and help for those who need it. Your daughter is lucky you are trying to learn yourself and can support her. Do you attend a support group yourself? It might help, I know counseling helped my DH. Please feel free to ask any questions here or by pm. Best of luck to you both.
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Post by penny on Aug 26, 2015 20:55:27 GMT
You guys are amazing and generous to share so much - thank you for taking the time to answer my questions... Especially in this thread - where I've strongly voiced my objections to the original subject matter, it means a lot that you were willing to share...
I want to write more but can't quote/format well on my iPad... I'll write more when I get to my desk...
As I was reading, I realized I didn't ask if there were any triggers - or if it was just its own cycle? I've had the experience a couple times where I've had a panic attack come on with no obvious triggers while at the gym... I mentioned it to my doctor and we eventually figured out that having the same physical symptoms that I get when anxious, can trigger my mind to go into that mode... Working out and getting out of breath, my heart racing, my muscles twitching, can then trigger my brain - it then thinks I'm already in the middle of an attack, scrambles to 'catch up', and I have an attack for real... So, if talking a lot is one of your symptoms, can having to talk a lot put your brain into that mode? Or if you had to do a bunch of shopping, does it spark something more?
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 26, 2015 20:58:59 GMT
penny, lack of sleep can trigger it for me. Sleep is so very important to me. Also, not smoking for me. I am always trying to quit smoking and it is difficult for me. I am a hot mess when I quit smoking. But I never give up the fight.
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Post by foolana on Aug 26, 2015 21:27:30 GMT
foolana, I didn't realize your daughter had a mental illness. I'm with jeremysgirl and am very open about it, there is nothing to be ashamed of and the more people are exposed to information the more they will be able to understand. And hopefully with that, comes compassion and help for those who need it. Your daughter is lucky you are trying to learn yourself and can support her. Do you attend a support group yourself? It might help, I know counseling helped my DH. Please feel free to ask any questions here or by pm. Best of luck to you both. We're trying to find one right now. Today is a very bad day here and I'm trying very hard to maintain my composure. Thank you so much for your support and your offer. Please feel free to do the same with me.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 21:41:14 GMT
penny I think lack of sleep is a pretty common trigger, I know it is huge for me. For shopping? For sure doing any shopping makes it much harder to control my impulsive purchasing. Stress, I'm not sure if I would classify it as a trigger or just something that makes each cycle much worse. Probably both. I'm fortunate in that I don't have to work. It allows me to take better care of myself, avoid a lot of stress, and enjoy my time with my husband and friends/family. Whereas when I was working high stress jobs and around a lot of verbal, audio and visual input all day when I came home I was just ready to shut down. I had nothing left. I can go weeks without listening to music or watching TV. Like artbabe, I try and avoid a lot of news. I work very hard to control my emotions, good or bad, so I try not to add to my load. If I'm at a certain place in a manic or mixed state cycle I am much more likely to get unreasonably agitated so I do my best to avoid things that could trigger a difficult episode. Sometimes that is my family save my husband Othertimes, like with work, it is a lot of sensory input. There are times my husband puts on his wireless headphones to watch TV and I lay next to him and read. It is also a good time to avoid anything that might frustrate me too much, like cleaning the garage, responding to a thread, or anything related to making technology work. Deep breaths and walk away. Likewise, when I am depressed, I try to avoid sensitive items/discussions/shows/threads. And OHHH boy anything health related because I have hypochondriac like tendencies and anxiety. Never a good combination, especially when already emotionally fragile. eta: I am speaking of 2 different kind of triggers here. Lack of sleep, life events, and not taking medication properly can trigger a cycle for me. The other triggers I was referring to can trigger what I can best describe as an episode within a cycle. I cycle rapidly, in my case that can sometimes be over a dozen cycles a year. And I typically follow a pattern: as centered as I get/fairly neutral (which has been slightly up my whole life), [sometimes trigger] hypomanic, manic (rarely these days), mixed state (very rare and not nearly as bad as they used to be), depression, deep depression (very rare). If it is a bad life event I typically pass go and head straight for depression no matter where I am in the cycle.
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Post by dewryce on Aug 26, 2015 21:42:38 GMT
foolana, I'm sorry you are having a rotten day! I hope it looks up soon and you can enjoy dinner with your family.
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Post by AmeliaBloomer on Aug 26, 2015 21:47:43 GMT
When I read this thread last night, I was really dismayed because I thought it exemplified the worst aspects of this forum.
Today, after my second visit, it exemplifies the best. I've learned a lot and I'm grateful for the candid and comprehensive explanations from victims of mental illness.
Sometimes it's startling how a thread can "turn" - less often in a good direction, but it happens.
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Post by georgiapea on Aug 27, 2015 0:20:22 GMT
And Our dear Elannah is over on the Scrapping board happily chatting along. I was very worried for her after seeing so many harsh comments.
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Aug 27, 2015 0:33:37 GMT
And Our dear Elannah is over on the Scrapping board happily chatting along. I was very worried for her after seeing so many harsh comments. Ellanah, or her new hoarder personality "Jessica"?
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Post by christine58 on Aug 27, 2015 0:39:46 GMT
And Our dear Elannah is over on the Scrapping board happily chatting along. I was very worried for her after seeing so many harsh comments. Ellanah, or her new hoarder personality "Jessica"? OH MY GOD....I had to go look... I think she's playing us all just like she did on the old board.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 27, 2015 0:41:20 GMT
foolana, I didn't realize your daughter had a mental illness. I'm with jeremysgirl and am very open about it, there is nothing to be ashamed of and the more people are exposed to information the more they will be able to understand. And hopefully with that, comes compassion and help for those who need it. Your daughter is lucky you are trying to learn yourself and can support her. Do you attend a support group yourself? It might help, I know counseling helped my DH. Please feel free to ask any questions here or by pm. Best of luck to you both. We're trying to find one right now. Today is a very bad day here and I'm trying very hard to maintain my composure. Thank you so much for your support and your offer. Please feel free to do the same with me. Hugs to you.
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Aug 27, 2015 0:50:47 GMT
I think the next time one of my threads goes south (happens about once a month), I'm going to claim a mental illness on page 2, change the title and then disappear to the Scrapbooking board and let the Peas argue for 6 more pages about how thick the kid gloves need to be when responding to me.
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