jenkate77
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Post by jenkate77 on Sept 21, 2015 15:26:14 GMT
I'm asking for a friend.  No, seriously. I have a very dear friend that I only see every few months. I was in her city this weekend, and we stayed up most of the night talking. After we were extra tired and had lost all of our filters, she said something about her husband only being content with marathon sex sessions. Anywhere from 3-4 hours. (My friend and her husband are both gorgeous - and he is a bit of a fitness nut, in excellent shape. He's the only Dad I know with perfect abs. I mention their looks only to state there is no reason for a lack of sexual attraction.) Anyways. My friend is a Mom. If they go to bed at 11:00 or so, and do their thing for 3-4 hours, that leaves her with just a few hours to sleep before she needs to get kids ready and off to school. Saturday night we talked until after 2am, she went home to her husband and they did their thing. By the time they were finished she didn't have time for any sleep - she showered and then got her kids ready for church. Her husband has a more flexible schedule, so he can get rest and then head in to work. (Or skip church, like he did yesterday!) If she tries to approach the subject with him, he gets offended and asks if she isn't attracted to him. While four hours of time with my husband might sound a bit like a dream, I don't see it being viable except on vacation or on extra-special occasions. What say the Peas? |
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Post by myshelly on Sept 21, 2015 15:29:55 GMT
I say your friend needs to stop bragging  |
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Post by Zee on Sept 21, 2015 15:30:19 GMT
Ouch. I haven't done anything like that since I was a teenager, don't care for marathon sessions that end up leaving me feeling raw. After a point it's mainly just friction. I find it really odd that that's ALL he's interested in. Show of masculinity? No nerve endings? He sounds a little off.
I sure as hell wouldn't be staying up all night so my husband could rub me raw for four hours on a regular basis. That's weird.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 15:33:52 GMT
I enjoy sex as much as the next person, but if I had sex 3-4 hours/day multiple days a week, I would start to seriously resent it and my husband. We have responsibilities and schedules and need sleep. If I don't get enough sleep on an ongoing basis, I start really hating life. I just asked my husband if he would want to have sex for that long that frequently and he looked at me like I was crazy - "Hell no. I love you, but who's got time or desire for that?"
ETA: I think anything is OK sexually *if* it's working for both partners. This is clearly not working for her, so that's a problem, regardless of what anyone else would or wouldn't do.
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Post by loco coco on Sept 21, 2015 15:35:26 GMT
Marathons are ok occasionally, so are quickies, but if my DH was only content if we went at it for 3-4 hours each time I would not be happy. Sounds like he might have an issue.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 15:37:10 GMT
Is four hours too much? Not if you're both enjoying it and getting mutual satisfaction, the fact that she is trying to broach the subject with her husband would indicate that she's only going along with it to stop him being offended. I can't see that working out too well in the long run!
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Post by blue tulip on Sept 21, 2015 15:40:00 GMT
ocassionally, yes those are fun. all the time tho? and then having to walk around with a "bangover" the next day? no thank you.
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Post by Zee on Sept 21, 2015 15:41:59 GMT
Lol @ "bangover"  |
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Post by scrappert on Sept 21, 2015 15:43:07 GMT
I agree with the other posters. It seems like there may be some issue with him. I know that we can have long sessions, on occasion, I can't imagine every time - and it's never been up to 4 hours. Friction is a good word! I don't know that a women's body can take that. LOL.
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Post by loco coco on Sept 21, 2015 15:48:24 GMT
ocassionally, yes those are fun. all the time tho? and then having to walk around with a "bangover" the next day? no thank you. lmao!!  |
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Sept 21, 2015 15:49:32 GMT
4 hours of almost anything is too much! Especially that!!
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Post by leannec on Sept 21, 2015 15:51:20 GMT
Yikes! I'd like to know what he expects to do for four freaking hours ... OK, maybe I don't want to know  I agree with the previous posters that he has some issues and this obviously is going to lead to problems because they are not on the same page ... I'm not sure what the solution is ... therapy probably but it sounds like he isn't the type to be open to that ... Oh, and I'm totally going to use the term "bangover" in a sentence soon  |
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Post by ~Susan~ on Sept 21, 2015 15:53:58 GMT
I had no idea that it lasted that long for anyone. I figure if you can't get it done in a hour you are doing something wrong, lol.
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Post by lumo on Sept 21, 2015 15:55:17 GMT
Is he like Sting and into all that Tantric stuff that lets you go for like, days? LOL
For me, that's way too long to maintain on a regular, all-the-time, basis.
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Post by Gennifer on Sept 21, 2015 15:57:12 GMT
I feel woefully inadequate.  |
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Post by Kerri W on Sept 21, 2015 15:58:33 GMT
I need more sleep than that so it wouldn't work for me.
No personal knowledge but a friend who is a teacher had an issue with some students putting Viagra in another students water bottle. In conversation over that, she mentioned that the erection could last 4 hours because of the Viagra. Again, not sure how accurate it is because this was part of a conversation about a totally different subject and I have no personal knowledge...BUT...could it be because he has to take some kind of enhancement type thing?
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Post by moveablefeast on Sept 21, 2015 15:59:40 GMT
Ouch
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 16:00:33 GMT
I need more sleep than that so it wouldn't work for me. No personal knowledge but a friend who is a teacher had an issue with some students putting Viagra in another students water bottle. In conversation over that, she mentioned that the erection could last 4 hours because of the Viagra. Again, not sure how accurate it is because this was part of a conversation about a totally different subject and I have no personal knowledge...BUT...could it be because he has to take some kind of enhancement type thing? Four hours is the 'seek medical attention' cut off point, per the commercials, so I don't think Viagra causes erections to last that long on a normal basis. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 21, 2015 16:03:08 GMT
This stood out to me.
It seems like a control tactic to me.
From what you described in the OP, it sounds like she feels that she cannot say no to marathon sex without a negative repercussion.
I may see this situation through tainted eyes because I was in an abusive relationship where sex was mandatory. And although it wasn't 4 hours at a time, it was easily 5-8 sex sessions a day, around the clock, interrupting sleep, not caring if I was sick or had just had surgery.
And to truly answer the question in the OP, four hours is only too much if either partner feels it is. It sounds like she does.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 16:03:55 GMT
So is he literally 'keeping it up' for four hours or is it more like foreplay, bonk, cuddle, nap, lather, rinse repeat?
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Post by hosschick on Sept 21, 2015 16:06:50 GMT
I'm glad I opened this thread so I could add 'bangover' to my vocabulary! If they were both into it, that'd be one thing, but since she's expressed otherwise, it's definitely a problem for her. If it were me and on a regular basis? I could never. There are days when 4 minutes seems too long! |
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Post by happymomma on Sept 21, 2015 16:13:06 GMT
I'd risk hurting his ego and tell him that while I'm attracted to him, no amount of gorgeousness is worth enduring that. I cannot imagine regularly being "in the mood" or aroused for that long myself, nor would I enjoy the after effects. Unless he has a teeny tiny penis, she has got to be raw and sore the next day not to mention exhausted from lack of sleep. He's got two hands he needs to use more often.
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Post by jenkate77 on Sept 21, 2015 16:22:53 GMT
So is he literally 'keeping it up' for four hours or is it more like foreplay, bonk, cuddle, nap, lather, rinse repeat? No, he will take breaks and focus attention on her. Which again - sounds like a dream. But, things get numb, ykwim? There can be too much of a good thing! |
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Post by jenkate77 on Sept 21, 2015 16:25:57 GMT
This stood out to me. It seems like a control tactic to me. From what you described in the OP, it sounds like she feels that she cannot say no to marathon sex without a negative repercussion. I may see this situation through tainted eyes because I was in an abusive relationship where sex was mandatory. And although it wasn't 4 hours at a time, it was easily 5-8 sex sessions a day, around the clock, interrupting sleep, not caring if I was sick or had just had surgery. And to truly answer the question in the OP, four hours is only too much if either partner feels it is. It sounds like she does. He's a really amazing guy - it's not an abusive relationship, but I can see how this part of it might seem that way. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 16:28:06 GMT
So is he literally 'keeping it up' for four hours or is it more like foreplay, bonk, cuddle, nap, lather, rinse repeat? No, he will take breaks and focus attention on her. Which again - sounds like a dream. But, things get numb, ykwim? There can be too much of a good thing! I think they need to have a serious talk, it doesn't sound like she's getting much, if any, enjoyment out of these sessions. He actually sounds a bit sexually clueless. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Sept 21, 2015 16:32:19 GMT
This stood out to me. It seems like a control tactic to me. From what you described in the OP, it sounds like she feels that she cannot say no to marathon sex without a negative repercussion. I may see this situation through tainted eyes because I was in an abusive relationship where sex was mandatory. And although it wasn't 4 hours at a time, it was easily 5-8 sex sessions a day, around the clock, interrupting sleep, not caring if I was sick or had just had surgery. And to truly answer the question in the OP, four hours is only too much if either partner feels it is. It sounds like she does. - it's not an abusive relationship, but I can see how this part of it might seem that way. I want to say this gently..... He may very well be a really amazing guy. Everyone that knew my ex thought he was a really generous, great, terrific, easy going guy too. He fooled everyone. Even me. Until the abuse started. Until it went from little control tactics (telling me he'd really rather me stay home with him than visit with a female friend, and whining until he'd guilted me into staying), and then it escalated into always having a punishment waiting for me if I didn't say an automatic and enthusiastic yes to whatever he asked from me. So, truly, I hope your friend's husband is a really amazing guy. But there is something wrong if they are often having marathon sex that keeps her from sleeping, and he won't discuss why it is a problem for her. There is something wrong. |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 21, 2015 16:34:43 GMT
Is it "required" by him every single night?
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Post by padresfan619 on Sept 21, 2015 16:34:47 GMT
Ouch.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Sept 21, 2015 16:38:28 GMT
He needs to lay off the little blue pills.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Sept 21, 2015 16:40:00 GMT
What could they possibly be doing for four hours???
Wait.
Don't answer that!
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No, seriously. 
