mallie
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Jul 3, 2014 18:13:13 GMT
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Post by mallie on Oct 9, 2015 14:57:05 GMT
One of my younger coworkers was telling me a few weeks ago about her new male roommate having friends over and the guys were all exchanging tips on "negging". Which was a nickname for using negative comments to get a woman to sleep with you. Sadly, she knows from the number of women who she meets in the morning, that all too many women are manipulated by this behavior into sleeping with guys who are far beneath them.
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May 6, 2024 9:27:58 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2015 15:04:06 GMT
What I don't get about those guys: They are men who want sex, without commitment. There are women who just want sex, without commitment. Why not just finds some of those women? Then no games necessary, no feelings involved. Both sides get what they want without resorting to stupid mind games. If you find someone who just wants to have sex with you, you won't have to trick her into bed. So I have a feeling that these guys would have trouble getting even women who just want sex, hence the games and tactics, Because they don't want just any woman willing to have sex. They want (I'm guessing, I haven't delved into the link that much) someone under 25 and smoking hot.
I would love to see pictures of these guys. I'm sure they aren't all that, if they were they wouldn't have to play games.
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May 6, 2024 9:27:58 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Oct 9, 2015 17:00:38 GMT
I had a different perception of what I thought was at that link. What I read was a bunch of guys doing what testosterone leads them to do ... turn everything into a game, a strategy. That's human nature in part for everyone.
My role is to not be manipulated. End of story.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 9, 2015 17:13:22 GMT
I can understand not being shocked (see above post), but i don't see how you can think it's NBD that an entire group of men think a woman's sole purpose is to be a mans sexual conquest. Some guys aren't into relationships. They just want sex. Why should that get a rise out of me? Did you read much of the website. I don't care if a guy just wants sex but be honest about it. Don't play games to get a woman to have sex with you. Don't consider women as "plates". You are really okay with men believing the women are inherently dishonest, and therefore deserve no respect? That they are only purpose is to fulfill a man's sexual desire?
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Oct 9, 2015 17:16:29 GMT
As mothers sounds like we have to add to our conversations with our sons. The attitude is to reject what they were taught about women. Why? Because they want to have sex and can't find anyone? These guys are some women's sons so somewhere along the road they lost respect or maybe never developed respect for women. So their dads need to be on board with their moms regarding this attitude formation. We have a long way to go. given the number of broken families and female-headed families in America today...perhaps some of the problem is that their dad's were either absent or modelling behaviour which didn't show respect for the women in the family? [and I would venture to guess that many of the women who see men as meal tickets and baby daddies not people were probably ALSO raised in families without strong male figures] But yes - we need to talk to our sons (and our daughters) about respecting themselves AND others. We also need to model that behaviour both in how we interact with our spouses (or our ex-spouses and/or SOs) and others AND in how we respond to interactions with those who don't treat us with respect. I am not so sure that the natural assumption is that there were not strong male or female role models in the lives of these men. I do think regardless of who or how they were raised they did not learn to respect themselves or others.
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Grom Pea
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Jun 27, 2014 0:21:07 GMT
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Post by Grom Pea on Oct 9, 2015 20:51:32 GMT
Does anyone else remember that VH1 show with the guy that called himself Mystery, who taught nerds how to play women with ridiculous outfits and pathetic reverse psychology? I used to laugh so hard at that. I forgot the name of the show and I'm too unmoved by all this to Google it. I totally watched that show and was thinking of that when i read the op. In fact I'm positive i saw one of the contestants at the wave house in pb after the show He looked so familiar and then i caught him giving me the trademark staredown of a player. Lolz i guess at least he gained some confidence from being on the show. I got the feeling that none of those guys wanted to learn how to objectify women, they were just shy nerds that needed a dose of confidence.
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Post by tracyarts on Oct 9, 2015 22:40:19 GMT
At first I thought it must be my age (early 40's) and views compared to the younger skewed boys (I refuse the word men, real men would never treat woman in that manner.) there. Unfortunately after some thought I realized all generations have these types of assholes, it's just more easily viewed and seen in this world of social media. And easier for them to band together and discuss their thoughts and opinions on women. I was involved with a guy whose dad had the total red pill attitude, back in the early 1990's. So those types have been around forever, they just found an online gathering place now.
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