conchita
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Jul 1, 2014 11:25:58 GMT
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Post by conchita on Jul 22, 2014 14:53:08 GMT
I wish I could tolerate the sun and heat. I'd enjoy summer and sunny days more.
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Post by nesser01 on Jul 22, 2014 14:57:42 GMT
Wow...one thing? I think of all sorts of things I wished were different. *eyesight-I am blind as a bat without my glasses. *weight-I smell food and gain weight *confidence-I have none *finished college-this goes back to the confidence thing Those are the ones off the top of my head. Yup. I look at a photo of food and BOOM! Weight gain. It doesn't help that I love to eat.... I hear you with the confidence thing too, i've struggled with that my entire life. Its better but its a work in progress.
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Post by marmargirl on Jul 22, 2014 15:00:52 GMT
Other than losing 20 lbs.? I would like to not be such a worrier and enjoy life a little more.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 22, 2014 15:01:45 GMT
I know that I already have two or three, but this one isn't about appearance, so I decided I would get a personality trait as well.
I wish I had the gene for decorating. My walls are basic, like one thing on the wall in my room and one in the living room; stuff is not coordinated, my house doesn't look polished like other's houses. My one friend looks like she may have a Pier One or something in her basement with all the decorations and the way she changes them, but it always looks GOOD.
I also wish I was more of a girly girl. I only wear makeup when dressing up to go out or to go to work. As with the house decorating, I don't know what is stylish or how to pull it off. I wear heels for an evening if required, but otherwise I am in my athletic shoes all day every day unless it is summer and then throw one pair of sandals into the mix.
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oblibby
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Jul 10, 2014 10:30:12 GMT
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Post by oblibby on Jul 22, 2014 15:02:10 GMT
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 22, 2014 15:04:25 GMT
I have to say, after reading this thread, I found myself agreeing with so many people. I didn't realize there was so much I would change if I could. None of it is killing my life, but each little thing would make it better...
Hair, teeth, skin, eyesight, personality traits...
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tinseltoes
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Jun 29, 2014 19:58:13 GMT
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Post by tinseltoes on Jul 22, 2014 15:10:23 GMT
Can I have two, please? My teeth: when I was a teen, the orthodontist said I didn't need braces. He was wrong. We even had great insurance at the time. Then, with each of my kids, the small gap between my front teeth and the next one on my right side widened. I hate pictures and I hate to smile because of it. My eyebrows. I have eyebrows, but they are so light you can't see them. there is no definition to my face because of it. You can sort your eyebrows out really easily. You can either go to a Salon and get them to do it. Or Eyelure do a kit you can buy to dye your eyebrows. I have to do mine as they are stating to go grey! xxxx
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Post by meowgal on Jul 22, 2014 15:16:38 GMT
Life...Regret: my entire childhood, I wanted to be a veterinarian. By age 15, I even had my marketing plan for my practice! Then I went to college and rather than study and go forward with the plan, I decided not to transfer to the university with the vet degree and stay put...AND changed my major to the easiest thing I could think of (for me, that was Journalism). WHAT was I thinking? I've spent the last 32 years in jobs I've only tolerated, never loved. Looking happily at retirement now, but wish I had done that one thing differently.
Physically: Oh yeah, my weight. I'd be slim and fit...then I could even justify a face lift! LOL
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Post by dulcemama on Jul 22, 2014 15:17:29 GMT
Chronic procrastination! I can spend hours reading message boards instead of doing the things I should be doing....ergo it y'all's fault i am like this Yeah, that too.
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Post by holly on Jul 22, 2014 16:01:39 GMT
Definitely wish I was a few inches taller (I'm 5'3"). I wish my weight wasn't a constant struggle.
I procrastinate wayyyy too much.
I guess the biggest thing is that I wish I had something I was passionate about whether as a hobby or career. There are lots of things that I like to do and enjoy them but nothing I am passionate about and would put all my time and effort into. I sometimes think about someone like a Marine Biologist who goes to Antartica for years at a time to research some obscure creature most people never heard of. In some ways it seems odd to me to devote your life to that but at the same time it must feel good to have that kind of passion about SOMETHING. Idk. Maybe one day I'll find it.
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Post by Yoki on Jul 22, 2014 16:17:52 GMT
I wish that I didn't jump so quickly to the worst case scenario. It's exhausting to keep getting so wound up about stuff that isn't even a real problem.
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pamp
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Jul 1, 2014 20:14:17 GMT
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Post by pamp on Jul 22, 2014 17:50:58 GMT
I don't know... I am older... it's about time that I accept me for who I am... within reason.I don't mean to imply,letting myself go... I just mean,it all begins with me liking myself.
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cohala
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Jun 27, 2014 18:36:43 GMT
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Post by cohala on Jul 22, 2014 17:52:24 GMT
my teeth...I have a small gap and hate it.
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Post by missysauter on Jul 22, 2014 17:53:13 GMT
I wish that I didn't jump so quickly to the worst case scenario. It's exhausting to keep getting so wound up about stuff that isn't even a real problem. Yoki - I am the "what if" queen of the world. My family knows that I am completely serious that if they are going to be more than 10 minutes late, I better know about it. My assumption is that if you're more than 10 minutes late, you've been in a wreck or are dead. It's so exhausting living like this.
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Post by gar on Jul 22, 2014 18:11:05 GMT
I struggle to just list one - I see others listing 2 categories so I will do that - Physically/body - to have not put on the weight I did after I had my second baby ("baby" is now 10). I have 75 pounds I could lose and I just feel like jumping off a cliff most of the time when I look in the mirror. Other/Personality - To be able to talk to my kids and husband - DH always tells me to stop going on about something, and DD will have a problem and say she doesn't want to talk about it and of course I can't stop myself from wanting to press her, what's wrong, what happened, etc. It kills me that they shiut me down or shut me out and I wish I was more a part of their lives where they would want to come to me and talk to me or welcomed me. I am feeling very down on myself lately because of these two things and wish I could snap my fingers and change them both right now. oh you sound so sad! That's horrible and its probably a vicious cycle isn't it Nothing will happen overnight but if you can take a tiny step by going for a walk or something healthy like that it might start an upward spiral of starting to feel a little better. I hope you can figure out a way forward.
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Post by Merge on Jul 22, 2014 18:15:50 GMT
I wish I had been attracted to/interested in a more lucrative career path. I admire people who have the aptitude and drive to go to medical school, become an engineer, get an MBA etc. My strengths and interests are just not in the math/science related fields. Not that money is everything; it isn't. But it might have been nice to have the option. Sometimes I feel very stuck because while I'm very good at my job, I also know from experience and just in knowing myself that I am not really good at any other job. ETA: I'm not going to say my weight/physical fitness level - even though those need some serious work - because I know that is something that is completely within my power, and the fact that I am heavier than I want to be is because of the choices I make and not because of any limitation I have. I guess I could say I wish I was one of those people who always has to be on the move and constantly forgets to eat. They seem to be naturally thin.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2014 18:17:06 GMT
I want two things: to have never had my tubes tied. Then I wouldn't be trying to save up a bunch of money to do treatments because the dr won't do a reversal. And I wish I hadn't dropped out of college for my ex. Hell, I wish I hadn't done a lot of things for my ex. And then when I do something for myself, he calls me selfish. That is a vent for another day.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 22, 2014 18:24:46 GMT
I would like to have thicker hair and more of it. yup. yup. yup.
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Post by flanz on Jul 22, 2014 18:29:57 GMT
I would love to have the determination and follow through to exercise very regularly! I'm just slowly easing into a walking routine after almost 2 years of illness, but this has always been a struggle for me. At the time I got sick I was working out with a trainer in her home gym doing small group circuit training 4-5 times a week. That was the only exercise program I had ever actually enjoyed. She just closed up shop though...
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Post by trixiecat on Jul 22, 2014 18:33:29 GMT
I don't know where to prioritize on this one! I think if it could be just one thing I would be more accepting of what I have in my life and not always wish that certain things could be different. Just accept the way things are and celebrate those things.
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shawallapea
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Jun 28, 2014 21:28:33 GMT
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Post by shawallapea on Jul 22, 2014 18:42:28 GMT
Personality wise I wouldn't be so sensitive. Physically my hair. It's very thin and at this point I plan my life around how it will effect my hair and it sucks!
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Post by birukitty on Jul 22, 2014 19:30:49 GMT
To never have agreed to undergo electric shock therapy 3 years ago. I was very, very ill with what they called "treatment resistant depression". I was never suicidal or crying. It just made me withdraw inside myself. I struggled with it for over 6-8 years trying medication after medication. They told me it was a last resort. They told me there was a very tiny chance I would lose a very tiny bit of my memory for good. They were wrong. I lost almost 50% of my long term memories. I had 20 ECT treatments. Those memories are gone for good.
I realize now it wasn't crucially necessary. I wasn't in danger of harming myself or anyone else. Part of me thinks I was encouraged to do it for the money. I don't know. And besides how can someone in that kind of condition make a rational decision anyway. My husband and son warned me not to do it, but I was so desperate I wanted to try it to see if it would help. It did help-for about 4 days. Then they had to do it again, and again.
If I could change something about myself I'd take those years back and be healthy again. But then again, people suffer through illnesses much worse than what I did. Who am I to complain? It wasn't fatal. I'm healthy now, and thank God my husband loved me enough to take care of me all of those years and stick around. Life is full of obstacles and they make us stronger as we go through them. But I sure would like to have all of my memories back. That would be nice!
Debbie in MD.
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back to *pea*ality
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Jun 25, 2014 19:51:11 GMT
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Post by back to *pea*ality on Jul 22, 2014 19:55:21 GMT
The only thing I wish I could change is my weight. I have Hasimoto's and finally the weight gain has stopped. It took me 7 months to lose 20 pounds and I am a third of the way to my goal. It is important to me for good health and a sense of well being.
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smartypants71
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Jun 25, 2014 22:47:49 GMT
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Post by smartypants71 on Jul 22, 2014 20:24:44 GMT
I wish I had a functioning pancreas.
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Post by donna on Jul 22, 2014 20:26:46 GMT
Physically- I would like to be thin again. I gained some weight when I had kids and never lost it. I continued to gain a bunch more weight over the years.
Mentally- I would like to be a person that loves to work out. My son loves it and wakes up excited to go to the gym. I feel good after I work out, but I can't stand getting all hot and the little sweaty that I get. I don't sweat so I overheat very easily.
Personality- I struggle with self-confidence issues.
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Post by kelbel827 on Jul 22, 2014 21:49:42 GMT
I have so many. I guess if I could change one something, it would be my weight. Like snap my fingers and lose 50 lbs, then I could focus on other stuff and do a whole chain reaction thing.
Now if I could go back and change things......that would be a really long post.
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Gravity
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Jun 27, 2014 0:29:55 GMT
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Post by Gravity on Jul 22, 2014 22:04:34 GMT
I wish I had nice normal medium width feet so I could walk into any shoe store and buy a pair of shoes. I hate having super narrow feet.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 22, 2014 22:48:39 GMT
I wish I didn't wear my emotions on my sleeve. I do not have a poker face. When I am upset the entire world knows just by looking at me. I wish I could "conceal! Don't feel! Don't let it show!"
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raindancer
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Jun 26, 2014 20:10:29 GMT
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Post by raindancer on Jul 22, 2014 22:51:51 GMT
Physically? Today especially. I wish I didn't have to deal with my weight issues. I've been fighting all my life and I'm tired. The last two weeks I've been very careful about what I eat, and I've been swimming laps every day. I've been avoiding the scale because I knew it would upset me, but I was feeling pretty good and I got on it. Not only did I not lose any weight, I gained 5 lbs. This happens to me too. I thought I was the only one. In fact one time in recent history dh and I had a % contest. I wrote down everything in myfitness pal and used my fitbit and was only drinking water. He sort of cut back on food and went for walks with me. He lost 11 lbs in two weeks, I gained 4. (And I was not on my period, everyone kept telling me that I would lose it soon!) so frustrating!
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Post by eebud on Jul 22, 2014 23:04:42 GMT
One thing that I would love to change is I wish my Bell's Palsy would go away. I have had it since 1989 so the chances of it going away are slim. I am tired of having half of my face partially paralyzed. And I think what bothers me even more is when someone tells me they don't see it and don't understand what I am talking about. These are people that have gotten used to me this way or in many cases, they never knew me any other way. I hate it when someone takes my picture and my face is all distorted because I am laughing really hard. It is not as bad in posed photos because I have learned how to smile so that it shows the least.
I would love to be able to drop 10-15 pounds and keep them off easily. That is, it would be my normal weight that I could easily maintain the way I seem to maintain about where I am right now. It is definitely harder to drop a few pounds as I age.
Career wise, I work with computers. I like what I do just fine and it has provided me with a nice, comfortable living. What I think I would have really loved though is forensic science. I LOVE watching the true murder shows where I get to see how forensics are used to track down murders. If I had it to do over again, I think this is what I would go to school to learn. Instead, I will stick to the shows on TV because I have no desire to go back to school and run up debt at this point in my life. I would rather stay where I am and retire in the near future.
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