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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 29, 2015 14:49:51 GMT
Huh. I didn't think that it would be this universal of an answer. For the record, and I can't believe I didn't mention it before, the cost of paying for any kind of tattoo is on him. The only thing I would be providing, if I agreed, would be the permission. He did the research, in Florida you can get the tattoo with a notarized permission form and the parent/guardian has to be present.
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Post by leannec on Nov 29, 2015 14:52:54 GMT
There is no way in hell that dh would agree to either of our dd's getting a tattoo before age 18 ... he would have a conniption if I signed a consent before that age Even at age 18 he would give them a hard time because he would believe that they were making a mistake ... I would back him up ...
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Nicole in TX
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Post by Nicole in TX on Nov 29, 2015 14:54:14 GMT
No. He can wait.
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Post by stampstace on Nov 29, 2015 14:55:26 GMT
My younger son got his first when he was sixteen, and his second. He wants a third but is now nineteen and has not gotten it yet. WE did put restrictions on it that he had to meet certain grade and certain behavior standards in order to get them. He had to pay for them himself and we got to approve size, location and content. He has two beautiful ones that he drew and designed himself. He is very talented as an artist. I think I am going to have him draw my tattoo that I will get this next summer. He loves his tattoos
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Post by padresfan619 on Nov 29, 2015 15:01:52 GMT
I remember all of the tattoos I wanted when I was a teenager. I am so glad I never got them. Song lyrics that were SO meaningful would look really stupid on me now.
I would have him pick a design he wants and have him put it in a prominent spot he looks at every day. If he still likes the design in 6 months when he's 18 then he can go ahead and get it.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Nov 29, 2015 15:12:37 GMT
I didn't read all the responses. If he is 17.. and wants a tattoo that he can legally get at 18 I would sign the form.
I would encourage discretion because what you love at 17 is often very different from what you will love at 30!!
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Post by peabay on Nov 29, 2015 15:13:49 GMT
Absolutely not.
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Post by giatocj on Nov 29, 2015 15:13:53 GMT
My tattooist won't touch anyone under 18 since she incorporated her business many years ago. When she was starting out she would do 16 year olds, IF the parent stayed with the kid through the whole process. Unfortunately, due to circumstances that almost caused me to turn into a homicidal maniac, I had to take her up on that arrangement.
We live in MA, where tattooing was illegal for MANY years, until several (maybe 10?) years ago. In NH, it has always been legal. My DD went to Hampton Beach with a friend and said friend's "mother". The girls were JUST turned 16 and this "mother" signed my name on a parental permission form and allowed MY DD to be tattooed...HORRENDOUSLY tattooed...in a shop that did underage with parental consent.
Yes, I totally hold my DD fully responsible for her shitty, teenage manipulative part in this...TOTALLY responsible. She suffered pretty severe consequences. But seriously, what adult even does that? Jesus...I wouldn't even take my grandson to get his ear pierced, even though his mom said it was fine. Nope, not happening. I went with them to have it done, and paid for it, but I didn't go without her.
Anyway, the tattoo she got was so poorly done, that I made the decision to allow her to see my girl and try to have it corrected or covered up. Thankfully, my girl is amazing and helped us out with a gorgeous cover up. If it had happened today she would not have done it and DD would've had to live with that nightmare for 2 years.
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Post by scrapngranny on Nov 29, 2015 15:58:04 GMT
I hate tattoos, so he would have to wait the six months. It probably wouldn't change the inevitable, but I would take that stand. He is going to have the thing the rest of his life, he can wait 6 months.
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Post by calgal08 on Nov 29, 2015 16:06:40 GMT
A good friend of mine, when her son showed interest in getting a tattoo, had him draw, with a sharpie, the exact location, size and picture of the tattoo he was considering. She had him wear it for a month and then make the decision. Guess what, he decided against it.
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Post by anniebeth24 on Nov 29, 2015 16:13:31 GMT
I'd say no to getting it before 18. That was our rule and DD ended up with one within a few months of her 18th birthday.
Kind of wish I had made it a birthday event since I knew she was really wanting it. I would have helped her research the shop and plan the design. Instead, she rather impulsively went with a friend and they got matching tattoos. Doesn't even speak to that friend anymore.
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Post by scrapbookdiva on Nov 29, 2015 16:27:13 GMT
Well, I signed for my 17 yo ds to get his for his birthday and even paid for it. Lol! But it was planned out and designed for months. It is on his upper arm and it is the flag of Kazakhstan. He was adopted from Kazakhstan so no matter how old he gets, that won't change. It suits him.
Neither dh or I have a a tattoo. He had been bugging us to get this tattoo for years. Dh was adamant that it was no, so ds wasn't allowed to get it until we both agreed. Ds is very proud of where he came from so there's some sentimental meaning and thought put into it. If he had wanted the Lion King like mentioned above it would have been a resounding no! But the subject matter changed dh's mind. And a lot of begging. Ha!
He always said he would get more tattoos when he turned 18. Well he's almost 19 and hasn't had another yet.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 29, 2015 16:34:24 GMT
My oldest boy wanted a tattoo for his 16th birthday. He wanted a design holding the first initial of everyone in our family (f, p, f, r, m) on his inner upper arm. I went with him to the tattoo shop. So yeah, I'd let him
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Post by holly on Nov 29, 2015 16:38:32 GMT
We've told our kids they have to be 18. My DS will be 18 in a few months. I don't know if he'll do his right away or not. He's been talking about it for a few years. He has a congenital heart defect so he wants a tattoo of his anatomically corrected heart, on his chest. DH has 4 tattoos, 2 that he got really young, doesn't regret them but probably wishes they were better quality. I'm not against them just never found anything I've wante on my body forever.
My niece graduated HS this May. She and my SIL got matching tattoos on their forearms (underside) with a quote from a childhood book. Not my first choice for placement of a tattoo.
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Post by cannes on Nov 29, 2015 16:41:59 GMT
If he can't wait for 6 months to get something permanent on his body, then he's too immature to make that kind of decision anyway. This pretty much sums up my feelings. I wouldn't sign a consent for for a minor child to get a tattoo. If they really want if, they'll wait for it.
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Post by anonrefugee on Nov 29, 2015 16:51:26 GMT
We don't have many rules that are age related, and still caved on a few. But I think I'd hold the line if they wanted tattoos. Maybe because it's mostly permanent?
They're losing popularity here for the late teen set. So I might not experience this, and am only speculating "what if".
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Post by cmpeter on Nov 29, 2015 17:06:20 GMT
No, I would not be OK with it. I wouldn't even be OK with it at 18, but I know at that point it's no longer my decision. DD is 15 and has said she wants one at 18. But, when she got her ears pierced (second holes) we went to a tattoo studio. The young woman who did her piercings was awesome. She had quite a few tattoos. Dd was talking to her about them. She said she wouldn't recommend getting one until after you are 25 as she regrets some of hers and is glad she didn't get other's that she was thinking about in her teens. That message really stuck with dd.
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Post by Drew on Nov 29, 2015 17:14:13 GMT
No consent now or future blessing from me, ever.
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Post by paget on Nov 29, 2015 17:16:46 GMT
My girls are 22, 19, and 16 and no one has mentioned tattoos except to mention ones their friends have that they think are ugly. I wouldn't let them before 18 if they wanted them. I don't really care for tattoos myself and have very rarely seen one on anyone else that I think looks good. For myself, I can't imagine wanting something stuck on my body forever. I get tired of jewelry, shoes, clothes, artwork in my home after a few years- I think it would be the same on my body except I'd be stuck with it!
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Post by freecharlie on Nov 29, 2015 17:17:18 GMT
At this age you do have say in what he can get. I'd probably sign after I saw and approved of the design, but would not sign if I didn't like the design. Then he could wait until he was 18.
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Post by elaine on Nov 29, 2015 17:21:38 GMT
No. I would never give my blessing for a tattoo, let alone sign a permission form for my under-age son.
That said, it sounds like you are fine with it and will likely sign the form and have it notarized. I agree with the others that have said if he is mature-enough to select a tattoo he won't regret 20 years from now, he should be able to wait 6 months until he no longer needs his mother's signature to do it.
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Post by lucyg on Nov 29, 2015 17:24:54 GMT
Not a fan of tattoos. Did not allow my DD to get one under age 18, although she did get one tiny one done when she spent a summer doing volunteer work (and smoking pot) in Mexico. She had more done during her college years, fortunately all hidden by clothing, and then stopped. DS never showed any interest and still doesn't have any. One less battle. My feeling is that I'm not going to sign off on them doing something more or less permanent to their bodies that they very well may live to regret, while they're still under age. Plenty of time for that when they are actual adults.
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Post by epeanymous on Nov 29, 2015 17:33:26 GMT
Yeah, no. And I am pretty live and let live on body stuff -- my oldest dyed her hair magenta, my five-year-old son likes to wear nail polish, etc. For things that aren't fairly permanent, go for it. For things that are -- there are few appearance-related decisions I made at 17 that I would like to be living with now.
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Post by miominmio on Nov 29, 2015 17:37:38 GMT
If he can't wait for 6 months to get something permanent on his body, then he's too immature to make that kind of decision anyway. I have several tattoos, some of them big, so I'm not opposed to tattoos, but there is no way I would let my kids get tattoos before they are 18.
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Post by anxiousmom on Nov 29, 2015 17:40:08 GMT
No. I would never give my blessing for a tattoo, let alone sign a permission form for my under-age son. That said, it sounds like you are fine with it and will likely sign the form and have it notarized. I agree with the others that have said if he is mature-enough to select a tattoo he won't regret 20 years from now, he should be able to wait 6 months until he no longer needs his mother's signature to do it. I actually haven't decided yet. There is a part of me that thinks that if I get to have a say, then I would be able to make sure it isn't something that is that he will regret. But there is also a part of me that thinks that this wouldn't be a good parenting decision. Since I can't decide, I thought maybe a discussion here would help me decide which way to go. I hope it doesn't sound like I am arguing with anyone, more like I am trying walk myself through the decision, you know?
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Post by caro on Nov 29, 2015 17:48:02 GMT
After my DS was over 18 and had gotten many tattoos that I was not happy about, I told him the next one he got better be a red heart with a banner that said mom.
Ha ha ha. Never got that one.
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Post by grammanisi on Nov 29, 2015 18:00:06 GMT
I would be okay with it, as long as I approved of the design and where it wanted to put it.
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Post by pierkiss on Nov 29, 2015 18:01:44 GMT
No. I'm not anti tattoos at all, I just don't want my KID to make a lifelong mistake. My kids can wait till they're older and a bit more worldly than they will be at 17.
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Post by bc2ca on Nov 29, 2015 18:24:27 GMT
I know only one person that signed consent for her son to get a tattoo at 17. It's not legal in their state, so he had it done on vacation and it was the same eagle tattoo his retired Navy grandfather had, in the same spot. His beloved grandfather had died about 6 months before and the mom was thrilled her son wanted this tattoo. It had been discussed before the trip and wasn't a spontaneous decision. I wouldn't sign consent for one of my kids and think what the tattoo studio employee told your DD is really interesting cmpeter. My kids have sucked me into watching Ink Master a few times and it just reinforces my feeling that you need to think long and hard about putting anything permanent on your body. Like anything else, tattoos follow trends and styles change and what is cool and "in" today could look horribly dated in 5 years. DD always said she was going to have a musical note tattooed inside her wrist as soon as she turned 18, but still hasn't done it 6 months later. We do know quite a few kids that came home from their first college term with a surprise for mom & dad.
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Post by deputydog on Nov 29, 2015 18:31:02 GMT
I like tattoos and have seven so far. If my son had wanted one at 17 (he's 20 and hates them) I would have said no.
If it's that important to him he can wait until he's 18.
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