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Post by jbelle on Nov 30, 2015 4:24:41 GMT
Nope. If my 18 yo dd gets one, she will be on her own for discretionary spending for the rest. of. her. life. Some of you won't like it, but I want to ask everyone I see on the beach inked up if they have college loans or a fully funded retirement plan. Say what? My floral tatted dd is receiving her masters in electrical engineering in the spring of 2016 and her HIGHLY paying job, fully loaded with benefits is paying for her schooling and darn near anything else that she wants. Her boyfriend, also inked and more HIGHLY paid, will receive his masters in electrical engineering in two weeks and can't decide on which new job offer he should accept. If you don't like tattoos, and I don't, that's fine, but to equate those who have them as financial failures....next time just relax and enjoy the waves on your next beach visit.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Nov 30, 2015 5:20:19 GMT
I guess by some standards you better not carry a Coach bag unless you have paid off your college loans and have your retirement funded. And I think we all know how likely that is.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Nov 30, 2015 12:22:53 GMT
Getting a tattoo, a permanent mark on your body, is a very adult thing to do.
I would have my child wait until they were an adult to do so.
I would also heavily suggest that the tattoo be in a place easily covered with normal clothing. Fair or not, people often do judge a book by its cover. A person with knuckle and neck tattoos may be judged and dismissed before they can utter a word.
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Post by jbelle on Dec 1, 2015 22:41:00 GMT
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Post by cyndijane on Dec 1, 2015 23:47:13 GMT
I'd say, "sure son. I'll be happy to take you to a reputable place on your 18th birthday."
That's a choice he's free to make when he's a legal adult. I'm not going to try and stop him, but I'd wear out asking him what he's going to get and why he wants it. If after several months of talking about it doesn't lessen his interest, then great. At least I know he's thought it through.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Dec 2, 2015 0:02:17 GMT
Nope. If my 18 yo dd gets one, she will be on her own for discretionary spending for the rest. of. her. life. Some of you won't like it, but I want to ask everyone I see on the beach inked up if they have college loans or a fully funded retirement plan. seriously? Wtf does that have to do with anything? I know plenty of people who have tattoos and no college loans and I don't believe anyone's retirement can ever be completely fully funded. yeah, I'm confused-- I have three tattoos, AND I have a college degree, my car is paid off, and I have been working in a professional setting for 20+ years. Oh, and I have a decent retirement fund (well, I did, before the market tanked, anyway.) Equating having tattoos with being a slacker is incredibly narrow-minded, and I fail to see the connection, at all. I didn't get my first tattoo till I was about 40 yrs old, but I really don't see what that has to do with it. For some people tattoos are incredibly meaningful; for others, they see their body as a canvas for art. Neither viewpoint, or tattoos / lack of tattoos has anything to do with how successful you are, or aren't. ETA: and as to the OP (sorry, I got sidetracked!!) if it was me, I would say that DS could wait the 6 months until he could get the tattoo without any parental approval required. Then the decision is all on him.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 2, 2015 1:58:49 GMT
I am on the line. I see too many kids rush to get the trendy owl and regret later. My oldest DD20 said she wanted one. I told her that if she decided what she wanted, waited five years and still wanted I would pay for it. (Same with peircings, but that is a year) also it has to be hidden from a strapless gown, and shorts. She is glad now because she changed major to teaching. Her friend did a 5x7 size owl on ankle area. No color. At first DD thought cool. Now she is not cool. I want one too. I have it picked out. If I still want same thing in five years I will get. are teachers not allowed to have tattoos? I know tons of teachers with tattoos. When I first started teaching in the 80's people just hid them. Now they are really common.
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 2, 2015 2:02:16 GMT
are teachers not allowed to have tattoos? I know tons of teachers with tattoos. When I first started teaching in the 80's people just hid them. Now they are really common. I have one on my ankle.
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Post by 950nancy on Dec 2, 2015 2:06:07 GMT
I know tons of teachers with tattoos. When I first started teaching in the 80's people just hid them. Now they are really common. I have one on my ankle. Rebel!
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 2, 2015 2:10:20 GMT
the first time my preschoolers saw it years ago, one asked if I colored on myself. My high schoolers love it as it is the devils logo and it is totally me.
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Post by blarneygirl on Dec 2, 2015 2:16:33 GMT
That would be a no from me. I would also try to discourage it while he was "living under my roof". Not because of my feelings about tattoos, but we change so much, and a tattoo is a permanent decision. There are so many 18 year old decisions we wish we could undo, and a tattoo would be a difficult one to undo. Nothing bad would happen from waiting.
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