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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 17, 2016 5:27:05 GMT
She told me it was a guy from where she used to live in Oregon that did pottery on the off season - he's a teacher. Evil me says dig all the pieces out but tell her you didn't. Order the new platter and have it sent directly to you and when it arrives put all the broken pieces in the box and give that to her... Bahahaha! Be sure to wrap it well in bubble wrap first...
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Post by k8smom on Feb 17, 2016 5:27:37 GMT
That sucks. All of it. I'm sorry!
Years ago my then bff invited me and my young daughter over to her house for a day of scrapbooking. My daughter and her son were playing while we scrapbooked and somehow my 3 year old put some marks in her stair banister with a toy. My friend told me that she'd appreciate it if I could tell my then dh to come refinish the banister that weekend! I was shocked! We stayed friends for many years but the last time I saw her 5 years ago she asked me the same questions about my kids three times and I left feeling so insignificant. I just didn't put any effort into it after that and the friendship finally faded.
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Post by julieinsweden on Feb 17, 2016 8:07:46 GMT
Reference the art project - is it possible she wants the pieces as proof that it is indeed broken. And that you aren't saying it is so you can keep it.
I would assume that the artist would sign his work. It might be worth looking at the broken bits for a name.
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Post by mom on Feb 17, 2016 9:15:12 GMT
I would definitely offer to pay - but no way would she be getting the broken platter AND a new one. Now if it were my platter, I would never let a friend pay for it. EVER. It was an accident. Sh!t happens.
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Post by freebird on Feb 17, 2016 14:32:56 GMT
Reference the art project - is it possible she wants the pieces as proof that it is indeed broken. And that you aren't saying it is so you can keep it. I would assume that the artist would sign his work. It might be worth looking at the broken bits for a name. I wondered the same thing actually. My husband dug it out of the dumpster. The trash must have been high and easy to reach. No signature except for the letter A. I'm tempted to call the school district and ask if they know who it is.
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 17, 2016 14:59:49 GMT
Do not go dig around in the trash for broken platter pieces. She doesn't really want it that badly. If she did she would have come by to pick it up loooong before now. Pay for the new platter and be done with this person. She sounds like a turd.
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Post by SnowWhite on Feb 17, 2016 15:55:53 GMT
I think this is why publix sells the plastic crystal looking trays-so that when the dingbat in question (usually me) forgets the tray at a friends house I can say no worries, you can keep it. lol The dollar store sells them too. And they're only a dollar! I don't bring my crappy real Tupperware, much less my nice stuff, to anybody's house and then leave it there. But that said, if I broke something that belonged to someone else, I would absolutely pay to replace it. I buy serving platters at the goodwill for this purpose. Then I leave them. It's a much better way to go about things. I don't take treasured serving pieces (hell, I don't *have* treasured serving pieces) to other people's houses. The OP's friend is wack.
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Post by RiverIsis on Feb 17, 2016 18:21:25 GMT
Reference the art project - is it possible she wants the pieces as proof that it is indeed broken. And that you aren't saying it is so you can keep it. I would assume that the artist would sign his work. It might be worth looking at the broken bits for a name. I wondered the same thing actually. My husband dug it out of the dumpster. The trash must have been high and easy to reach. No signature except for the letter A. I'm tempted to call the school district and ask if they know who it is. Well, she should be getting you the contact details anyway right?
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:25:51 GMT
Reference the art project - is it possible she wants the pieces as proof that it is indeed broken. And that you aren't saying it is so you can keep it. I would assume that the artist would sign his work. It might be worth looking at the broken bits for a name. I wondered the same thing actually. My husband dug it out of the dumpster. The trash must have been high and easy to reach. No signature except for the letter A. I'm tempted to call the school district and ask if they know who it is. What Oregon school district does the artist teach in? I know some folks.
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Post by freebird on Feb 17, 2016 19:50:20 GMT
I wondered the same thing actually. My husband dug it out of the dumpster. The trash must have been high and easy to reach. No signature except for the letter A. I'm tempted to call the school district and ask if they know who it is. What Oregon school district does the artist teach in? I know some folks. I'm hesitant to post it here. 99.9% of peas are great people but 3 of you are bitches. lol
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Post by teddyw on Feb 17, 2016 20:49:06 GMT
The dollar store sells them too. And they're only a dollar! I don't bring my crappy real Tupperware, much less my nice stuff, to anybody's house and then leave it there. But that said, if I broke something that belonged to someone else, I would absolutely pay to replace it. I buy serving platters at the goodwill for this purpose. Then I leave them. It's a much better way to go about things. I don't take treasured serving pieces (hell, I don't *have* treasured serving pieces) to other people's houses. The OP's friend is wack. Never thought of this. Thanks for the idea! I bet you don't hear from her for months and she never tracks him down.
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Post by sharlag on Feb 17, 2016 20:51:55 GMT
99.9% of peas are great people but 3 of you are bitches. lol What an accurate ... I mean INFLAMMATORY thing to say!
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Post by turangaleela on Feb 17, 2016 20:53:54 GMT
Do not go dig around in the trash for broken platter pieces. She doesn't really want it that badly. If she did she would have come by to pick it up loooong before now. Pay for the new platter and be done with this person. She sounds like a turd. I could not have said it better myself. Wash your hands of this shitbird.
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Post by papersilly on Feb 17, 2016 21:47:58 GMT
without having seen what the platter artist can do, I know I would rather have one of your original watercolor paintings instead that "artist's"
pay the other artist and be done with her. and for the record, I wouldn't dig out the shards from the bin. I think a replacement platter is more than enough.
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Post by RiverIsis on Feb 17, 2016 21:55:48 GMT
What Oregon school district does the artist teach in? I know some folks. I'm hesitant to post it here. 99.9% of peas are great people but 3 of you are bitches. lol I did say it was my evil side. I didn't say whether I would let it win, sometimes you have look at all your options!
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Post by freebird on Jun 11, 2016 17:31:38 GMT
bumping for an overdue update
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Post by daisydonna on Jun 11, 2016 17:37:08 GMT
You did the right thing and can now just move forward. You took the high road. Less drama for you for sure. She def wasn't being a good friend at all.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jun 11, 2016 17:41:41 GMT
You can feel good about doing the right thing! I'm with you, I would have never had someone pay for something broken by accident.
Did you end up giving her the broken platter? She seems like a piece of work and you're well rid of her. I'd have done the exact same as you and figure it was worth the $150 to be rid of her.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jun 11, 2016 17:43:16 GMT
That's crazy. I would not pay for a platter that sat at my house for two months! Beloved?? That's a bunch of crap!
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Post by iluvpink on Jun 11, 2016 17:45:05 GMT
So is she even using that money to buy another platter? I'm thinking not...
Sorry it all ended up that way.
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Post by ellen on Jun 11, 2016 17:50:51 GMT
I can't believe she actually took your money. Unless I was crazy rich I would never bring an expensive serving dish to a party & if I did, it would leave with me.
I don't like her.
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Post by quiltz on Jun 11, 2016 17:58:21 GMT
You did the right thing and can now just move forward. You took the high road. Less drama for you for sure. She def wasn't being a good friend at all. ^^^ that. Sorry that this happened to you. Friends & drama = impossible situations at times. You did the right thing and karma will be waiting for your ex-friend.
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Post by freebird on Jun 11, 2016 17:59:52 GMT
You can feel good about doing the right thing! I'm with you, I would have never had someone pay for something broken by accident. Did you end up giving her the broken platter? She seems like a piece of work and you're well rid of her. I'd have done the exact same as you and figure it was worth the $150 to be rid of her.
My husband got the worst of it out of the dumpster before I could tell him not to bother so yes, I did give it back to her. I still wonder if she just was "testing" to see if it was really broken.
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Post by melanell on Jun 11, 2016 18:06:23 GMT
I missed this the first time around. Oy. I agree with everyone above that you did the right thing. But man alive, what an odd situation with her all around in regards to the platter. I'm glad it's over and done with. And while I do think you're probably better off without her, I'm sorry that one of your friendships died out because there's often at least a bit of sadness/bittersweet feelings, etc. that go along with that. (Although this whole platter situation may have helped tone down those feelings a bit. )
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Post by anniefb on Jun 11, 2016 18:08:47 GMT
So is she even using that money to buy another platter? I'm thinking not... Sorry it all ended up that way. SaveSave
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Post by melanell on Jun 11, 2016 18:10:28 GMT
P.S. My new rule is that when I bring food to an event, I try to use something I am completely fine with just giving to the hostess. I let them know they can keep the platter/bowl/container if they'd like or pass it along themselves. I hate making them have to find containers to transfer left-overs into or make them find a way to get the item back to me. What tends to happen is that we now have a few items making rounds among some of the people I get together with regularly because we're all doing the same thing. None of us bring beloved one of a kind art platters to our events.
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Post by quiltz on Jun 11, 2016 19:04:38 GMT
P.S. My new rule is that when I bring food to an event, I try to use something I am completely fine with just giving to the hostess. I let them know they can keep the platter/bowl/container if they'd like or pass it along themselves. I hate making them have to find containers to transfer left-overs into or make them find a way to get the item back to me. What tends to happen is that we now have a few items making rounds among some of the people I get together with regularly because we're all doing the same thing. None of us bring beloved one of a kind art platters to our events. I like to find items at thrift stores or garage sales to use when I need to bring food to a party/event. Usually just a few $ & no worries about getting the item back to me.
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Post by rickmer on Jun 11, 2016 19:09:05 GMT
wow. good thing she is not happy with you... sounds like you can easily step away cuz no one needs that in their life
my girlfriend leaned over and bumped one of my waterford crystal wine glasses and it smashed (quite spectacularly, i must say) all over my back deck. i was silent for about 20 seconds in shock (felt like longer) and as she started to apologize, i told her not to worry about it. what good is having something if you don't use it? and when things get used, sometimes accidents happen.
i am a goodwill/value village person for this stuff that gets left at events too.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 11, 2016 22:01:02 GMT
Thanks for the update. You did the right thing. But, I would never, ever expect a friend to pay for something that was broken. People are more important than things.
Again, I am sorry she let you down.
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Post by azredhead on Jun 11, 2016 22:06:01 GMT
Dang you took they WAY HIGH road!! That's all I can say!! You can walk away with a clear mind! I would have had to sit on my hands for a long time!!!
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