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Post by mom on Feb 17, 2016 17:59:20 GMT
This was discussed a couple of days ago, but now that I notice I am greying (I am almost 37) I can't decide what to do about it.
Did you color it all immediately? Let it go and just accept the grey? How old were you?
My mom was completely grey by 35 and she just let it go. It was a beautiful silver color. Right now, mine is just some grey around my forehead and my dad so wonderfully made fun for me for it the other day.
So how did you handle it?
Edited: It doesn't bother my husband at all. So whatever I decide to do is my decision. We are 3 years away from being empty nesters, if that matters.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:04:17 GMT
I started going noticeably gray around 48. It may have been going earlier than that but my natural hair color was very light brown/dark blonde with streaks from the sun/sea. I'm 55 now and quite gray around the face and the new incoming hair. I don't color and don't plan to. Yes, I know it ages me. I ok with my age.
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Post by perumbula on Feb 17, 2016 18:05:42 GMT
I found my first gray hair at 19. I was grey enough that I had to stop plucking individual hairs at 27 and by 30 I was sick of it and started dying. I'm 41 now and intend to keep dying it for awhile. I definitely won't stop dying before my youngest is out of the house (6 years.) My hair is very, very gray now. It's also chunky grey. I have streaks in places which makes dying work really well for me. the dye works differently on the gray so it looks like I paid for highlights when I just used a box color.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:06:30 GMT
Well, I got my first grey hairs at 19 and started coloring then. I'm now 42 and most of my hair is grey. I'd say at least 75% - maybe more. For me, I am not willing to stop coloring yet. Right now I still get carded occasionally (while my hair is prematurely aging, thankfully my skin is not). If I stopped coloring, that would never happen and I expect I'd someitmes be mistaken for my 7 year old's grandmother instead of mother. Just no. Not for me. Not yet.
But if you're comfortable with it, go for it. It's a very personal decision IMO.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:07:03 GMT
I was 18 but I colored my hair for 30 years. I was to the point if coloring every 3 weeks and for 2 of those weeks, I could see roots and hated looking in the mirror. That alone was enough for me to embrace the gray. My hair is so much healthier now and I get a lot of compliments.
Just a tip for silver sisters ...purple shampoo is essential to keeping the yellow out. Some people only need it once a week and other people, like me, need it daily. My hair absorbs minerals from water and yellows easily.
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Post by moveablefeast on Feb 17, 2016 18:13:10 GMT
I've had tinsel since my early 30s. I'm not ready for the commitment of hair color.
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Post by anxiousmom on Feb 17, 2016 18:14:59 GMT
I started going noticeably gray around 48. It may have been going earlier than that but my natural hair color was very light brown/dark blonde with streaks from the sun/sea. I'm 55 now and quite gray around the face and the new incoming hair. I don't color and don't plan to. Yes, I know it ages me. I ok with my age. All this except that my light streaks vary from very light blondy-brown to auburn. I am out in the sun a lot. I am almost 50 and have some grey hairs starting to really make themselves known, not a lot, but they are there for sure. About the time I found the first grey hair, I decided to skip the coloring. I don't have the personality that is disciplined enough to be consistent about getting done on time nor am I sufficiently endowed with the girl gene that makes doing my own hair easy. I am going to let it go and do it's thing. I am more concerned with the change in texture. I feel like my hair is getting courser.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:15:26 GMT
The one good thing I have to say about my grey hair is that it hasn't changed texture at all. It's soft and feels good and is not coarse like grey can sometimes be. It's also a very light grey that's almost sparkly when my roots grow out. My stylist says that - in 20 years - when I'm ready to stop coloring, I'll have the kind of grey hair people envy. We'll see LOL
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:16:34 GMT
I'm 46 and have a few strands of grey, I plan to just let it be. I can't be arsed getting on the colouring roundabout.
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Post by KikiPea on Feb 17, 2016 18:19:07 GMT
I am 42, 43 in June. I have had a few, here and there for a few years, but more have started popping up since I turned 42.
I don't mind it TOO much, but what I can't stand is that they are more coarse, causing them to stand up while growing out, instead of laying flat. So annoying.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Feb 17, 2016 18:20:26 GMT
I started going gray at 15, and coloring my hair 10 years later. Last year I let my color grow out to see how much gray I had, and I'm at about 75% gray. I'm 45. I kept it natural for a few months but finally decided I just didn't like it (despite many compliments.) I felt faded. I have "good" gray hair, in that it is the same texture as my regular hair and takes color well, but I'm just not ready to be gray. I have found a colorist who does a great job with my color and roots, so they aren't so shockingly apparent as they grow out. It tends to be a one-day-they're-fine-the-next-day-they're-not kinda thing, so fortunately I don't have to make an appt with her weeks out.
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Post by melanell on Feb 17, 2016 18:22:24 GMT
I had a few grays show up in the top front portion of my hair around 19 or so. But it was maybe 3. LOL! Then, I became pregnant at 27, and still had just those few that'd i would yank every time they showed their shiny white faces. By the time my son was born, and I returned to work (28)the amount in the front/top portion of my hair had become so noticeable that a co-worker mentioned it to me the first time she saw me after my return. And by the time I became pregnant with DS #2, at 35, I had a lot in the front/top portion, but was able to hide most of it by putting my hair up or at least just pulling back that section. Now, in my early 40s, the front is more gray than not in the front. No pulling it up or back will hide that anymore. But the back still has very little. I'm starting to know or see more woman in their mid to late 30s and beyond who have adopted the "gray hair. don't care." attitude lately, and I can't help but like that I'm not the only one. Not that I need a group of people doing the same thing as me to make me feel okay about my choice, but because at this point people still think gray hair equals an age much older than 30s or 40s because for so long most women have opted to cover it up. So I figure with more women opting not to cover it, people will begin to alter their ideas about what age gray automatically indicates. If you know a woman who is 37 and 35-50% gray then when you see another woman with a similar amount, you may take the extra moment to look for other age indicators before jumping to an older guess. No offense to those older than me at all, mind you. I actually tend to prefer to hang out with people older than I am than younger, but my kids (& DH) laugh at me when someone refers to me as their grandmother. The kicker is that DH is older and grayer than I am, but no one ever guesses he is their grandfather. Because I think society is used to seeing guys go gray but not women. It's a weird little situation we've created over the generations, I guess. 100 years ago, I would very likely be a grandmother at my age, and I'd have gray hair. But now, grandmas can be gray-free, at any age, but gray hair still signifies being a grandmother to little kids!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:24:54 GMT
Can we please stop using the don't care and let it go theme when discussing the decision to go gray. Gray is a choice I made. I didnt let myself go and I certainly do care. It's just a haircolor.
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Post by valleyview on Feb 17, 2016 18:25:54 GMT
I found my first grey hair while in my early twenties. I have colored by hair twice, and no one noticed (including co-workers who were so sure that it was essential!). I also decided that I might be missing the gene for hair vanity. (That and having no female relatives to ask) My stylist is an excellent colorist, but he has never tried to get me on the color bandwagon. So, I accept what my hair is. DH has white hair, so he does not mind mine.
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Post by melanell on Feb 17, 2016 18:33:57 GMT
Can we please stop using the don't care and let it go theme when discussing the decision to go gray. Gray is a choice I made. I didnt let myself go and I certainly do care. It's just a haircolor. I suppose people could say "Gray hair. Doesn't bother me.", which is exactly what the little phrase means to me, but it definitely doesn't have the same ring to it. Seriously, though, I don't mean that people don't care about their hair, just that the gray doesn't bother them. I'm sorry you dislike the phrases, though. I understand that we all have certain words & phrases that irk us.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 18:34:55 GMT
my mom was completely grey at 14...I at 30...so I have been coloring my hair for the last almost 30 years...and see no end in sight for me. I don't have pretty grey hair at all...so color it is
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Post by Sue on Feb 17, 2016 18:37:18 GMT
I started graying at 15. By the time I graduated high school I was dying my hair regularly to cover the gray. Graying young runs in my Dad's family. My paternal aunts and uncles didn't know what color their mother's hair had been because they had only ever seen her with gray hair! Noticing the ad on the bottom of this page... Hottest Gray Hair Color Trend 2016. I'm sure.
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Post by scrapsuzy on Feb 17, 2016 18:37:49 GMT
Can we please stop using the don't care and let it go theme when discussing the decision to go gray. Gray is a choice I made. I didnt let myself go and I certainly do care. It's just a haircolor. I suppose people could say "Gray hair. Doesn't bother me.", which is exactly what the little phrase means to me, but it definitely doesn't have the same ring to it. Seriously, though, I don't mean that people don't care about their hair, just that the gray doesn't bother them. I'm sorry you dislike the phrases, though. I understand that we all have certain words & phrases that irk us. Thank you for posting while I was still trying to figure out what the offense was and who had done it. Your words are exactly what I would've written, had I completed my somewhat circuitous thought process.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Feb 17, 2016 18:39:09 GMT
I am 40 and I have no gray hair yet. My dad has the most beautiful white hair. I want his hair so bad. I would not mind going completely white.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Feb 17, 2016 18:50:47 GMT
I noticed a few strands of white hair in my early 20's. I'm 42 and I recently noticed that I have a lot more strands. Most people don't notice unless they really look and I have dark brown hair. I think they look like blond highlights but they are definitely white. I have no intention of dyeing them. I'm hoping for all white hair like my grandmother on my dads side. If it turns mousey like my mom and my grandmother on moms side I might change my mind about dyeing it.
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Post by Mystie on Feb 17, 2016 18:55:03 GMT
I started getting gray hair when I was 21. There's a trend toward early graying in my dad's family, and I guess I got the gene. It was just scattered through my twenties and got more noticeable around my face in my thirties. I've been coloring my hair for 10 or 15 years, I'm 45 now. I'd love to just let it go, but when I do let it grow out it just makes my face look so pale and old.
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Post by mrst on Feb 17, 2016 18:56:41 GMT
I'm 63 with only a little grey , which I leave alone. I dyed my hair various colours for about 40 years and then gave up as I was swimming a lot and the condition was bad. It grew out a good brown colour with very little grey. Here in Spain,older people, men and women, tend to dye their hair harsh dark brown or black.... not flattering in my opinion.
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Post by anniefb on Feb 17, 2016 18:59:27 GMT
I have dark brown hair and started going grey in my mid 20s. I started colouring it then. I'm now 53 and still colouring it! I'll probably be ready to phase out the colour in my 60s - will definitely be able to save some $$ that way!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 19:00:13 GMT
Sorry. I didn't get to type all I wanted because I'm on my phone and avoiding my inlaws.
It wasn't really what anyone here said but more the general perception through words and phrases that women who choose gray have let themselves go and given up on caring about their appearance.
And although YOUR words may not mean that, you can't deny that general perception.
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Post by grammanisi on Feb 17, 2016 19:03:38 GMT
I am 58 and have very little gray hair. I have said that I won't color my hair, but we'll see!
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 19:04:29 GMT
The lady who was doing my Mom's hair was cutting mine and noticed a single gray when I was 14. By the time I graduated from high school, I was coloring my hair with the semi-permanent colors. I didn't have noticeable grays but every now and then, that same lady would point one or two out and yank them. I was so happy when I could stop using her.
I'm not 40 yet and I'm probably getting close to 50% gray. I'm not too afraid of it as both my Mom and grandma have/had nice white hair, none of that dingy gray. I just need to decide when I'm going to stop coloring my hair.
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Post by krc11 on Feb 17, 2016 19:06:25 GMT
I'm embracing my gray. I used to highlight it constantly so I didn't really notice a blonde vs a gray hair. I got very tired of highlighting. It has taken a couple of years to completely grow out. I'm disappointed. My hairdresser told me there was quite a bit of gray. I don't see much and my natural haircolor now is brown. I see a handful. I was really hoping to have some wonderful streaky looking hair.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 17, 2016 19:08:02 GMT
I have had greys for about 8 or 10 years, and it is not very pretty. So I dye it with L'Oreal Power Violet(Intense medium violet V48). I like different, but work for the government so I couldn't keep the hot pink. It is a more acceptable color.
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Post by miominmio on Feb 17, 2016 19:10:59 GMT
I'm 46 (47 in three weeks) and so far no grey hairs.... I have no intention of colouring them when they do show up, they're a natural part of getting older. If I had started going grey 20 years ago, I might have felt differently.
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Post by bianca42 on Feb 17, 2016 19:17:10 GMT
I was 18 but I colored my hair for 30 years. I was to the point if coloring every 3 weeks and for 2 of those weeks, I could see roots and hated looking in the mirror. That alone was enough for me to embrace the gray. My hair is so much healthier now and I get a lot of compliments. Just a tip for silver sisters ...purple shampoo is essential to keeping the yellow out. Some people only need it once a week and other people, like me, need it daily. My hair absorbs minerals from water and yellows easily. Where do you get the purple shampoo? I'm going to be 40 next week and I have lots of silver highlights. I've had grey hair for about 20 years...although it's just been the last 5 that it's enough for people other than my hairdresser to comment on. I did try coloring it for a while, but gave up when I got pregnant with my 6 year old and never went back.
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