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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2016 1:42:03 GMT
Just curious. A friend of mine is dating a really nice guy. He is quite a bit shorter than she is, and she is having a tough time with it, even though she likes him very much. I think after awhile she probably won't even notice it anymore. If your DH/SO is shorter, does/did it ever bother you?
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Mar 1, 2016 1:44:18 GMT
We're about the same height, so if I have shoes with any sort of a heel, I am taller. Doesn't bother me.
I did, however, work with a woman who was considerably taller than average, and she utterly refused to date men shorter than she was. And then she wondered why she didn't date much.
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Post by Linda on Mar 1, 2016 1:45:01 GMT
Dh is 5'7" and I'm 5'8" - doesn't bother either of us
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 1, 2016 1:46:17 GMT
My husband says he's taller than he is - I think because guys always get measured with their shoes ON, but for some reason women are told to slip OFF their shoes.
Anyway, he's actually a little shorter than I am. I'm 5 foot 8.5 inches and I had only dated much taller guys until I met him. His height became really unimportant almost immediately, because he's so right for me in so many other ways.
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Post by walkerdill on Mar 1, 2016 1:46:58 GMT
I'm 6" taller w/o heels on. I hated it at first. I was even embarrassed when we first started dating. It didn't bother him though and I eventually got over it. It didn't take too long either after I realized I really liked him.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2016 1:50:08 GMT
I know it's dumb and shallow, but I never dated anyone shorter than me. Height is part of the overall attractiveness package to me and just like bad teeth were a deal breaker, so was shortness.
if it matters to her, so be it. I wouldn't try to convince her otherwise.
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Post by jenettycakes on Mar 1, 2016 1:53:03 GMT
No, he's a foot taller at 6'4 though he wears 6'5...guess that inch makes a difference  |
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Post by padresfan619 on Mar 1, 2016 1:53:33 GMT
My ex was shorter than me. It never bothered me at all. I'm also not particularly tall at 5'7". After a while our height difference bothered him enough to seek out a short girl to have an affair with. That's why he's an ex. My husband is about 4 inches taller than me, we are the same height if I wear certain shoes. He loves it.
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Post by eleezybeth on Mar 1, 2016 2:01:24 GMT
Flat-footed we are close to even but I win! I'm 6" so it isn't like either of us are short. My first boyfriend was 5'6" with shoes! I just didn't care. I have been this tall since 8th grade and until senior year there was one boy in my class taller than me. I think that helped me get over it.
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Post by J u l e e on Mar 1, 2016 2:03:02 GMT
No, he's about 5 inches taller than me, so still taller even if I wear heels. I'm 5'9" and only dated someone shorter than me once. It made me uncomfortable. I tried to have it not, but it did.
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Post by Karmady on Mar 1, 2016 2:03:30 GMT
He's 4 inches taller. I really isn't a big deal to me either way.
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Post by Zee on Mar 1, 2016 2:07:36 GMT
It would be a bit of a challenge for me to find a shorter man than me, I'm 5'2". DH is about 5'9". I don't think I'd want to date someone shorter than me. I just wouldn't really be attracted to a man shorter than my height because he'd be REALLY short and would most likely have Short Man Syndrome.
I don't even want to match when I have heels on. I like to be the smaller one.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2016 2:07:44 GMT
Nope, he is six four, I am five four.
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Post by psiluvu on Mar 1, 2016 2:08:41 GMT
I always said I would never date anyone shorter than me at 5"8. Then I met Dh who is 5'6 and it didn't seem to matter at all. He was perfect in so many other ways so I married him. We have two kids DD(16) who is 5'10 and DS (12) who is currently 6'0 but that could change overnight  . I'm sure to some people we are quite an odd looking bunch but IMO who cares. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 1, 2016 2:09:11 GMT
I would never date a guy shorter than I am. I am 5' tall and well that would make for a very short man. He has to be at least 5'7 or 5'8". I am 153 cm tall. That is pretty short.
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Post by justkat on Mar 1, 2016 2:19:37 GMT
I'm 5'3.5 (hey that half inch is important when you're short lol). My late husband was 6'7 and my current husband is a teeny bit over 6'.
Others may think it shallow but I wouldn't date someone shorter than me. As another said height is part of what makes someone attractive and I just don't find shorter than me men attractive.
Let your friend do what is right for her.
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Post by scorpeao on Mar 1, 2016 2:19:38 GMT
I'm deeply shallow...at 5'2" no way in hell could I date someone shorter than me.
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Post by cmpeter on Mar 1, 2016 2:21:55 GMT
No, I am 5'8" and he's 5'11".
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Post by lisacharlotte on Mar 1, 2016 2:23:31 GMT
We are the same height (5'9") so any heel makes me taller. Not an issue on my radar. I've dated taller and shorter, skinny, stocky, muscular, chubby, handsome, unattractive, funny, intense. The physical will catch your eye, but after 25 years together it doesn't even register and I'm quite thankful my choice was made for more important characteristics. I'm also quite thankful he didn't marry me for my 25 year old hotness. That ship is never coming back.
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Mar 1, 2016 2:24:04 GMT
DH is taller than me. I'm 5'9 and I really wouldn't want a guy shorter than me...I like them tall lol
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Post by Delta Dawn on Mar 1, 2016 2:29:23 GMT
I'm 5'3.5 (hey that half inch is important when you're short lol). My late husband was 6'7 and my current husband is a teeny bit over 6'. Others may think it shallow but I wouldn't date someone shorter than me. As another said height is part of what makes someone attractive and I just don't find shorter than me men attractive. Let your friend do what is right for her. I am as shallow as they come. Can you imagine dating a guy shorter than me? I can't imagine humans much shorter than I am. If I were an inch shorter wouldn't I be considered a dwarf? Being short isn't that much fun. Taller is always better. Always! |
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Post by kellybelly77 on Mar 1, 2016 2:30:09 GMT
Honestly, short people kinda weird me out. I hope the Peas don't kick me out for that! But they do. The tv show Little People gives me chills.
But to answer your question, no I would never date anyone shorter than me. I am 5'9 and dh is just a hair over 6'. And he is the shortest person I ever dated!
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Post by leannec on Mar 1, 2016 2:37:04 GMT
Nope ... I'm 5'2" and dh is 6'3" ... I like 'em tall  It has resulted in two dd's that are both taller than me  |
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Post by Zee on Mar 1, 2016 3:26:35 GMT
Honestly, short people kinda weird me out. I hope the Peas don't kick me out for that! But they do. The tv show Little People gives me chills. But to answer your question, no I would never date anyone shorter than me. I am 5'9 and dh is just a hair over 6'. And he is the shortest person I ever dated! Short people weird you out? How? You don't like seeing the tops of our heads? How tall must someone be not to weird you out? To be honest, your statement about Little People really bothers me, like if you said that show about people with Downs syndrome gives you the shivers. I don't mind being short one bit. I don't even feel short, though I know I am. I guess my personality isn't short. I'm quite glad I'm not a hulking Amazon, if we're going to be rude about it. |
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Post by Zee on Mar 1, 2016 3:30:32 GMT
I'm 5'3.5 (hey that half inch is important when you're short lol). My late husband was 6'7 and my current husband is a teeny bit over 6'. Others may think it shallow but I wouldn't date someone shorter than me. As another said height is part of what makes someone attractive and I just don't find shorter than me men attractive. Let your friend do what is right for her. I am as shallow as they come. Can you imagine dating a guy shorter than me? I can't imagine humans much shorter than I am. If I were an inch shorter wouldn't I be considered a dwarf? Being short isn't that much fun. Taller is always better. Always! Can you give the self-hatred a rest? How is "taller always better", unless you need something off the top shelf? Good Lord. Go get on YouTube and watch some Stuart Smalley videos and quit ripping yourself apart for your weight, height, number of hoodies in your closet, number of miles walked today, etc etc etc Focus on something positive about yourself for the next 24 hours. Please. |
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Post by kellybelly77 on Mar 1, 2016 3:38:52 GMT
Honestly, short people kinda weird me out. I hope the Peas don't kick me out for that! But they do. The tv show Little People gives me chills. But to answer your question, no I would never date anyone shorter than me. I am 5'9 and dh is just a hair over 6'. And he is the shortest person I ever dated! Short people weird you out? How? You don't like seeing the tops of our heads? How tall must someone be not to weird you out? To be honest, your statement about Little People really bothers me, like if you said that show about people with Downs syndrome gives you the shivers. I don't mind being short one bit. I don't even feel short, though I know I am. I guess my personality isn't short. I'm quite glad I'm not a hulking Amazon, if we're going to be rude about it. Geez! Short people just make me uncomfortable. I was raised with all tall people so my experience is just different than yours. And at 5'9 I don't consider myself a hulking Amazon but whatever. And what the hell does Downs Syndrome have to do with anything I said? |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 1, 2016 3:40:42 GMT
I'm 5'1", he's 6'5". At my height, like others here have mentioned, it would be difficult to find a guy much shorter, and to be honest, I wouldn't find that physically attractive.
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Post by Peal on Mar 1, 2016 3:43:19 GMT
I am short. I come from short people. I know how hard it is for short men to find mates since women on the whole don't partner with men shorter than themselves. I married a man 6 inches taller than me in part to give any sons I had a chance at an average height. I have 2 teen boys who, at 5'6" & 5'8" are taller than most of my male relatives.
If I was 5'8" or taller I might not have cared if my spouse were equal or lesser height. But at 5'2" it was important that he was taller.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Mar 1, 2016 4:00:57 GMT
I'm a smidge taller, according to him. Maybe a half inch, if that.
ETA- it doesn't bother either of us. He calls me his Glamazon when I wear heels.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Mar 1, 2016 4:23:26 GMT
I'm short (5'-2.5", and yes that extra 1/2" IS a big deal to anybody who is short!) so it would be tough to find a guy shorter than me. The shortest guy I ever dated was maybe 5'-5" but he was a jerk so he got kicked to the curb. DH is almost a foot taller than I am, and I have a sneaking suspicion DD will end up taller than me. At almost six, she is close to the height I was in 3rd grade! Yeah, I was a shrimp. I was always the littlest kid in my class growing up.  I really do wish I was taller, even a couple extra inches in height makes a huge difference. It ticks me off that Target puts the fiber cereal I eat on the stinking TOP shelf so once the front couple boxes have been taken it's close to impossible for me to reach the boxes further back without risking life and limb. LOL, I complained about it to a guy working in that aisle the other night. I used to be able to lift up DD and have her grab it, but now she's getting too big for me to lift! |
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