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Post by Karmady on Jul 29, 2014 1:13:51 GMT
Usually, I'm ok with it but tonight I wanted some quiet.
I've been so busy for the past month or so. My oldest son who is disabled has been a stinker in July and hasn't slept much for the past month. Dh has been working too much. This is his 8th day in a row and he won't be off until at least Saturday. We are running two households right now since dh is also taking care of his mother's home and prepping it for sale. She passed away in Dec. I drove my disabled son to camp yesterday. It was a 600km drive.
Today I wanted to do nothing. Dd was working and my youngest was at camp too. It would be the two of us home tonight. Yay. Make dinner. Make a cup of tea and relax while watching the ball game.
Then it happened. There was a knock on the door. The front door was open and our glass screen door was closed but they could see us inside. Four of dh's relatives were at the door for a surprise visit. They were all dressed up after a dinner out. Dh's sisters are both neat freaks I was just about to have a spoonful of dinner.
My my hair was a mess. I was wearing tights from my workout this afternoon and my legs were unshaven. My house was a disaster! The floors needed vacuuming the front hall mirror had fingerprints all over it. There was clutter all over the end tables. The kitchen countertops were full of vegetable peelings, pots and pans from dinner.
SIL loves gardening and wanted to see my back garden. The lawn was long, the garden unweeded and a bit overgrown. ARGH.
They were here here for an hour and a half.
After they left, I felt a bit bad. I should have had it more together. I've since forgiven myself and wished that I had locked the front door before dinner LoL.
Do you mind if people arrive without calling?
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Post by keknj on Jul 29, 2014 1:18:50 GMT
I mind. Especially after a few days like you've had. I don't mind if it's just 10 min, but give me some notice, don't just show up at my door.
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Post by ahiller on Jul 29, 2014 1:21:04 GMT
I hate it. Hate, hate, hate it. I am a total introvert and just cannot appreciate people who stop by without at least calling.
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lisasahm
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Post by lisasahm on Jul 29, 2014 1:23:26 GMT
NO I do not like it at all. No no no no no.
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Post by bluepoprocks on Jul 29, 2014 1:24:21 GMT
Everyone knows not to show up at my house unannounced and if they dare to and my house is a mess to bad who asked you over.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jul 29, 2014 1:24:47 GMT
Of course there are always going to be inconvenient moments, but in general I don't mind spontaneous visits. And if someone does stop by and things aren't perfect or I'm in the middle of something, well it's on them. You get what you get when I don't know ahead of time that you're coming over.
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Post by mikewozowski on Jul 29, 2014 1:25:12 GMT
i wouldn't mind it a bit.
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 29, 2014 1:26:26 GMT
Call first. DH works crazy hours so he could easily be sleeping durning the day and with our place so small visiting someone in say the living room would wake him up.
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Post by marimoose on Jul 29, 2014 1:27:23 GMT
I really, really dislike when people might just pop in. I also like a few minutes notice, if nothing else than to tidy myself up. I do like things neat and orderly myself but sometimes life dictates more important matters needing attention. If people show up as they did for Karmandy then I would hope they would not be judging her in any way for what they might find when they showed up without an invitation. I bet they were excited to visit and didn't notice anything else. Karmandy sounds like she had a rough week/month and it sounds like her house is simply lived in as many of our houses might appear after a long day. I sure hope that she was able to completely relax after the impromptu visit.
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Post by hockeymom4 on Jul 29, 2014 1:27:32 GMT
Hate it, my house is NEVER company ready, and of the kidlet doesn't have activities I often in my PJ's after dinner. I need enough time to put on a bra, put away the laundry piles and give the "good front room" a tidy
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Post by leannec on Jul 29, 2014 1:27:38 GMT
I definitely need warning ... I'm an introvert so I need to have some time to mentally prepare and then I also usually need to pick up a bit ...
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Post by ddly on Jul 29, 2014 1:28:56 GMT
I don't usually mind. Most of our friends that do that don't judge if the house is messy or I'm bra less.
Sometimes I need to talk with DH and he has a friend that tends to only show up at those times. He (has Aspberger's) gets upset if I have to take care of business first with DH first.
Lisa D.
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Post by linda~lou on Jul 29, 2014 1:29:22 GMT
NO!!!! I don't even like answering the door, even if it's just my lawn guy dropping off his bill. It just feels like an evasion of my privacy.
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Post by deshacrafts on Jul 29, 2014 1:29:40 GMT
I don't mind at all. I enjoy it when someone just stops by.
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Post by doxielady on Jul 29, 2014 1:29:41 GMT
I hate it. Hate, hate, hate it. I am a total introvert and just cannot appreciate people who stop by without at least calling. That's me. Exactly. Please call and give me at least a 15 to 30 minute warning so I can get things picked up and get my hair brushed.
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Post by seikashaven on Jul 29, 2014 1:30:11 GMT
No. Blech! Even my closest friends will give me a heads up via text that they're popping by.
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Post by AN on Jul 29, 2014 1:31:45 GMT
I do not like it when people stop by unannounced. I don't mind if a neighbor stops over for a reason (needs something, had a question, etc), but if the person had to drive to get to my house, they need to call first.
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Post by bdawnb on Jul 29, 2014 1:39:48 GMT
Even my daughter texts me first. I hate it with a red hot hate. So rude! Do people think others have no plans just because they are home? Call or text for goodness sakes. However my daughter texts only because she knows how we dress (or undress) when we get home. LOL.
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Post by Giraffe on Jul 29, 2014 1:40:21 GMT
Please do not stop by my house without calling first. And even better, please don't invite yourself over to my house! If I want people to come over, I will invite them. I know that sounds rude, but that's how I feel. I would NEVER just show up at someone's house, or invite myself over by calling them and letting them know I'm on the way.
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Post by mikewozowski on Jul 29, 2014 1:41:54 GMT
deshacrafts - looks like you and i should be friends! haha
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 29, 2014 1:47:26 GMT
I mind. But we live far out of town so no one just stops by. ;-)
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scrappammie
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Post by scrappammie on Jul 29, 2014 1:47:35 GMT
Depends on who it is and whether they're carrying gifts.
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Post by rebelyelle on Jul 29, 2014 1:50:19 GMT
Cannot stand it. DH has a friend who does it frequently, and it annoys me to no end. He will pop by at the most inconvenient times - particularly 10 minutes before dinner or on Sunday mornings while we're in pajamas, drinking coffee and just relaxing. DH, DS and I have precious little time to spend together just the three of us, and it just strikes me as incredibly rude to think you are so important that you can't call or text first. Ugh. (PS - he did this just the other day and it's still fresh in my mind!).
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 29, 2014 1:53:26 GMT
I hate unannounced visitors. It's a matter of courtesy, just give me a quick call and tell me you're in the neighborhood and ask if you can swing by in ten minutes. That's all I need, just some sort of idea of when you will be here so I can make sure to hide my mess and brush my hair.
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Post by cycworker on Jul 29, 2014 1:55:24 GMT
I absolutely love it! The only exception is my mother. We had tried a thing where we agreed that if she came over unannounced, she had to accept whatever state my place is in. That got to be too stressful. Now she's only allowed to come with 24 hours notice, unless it's an emergency.
My friends? Go for it. That said, I also hold the expectation that they are not going to be judgemental. If you're the type to think nasty thoughts re: the state of my apartment when you come over, you shouldn't come, period. A real friend doesn't care.
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Post by akathy on Jul 29, 2014 1:57:40 GMT
I live alone, am a neat freak and my house is always "company ready" but I have a life too. Please at least text me before stopping over. I wouldn't dream of showing up at someone's house unannounced, please don't do it to me. I don't care if we're related or not, I still want a heads up.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 29, 2014 1:57:59 GMT
I mind. A whole lot. People who know me well enough that I would let them visit know that I don't tolerate pop-overs. People who don't know me well enough aren't invited in if they pop-over.
You show up at my doorstep without calling first and it better be an emergency.
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Post by Ellie on Jul 29, 2014 1:58:38 GMT
Heck no. I didn't think anyone did until a conversation with a coworker. She loves drop-in visitors.
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Post by kelbel827 on Jul 29, 2014 2:01:14 GMT
I love it. Sometimes I get so busy with my business after work that I don't get to see friends ever. Sometimes I stop at their house too. No one ever is as pissy as some of the peas are.
I get it though. My mom was the same way.
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Post by lorieann13 on Jul 29, 2014 2:05:01 GMT
My parents? Not at all.
Everyone else, I appreciate a "hey mind if I stop by" call or text
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