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Post by kckckc on Jul 29, 2014 16:08:46 GMT
In general, no I don't mind, although there are always times when it is inconvenient. The older I get (I am 56) the more I value the unexpected visit and the less I care about the impression my house/clothes/etc. make on others.
Even when it's inconvenient, I try to put it in perspective. Which will matter more in the long run - a visit with a friend that I haven't seen in a while, or finishing painting my bedroom today. The bedroom will be there tomorrow.
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Post by Country Ham on Jul 29, 2014 16:22:55 GMT
I love it. I remember coming home one day and finding my best friend and her cousin sitting in the living room. I hadn't seen her in a year. My sister traveled internationally and surprised me with a visit. She knocked on the door and when I answered it was I was floored. (admittedly she let my husband know so that we didn't plan anything out of town those days).
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Jul 29, 2014 16:45:01 GMT
People actually do this? I don't know that I've ever had it happen. And a good thing too because if I'm not expecting you, I'm not answering the door. Hmmmmm.....so maybe it has happened to me and I just didn't answer the door.
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Post by njinkerbelle on Jul 29, 2014 16:50:21 GMT
No, I don't like impromptu guests. I don't do that to anyone either. I always call first even if it's to drop something off.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 16:51:56 GMT
I mind ... a lot!
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Post by sabmom on Jul 29, 2014 17:35:52 GMT
I don't like it at all. My house might be messy, my kids might be cranky or - most likely - I might be plain busy with other things planned to do. At home does not equal open for visitation. I think I have finally gotten my MIL used to this.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 29, 2014 17:58:29 GMT
If it's a sibling yes. Otherwise no.
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Post by perumbula on Jul 29, 2014 19:22:59 GMT
I like it. No my house won't be perfectly clean and I might have to run put on a bra before we visit, but at least I get a visit. I have a bad habit of pulling inward and not reaching out and contacting friends enough. It's wonderful when I friend drops by without expecting an invitation. I want the visits, but I have a hard time making the phone call to invite people over. I love it when they come by. I feel like my friend really does care about me and wants to spend time with me. But then I have several friends and family members who don't wait for me to answer the door. They are welcome to come on in.
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Post by wholarmor on Jul 29, 2014 19:38:45 GMT
The same friend that got upset when she came to visit and I wasn't home, would also let herself in without knocking. I told her that had to stop. You have no idea what might be going on.
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Post by cycworker on Jul 29, 2014 19:42:12 GMT
I did think of the one time I don't like unexpected company... Tuesday afternoon. It's my home support where laundry gets done. I've let friends know I need them to check in re: where we're at before popping over on a Tuesday between noon and 3.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 29, 2014 19:47:48 GMT
I need an hour. It seems like it takes me that long to make sure both myself and the house look OK for company. So I don't care for drop ins either.
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Post by alibama on Jul 29, 2014 19:51:29 GMT
No I am not a fan no matter who you are!
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Post by teacherlisa on Jul 29, 2014 20:23:52 GMT
I used to like it but not anymore. I really want to like it, so I decided I'm going to work on some of the reasons I no longer enjoy it.
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Post by craftykitten on Jul 29, 2014 20:38:25 GMT
Chiming in as another one who really hates it... I used to think it was because I didn't want people to see my house messy. I live in a small space with a lot of stuff and there isn't much room for everything. But lately, I've come to realise that it's not about that at all - it's about intruding on my personal space. I'm definitely an introvert and I need to 'prepare' myself mentally for company. And, as some others have said, I might be unclothed, or napping, or spending time with my OH I would never dream of popping in on someone without ringing first. And I think people who turn up after dinner (late, I'm guessing) and stay for AN HOUR AND A HALF are the height of rudeness. Some people can't take the hint when it's time to leave.
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Post by ChrisinCT on Jul 29, 2014 20:42:02 GMT
I hate it!
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Post by krc11 on Jul 29, 2014 20:46:15 GMT
To me, it's an interruption. Sometimes it might not matter but sometimes it might. Everyone can use a phone or text, so please do it. Now, I do like people to call and invite themselves over. I so rarely actually put out invitations -- I want to but it seems like things come up (kids mostly) and I hate uninviting people so I wait to last minute and then I don't get around to it. I have no problems with someone says can I come over, hang out, maybe swim. If I'm just going to be home, I welcome the visit. if I have plans, I will let them know and we usually make plans for another day.
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Post by SuPeaNatural on Jul 29, 2014 20:54:18 GMT
I like it when people just drop in, but if I'd had a couple of weeks like you describe Karmady, I wouldn't be too happy either, especially if I was just having my dinner.
But I think with a disabled son, other people, especially family, should perhaps be a bit more mindful of how things flow in your house and call first.
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Post by winogirl on Jul 29, 2014 21:18:35 GMT
yeah, it's not really the condition of my house that matters to me. If nothing else, my living room is company ready 99% of the time.
It just seems like such a disrespect of my time and boundaries. Like just because I'm home, I must not be doing anything, bored and just waiting for someone to rescue me from my state of lethargy.
I am also more of an introvert, so that might explain why it annoys me so much. I'm also a planner and I need to be in the right frame of mind for company. Just last Friday, dh's nephew called at 8:30 to see if we wanted to meet his new gf at the bar. Right now. Um, no, I'd have to shower, get dressed, do my makeup and I was already in a frame of mind that I'm going to stay home tonight. If he'd given me a couple hours heads up, I would have said yes. So we set up a plan to meet next Friday...that I can do.
I can understand dropping in on people in olden days, but now almost everyone has a cell phone, so there is no reason not to give someone a heads up.
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Post by theboydbunch on Jul 29, 2014 21:46:19 GMT
NO I do not like it at all. No no no no no. and...I may not answer the door, if I can help it!
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Post by betsy on Jul 29, 2014 21:59:09 GMT
Depends who it is.
Strangers? Next door neighbor who keeps wanting to peak inside and tell me he wants to buy the house we just bought a year ago? Nope, not opening the door.
Sister in law? Friendly neighbor down the street? Come on in! Have some coffee. Don't mind the mess!
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Post by hollymolly on Jul 29, 2014 23:54:32 GMT
That is me exactly. I used to be in the Hate It camp, but I've mellowed greatly over the last few years. I still hesitate when the doorbell rings unexpectedly, but mostly out of habit. If my house is messy or I'm bra-less, it's not a big deal. If it's a male visitor, I'll let them in and then excuse myself to put appropriate clothing on. If it's a female, well I'll just stay in my pj's.
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