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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 4:39:26 GMT
No, I don't like drop in visitors. My solutions are to not answer the door just because the bell was rung and I keep the front of the house closed (blinds and door) so no one can see if I am in or not.
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Post by cupcakepeddler on Jul 29, 2014 4:48:54 GMT
I never used to mind it at all when I was younger in fact I loved it when a surprise visitor would show up but since the children and becoming a stay at home mum I hate it. My house is always a mess, I am usually in daggy clothes and the floor always needs a vacuum. There is a mum at my kids school who always just drops in and for whatever reason its when I am sick or have guests over or am in the middle of something and I really can't stand it, she puts my whole day behind and I just feel awkward when it happens.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 29, 2014 4:53:21 GMT
Depends on the person. My immediate family or one of my very closest girlfriends? I don't care. Anyone else? I'd rather have a call.
I have one close girlfriend who lives in the same neighborhood. We have known each other for 20+ years. She has a key to my house and is always welcome. Her husband is a firefighter and she is a new mom so when her husband is working she will come and stay with us or I will go and stay with her. She has seen my house in disarray just like I have seen hers the same. No big deal.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 29, 2014 5:28:48 GMT
Depends who it is. Friends and close family take you as they find you.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 29, 2014 5:31:38 GMT
I do not like it and I think in this day and age with cell phones that there is no reason not to call or text if you want to drop by.
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Post by MaryMary on Jul 29, 2014 5:33:49 GMT
I wish that it didn't bother me, but my house and I are always a bit of a disaster.
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Post by wholarmor on Jul 29, 2014 5:45:40 GMT
I hate it. There were a couple of times when we were first married(no kids) when we were doing what married couples do. Friends dropped by unannounced. We didn't answer the door to one of our friends, but DH's friend showed up once, and didn't stop knocking, and when no one answered the front door, he knocked on the sliding glass door that goes to our bedroom from our deck. It's a good thing that the curtain was closed, but he figured out what was going on when DH went to the front door with his bathrobe. I had another friend who dropped by, and got all mad because we weren't home, and she had walked over. Problem would have been solved if she had made sure that we were home first.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 5:53:09 GMT
I don't care if someone shows up. If my house is not company ready and I'm in my pajamas, they can deal with it. I could not care less what visitors think of my home or appearance. If I have plans to go somewhere, I let them know. I've had a couple of people drop by when my son was having in home therapy. Met them at the door and said it wasn't a good time. Only took a minute.
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Post by tuesdaysgone on Jul 29, 2014 10:38:36 GMT
I don't appreciate the drop ins at all! It's not so much about a messy house or the fact that I'm probably already in my PJs, I just want my home to be my fortress of solitude. If you are an introvert, you understand completely.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 11:00:46 GMT
Most of the time, I don't like it. I'm an introvert and prefer to be alone most days. I spend my days knitting or sewing so my craft area can be a mess at any given time.
Give me a heads up so I could make sure there's not fabric everywhere.
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Post by purplebee on Jul 29, 2014 11:06:27 GMT
I definitely need warning ... I'm an introvert so I need to have some time to mentally prepare and then I also usually need to pick up a bit ... I'm not so much of an introvert as a crappy housekeeper, so yes, I do want some notice so I can pick up. HATE the knock on the door which finds me sitting reading or peaing in my messy messy house! This ecard sums it up!
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Post by ScrapsontheRocks on Jul 29, 2014 11:16:37 GMT
Hate it hate it hate it! I have not read past pg 1 yet so I am not sure if you have had this advice: CCTV above the door! Even if my house is perfect and I am semi-dressed up, my time is my time and I like lots of time alone. If I am prepared, mentally, for "people" I am guaranteed to be nicer. I love company, but not all the time. I work from my home office, BTW, and part of my uncompromising stance is because most of the women in my family are SAHM's and seem to think I have too much free time ETA: busypea said it better.
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Post by I-95 on Jul 29, 2014 11:17:38 GMT
Nope.
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Post by prettyprettypaper on Jul 29, 2014 11:19:01 GMT
It's one of my biggest pet peeves! I simply don't answer the door -- unless I'm expecting the mail lady to drop off some happy mail for me that day (usually sb supplies, LOL). There are a few reasons why I don't like it. Either myself or my teenager may not be presentable at the moment. My little one could possibly be taking a nap, and someone knocking on the door or ringing the doorbell could wake her up. Another reason is that I could be in the middle of something like cooking dinner. I really hate when people come over and park their butts on my couch completely oblivious to the fact that I am trying to get things done. My feeling is, if I didn't invite you over, I am not going to stop what I'm doing to entertain you. I have things to do! Over the years, I stopped feeling bad about not letting people in. I just keep it simple now by not answering the door.
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Post by gar on Jul 29, 2014 11:21:38 GMT
I don't care if someone shows up. If my house is not company ready and I'm in my pajamas, they can deal with it. I could not care less what visitors think of my home or appearance. If I have plans to go somewhere, I let them know. I've had a couple of people drop by when my son was having in home therapy. Met them at the door and said it wasn't a good time. Only took a minute. That's me generally....with the exception of 1 or 2 people I never want to see anyway If people turn up unannounced they must expect for everything not to be pristine and perfect - but I'm sure they didn't come to inspect my housekeeping skills or what I'm wearing - they came to see us/me. I'm surprised at the vehemence of feelings expressed here! though. I get it, each to their own, but I am surprised.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jul 29, 2014 11:24:40 GMT
Hate it! The only people I don't mind doing it is my parents.
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Post by prettyprettypaper on Jul 29, 2014 11:31:27 GMT
I'm surprised at the vehemence of feelings expressed here! though. I get it, each to their own, but I am surprised. For some, it could be the way they were raised. I know that is the case for me. My mother always insisted that the house be spotless when guests would come over. It was usually spotless at all times anyway. My friends used to call me Cinderella because I always had to go home and help clean the house. Also, I was taught to always call first before going to someone's house. That was a big no-no in my Mom's book. It surprises me when people think it's perfectly fine to drop in on someone unannounced, even more so when I meet people who have family or friends that just walk in and out of their homes whenever they feel like it.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 29, 2014 11:36:49 GMT
... I'm surprised at the vehemence of feelings expressed here! though. I get it, each to their own, but I am surprised. Me too. 'Appen it's a UK v US thingy.
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Post by 1lear on Jul 29, 2014 11:50:03 GMT
I hate it. Hate, hate, hate it. I am a total introvert and just cannot appreciate people who stop by without at least calling. This! I don't blame you for being put out-just about everybody has cell phones nowadays so they could have called (even 10 minutes in advance would have given you a chance to tidy). Most of the time, I change into comfy clothes when I get home-anybody dropping by unannounced is likely to see my in a t-shirt, no bra, and lounge pants.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 12:15:21 GMT
We used to drop in on MIL once in a blue moon when DH and I were married all those years ago. She was always ready for us to drop in though. Those were her favourite visits. Surprise and so excited to see us without asking us to come.
No one drops in on my family in Canada but the missionaries and they leave promptly when they get scared off by 2 big barking dogs. My mom's friends don't drop in or anything.
Then there was my sister who was in TEARS crying that we never dropped IN. Never ever dropped in to see her just because. We went over there all the time but it was never just to drop in. We called first and let her know we were coming. She wanted the element of surprise. Can't win for losing I am afraid.
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Post by phoenixcov on Jul 29, 2014 12:18:40 GMT
Half an hours notice will get you a warm reception, unannounced might be an unopened door. Sorry but I think it`s bad manners to expect people to drop whatever they were doing to entertain you.
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Post by LauraTen on Jul 29, 2014 12:22:45 GMT
That is so not OK. I would say it's not a good time. That way they might see that they are out of line.
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Post by beachhappy22 on Jul 29, 2014 12:47:21 GMT
I hate it. Hate, hate, hate it. I am a total introvert and just cannot appreciate people who stop by without at least calling. This!
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Post by Rachel on Jul 29, 2014 14:57:59 GMT
I don't mind, but if I'm not in the mood I just won't answer the door.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Jul 29, 2014 15:21:49 GMT
I absolutely hate when someone does that and it doesn't matter if you are a friend or family. I think it is rude and I would never do that to someone else. MIL and FIL used to do that all the time, we finally told them that we hated when they did that, they were offended and said they had an open door policy sorry but we don't and expect a call before you come over and not 10 mins before you get there!
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Post by 2peafaithful on Jul 29, 2014 15:27:46 GMT
No, I don't like it for the most part. Sometimes it works out beautifully but other times not so much. A neighbor/friend drops by about twice a year to give me a flyer for a home party. Months ago when she did it I was horrible ill. Than this time I was just tired, had put on my pj's and was surprised to have a visitor. I guess my expression showed that. She said are you feeling OK?!!? I said, yes but we just got back from vacation and I am tired. I suppose I should have appeared to be someplace that I just wasn't but I don't do that well.
Sometimes a friend will stop by and it will be like a ray of sunshine and surprise. I love it when that happens! But if you come by unannounced don't ask me if I am ill or am OK.
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Post by lbp on Jul 29, 2014 15:29:15 GMT
Doesn't bother me a bit. My motto is if you are coming to see me, come on. If you are coming to see my house, make an appointment! My house is usually clean enough for drop-ins.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 15:41:59 GMT
I didn't used to mind it...but the older I get the more I mind...not sure why...but again we all have such precious little free time...its nice to choose how we spend it!
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Post by tallgirl on Jul 29, 2014 15:48:52 GMT
NO.
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Post by Barbie on Jul 29, 2014 16:00:50 GMT
I used to enjoy it. Then when I married my last husband, he was such an unbelievable slob, I couldn't have anyone in the house without at least 30 minutes notice so I could clean up after him. (I gave up trying to keep up with it just because.) When I got sick, it was really bad--not only could I not keep up with the house, but I rarely got dressed other than yoga pants and a tshirt. Thankfully, we lived so far out in the sticks, no one ever popped in. Now that the slob ex is gone, I don't worry so much about the house--though given 5 minutes, I'd sweep up cat litter and cat hair. But with all the weight I gained being sick, I still only wear yoga pants if I'm at home. So I would appreciate at least 10 minutes notice to change clothes.
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