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Post by ukfan on Mar 18, 2016 18:09:49 GMT
Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here. ? ? ? I realize we all participate differently here, but I'm having a hard time following this. People are just asking a general question about where she's been because they've missed her posts, or are hoping she's doing well after a period of her struggling and sharing about that here. I don't think anyone has intention of dragging her back to a place that will negatively affect her life (not really up to any of us to assume/decide) simply because they want her here. Good grief. And how is this dissing the people who are here? Agreed. I don't know what happened - don't remembering reading. If I missed someone and wanted to "check in" on a message - not sure how that is a bad thing.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Mar 18, 2016 18:13:21 GMT
I think what voltagain is trying to say is that it appeared that this was a vortex for Ashley, therefore it is good that she stopped coming. And sometimes, asking about people like this results in them returning. They say HI and mean to leave, but are sucked back into the people and the threads and the daily communication. Volt isn't wanting that for Ashley. That was a lot of projecting on Volt's part. Plus, why didn't she just say that nicely instead of berating everybody? In my post above I said I understood why Ashley might not be coming back here and I get the whole vortex thing, but somebody just simply asking about her is not some malicious thing designed to suck her back in her. I thing Volt suggesting going off the board to get in touch with her is much more intrusive then just tagging her on a thread here (which she won't see unless she comes back anyway).
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Post by LiLi on Mar 18, 2016 18:19:40 GMT
Well, she lives near Toronto and I live near Denver, so real life is out. We have a neat little invention called a telephone. It works great in real life. But before people hand out their phone numbers you have to get beyond the superficial anonymous "know". It scares me over how many of you seem to think we know each other here and yet, you don't know the basics of even a name. Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here. So think about why you chose to lecture people on this post... What is the benefit to them? If it doesn't benefit them, you are doing it for selfish reasons, like the poster who likes to give out unwanted advice because it makes them feel superior. And, you are sort of dissing the people that are here. But one more thing. I usually think your advice is smart and maybe blunt, but not usually like this. /shrug
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Post by mellyw on Mar 18, 2016 18:22:26 GMT
And another thread bites the dust...... (If you don't hear Queen sing We Are The Champions as you read that, you're doing it wrong.) I've got Hotel California running thru my head. And now I'm worried were showing our ages with the song choices.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 18:25:41 GMT
And another thread bites the dust...... (If you don't hear Queen sing We Are The Champions as you read that, you're doing it wrong.) I've got Hotel California running thru my head. And now I'm worried were showing our ages with the song choices. Those songs are classic and ageless. I've been surprised before when my kids know a song I think is old, but then thinking about it, many are just classics. Think how many songs you know and appreciate from your parents era.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 18, 2016 18:27:27 GMT
I feel like I didn't convey what I was intending to in my earlier post and have offended everyone. My apologies. I in no way intend to insinuate that Ashley or anyone else has an Internet addiction.
GENERALLY speaking, I think we can all relate to coming here (or any other board or blog or news site or whatever) for a quick update and end up getting sucked in and spending more time than intended. Therefore, someone (again, generally speaking) who was busy or had other reasons for not wanting to get "distracted" by the site would choose not to come at all for a while. That was how I read Volt's post. It's entirely possible I completely missed the mark.
If Ashley is reading this, please accept my sincere apology if I came across as judgmental or assuming.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Mar 18, 2016 18:31:33 GMT
I feel like I didn't convey what I was intending to in my earlier post and have offended everyone. My apologies. I in no way intend to insinuate that Ashley or anyone else has an Internet addiction.
GENERALLY speaking, I think we can all relate to coming here (or any other board or blog or news site or whatever) for a quick update and end up getting sucked in and spending more time than intended. Therefore, someone (again, generally speaking) who was busy or had other reasons for not wanting to get "distracted" by the site would choose not to come at all for a while. That was how I read Volt's post. It's entirely possible I completely missed the mark.
If Ashley is reading this, please accept my sincere apology if I came across as judgmental or assuming. I understand what you are saying and I would gather most people here get internet addiction, or at the very least how easy it is to fall down the 2peas rabbit hole. What I think many of us are objecting too is Volt's handslaps like this (which I still don't fully comprehend): Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here.
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 18, 2016 18:46:54 GMT
flute4peace Don't stress over it. I (at least) understand since you clarified your response. What many are responding to is the way Volt has decided she is superior to the rest of us at knowing we are out to be busybodies and hurt Ashley in some way when someone was merely showing concern. Her subsequent responses just don't make sense. To be honest, I would say this is outside of Volt's normal posting behavior and has me somewhat concerned. She can be blunt but I have never seen her post like this. BUT I don't want to be a busybody and get all up in her business so I'll just mosey on down the road.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 18, 2016 18:51:46 GMT
I feel like I didn't convey what I was intending to in my earlier post and have offended everyone. My apologies. I in no way intend to insinuate that Ashley or anyone else has an Internet addiction.
GENERALLY speaking, I think we can all relate to coming here (or any other board or blog or news site or whatever) for a quick update and end up getting sucked in and spending more time than intended. Therefore, someone (again, generally speaking) who was busy or had other reasons for not wanting to get "distracted" by the site would choose not to come at all for a while. That was how I read Volt's post. It's entirely possible I completely missed the mark.
If Ashley is reading this, please accept my sincere apology if I came across as judgmental or assuming. I understand what you are saying and I would gather most people here get internet addiction, or at the very least how easy it is to fall down the 2peas rabbit hole. What I think many of us are objecting too is Volt's handslaps like this (which I still don't fully comprehend): Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here. My only comments directly pertaining to Ashley were saying that I hoped she was doing ok.
My other comments were trying to explain my interpretation of what Volt was trying to say.
I'm really embarrassed that it came across as otherwise. I love it here and consider this one of my favorite places to hang out. I hope I haven't jeopardized that.
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Post by moveablefeast on Mar 18, 2016 18:52:21 GMT
I'll just say that Ashley is one of those peas I wished I was friends with in real life because she comes across to me as a big hearted, interesting woman. So if she is reading this I will bypass all the commentary and say - wishing your family all the best.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 18:53:06 GMT
My other comments were trying to explain my interpretation of what Volt was trying to say.
I'm really embarrassed that it came across as otherwise. I love it here and consider this one of my favorite places to hang out. I hope I haven't jeopardized that. I honestly can't see where you have posted anything to worry about.
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 18, 2016 18:54:18 GMT
flute4peace Don't stress over it. I (at least) understand since you clarified your response. What many are responding to is the way Volt has decided she is superior to the rest of us at knowing we are out to be busybodies and hurt Ashley in some way when someone was merely showing concern. Her subsequent responses just don't make sense. To be honest, I would say this is outside of Volt's normal posting behavior and has me somewhat concerned. She can be blunt but I have never seen her post like this. BUT I don't want to be a busybody and get all up in her business so I'll just mosey on down the road. Thank you for saying that. And I agree with you. I hope Volt is ok, as well. I'll mosey right on down with you.
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Post by pudgygroundhog on Mar 18, 2016 18:55:30 GMT
I understand what you are saying and I would gather most people here get internet addiction, or at the very least how easy it is to fall down the 2peas rabbit hole. What I think many of us are objecting too is Volt's handslaps like this (which I still don't fully comprehend): Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here. My only comments directly pertaining to Ashley were saying that I hoped she was doing ok.
My other comments were trying to explain my interpretation of what Volt was trying to say.
I'm really embarrassed that it came across as otherwise. I love it here and consider this one of my favorite places to hang out. I hope I haven't jeopardized that.
Yes, I think us drunks are going to banish you now to some Memory Makers board or something. We're going to reverse Hotel California you!
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Post by flute4peace on Mar 18, 2016 19:02:26 GMT
My only comments directly pertaining to Ashley were saying that I hoped she was doing ok.
My other comments were trying to explain my interpretation of what Volt was trying to say.
I'm really embarrassed that it came across as otherwise. I love it here and consider this one of my favorite places to hang out. I hope I haven't jeopardized that.
Yes, I think us drunks are going to banish you now to some Memory Makers board or something. We're going to reverse Hotel California you!
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 18, 2016 20:44:21 GMT
Is this a bad time to wonder how penny is? I was thinking I haven't seen any posts from her in a while. ETA I'm an idiot cos she posted a few days ago It's seems like it's fine to wonder how someone is as long as you don't have the nerve to ASK how they are.
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Post by Sam on Mar 18, 2016 20:49:27 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Mar 18, 2016 21:06:20 GMT
I think I'm in the cut rate tier.
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Post by oaksong on Mar 18, 2016 21:08:43 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there. Don't worry, with the political climate here, things are going to ratchet up soon enough. Lots of slapping and punching for all to take part in! Ashley, I hope you are enjoying this thread (classic Peanuttery ), and I hope you are doing well.
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Post by craftykitten on Mar 18, 2016 21:10:06 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there. If I am really annoyed can I just go for the throat chop?
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 18, 2016 21:11:03 GMT
It was a joke... i don't remember who started it on the old board... but it's basically based on who you are and how much you post.... it doesn't happen here but on the old board who you "are" made a difference... i said it all in fun here... if you are a big poster or polarizing it will be noticed when you stop... Im definitely not tier 1... lol but i feel like a member of this community… I post a lot but I am from more of a live and let live in most cases. I only have a few hot button issues. I like to think of this as a place where I can get my girl time in. There are no females in my family and my friends all work and some have very needy husbands.
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Post by Sam on Mar 18, 2016 21:11:32 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there. If I am really annoyed can I just go for the throat chop? The throat chop might just be a tier too far!
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 18, 2016 21:13:04 GMT
I feel like I didn't convey what I was intending to in my earlier post and have offended everyone. My apologies. I in no way intend to insinuate that Ashley or anyone else has an Internet addiction.
GENERALLY speaking, I think we can all relate to coming here (or any other board or blog or news site or whatever) for a quick update and end up getting sucked in and spending more time than intended. Therefore, someone (again, generally speaking) who was busy or had other reasons for not wanting to get "distracted" by the site would choose not to come at all for a while. That was how I read Volt's post. It's entirely possible I completely missed the mark.
If Ashley is reading this, please accept my sincere apology if I came across as judgmental or assuming. I get what you're saying, and don't think you're coming across judgmental at all. That's the HUGE difference between your post and Volts. Hers were condescending and aggressive, out of nowhere. She couldn't possibly have know what my reasons were for asking about Ashley. I could've sent her a PM asking how she was. We have "talked" that way multiple times in the past, so we have conversed a little bit more personally than just on threads. The biggest reason I didn't was because I thought some other peas may have noticed she hasn't been posting and cared how she's doing too. Just because she hasn't been posting doesn't mean she never comes by and reads. I think going to other social media sites and asking her to come back to update, might be "sucking her back into the vortex", or "peatle-juicing" her. I'm not stalking her, calling the police in her hometown, demanding she appear and entertain me, or anything of the sort.
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 18, 2016 21:14:06 GMT
And another thread bites the dust...... (If you don't hear Queen sing We Are The Champions as you read that, you're doing it wrong.) I've got Hotel California running thru my head. And now I'm worried were showing our ages with the song choices. Ya both are old. 1976 and 1977. I see it more as Miley Cyrus "Wrecking Ball. " Just kidding.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 18, 2016 21:15:01 GMT
While my feelings wouldn't be hurt, I'd miss you. Not only are you a cat person, but you're also a nurse and I think you rock! Grumble grumble, ok, lol. And what about the nail threads? Lol
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Post by mellyw on Mar 18, 2016 21:20:22 GMT
I've got Hotel California running thru my head. And now I'm worried were showing our ages with the song choices. Ya both are old. 1976 and 1977. I see it more as Miley Cyrus "Wrecking Ball. " Just kidding. Hey now, GiaLuPea said those are classics. So I'm referring to myself as Old Classy B*tch!
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Post by Kerri W on Mar 18, 2016 21:26:15 GMT
I'm not stalking her, calling the police in her hometown, demanding she appear and entertain me, or anything of the sort. Amateur.
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 18, 2016 21:33:48 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there. This was my first time being slapped at all, and apparently a hand slapping wasn't even sufficient! I could've come up with something much more offensive to bring about a face slapping!
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2016 21:36:24 GMT
I liked Ashley and I think that she always coped well with discussion no matter which way it went. I hope she is doing well and has worked out some of the issues she had going on. I am also a little curious as to the 'new' layer of slapping we now seem to have. What constitutes a hand slap as opposed to a face slap? Not that I don't mind this new level of aggression when applied appropriately, I just wouldn't want to face slap when a hand slap would have been more accepted. Maybe, next time there's a really juicy thread, I'll introduce the handfacepunch and just get everything out there. This was my first time being slapped at all, and apparently a hand slapping wasn't even sufficient! I could've come up with something much more offensive to bring about a face slapping! Try the threads about that sports reporter who got videotaped through a peephole. I was quite successful there. LOL
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 21:51:30 GMT
I think I'm in the cut rate tier. What? The tiers are back? Yeah!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 23:00:04 GMT
Ya both are old. 1976 and 1977. I see it more as Miley Cyrus "Wrecking Ball. " Just kidding. Hey now, GiaLuPea said those are classics. So I'm referring to myself as Old Classy B*tch! Wouldn't that be an Ageless Classic B*tch?
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