my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 17, 2016 17:19:29 GMT
I hope everything is ok! I haven't seen any posts by Ashley in quite a while, and know that she had been pretty overwhelmed with her work schedule and some personal issues. ashley please come let us know how you're doing! |
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Mar 17, 2016 17:35:02 GMT
I'm also wondering where she is! Hope you're doing well, ashley! |
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Post by cecilia on Mar 17, 2016 17:45:13 GMT
I have seen some sewing project posts on Instagram from her in the past couple weeks.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2016 18:06:40 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape.
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Post by gar on Mar 17, 2016 18:09:14 GMT
I asked a couple of weeks ago amid a thread about something that seemed pertinent to Ashley but I don't think she popped in. I don't know her surname to go searching for her on Facebook etc but she might like knowing she's missed.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2016 18:22:05 GMT
I think I remember that Ashley was under a great deal of stress, looked for support and help here, and was stomped on by a number of people. I don't blame her for leaving or taking a break.
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Post by Nanner on Mar 17, 2016 18:24:29 GMT
I think I remember that Ashley was under a great deal of stress, looked for support and help here, and was stomped on by a number of people. I don't blame her for leaving or taking a break. I agree. Some people got pretty rough on her. |
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Post by chaosisapony on Mar 17, 2016 18:50:57 GMT
I see her pinning quilting projects often.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2016 19:51:16 GMT
I asked a couple of weeks ago amid a thread about something that seemed pertinent to Ashley but I don't think she popped in. I don't know her surname to go searching for her on Facebook etc but she might like knowing she's missed.  |
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Post by KelleeM on Mar 17, 2016 21:09:01 GMT
I messaged her on Facebook several weeks ago when someone asked about her and she said she's doing well.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 17, 2016 21:14:03 GMT
She blogged a few days ago so she's still around and being crafty.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Mar 17, 2016 22:28:35 GMT
Didn't she actually say she was going to take a step back for a bit?
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Mar 17, 2016 22:37:26 GMT
I miss her and her beautiful projects she made. I always enjoyed seeing her cakes she would make for her girls bdays. Lots of talent she has  hope she is doing well. |
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Post by Zee on Mar 17, 2016 22:47:35 GMT
Well after the way her "considering nursing" thread went, and wondering if it's time for a divorce/separation, and musings on how working wasn't as fulfilling as being a student, I'm not surprised if she wanted a break. She got some gentle and some not-so-gentle opinions on what direction to take with her professional and personal life. Some of it was kind of harsh, though I think most people were coming from a good place.
I bet she will be back when she feels more settled or happy with her personal life.
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Post by katybee on Mar 17, 2016 23:09:24 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape. This makes me really sad. Do you really think this place is so bad that you have to "escape"? Because I know a lot of us actually enjoy this place and come here for advice, support, humor, debate... And we actually enjoy it. I agree that people were a little harsh with Ashley, but she got just as much support and kind words. She's a big girl and can handle it. You may have meant your post as a joke. But it just came across as bitter and a condescending slap to those of us that are still here in the "vortex." |
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Post by gar on Mar 17, 2016 23:24:53 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape. This makes me really sad. Do you really think this place is so bad that you have to "escape"? Because I know a lot of us actually enjoy this place and come here for advice, support, humor, debate... And we actually enjoy it. I agree that people were a little harsh with Ashley, but she got just as much support and kind words. She's a big girl and can handle it. You may have meant your post as a joke. But it just came across as bitter and a condescending slap to those of us that are still here in the "vortex." I must admit I wasn't quite sure how to take your comments voltagain..... |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 0:20:24 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape. This makes me really sad. Do you really think this place is so bad that you have to "escape"? Because I know a lot of us actually enjoy this place and come here for advice, support, humor, debate... And we actually enjoy it. I agree that people were a little harsh with Ashley, but she got just as much support and kind words. She's a big girl and can handle it. You may have meant your post as a joke. But it just came across as bitter and a condescending slap to those of us that are still here in the "vortex." I absolutely do not mean it as a joke. I am dead serious and it is not a hand slap. It is a slap across the face. Make no mistake about it. For all who come for what ever reason, you feel you get something from it; fine. Great even. For those who STOP coming, what right does anyone have to call them back? We are like a bunch of alcoholics who can't stand it if a "old buddy" (we don't even know their name) stops showing up. WE are going to go find him and haul him back to the bar to drink because we can't bear to think that just maybe we too should spend a little more time doing something else. When Ashley stopped posting it was very apparent this was NOT a good place for her. She was very stressed over lack of time with her family and lack of time for her crafting, yet she spent the precious few free hours she had here where she was not deriving any benefit to her. Calling her back does not do her any benefit but steal her time from her family and her life. It just makes a bunch of people who didn't even pay attention to her real name feel good. You benefit from it. She doesn't. If you really care about someone on this board, get to know them off the board. Then when they disappear you can get in touch with them. But if you don't care enough to know while they are active don't get sobby and pretend to care after they leave. Let them leave in peace. |
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Mar 18, 2016 0:24:37 GMT
Excellent posts, voltagain, and ITA.
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2016 0:26:15 GMT
This makes me really sad. Do you really think this place is so bad that you have to "escape"? Because I know a lot of us actually enjoy this place and come here for advice, support, humor, debate... And we actually enjoy it. I agree that people were a little harsh with Ashley, but she got just as much support and kind words. She's a big girl and can handle it. You may have meant your post as a joke. But it just came across as bitter and a condescending slap to those of us that are still here in the "vortex." I absolutely do not mean it as a joke. I am dead serious and it is not a hand slap. It is a slap across the face. Make no mistake about it. For all who come for what ever reason, you feel you get something from it; fine. Great even. For those who STOP coming, what right does anyone have to call them back? We are like a bunch of alcoholics who can't stand it if a "old buddy" (we don't even know their name) stops showing up. WE are going to go find him and haul him back to the bar to drink because we can't bear to think that just maybe we too should spend a little more time doing something else. When Ashley stopped posting it was very apparent this was NOT a good place for her. She was very stressed over lack of time with her family and lack of time for her crafting, yet she spent the precious few free hours she had here where she was not deriving any benefit to her. Calling her back does not do her any benefit but steal her time from her family and her life. It just makes a bunch of people who didn't even pay attention to her real name feel good. You benefit from it. She doesn't. If you really care about someone on this board, get to know them off the board. Then when they disappear you can get in touch with them. But if you don't care enough to know while they are active don't get sobby and pretend to care after they leave. Let them leave in peace. I think you're taking it way too seriously, honestly. Maybe you're projecting your own feelings about the time you spend on the internet onto everyone else. I bet most of us don't feel we're trapped here, unable to escape, and should just ignore those who disappear. And FTR, I'm not interested in knowing anyone off the board, but if I did...what's the difference between bothering them that way, or tagging them here? Tagging them here is a lot less intrusive. Simply tagging them here or asking isn't going to drag anyone back, they'd have to be reading here anyway to see it. That or someone who knows them in real life bugged them about it. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 0:51:05 GMT
I absolutely do not mean it as a joke. I am dead serious and it is not a hand slap. It is a slap across the face. Make no mistake about it. For all who come for what ever reason, you feel you get something from it; fine. Great even. For those who STOP coming, what right does anyone have to call them back? We are like a bunch of alcoholics who can't stand it if a "old buddy" (we don't even know their name) stops showing up. WE are going to go find him and haul him back to the bar to drink because we can't bear to think that just maybe we too should spend a little more time doing something else. When Ashley stopped posting it was very apparent this was NOT a good place for her. She was very stressed over lack of time with her family and lack of time for her crafting, yet she spent the precious few free hours she had here where she was not deriving any benefit to her. Calling her back does not do her any benefit but steal her time from her family and her life. It just makes a bunch of people who didn't even pay attention to her real name feel good. You benefit from it. She doesn't. If you really care about someone on this board, get to know them off the board. Then when they disappear you can get in touch with them. But if you don't care enough to know while they are active don't get sobby and pretend to care after they leave. Let them leave in peace. I think you're taking it way too seriously, honestly. Maybe you're projecting your own feelings about the time you spend on the internet onto everyone else. I bet most of us don't feel we're trapped here, unable to escape, and should just ignore those who disappear. And FTR, I'm not interested in knowing anyone off the board, but if I did...what's the difference between bothering them that way, or tagging them here? Tagging them here is a lot less intrusive. Simply tagging them here or asking isn't going to drag anyone back, they'd have to be reading here anyway to see it. That or someone who knows them in real life bugged them about it. If you don't feel trapped FANTANSTIC. It really is. I don't feel trapped. But I know plenty of women who do make a decision to leave that is hard for them to make. They CAN'T say no to anyone because it would hurt feelings. They are trapped because they can't leave and hurt people. Posters want them to come back here to be checked on. Then they have to remake the difficult decision to leave AGAIN. If you really want to know about someone go to them. Don't be calling them back and hoping some other pea will pass on the information for them to check in. If they wanted to check in they will. If you have to ask then it is for your benefit. Not theirs. |
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2016 1:01:19 GMT
You sound kind of bitter, to be honest. Do you want to leave but worry about hurting feelings?
I'm quite sure no one is going to have hurt feelings if I leave. I guess that's another good reason to keep some distance, I guess. If I wanted to leave I just would, and I wouldn't be lurking around to see if anyone mentioned me. No big deal.
I really find it hard to believe that anyone here wants to leave but is too worried about being dragged back to do it. Weird.
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Post by flanz on Mar 18, 2016 1:02:35 GMT
I think I remember that Ashley was under a great deal of stress, looked for support and help here, and was stomped on by a number of people. I don't blame her for leaving or taking a break. This is what I am thinking too. I almost posted this exact same question yesterday, wanting Ashley to know that she is missed! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 18, 2016 1:04:43 GMT
If you really care about someone on this board, get to know them off the board. Then when they disappear you can get in touch with them. And FTR, I'm not interested in knowing anyone off the board, but if I did...what's the difference between bothering them that way, or tagging them here? Tagging them here is a lot less intrusive. Simply tagging them here or asking isn't going to drag anyone back, they'd have to be reading here anyway to see it. That or someone who knows them in real life bugged them about it. I agree with that totally. If Ashley has made a decision to remove herself from this board (for whatever reason) then tagging her here - where she won't even see it - is a LOT less intrusive than contacting her through Facebook where she most definitely will see it. |
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Post by lumo on Mar 18, 2016 1:05:33 GMT
Well.
This escalated quickly.
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 18, 2016 1:09:12 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape. Well, she lives near Toronto and I live near Denver, so real life is out. |
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 18, 2016 1:17:23 GMT
You sound kind of bitter, to be honest. Do you want to leave but worry about hurting feelings? I'm quite sure no one is going to have hurt feelings if I leave. I guess that's another good reason to keep some distance, I guess. If I wanted to leave I just would, and I wouldn't be lurking around to see if anyone mentioned me. No big deal. I really find it hard to believe that anyone here wants to leave but is too worried about being dragged back to do it. Weird. While my feelings wouldn't be hurt, I'd miss you. Not only are you a cat person, but you're also a nurse and I think you rock! |
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2016 1:20:20 GMT
You sound kind of bitter, to be honest. Do you want to leave but worry about hurting feelings? I'm quite sure no one is going to have hurt feelings if I leave. I guess that's another good reason to keep some distance, I guess. If I wanted to leave I just would, and I wouldn't be lurking around to see if anyone mentioned me. No big deal. I really find it hard to believe that anyone here wants to leave but is too worried about being dragged back to do it. Weird. While my feelings wouldn't be hurt, I'd miss you. Not only are you a cat person, but you're also a nurse and I think you rock! Grumble grumble, ok, lol. |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2016 1:21:34 GMT
Given the stress she was under trying to juggle her expectations of life, a horrible commute and stuff... I hope she does not respond to this thread. She made a successful escape from our hotel California. No one here needs to know if she is ok by sucking her back into the vortex. She had a blog and an instagram account. Friend her on social media. Friend her in real life. Don't go peatle juicing people who made a successful escape. Well, she lives near Toronto and I live near Denver, so real life is out. We have a neat little invention called a telephone. It works great in real life. But before people hand out their phone numbers you have to get beyond the superficial anonymous "know". It scares me over how many of you seem to think we know each other here and yet, you don't know the basics of even a name. Think about why you want her here... what is the benefit to HER. If it doesn't benefit her you are asking for selfish reasons like the aunt who can't be bothered to come visit you ever. You have to go to her. And you are sort of dissing the people who are here. |
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my3freaks
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Post by my3freaks on Mar 18, 2016 1:27:09 GMT
Well. This escalated quickly. I know, very unexpected.  |
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Post by Zee on Mar 18, 2016 1:29:25 GMT
Yeah, stalk her in real life rather than simply posting a hey, hope you're doing well here on the board WHERE YOU MET and would be likely to cross paths. No one here is saying they "know" her and therefore feel entitled to special information, they're just asking. WHY this is a big deal is beyond me. The only time I get alarmed by people is when they start going on about contacting them IRL.  ? I've got to get out of the vortex of this thread, nighty night. |
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hope she is doing well. 
