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Post by paigepea on Mar 23, 2016 0:46:32 GMT
This may not be related but I need to ask, why a 7 year old needed a sweater that cost $70. I understand it was part of their uniform, but $70. I agree with the others, she's only 7. Take her to Goodwill and buy another sweater for $4. This is part of her school uniform. It is a crested sweater we have to buy from a particular place. All the kids match. Of course I think it is too expensive but I have no choice other than changing schools.
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Post by lurkingsince2001 on Mar 23, 2016 0:46:46 GMT
First of all, glad you are feeling better.
Let me see if I've got this straight in my head: the school requires the sweater and/or pullover as part of a uniform? The cost is $70? That boggles my mind. There is so much I could say there. How much is the rest of the uniform? That's a lot to shell out every year! I'll leave it at ridiculous and I hope you are getting your money's worth.
But with prices and expectations that outrageous, and it being the common state of little kids to lose things occasionally, surely the school is prepared for such eventualities? Or at least a realistic, forward thinking parent has set up a swap board or used-uniform group? There's no way you are the only parent to ever face this.
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Post by jenjie on Mar 23, 2016 0:51:17 GMT
Ds11 managed to LOSE lose his good LL Bean winter coat at school last year. It was never found. He's been wearing a hoodless hand me down this year. Last week ds17 and I were prom shopping at the mall. Sears had a clearance rack with $90 coats marked down, I got it for something like $15. Ds didn't want it. But he couldn't guarantee he wouldn't lose it. So I said too bad so sad. He is already wearing it bc it has a hood. LOL
I definitely understand the school uniform problem. Any old sweater won't do. Is there someone you can buy a used on from?
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Post by grammadee on Mar 23, 2016 1:02:15 GMT
Here is an idea to prevent the next time...
when one of my sons was about that age, he kept forgetting to bring home the books he needed for homework. Problem was his backpack was in his locker and his books were in his desk. At end of day, he would grab an armload of books and head out to the locker (often textbooks that did not match notebooks, no study notes, etc)
I asked him what it would take to make sure the right books and papers came home. He told me that if his book bag was in the classroom with him, he could put the books he needed into it at the end of each class. I thought it was a great idea and went to bat for him with the teachers. Guess what? They started letting all the kids keep their bags under their chairs during class. And the kids started getting their stuff where it needed to go...
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Post by Woobster on Mar 23, 2016 1:04:14 GMT
How could a 7 year old work off $70.00? Again she is 7, not 12 or 17, just 7! Teacher's don't have time to check every child for whatever the parent wants them to check for. Chores? Good behavior? Good reports from teacher? Playing nicely with friends/ siblings? Im not suggesting hard labor, but 7 year olds are certainly capable of chores.
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Post by paigepea on Mar 23, 2016 1:15:52 GMT
First of all, glad you are feeling better. Let me see if I've got this straight in my head: the school requires the sweater and/or pullover as part of a uniform? The cost is $70? That boggles my mind. There is so much I could say there. How much is the rest of the uniform? That's a lot to shell out every year! I'll leave it at ridiculous and I hope you are getting your money's worth. But with prices and expectations that outrageous, and it being the common state of little kids to lose things occasionally, surely the school is prepared for such eventualities? Or at least a realistic, forward thinking parent has set up a swap board or used-uniform group? There's no way you are the only parent to ever face this. Yes - too much money for a school uniform! I usually pass down from older dd but for this size I never bought older dd a cardigan because she preferred a vest, and older dd's pullover was from the used uniform sale and looked tattered so I bit the bullet this year and bought little dd 2 sweaters. I've bought from the used uniform sale a lot in the past but last three years ago the school changed logos and asked us to not wear the old logo after 3 years. I have enough sweaters for little dd for the next 3 years. But I will have to buy her a sweater to finish off this year. I think the cost is crazy. But older dd is changing schools next year and her uniform will cost even more so I can't complain. At the current school I can get away with 1 regulation skort for special days but the rest from target and no one can tell the difference!
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Post by styxgirl on Mar 23, 2016 1:17:42 GMT
Before I spend $70 on a new sweater, I would be checking at the Goodwill.
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Post by johnnysmom on Mar 23, 2016 1:18:32 GMT
Does your older daughter have a spare sweater (maybe even hand me down) that ydd could "rent" from her? Maybe paying with a toy or something? I'm guessing that's not an option since you said you have to buy a new one, but the idea crossed my mind.
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Post by paigepea on Mar 23, 2016 1:18:45 GMT
How could a 7 year old work off $70.00? Again she is 7, not 12 or 17, just 7! Teacher's don't have time to check every child for whatever the parent wants them to check for. Chores? Good behavior? Good reports from teacher? Playing nicely with friends/ siblings? Im not suggesting hard labor, but 7 year olds are certainly capable of chores. In the past i have had dd old Laundry, empty the dishwasher, clean up after dinner, vacuum. It's amazing what 7 year olds can do. I just didn't feel like she learned anything by doing the chores. E eventually paid back the money far after the new item had to be paid for and she didn't really relate the punishment to the crime.
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Post by littlemama on Mar 23, 2016 1:20:27 GMT
She is seven and it isn't her fault that the sweater cost 70 bucks. I would ask her what will help her remember her sweater in the future- a note in her locker that says "SWEATER??" I would not punish her or make her pay to replace it. Losing stuff is common seven year old behavior. Owning a 70 dollar sweater means the same to a seven year old as owning a 10 dollar sweater. It's just a sweater to her.
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Post by mlynn on Mar 23, 2016 1:33:38 GMT
Does she remember what classroom she took off the sweater in? If so, I would ask the teacher if there is an extra sweater floating around. If so, I would check to see if that sweater's owner has your daughter's sweater.
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Post by sunraynnc on Mar 23, 2016 1:35:33 GMT
Is this a private school?
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Post by SabrinaM on Mar 23, 2016 2:21:03 GMT
My girls have never been cold.
I've never spent more than $22 for a sweatshirt for school.
I save the more $ clothes for going out with family or when they're older and can keep up with their stuff.
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Post by JustTricia on Mar 23, 2016 2:22:34 GMT
If you have sweaters for her for the next three years, why can't she wear a sweater that's too big? Yes, it may look a bit baggy for a while, but it's not an additional $70 when you already have some.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Mar 23, 2016 2:39:19 GMT
I'm not sure why people aren't understanding that the sweater is part of a uniform and there is not way around buying another one.
Anyway, I feel your pain. My son has lost a few UA sweatshirts and I was irritated, even though they are not even close to $70. I nagged him each day to look for them and today he actually found one! Yay! Since the sweater IS $70 I would have her do something to work it off (within reason) but something that will help her understand the cost of the item as well as the importance of keeping track of her things. Trying to think of some creative ways of doing that...
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on Mar 23, 2016 2:46:38 GMT
I would make her do extra chores to earn the money to buy a new one.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 23, 2016 3:04:11 GMT
I feel for you, I know how bloody annoying it is when kids lose their school clothes. Last year my son lost his THIRD school jumper (sweater) which is part of the uniform, and ours cost about $60 or $70 too. It's coming up to winter, and as this will be his last year in primary school I refuse to buy him a new one for the sake of a few months. He will just have to go through winter wearing only his school shirt. Too bad if he's cold. (I'm talking tough, but in reality he rarely wears the sweater anyway. So It's not like I'm forcing him to freeze to death - he chooses to do that himself!) My daughter has lost items of her school uniform over the years. I've never bothered with a consequence. A couple of years ago I lost an expensive pair of sunglasses that my mum gave me. After a few weeks I found them, then subsequently dropped them on the concrete floor at Costco and broke them. Mum didn't give me any punishment fortunately! If you are adamant about giving her a consequence I would allocate a dollar value to extra chores and have her do those chores until she has worked off the cost of the sweater.
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Post by gritzi on Mar 23, 2016 3:11:38 GMT
She's 7, kids (& even adults) lose things. Some items cost a few dollars & others a tish more. I would be more irked that the school didn't offer nice attire at a more affordable price.
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Post by freecharlie on Mar 23, 2016 3:12:38 GMT
Please don't ask the teacher to check to see if she's wearing her sweater. We don't have time for that.
seriously?
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Post by paigepea on Mar 23, 2016 3:14:40 GMT
Thank you for all of the advice.
Dh ran to school and found the sweater. I hate that these kids wear such expensive sweaters.
And I'll just vent about 1 more thing : our kids don't change for gym. When older dd was in gr 2 she was required to change her shirt - take off sweater and polo and put on gym shirt. But in grade 2 younger dd goes to gym in full uniform. She gets so hot in her sweater that she takes it off - never to be seen again because the gym teacher doesn't remind the kids to get their sweaters. When little dd lost he cardigan in this way I didn't get mad because who should wear a sweater to gym!?! But today I was mad because she left it on her chair. Anyway, so glad we got it!!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 23, 2016 3:17:05 GMT
She seems a little young for major consequences, but since this is the second time, I think you should make her get a job. Since she's probably short still, she could stand on a crate to barista or cashier at Starbucks. She could probably bag groceries, she's old enough to know about not putting eggs on top of the bread. Also, those student painting companies are hiring in spring - house painting is great for grade school kids because they have so much energy.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 23, 2016 3:23:16 GMT
I'm glad you found it. I think the reality is that it's really not your daughter's fault her school sweater is so expensive. Losing a sweater is pretty normal for a 7 year old.
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Post by melissa on Mar 23, 2016 3:32:18 GMT
This thread reminds me of finding things I did not even realize were missing one day when I picked dd up from school in 4th grade and was able to see the 4th grade lost and found in person. I knew we had an issue with "disappearing" thermoses but did not realize that she had some nice cardigans and a school sweatshirt that had not made it home. The OP has many more years of this sort of thing! Glad it was found
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Post by SallyPA on Mar 23, 2016 4:11:19 GMT
I'm glad he found it. I would totally have had her wear next year's sweater, though, instead of buying a new one at this point in the year. My kids were just saying there's only 30 some days of actual school left. That's not worth $70 to me!
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Post by katiejane on Mar 23, 2016 7:19:14 GMT
Glad you found it. My kiddo used to leave stuff all the time or bring home other peoples stuff. I understand your frustration, but this wouldn't be a discipline issue on my radar. Its just a 7 year old being a 7 year old kid. They get hot and shed their jumpers all the time. I would be more frustrated at the dumb uniform policy which makes their clothes stupidly expensive.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Mar 23, 2016 7:26:07 GMT
She is 7, not 17. Kids lose things. I would not expect her to work to pay for another. It is probably in someone else's laundry basket. Can you ask the school to email parents to look out for it?
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Post by ExpatBackHome on Mar 23, 2016 8:11:55 GMT
I have no advice, just sympathy. My DS age 11 lost an UGG boot at school this winter. Not both of them, one boot. He never came home with one boot on so I don't understand it. I'm just glad I didn't buy them, the grandparents are the ones wasting money.
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Post by gar on Mar 23, 2016 8:22:13 GMT
How could a 7 year old work off $70.00? Again she is 7, not 12 or 17, just 7! Teacher's don't have time to check every child for whatever the parent wants them to check for. Chores? Good behavior? Good reports from teacher? Playing nicely with friends/ siblings? Im not suggesting hard labor, but 7 year olds are certainly capable of chores. Of course but how much are you willing to pay for the chores a 7 year old can do.....because at the sort of rates I used to pay my kids she'd still be working towards the $70 at Christmas - long after she's forgotten what the point of it was! OP, glad it's been found anyway
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Post by ihaveonly1l on Mar 23, 2016 11:18:44 GMT
Please don't ask the teacher to check to see if she's wearing her sweater. We don't have time for that.
seriously? I wasn't being flippant or attempting to be disrespectful.
While classes are transitioning in and out of the classroom, teachers are physically and mentally processing through a bunch of things.
Just a few: Swapping out of materials Collecting a quick exit ticket (formative assessment) Getting the anticipatory set or entry ticket handed out Monitoring students who may need additional support to make a transition Connecting with a student/students that need a checkin or look like they are struggling that day Keeping to a quick schedule so that the day keeps on track
While you could mention it to the teacher and often we happen to remember, I wouldn't put the pressure on the teacher to remember a sweater- of course something medically necessary, but not a sweater.
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Post by rickmer on Mar 23, 2016 11:55:55 GMT
i am glad the sweater turned up. not sure i could come up with a consequence, maybe just find a better system for her to keep track of it. hang it on the hook in gym class, whenever you take it off, put it in your backpack maybe. but i feel your pain as ds loses everything... 2 winter coats and 3 pairs of boots this school year alone - 1 coat showed up after months and thankfully 2 of the boots were hand me downs. he also lost his pants (he wore shorts underneath one day). there should be a wing in the library in the old school named after me based on books i have paid for. he loses his agenda and math workbook weekly and i no longer send his lunch in tupperware, it's ziploc baggies all the way. lets just say the lost and found is a pitstop every time i go into the school. he has ADHD and his disorganization is just part of his brain struggling to keep things in order. he is in grade 5 so i have to be careful not to get frustrated and "give up" because he will never improve the skills but can't make every item a hill to die over. i shop at goodwill or sale racks, exclusively. he wants a cell phone.... that is currently his motivation to try to be more organized.
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