gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on Mar 23, 2016 12:06:13 GMT
Kids lose stuff. I would make sure you cannot find it, buy another and move on.
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Post by lisacharlotte on Mar 23, 2016 12:31:18 GMT
For expensive items that are required, there should be consequences for loss. This is how you teach your children the value of items and the consequences when they lose them. These lessons should begin long before seven.
If the $70 was no hardship you can decide differently, but your OP clearly states it is a hardship. No consequences and she's not going to be concerned if she loses it again.
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Post by Woobster on Mar 23, 2016 14:16:33 GMT
Chores? Good behavior? Good reports from teacher? Playing nicely with friends/ siblings? Im not suggesting hard labor, but 7 year olds are certainly capable of chores. Of course but how much are you willing to pay for the chores a 7 year old can do.....because at the sort of rates I used to pay my kids she'd still be working towards the $70 at Christmas - long after she's forgotten what the point of it was! OP, glad it's been found anyway  $1.00 here, $2.00 there, $.50 for something else. If she did a few things every day, she could earn a few bucks each day. Yeah... It might take her a few months to save it up. Look, we all know that the money woul have come out of mom's (and dad's) pocket either way, had the sweater not been found. The point of having her earn the money is to show her that mom and dad have to work for their money that buys her those nice sweaters. It might make her appreciate that and take better care of the one she has. |
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Post by grate on Mar 23, 2016 14:23:18 GMT
geez, that is a crazy price for a school to make parents pay for a child's sweater! my 14yo dd lost her winter coat this year so we went up to school and asked to look in classrooms and then a janitor offered to help us. The school has 4 different locations from lost and found and sure enough we found it. If we did not have the janitor's help though we would not have. The L&F was a garbage can locked up in the back of the PE closet!
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Post by gar on Mar 23, 2016 14:41:42 GMT
Of course but how much are you willing to pay for the chores a 7 year old can do.....because at the sort of rates I used to pay my kids she'd still be working towards the $70 at Christmas - long after she's forgotten what the point of it was! OP, glad it's been found anyway $1.00 here, $2.00 there, $.50 for something else. If she did a few things every day, she could earn a few bucks each day. Yeah... It might take her a few months to save it up. Look, we all know that the money woul have come out of mom's (and dad's) pocket either way, had the sweater not been found. The point of having her earn the money is to show her that mom and dad have to work for their money that buys her those nice sweaters. It might make her appreciate that and take better care of the one she has. I understand and agree with the principle but I think expecting a 7 year old to earn $70 is unreasonable and will lose it's effectiveness over time. I think I would try to find a way to help her be more careful with her things and appreciate the cost (inc earning a portion of it back possibly) without it being such a long term punishment. What happens if she loses something else next month? |
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freebird
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Post by freebird on Mar 23, 2016 14:51:33 GMT
It's almost april. I doubt she'll need a sweater much longer. I vote you don't buy anything and if she gets chilly, that's her consequence. I'd also look into buying used ones from the older kids for a few more years until she becomes more responsible. Also a consequence.
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gsquaredmom
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Post by gsquaredmom on Mar 23, 2016 15:56:59 GMT
It's almost april. I doubt she'll need a sweater much longer. I vote you don't buy anything and if she gets chilly, that's her consequence. I'd also look into buying used ones from the older kids for a few more years until she becomes more responsible. Also a consequence. It may be required for modesty. I went to a Catholic grade school for grades 1and 2 and high school, and we had to have a vest, cardigan or blazer on at all times, no matter how hot it got. It hid the bra you could see through the required white tailored blouse and minimized the size of breasts. I suppose in elementary school it was to develop the habit of modesty. |
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Post by twinks on Mar 23, 2016 15:58:07 GMT
I am glad you are feeling better and I am glad the sweater has been found.
I have a kid who is just naturally unorganized, forgetful and loses things. Her desk/locker at school looks like a big black hole that had things disappearing in all the time. I have had to teach her a system for just about everything. For example, she had a laminated card on her backpack that had the things that should be in it going to and from school. We had time every night to get the backpack organized. She knew she didn't leave school until it was organized - just takes a couple of minutes. Now, she is an adult, I noticed the other day she has a card for what goes into her purse...lol!
I would teach her a strategy for remembering. Use a code word that every time she leaves the classroom she goes through the code word - one letter means sweater, one letter means backpack, etc. Also use it when she is going home at the end of the day. Since you usually pick her up, you can check before driving away. Just a little, "Do you have everything on ?
Coming up and teaching her a strategy is more effective than punishing. Punishment has more meaning when you have taught what they "can do" and when they don't the punishment and consequences are more concrete.
Good luck. It is frustrating when children lose things.
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Post by tuva42 on Mar 23, 2016 21:21:41 GMT
Have you asked the teacher? It seems to me that a classroom for kids that young would have multiple kids taking off their sweaters and leaving them around. I would think the teacher would have some idea of where it might have gone.
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Post by gar on Mar 23, 2016 21:30:13 GMT
Have you asked the teacher? It seems to me that a classroom for kids that young would have multiple kids taking off their sweaters and leaving them around. I would think the teacher would have some idea of where it might have gone. She's said in the thread that it's been found. |
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Post by tarheelgurl on Mar 24, 2016 0:28:51 GMT
delete
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Post by lily on Mar 24, 2016 16:02:13 GMT
Does her school have a Facebook page that you can post on? Maybe post asking other parents if by chance an extra sweater has appeared at their house and if they could check for her name in whatever sweaters they have. Maybe another kid accidentally stuck it in their bag.
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Post by Linda on Mar 24, 2016 16:32:43 GMT
glad it's been found. I remember when my oldest was 7 and he lost not one, not two, but THREE winter coats at school between New Years and Presidents Day...drove me NUTS
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