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Post by grammanisi on Jul 29, 2014 20:56:44 GMT
I'm home all day, hubby doesn't get home until between 8-11pm. The dogs go CRAZY when they hear/see the car pull in. I usually let them out to greet him at the car. I always have dinner for him. I, 99% of the time, eat by myself at a reasonable hour! lol! We only spend 2-3 waking hours together each day during the week.
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Post by lorieann13 on Jul 29, 2014 21:00:12 GMT
Hmm, never thought about it. I am a sahm and dh is a teacher. He usually gets home between 4:30-5:00pm. When he gets home the kids are playing in their rooms, downstairs, watching tv, reading, or playing on the Wii. I am either relaxing on the couch, doing laundry, playing with the kids or starting dinner.
Dh comes home, the kids go crazy and get hugs in. He comes and gets a hug amd kiss with me and then changes. Then plays with the kids or chills out on the couch. Sometimes he gets on his Nook to read or play a game. Just depends. Or he will help dd with math homework.
I do have a friend who gets fixed up for her hubbys arrival. I think its sweet and they are so perfect for eachother. They both appreciate what the other does. Its not an expectation, she just loves to do it for him.
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Post by 1lear on Jul 29, 2014 21:10:36 GMT
Gosh, I want a dog! My cats don't care when I get home. I usually get home between 3-4 and change out of work clothes. If DH is in town, he gets home anytime between 4-6. I usually cook dinner and he's in charge of cleaning the kitchen afterwards. Kids are all older and may or may not be home. We're all pretty laid-back and eat dinner anywhere from 5-8PM.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 29, 2014 21:24:35 GMT
Gosh, I want a dog! My cats don't care when I get home. I usually get home between 3-4 and change out of work clothes. If DH is in town, he gets home anytime between 4-6. I usually cook dinner and he's in charge of cleaning the kitchen afterwards. Kids are all older and may or may not be home. We're all pretty laid-back and eat dinner anywhere from 5-8PM. Careful what you wish for, I have to throw the ball before I use the loo And I'd love to know why she trained me to do that and NOT dh
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Post by compwalla on Jul 29, 2014 21:47:39 GMT
I work from home and I have a lot of outside commitments, especially from now until Election Day so after work is the busiest time of day for me. There are only a couple of nights that I have nothing going on and those nights I'm usually in my other office doing things to get ready for the nights I have to be somewhere. It will slow down after Nov 4th but right now it's bananas. When DH gets home he comes into my office, the dogs come with him, and we chat about the evening's schedule. We usually make a quick dinner and then I'm out the door. Last night was block walking, tonight I have "off," tomorrow I have a conference call with the rest of SDEC and then a voter registration event. Thursday we have a state-wide candidate in town for a meet and greet so I'll be at that. Battleground TX has neighborhood teams and I'm the team member in charge of voter registration. I've been tasked with holding three events every week which means I either have to be there or set them up. And when they're done I have to enter all our new voters into the VAN whether I'm at the event or not. Thankfully DH is super-dad while I'm out doing all this. I came home from our Battleground regional meeting Saturday to a clean house, clean laundry, and mown yard.
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Post by betsy on Jul 29, 2014 21:50:36 GMT
It may be chaotic, but it sounds like HAPPY chaos!
People and pets are happy to see him, and mob him to show him he is loved and missed when's he's at work. Nothing wrong with that!
I work nights, and come home to a dark, quiet house. It's actually kind of a nice way to wind down the day. But my kitty greets me at the top of the basement stairs. He seems to think maybe he'll get more canned food if he's sweet. It's never happened, but he keeps trying!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 21:51:58 GMT
Usually I either have dinner almost ready or just getting started, depending on the cook times. I almost always try to time dinner to be ready within an half hour of him getting home since it'd put nearly 6 hours between meals for him. He always greets me with a smile, a hug and a kiss. The dog dominate most of his attention until dinner is ready. If he can, we'll chat a little while I'm finishing up dinner, but most days, our conversations start during or after dinner, depending on the week.
I don't do any special clean up for him. Well, not true. I make sure my sewing stuff is put away. I tend to spread that out everywhere and don't want him stepping on something when he walks in. The kids usually greet him as he walks by their rooms on his way to the bathroom (he has an hour commute and a tiny bladder).
The beagle goes absolutely bonkers. I'm talking apeshit bonkers. She barks in a way that's higher pitch and is more of a bay/cry/scream. We joke that our neighbors must think we're beating her, the way she goes on. It's annoying really and we haven't been able to break her of it. She's all about him when he comes home.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 22:06:58 GMT
DH gets home about 11:30 p.m. so the house is naturally tranquil at that time. The dog, however, is very excited to see him and sometimes we (the dog and I) wait outside at about the time we think he is coming. The dog gets excited when he sees car lights coming down our street (although excited is relative because in our lab's case, he's old and very laid back, so it simply means wagging his tail)
Depending on DH's work schedule, he might go right to bed if he has to work the next morning or, if not, stay up for a while. Either way, he likes it when I come into the bedroom and chat with him for a while before he falls asleep (I'm not usually ready to go to bed at that time). If he's not working the next day and it's summer, then we might go swim laps and relax in the hot tub for a while.
Once in a while, we'll go out - maybe to the grocery store or to get a late night meal. Those are my favorite nights although I can't really put into words why - it just always seems like a cheap date!
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 29, 2014 23:44:36 GMT
Often I walk in the door and start dinner and then homework or drive the kids to practice.
DH walks in and if the weather is bad, drives the kids to school. Then he goes to sleep
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Post by lovemybabes on Jul 29, 2014 23:53:31 GMT
Well, I don't go all out for him, but I do put on some makeup during the day, as well as fix my hair. He is never home at the same time, since he has soldiers that need stuff all the time. I lay out stuff to fix, sometimes we go out. He never cares either way. He is the laundry guy, I do most of the other housework, the teenager pitches in with stuff I ask her to do. I go to school full time, plus have Ava's therapies (autism) so our nights are chaotic as well. LOL!!
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Post by bdawnb on Jul 30, 2014 0:46:19 GMT
We don't have "a" routine because each of our days are different, so I guess we have 5 different routines. We both work, then do different workout type activities some days which end at different times. I usually get home first, get a shower, get into a comfy night shirt, straighten up and wait for him to get home. I only cook on Tuesdays and Fridays but Tuesday is late and Friday is right after work. No pets and the kids are grown. Once we are both home we will watch TV show or two then catch up on the day for about an hour before bed. Since I have assumed responsibility for the house I do like to have it picked up on the nights I am home first.
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 30, 2014 0:59:28 GMT
Hubby retired from teaching last year. Now I get home between 4:00 and 5:00 and am greeted at the door by the dogs. Hubby is usually in the recliner so I sit in the other one and wear the corgi while petting the sheltie on the side. We talk for a few minutes and touch base. I head upstairs and either relax or start dinner. I do my "pick up 7" routine and watch anything I've dvr'd that day. If the boys are home from work or school they come up to the kitchen for a visit. House is always clean and groceries are purchased so it makes for a relaxing evening until I have to start grading papers.
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Post by gardengoddess on Jul 30, 2014 1:20:24 GMT
We're pretty active in the evenings at least four nights a week. We are usually only home for a few minutes to change clothes before heading out for a bike ride or to the gym. After that, we make dinner for the family and usually all eat together, but it's later than most people eat (around 7:00-7:30) but that's okay with us because we usually stay up until 11:00pm. After we clean up dinner, then we will either watch a movie, or something that we have DVRed or play on our computers or read until bedtime. Some evenings I'll scrapbook rather than watch TV.
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Post by ametallichick on Jul 30, 2014 1:22:17 GMT
I work from home doing managerial/secretarial work for my DH's business so I am always usually here when DH gets home but owning your own business means he could pop in whenever. He is all over town a lot of the time (makes it hard for an affair), lol! My hair and make up are done 99% of the time. My hubby is a blue collar man and is always dirty from work (we own a window cleaning business) and I like him to smell good and be showered so I am always presentable. The only time I am not is if I have been deep cleaning the house, like an all day thing. I start making dinner at 6. That is my golden rule. We like to eat around 7 so it gives me plenty of time to get dinner ready by then unless I am making a whole chicken or something a little more elaborate then I'll start earlier. A lot of times, my dh will get home by 5, 6 or 7. It all depends on his schedule.
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Post by salem on Jul 30, 2014 1:47:10 GMT
We get home at about the same time. He usually does pickup from camp for younger dd. The animals (dog and cat) couldn't care less that we are home, but the kids are starving, dinner needs to be made, I usually try to start a load of laundry and unpack backpacks and hang bathing suits, towels, etc. During the Summer they just want to shovel Dinner in so they can go in the pool. My older DD is home so I try to have her take care of stuff like loading/unloading the dishwasher and helping with picking up around the house. Everything calms down about an hour or so later, but there are nights I want to turn around and walk back out the door because everyone is in such a mood when we first get home. We definitely need to decompress a bit after a long day.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 1:49:59 GMT
It goes pretty much exactly as yours does. Just with two cats in addition to the two dogs. DH loves it. L
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 30, 2014 1:54:52 GMT
I have a definite routine - I put my work bag down, go get the mail, checking phone messages on the way (and maybe grabbing an M&M or two from the dish by the phone) if something needs to go in oven, put it in, open mail, take makeup off, and then get into the business of fixing dinner.
as dinner is heating (I cook most of the meat on the grill on Sunday night in summer) I check email, and pay any bills that have come in.
If DH gets home before me - wrecks the routine and I get thrown off....
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Post by 2peafaithful on Jul 30, 2014 2:11:48 GMT
Sahm for 22 years, married for almost 9 years and 3 kids (22, 17 and 5) and it is a mixed bag of what life looks like when he comes home. I am grateful he is gracious and understanding. There are days he comes home, I have showered, done my hair, make up and have on an attractive outfit. Dinner is 5 mins to the table and happy kids are excited to greet him and sit down for dinner together. Other days he comes home and I haven't showered, I brushed my teeth and hair, I have on no make up, dinner was leftovers or something frozen and please can we just finish so I can have some downtime. The kids need you more than me at this point and I need quiet. Somedays he comes home after a hard day and his body walks in but it is obvious he didn't leave the weight of his work at the office. I get it. I don't love it but I get it. He is in sales, there is always demands, busy workload and he supplies 100% of our $$$ for our family. I remember when we were newly married and sometimes I busted my tail to make sure the house was spotless and a nice meal was prepared. That took pretty much all of me by 6PM because we also had 2 kids and I homeschooled. I heard once to ask him what matters most to him. I decided to do that and his response was I will take a lived in house (not perfection), a home cooked meal (whatever you feel like cooking so maybe somedays that family favorite and other nights grilled cheese) and a wife that isn't stressed and done with her day. He asked that instead of run every errand or run the vacuum I take sometime for myself to refuel and if I was exhausted to take a nap. He basically didn't want a wife that had given her all to everything all day and had nothing left for him at the end of the day. Point taken! So while I do love a clean house, my to do list done, good meals and all that I try to make sure that I haven't given out all my points to everything else. Sometimes I strike that and other days life hits with heavy demands. But I have it as a goal.
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Post by kluski on Jul 30, 2014 3:16:18 GMT
I get home at around 5:10. I usually stop to talk to my son first. Then my daughter usually pops in the kitchen while I'm making dinner and we talk about her day. DH gets home at 6:00. I'm usually just finishing up dinner when he gets home. What are you making for dinner that is ready in 50 mins? I am doing something WAY wrong!
eta...well clearly the whole "insert quote here" didn't work. lol
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 30, 2014 3:58:46 GMT
DSO gets home about 4pm, and I get home at 6:30pm. Whilst I would LOVE to come home to a man with his hair done, a full face of makeup, dinner ready, scotch poured, kids quiet, house clean, etc, that does not happen! I have to admit that the dinner is usually on the table though. Bless.
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Post by moodyblue on Jul 30, 2014 4:41:14 GMT
No kids or pets here, so not chaos at all. My husband can get home anywhere between 5 and 7. He likes to eat pretty quickly after he gets home, unless he decides to mow the lawn or something. If I'm home before him I might have something planned, but it might not be started, since I'm often not sure when he'll be home. We often do the cooking together. When school isn't in session I'm usually home when he gets home. When I'm teaching the time I get home varies greatly depending on meetings and errands and work to do. I prefer to stay at school and do things rather than bring work home. Sometimes he gets home before I do, or we arrive very close to the same time. Tonight he cleaned and refilled the hummingbird feeders while I watered the flowers.
I usually clean up the kitchen. We watch TV and most of the time we are on our iPads, sometimes another computer, until we go to bed.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 30, 2014 6:10:59 GMT
No two days are the same here. Who ever comes in first makes a start on the evening meal.
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Post by Ellie on Jul 30, 2014 7:41:18 GMT
I'm the chief breadwinner, so I'm the one coming home. Currently I am greeted by a two year old girl whose excitement could only be eclipsed by a dog. She is always so thrilled to see me. It's fantastic and almost makes me overlook the lukewarm reception by my 11 year old son.
I usually change and start dinner right away. A couple nights a week DH does.
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Post by jmurray on Jul 30, 2014 10:59:05 GMT
Whoever gets home last walks into whatever's going on. We don't seem to have a fixed routine - sometimes I'm home first and other times DH is. We don't have kids so we don't have that necessity for routine. I kind of like it that way, because it's easy to decide on the way home what we want to do that night depending on our mood, how tired we are, etc.
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Post by cropduster on Jul 30, 2014 11:19:45 GMT
I read your initial post and thought that I'm sure your DH would not have it any other way. Sounds like happy chaos.
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Post by disneyjunkie on Jul 30, 2014 11:43:23 GMT
We definitely have chaos. Ours starts with the fact that no two days are the same. Neither of us have a "stop" time at work so it depends on the day and our meeting schedules. All 3 of the kids have activities with different evening schedules as well. We usually check in with each other mid-afternoon to figure out the evening plan. I am the keeper of the schedule but dh does most of the kid running - especially the early stops. We mostly eat at home Mon-Thurs so we have a sit down dinner at some point in the evening but it could be 5:30 or could be 8:00 as it depends when we can get most everyone to the table. Last night, I worked from home and quit in time to take oldest dd to practice. Then I came home and made dinner while the other two kids picked up the kitchen and sat table. We started eating before dh got home as youngest dd needed to leave for practice (but thankfully she had a ride). Dh came in not long after we started eating and I sat with him while he ate. Then we cleaned the kitchen together. It was actually one of the more calm evenings we've had! I still don't know what tonight will bring!
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Post by katlaw on Jul 30, 2014 11:59:32 GMT
We have always worked shift work. We both have jobs that staff 24/7 - 365 days a year. Half the time when I come home from work he is walking out the door to work. We tell each other what is going on at home or with the kids by text or a quick phone call most of the time. When I come home to find DH and the kids all home before me it is just like your place. Chaos. Kids and animals all looking for attention and half the time we are running back out the door to something the kids have going on in the evening. I think I would be bored with that "good housekeeping" life.
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Post by deshacrafts on Jul 30, 2014 14:39:05 GMT
My DH, DS and I work together at our small business and I bring the dog with me. When we get home, they watch TV and relax and I make dinner and do all the other chores around the house. Sometimes they help with dinner, but most nights they don't. I only used to work at our business part-time, but am now full time and haven't retrained my DH and DS to pick up some of the slack....I'm working on it though!
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Post by blueeyedpups on Jul 30, 2014 17:50:55 GMT
DH usually gets home before me. When i get home, he greets me in the garage with a kiss and will grab my laptop and lunch bag from the car and take them in the house for me. I go in and greet the dogs who then take off running through the house chasing each other. I'll kick my shoes off and then get dinner started. After dinner DH cleans up kitchen/dishes and we'll take the dogs for a walk. Pretty much the same every work day unless I don't feel like cooking.
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Post by oblibby on Jul 31, 2014 6:42:28 GMT
DH usually gets home before I do. He empties the dishwasher and brings in and puts away any washing that's hanging out.
I usually get home around 6:30, start prepping dinner at 7. We'll eat around 8:30 then DH will load dishwasher. After dinner we just veg and watch tv a bit. We generally go to bed around 11:30/12. I get up at 6ish and make breakfasts and lunches. I don't need to leave for work until 8:30, so I start getting ready at 7:30 when DH leaves for work.
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