StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Jul 29, 2014 19:34:37 GMT
I didn't realize I had one until last night and it kind of surprised me. lol. I remember reading one of those good housekeeping articles about how to keep your man happy suggesting that you have your hair done, a full face of makeup, dinner ready, scotch poured, kids quiet, house clean, etc so that your man can home to a peaceful tranquil environment with no stress and he can be happy. I remember thinking i'd rather stab myself in the eye with a dull pencil and the idea still sounds ridiculous, especially the tucking the kids away for silence part.
As I was running the vacuum last night the puppies got SO excited and kept running to the door. I guess I noticed more b/c it was his first day back to work since i've been back in town.
My routine seems to be to pick up the dog toys/have the kids pick up their stuff and put it in their rooms, vacuum, wipe down the tabletops in the living room where they may have been working, change the scentsy and work on dinner. I'm generally pretty presentable, if it's one of those days where i've worked in my yoga pants all day i'll throw on a dress just to make myself feel better.
Dinner is hit or miss. I cook when i'm in the mood. A lot of the times he'll tell me what he's going to cook and i'll get it started, he'll bring home takeout or i'll surprise him at work and we'll go to dinner before we come home.
When he first walks in it's chaos. The dogs go crazy, the kids get super chatty and it takes me 10 minutes to even say hi. He's got to pet the pit bull and rub her belly, while that's happening the pomeranian is jumping around like a fool trying to do whatever he can to get close enough for dh to notice him. He ends up being held like a baby having a belly rub for a few minutes and then the blue heeler gets jealous and starts doing figure eights between papas legs impatiently waiting for his turn. Just about then the boys start with "Guess what I learned today' 'you'll never believe what happened at school' and whatever else is super important. We eventually squeeze in a kiss, finish dinner and then it's pretty calm for the rest of the evening.
I work from home in the daytime so usually 2/3 of the week i'm here when he gets home. . I'm not sure what their routine is when i'm not here but he's got dinner heated for me when I get home late, clean sheets on the bed and a bottle of water waiting for me in the fridge.
I just realized our home is chaos! ha
What is your evening routine like?
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jul 29, 2014 19:43:16 GMT
First, I work, so I am not at home with the puppies (3) or any kids (0) all day. I work 8-5, so I'm home around 6. SO manages a restaurant so he works 10 - whenever. Some days he gets home around when I do. Some days 8, some days 11. We do whatever for dinner and share the chores as needed. He'll text me that he did a load of laundry or whatever and if there's a doggie problem. Do I wish we had a more normal, structured schedule? YES. But, it is what it is. *sigh*
My only complaint is if I don't fawn over him like he's the best thing since a crock pot liner, he gets all pissy. Yeah, you're home, great. I'm not going to throw a party, the dogs will though.
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Jul 29, 2014 19:46:38 GMT
Oh sister, it's chaos over here too! We both work downtown and I feel like we pass each other coming and going. He's normally the 'dropper offer' in the AM, and I'm the 'picker upper' in the PM, but somehow that never really works. Summer is not so bad as extra curriculars are on hiatus but August through May are crazy. When we finally see each other, I'm usually a hot mess from trying to get one kid picked up, another one dropped off, the dog fed and watered (as we've been gone all day), my 5 year old looks like he played in garbage all day and then rolled around in paint (I LOVE preschool  ), and I'm not much better for wear, I'm a hair twirler (can you say stringy?), tend to rest my chin in my hands while on conference calls all day (nice and red and blotchy), the oil in my t-zone is enough to grease an engine...so you can just imagine how "put together" I am for my man! HA! Thank goodness I'm not alone! |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 19:48:03 GMT
We are empty nesters for the most part (one kid home part time temp from college). I usually beat DH home and I start washing any dishes that may be left in the sink from bfast and then start supper. It is not chaos but it is definitely not leave it to beaver territory either! |
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Jul 29, 2014 19:48:36 GMT
I also work, but only part time. I wear makeup every day, even when I'm not leaving the house. Before he comes home, I do reapply lipstick, and fix any smudged makeup. I clean the house after I get home from work. And dinner is ready when he gets home. But the kids are not quiet. They live here too, so I would never expect them to lock themselves away so their dad can have peace.
Now when I worked full time, it was a little different. The makeup was still applied and touched up, but dinner wasn't always ready. When we both worked full time, we took turns on who cooked dinner each night. And cleaning was also shared.
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Post by greenlegume on Jul 29, 2014 19:51:57 GMT
Ours too! Especially with the dogs. Ours are the same way--they DEMAND (loudly and physically) to be greeted first.
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Post by padresfan619 on Jul 29, 2014 19:52:40 GMT
It is pretty dull. I work from home so I hear the garage door open anywhere between 4:30-6:30. One of us will make dinner but we usually help each other out. Dinner by 7:30 and after we clean up it's usually us on the couch watching Netflix. It is a simple life but I enjoy it. Things will liven up if we have kids!
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Post by kmk1112 on Jul 29, 2014 19:53:50 GMT
My DH gets off work during the day when I am at work, so I only see what it's like when I come home, and no one has done all of the nice things for me that you do to make your home nice for him! I need time to decompress after work, but from the minute I walk in the door, either DH or my DD is talking my ear off, while I'm cleaning the kitchen from their messy day and cooking dinner. Makes me crazy. At least in the summer, DD helps out in the kitchen so it's ready for me when I get home. She even cooked dinner last night.
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Post by lbp on Jul 29, 2014 19:54:22 GMT
Chaos as well. I swear I need to buy a U-Haul for all the stuff I tote to work with me each day! Once I wrangle all of that into the house I start thawing whatever meat I am having for supper, then if I'm lucky I can get changed out of my work clothes before my MIL comes over to our house asking who are we and who is she (she has dementia) I then walk her back home and usually my meat has thawed and I can begin supper. By then DH is home and MIL has again walked over wanting to know who is she/who are we, where does she live...etc.... He then walks her back home. While dinner is cooking, I do the wash and constantly checking out the window to see where MIL is. She will usually make 7-8 trips to our house before we finally get her to stay in her house. We eat supper, then I was dishes and head to the garden and pick whatever is ready. Into the bath and if I'm lucky I can read about a half hour until I am asleep. Needless to say, I am exhausted!
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NoWomanNoCry
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 29, 2014 19:55:30 GMT
DH works all hours so he could be coming home while I'm sleeping but when he does leave for work I always start cleaning. I'm weird and can not clean while he is home...I have to clean alone lol. I do try and have a new warmer smell good thingy in my warmer because I like the place to smell nice and he likes the ones I pick out.
He isn't ever home for dinner (unless he is off work totally for that day) so I try and make dinner and bring to him or he will run by and get it otherwise of he is busy he will grab something on his own.
When he does come home he has to unwind and it takes all his duty gear off.
ETA: oh and I usually look like crap when he comes home lol I been dealing with stuff and depressed so I guess that plays a lot into why I don't look "presentable" lol
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 29, 2014 19:56:31 GMT
I get home at around 5:10. I usually stop to talk to my son first. Then my daughter usually pops in the kitchen while I'm making dinner and we talk about her day. DH gets home at 6:00. I'm usually just finishing up dinner when he gets home. He always gets the mail and gives me a kiss when he comes through the door. We usually discuss what ever's in the mail and then we all sit down to dinner. After dinner we usually take the dog for a walk or go for a bike ride just the two of us. Then we come back and he will watch TV until about 8:30 when he takes off for the gym. I usually spend my time studying. While he's gone, I usually hang out with my kids. He comes back, showers, and we go to bed around 10:30 or 11:00.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 19:57:45 GMT
Dh and I like to meet for dinner out on the day he returns from working away...on normal days he prefers there be no crazy until he's had a chance to change out of his dress clothes and decompress. He talks politics with clients all day...when he comes home, talking is the last thing he wants to do right away.
I don't "doll up" but I do enjoy making sure certain things are done that he likes. Our private fridge is appropriately stocked. The bed is made. The mail has been retrieved. He does similar little things for me...it's a 2-way street.
The cat acts insulted when anyone comes home...
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Post by khaleesi on Jul 29, 2014 20:01:16 GMT
We ride together to/from work most days since we work at the same company. We get home around 6. Whoever walks in the door first lets the dogs out of their crates and the person that did not let them out gets all of the attention. Once they have been outside and are settled, one of us starts dinner and then divide and conquer whatever chores need to be done. After dinner it's whatever we each have going. Usually by about 9 we will sit down together and watch a show.
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Post by alibama on Jul 29, 2014 20:06:10 GMT
I am an empty nester so life is kind of boring. Six weeks ago our schedule was both come home about the same time and then we would hit the road with our bikes, get home and eat dinner about 7-7:30 watch tv for a little while, go to sleep and get up and do it all over again. I felt like we were in a rutt BUT THEN life the past six weeks changed with his accident everything is different now. I now cherish the TV time just so I can relax a little before bed. I do not like being the driver. I have to get up early to take him to work across town and come back to my work then go back and get him, some nights I have get off and have to go home, then later drive across town to get him. It will be at least September before he will be allowed to drive again.
No time for bike these days either and I miss that. I would have to do it by myself but there just isnt' time right now.
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 29, 2014 20:07:57 GMT
Our house used to be very chaotic. Now, not so much. During the school year I teach from 7 - 3. Come home, fix dinner for whichever kids are home, do laundry, straighten house, feed the dogs, and whatever else needs done for the day. I leave by 5 for my second job and get home around 9. DH is retired and lives pretty much full time at our river cottage. He closes it up from January - March, so he is around more then. He will cook once in a while and fold clothes to help out then.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 20:12:17 GMT
I don't believe in all that stuff about making the house tranquil and yourself all prettied up.
I stay at home with four kids.
DH works.
I work at home all day.
We both parent.
I make dinner at least 5 days a week. Usually when he gets home the littlest girls want to climb on him right away and he's got his hands out to take the baby, usually before he's even put his laptop down.
Lately he's been at home right when the baby is ready to eat dinner, so he feeds her while I finish cooking for everyone else.
I clean up toys and pick up the house in the morning and during nap time(s), but by late afternoon/dinner everyone's been busy and there are toys everywhere. Those get picked up after dinner by all of us.
One of us usually makes tea or coffee for other, just depends on what we're doing.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 29, 2014 20:12:18 GMT
I'm still in bed when dh gets home, he works nights and wakes me up. But I can hear the living room from the bedroom so I know what it's like. His puppy is beside herself happy he is home and does the whining, wag tail and jump on him thing. My Samoyed just stands there and smiles at him wagging his tail hoping dh will finish with his dog and feed them  After the greetings are done and he puts his bag down he comes in and wakes me up, turns on the coffee pot and then changes his clothes. When I get home at night dh is either in his den relaxing, out in the yard working or in the kitchen making dinner. The dogs are the first to greet me at the door and I have to immediately take his puppy outside and throw the ball for her. While I'm putting my stuff down my dog is smiling and wagging waiting for his loves. And the cat is sitting in the hallway meowing waiting for his turn. The teenager is usually in her room After I throw the ball for the pup I can then come in and start talking with the family! |
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Post by Aheartfeltcard on Jul 29, 2014 20:12:32 GMT
I think if I did all those things before hubby walked in he would think something is wrong. It's generally clean and I try to keep a smooth running household , but I am a realist. I don't prep for him. I am lucky and like him to know he is not taken for granted, but I'm not going to look like I came off a run way. I cook every day.
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Post by giatocj on Jul 29, 2014 20:13:06 GMT
We work together so we don"t have a homecoming routine, other than the dog going haywire for the first 10 minutes  |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 29, 2014 20:21:51 GMT
We work together so we don"t have a homecoming routine, other than the dog going haywire for the first 10 minutes Dog owners must have the same routine for the first few minutes |
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Post by johnnysmom on Jul 29, 2014 20:22:24 GMT
I try to make sure the kitchen is relatively clean, toys are mostly picked up, dinner is done (or very close to), and I'm dressed (t-shirt, shorts/jeans and a bra) by time dh gets home at 6. DS3 usually comes to meet him at the door, DS13 is usually holed up in the basement by that time and can't be bothered until there's food to come up for After that is dinner and just hanging out. |
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sharlag
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Post by sharlag on Jul 29, 2014 20:26:15 GMT
First, I work, so I am not at home with the puppies (3) or any kids (0) all day. I work 8-5, so I'm home around 6. SO manages a restaurant so he works 10 - whenever. Some days he gets home around when I do. Some days 8, some days 11. We do whatever for dinner and share the chores as needed. He'll text me that he did a load of laundry or whatever and if there's a doggie problem. Do I wish we had a more normal, structured schedule? YES. But, it is what it is. *sigh* My only complaint is if I don't fawn over him like he's the best thing since a crock pot liner, he gets all pissy. Yeah, you're home, great. I'm not going to throw a party, the dogs will though. I've thought about how relationships would be different if we showed even HALF the appreciation for our family that our dogs show for us. Clawing at the door frame when we hear them drive into the driveway, grabbing onto them and exclaiming in joy when they walk through the door, acting like we haven't seen them in YEARS when they emerge from the basement after a 5 minute laundry chore.... As a social experiment, you should try that tomorrow. K? |
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Post by sharlag on Jul 29, 2014 20:28:18 GMT
I come home to excited dogs, and hungry teenagers. I greet/feed the dogs, then try to hide out, hoping the teenagers will give up and fix themselves something to eat.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Jul 29, 2014 20:29:11 GMT
Our house is chaos as well. Mainly because of the dogs. They are big and spoiled. I don't care if we just saw them five minutes ago they will act like they haven't seen us in a year. Kinda sweet actually. |
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Post by sisterbdsq on Jul 29, 2014 20:31:37 GMT
First, I work, so I am not at home with the puppies (3) or any kids (0) all day. I work 8-5, so I'm home around 6. SO manages a restaurant so he works 10 - whenever. Some days he gets home around when I do. Some days 8, some days 11. We do whatever for dinner and share the chores as needed. He'll text me that he did a load of laundry or whatever and if there's a doggie problem. Do I wish we had a more normal, structured schedule? YES. But, it is what it is. *sigh* My only complaint is if I don't fawn over him like he's the best thing since a crock pot liner, he gets all pissy. Yeah, you're home, great. I'm not going to throw a party, the dogs will though. I've thought about how relationships would be different if we showed even HALF the appreciation for our family that our dogs show for us. Clawing at the door frame when we hear them drive into the driveway, grabbing onto them and exclaiming in joy when they walk through the door, acting like we haven't seen them in YEARS when they emerge from the basement after a 5 minute laundry chore.... As a social experiment, you should try that tomorrow. K? Funny you mention that...SO asked today if we could do a 100 days of service to the other (he started today and left me a surprise at the house for when I get home). I think it's a fun idea. We already leave pictures and sayings that we draw on the bathroom mirror for each other (washable markers). I think tonight I will jump up and down like the doggies do. and then I will lick his face. and possibly pee a little.
I'll report how it's received!
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Post by papersilly on Jul 29, 2014 20:32:34 GMT
we are pretty routine. I usually work on scrapbook projects from the time I get home until DH gets home a couple of hours later. the dogs are usually playing outside or in their beds in the den. when I hear the dogs get excited and run into the living room, I know DH is home. he puts his stuff in his office then goes through the mail. then we have dinner. if we have errands, we run then after dinner. his dad is in hospice care right now so we usually drop by their house to check on him. like I said, pretty routine.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 29, 2014 20:43:36 GMT
I work from home and DH works outside the house. When he gets home, of course the dog goes nuts. DH has to go outside and throw the tennis ball for a little bit. I don't pretty myself up for his arrival. I usually go to the gym in the late afternoon, so if I was lucky enough to get a shower, he's greeted by clean me with wet hair and sweats. If I wasn't lucky enough to get a shower, he's greeted by stinky me and I run up and shower while he plays with the dog.
We try to eat dinner shortly after he gets home. DS has had band rehearsals most evenings lately, so he's out the door before DH comes home.
DH and I have a nice dinner, clean up and he's been working at home until late. Can't wait for his current project to get finished so he can have some down time.
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Post by Barbie on Jul 29, 2014 20:44:59 GMT
It's pretty calm here. I'm not working at the moment, so I usually have everything cleaned up and dinner started by the time OSDP gets home. His daughter is here most days, but at 17, she's usually laying on the couch watching TV. Henry the Cat usually meets him at the door, while Emo Kitty watches from a safe distance. I usually greet him with a kiss as soon as he puts his keys and laptop bag down. No chaos here, thanks goodness. Because I don't handle chaos well.
ETA: I cook dinner, but he always helps me clean up after we eat. It's nice, as Ex-H never did. After dinner we watch TV or play a board game or something.
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Post by kattock on Jul 29, 2014 20:51:26 GMT
We work together, so there's no big greeting at the door when one of us comes home. We do have a habit of a welcome home kiss in the car before we get out to go into the house. Then we crash on the couch and nap for awhile before supper |
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 29, 2014 20:52:33 GMT
I echo many of the previous posts, the dogs go all nuts and we pet them and go outside and run around the backyard with them for a couple rounds of catch.
Then the first one home usually just waits outside for the second one to come home.
We talk about our day, what we are going to do for dinner and just enjoy the back patio. We don't have kids so it's pretty calm.
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), and I'm not much better for wear, I'm a hair twirler (can you say stringy?), tend to rest my chin in my hands while on conference calls all day (nice and red and blotchy), the oil in my t-zone is enough to grease an engine...so you can just imagine how "put together" I am for my man! HA!
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