cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Jul 30, 2014 6:03:10 GMT
I just got off the phone with my mom. My uncle had chemo again today, and they kept him in the hospital, in palliative. Yet she still tried to act like he was still stable & going to be around a while longer. About 10 minutes ago she called me, and, well, that's not the case. I actually have to give her credit; she didn't do that thing she does that annoys me to no end, where she hems & haws early i the convo. We'd planned to have lunch with my aunt (not the one married to this uncle, her other sister) at Mom's, then play some cards. She just let me know that wouldn't work as she'd be staying at the hospital with Auntie all day, and that ideally I should come say my goodbyes in the morning.
Prayers for:
*Strength to be able to be a decent support to my family
*Clarity/Wisdom... I haven't got a damned idea what to say to him, or my aunt for that matter.
Luckily I've been up front with my young man, the fellow I've posted about before, re: the seriousness of the situation. I called him tonight & filled him in, and let him know I had no idea now how much time I can put in to the event, as when my cousin (aunt & uncle's daughter) arrives, I'll need to be there for her, there's going to be a funeral to help with (though I imagine my mom will likely take the lead in helping with all that), and just... life. On the one hand, I'd love the distraction of some continued involvement... I just can't be relied upon to be a 'go to' person; someone who can be there 12 hours a day during the event.
Thanks for listening, Refupeas!
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Post by jlynnbarth on Jul 30, 2014 6:09:41 GMT
Prayers headed your way. I'm sorry things aren't going well. Cancer sucks!
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Post by lucyg on Jul 30, 2014 6:18:58 GMT
I am very sorry. Hugs to you.
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Post by fruitysuet on Jul 30, 2014 6:32:33 GMT
I'm so sorry for you and your family. It sounds really hard on your mum who has been trying so hard to believe in the best outcome.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 6:42:09 GMT
(((Hugs)))
I was just where you are, earlier this year, with my favorite uncle, who passed in April. All I did was go and try to act as normal as possible, and communicate how much I've loved and appreciated having him in my life.
I'll be praying for you my friend!
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Post by flanz on Jul 30, 2014 6:47:17 GMT
Hugs to you!
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Post by gar on Jul 30, 2014 7:49:25 GMT
I'm sure the words will come to you, don't worry. ((hugs))
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michellegb
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Post by michellegb on Jul 30, 2014 8:28:18 GMT
Prayers being said for you and your family.
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BarbaraUK
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Post by BarbaraUK on Jul 30, 2014 9:35:52 GMT
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 9:51:51 GMT
Prayers being said.
And don't worry about having anything to say--your presence is by far the most important thing.
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Gravity
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Post by Gravity on Jul 30, 2014 10:29:44 GMT
((Hugs)) I am sorry.
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purplebee
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Post by purplebee on Jul 30, 2014 11:29:26 GMT
Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by ingrid6 on Jul 30, 2014 11:33:24 GMT
I'm so sorry. Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 11:47:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. Saying prayers for you and your family.
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MaryC
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Post by MaryC on Jul 30, 2014 12:38:41 GMT
Sending prayers for you and your family.
You don't have to say anything. Touch him, hug him gently. So many times the dying are isolated because people are afraid to touch. Most important, be ready to listen to him.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 30, 2014 12:46:43 GMT
I'm so sorry,such a difficult time for all of you. Prayers and thoughts to you.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 30, 2014 12:49:26 GMT
Prayers for you, your uncle, and your family.
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Post by lillieleigh on Jul 30, 2014 12:49:36 GMT
You and your family are in my thoughts.
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Post by alibama on Jul 30, 2014 15:50:19 GMT
My prayers are with you and your family. Don't worry about what to say hugs and expressions of love for all around is the best thing in the world.
Cancer SUCKS
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eastcoastpea
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jul 30, 2014 16:12:52 GMT
Prayers and hugs for you and your family.
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Post by sillyrabbit on Jul 30, 2014 16:27:47 GMT
Sending up prayers!
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Jul 30, 2014 16:31:57 GMT
Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by wezee on Jul 30, 2014 16:34:45 GMT
Prayers going up. (((hugs)))
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Post by 5peanutsnana on Jul 30, 2014 16:43:28 GMT
Times like this are so darn hard! So sorry for you and your family. Will keep all of you in prayer. May you be comforted knowing others care.
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Post by wandawoman on Jul 30, 2014 16:51:48 GMT
Don't worry about what to say. Just be there for them.
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River
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Post by River on Jul 30, 2014 16:54:29 GMT
No words of advice, but lots of prayers going up for you and your family.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 30, 2014 17:10:40 GMT
I am sorry about your impending loss. Prayers said for you.
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Post by Linda on Jul 30, 2014 17:20:25 GMT
prayers - I'm so sorry
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Post by miominmio on Jul 30, 2014 17:22:42 GMT
I'm so sorry! Hugs to you.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jul 30, 2014 17:35:16 GMT
Prayers for: *Strength to be able to be a decent support to my family *Clarity/Wisdom... I haven't got a damned idea what to say to him, or my aunt for that matter. Luckily I've been up front with my young man, the fellow I've posted about before, re: the seriousness of the situation. I called him tonight & filled him in, and let him know I had no idea now how much time I can put in to the event, as when my cousin (aunt & uncle's daughter) arrives, I'll need to be there for her, there's going to be a funeral to help with (though I imagine my mom will likely take the lead in helping with all that), and just... life. On the one hand, I'd love the distraction of some continued involvement... I just can't be relied upon to be a 'go to' person; someone who can be there 12 hours a day during the event. {{{hugs}}} Cyc, you are a strong woman. Just be yourself. {{{prayer and more hugs}}} Now.... What young man? |
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