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Post by smokeynspike on Jul 31, 2014 1:14:25 GMT
Uh, not have a wedding? LOL My parents offered us the cost of the wedding in cash or the party. I picked the party and in hindsight, it would have been a better leg up for us at 23 to get started with a house fund.
Melissa
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Jul 31, 2014 1:52:46 GMT
Please no dress codes for the shower or wedding, UNLESS you're at a venue that actually has one (ie, Country Club says no sneakers).
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jul 31, 2014 2:00:25 GMT
If I could do it all again, the only thing I would not change is the groom.
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suzette
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Post by suzette on Jul 31, 2014 2:10:05 GMT
I would have a smaller wedding or destination wedding. We invited 600 people to our wedding and fed 450. What a waste of money! I have no idea, 16 years later, who the heck was even there!!
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Post by miss_lizzie on Jul 31, 2014 2:21:08 GMT
At the reception we had an area set aside for kids with coloring books/crayons and toys. Parents could easily see their kids, and they had a place to hang out. We got compliments about that.
Eta: I just realized that you want things not to do instead of what worked. Sorry!
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 31, 2014 2:25:44 GMT
Yep, I would provide more entertainment for little ones. This reminds me of a wedding I saw when I was a child. Our neighbor girl could not walk down the aisle because her skirt was too wide. She had entered from a side door with her hoop tilted up
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Jul 31, 2014 2:26:57 GMT
I would have a smaller wedding or destination wedding. We invited 600 people to our wedding and fed 450. What a waste of money! I have no idea, 16 years later, who the heck was even there!! And if I could do it again, the only thing I would change IS the groom! LOL
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Post by epeanymous on Jul 31, 2014 2:28:52 GMT
Smaller wedding. I caved and let myself get talked into a lot of guests I didn't even know for various reasons.
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Post by mztfied on Jul 31, 2014 2:52:30 GMT
I'd chose a different groom!!!
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Post by cupcakepeddler on Jul 31, 2014 3:00:46 GMT
Photographer for sure. We ran out of money and I didn't want my mum and dad paying for anything else so we went with someone needing experience in wedding photography, I don't hate my photos but I don't love them either.
Also don't DIY everything like I did, I wished that I paid someone to do the cake so I could relax more and then doing all the flowers would not have been such an issue. I ended up not even sending thank you cards out as I was so burnt out afterwards I didn't want to think or hear of anything wedding for years, still haven't watched my wedding video and we got married three years ago.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 31, 2014 3:09:22 GMT
I would not allow our photographer to take so much time with the after wedding pictures. Our guests were waiting forever for us and I felt horrible. I would do the "reveal" and as many pictures as I could before the wedding itself.
I also would make sure that the hotel we had our reception at really did give the guests the coffee, tea/iced tea, and sodas that we paid for. We opted to not do a bar due to @sshole alcoholics, but there were supposed to be beverages. I didn't notice, but apparently they only had water for our guests.
I wouldn't stress so much about every detail. In the end, I barely noticed anything.
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Post by marmargirl on Jul 31, 2014 4:13:11 GMT
I wouldn't invite my husband's crazy side of the family. He warned me, yet I insisted they should be a part of our celebration. I should have listened. His grandmother and aunts did so many selfish and rude things that I have had no interest in ever even giving them a second thought in the last 15 years.
Also, I would get a different dress and shoes. After years of watching Say Yes To the Dress, I've learned what I like and that I should have kept looking.
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oblibby
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Post by oblibby on Jul 31, 2014 6:32:14 GMT
I wouldn't start a new role at work that more than doubled my workload for the first year, and take on a college course at the same time, 3 months before the wedding.
I'd love to have been able to enjoy the planning stage instead of it being something I had to slot in between working extra hours and working only coursework.
It didn't spoil the day but don't really have any memories of the build up.
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camcas
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Post by camcas on Jul 31, 2014 7:19:23 GMT
i would only invite people I want ...no relatives out of obligation!
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Post by zeutdog86 on Jul 31, 2014 10:44:23 GMT
But I only have sons, so no one is going to care about my opinion anyway. I also wished we had picked a better photographer. At least not all our pictures suck. Sorry, I didn't mean to like. I meant to quote! Anyhoo…my dd just got married last Dec. We had a year to plan and I made sure to include her MIL in the wedding plans. She also has two boys so we wanted her to be a part of the group. I think her MIL and I had more fun planning than DD & I did!! I did give MIL a dollar amount for a photographer and said go for it. The photos came out great!! Hope you get to enjoy helping with their wedding!
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Post by mommaho on Jul 31, 2014 15:21:14 GMT
We offered the budget to the kids in case they wanted to start a house fund - it didn't go over well. Youngest said she'll go for the party and half the funds when her time comes along!
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Post by jmurray on Jul 31, 2014 15:37:06 GMT
I would change absolutely nothing about our wedding. But I would change the honeymoon. We didnt have one - we only had 2 days then I had to go back to work because of a new project that I'd been assigned to meant I had to travel o/seas that week to meet with vendors. That really sucked.
But on the plus side because we both feel we were dudded on that, we keep taking trips "to make up for the honeymoon we never had", lol! We've had 5 "honeymoon" trips in the last 8 years.
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