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Post by annabella on May 1, 2016 23:26:48 GMT
some crazy threads here, I have realized that I don't give a f*ck what anyone's opinions of me are, really. Not that I'm going to try and convince you otherwise, it's just that it doesn't bother me what anyone else thinks of me or what I do. I feel the same way.
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 1, 2016 23:29:01 GMT
Good for you! Liberating, isn't it?
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Post by lancermom on May 1, 2016 23:36:58 GMT
Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.
I have always lived by this quote. I moved every four years. I figured if someone didn't like me for me...oh well. So I cheer for the underdog and live a life that makes ME happy.
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 23:41:08 GMT
Hello to all my pea sisters who don't give a F*CK!!!!!
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 23:45:45 GMT
Yes and I don't give a fuck if someone is offended at me thinking that armpit hair is gross and I wouldn't want it in my wedding g pictures. Me either....Oh and to the OP---I spent maybe 30 secs to respond so your comment about "You want to devote your time and energy to worrying about that" is kind of offensive. christine58 - if you only spent 30 seconds contemplating it, you're not who I'm talking about. In general, I just think these things will not matter in the long run. When DH and I got married, it was the last event that my grandmother attended. I am just so glad I have those pictures, I wouldn't have cared if she were dressed in a thong!!! Well, maybe ... but you get my drift. I respect those who have different opinions than mine. I just don't care if you voice your displeasure about my opinion.
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Post by papersilly on May 1, 2016 23:45:55 GMT
MDscrapaholic - I used to be one of those people! Now that I am in my mid-forties, have kids, and had a parent pass away, life looks a lot different than it used to. I'm n my late 40's and it's liberating not giving a F$&@ anymore. I don't miss the insecurities of the 20's and 30's. After my mom died 6 years ago, things got so much clearer, thus simpler.
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Post by Dalai Mama on May 1, 2016 23:49:59 GMT
My mother would argue that I hit that point when I was 12.
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Post by yoko on May 2, 2016 0:07:20 GMT
Got divorced this year. Yep, don't give a fuck about a lot these days. Here is my addition to our playlist: Cake "Nugget"
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 2, 2016 0:14:05 GMT
I agree that after a major life event such as losing a parent, your outlook/attitude on life does change. Your world has changed, the axis is at a different degree and everything looks & feels different. Priorities may change and you really don't necessarily need to explain your views to those who ask. Only if someone has "skin in the game" that I am in, I will consider what they have to say. Amen to that! I cannot stand getting "parenting advice" or financial advice from people who don't have kids. "You can save if you want to" from someone young, single, and with no kids. 30 and 50 are very different in that game! Really? With two teens doing college, soon to be driving...sure, that easy! Ugh. I wanted to smack the guy that said that!
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Post by Mystie on May 2, 2016 0:21:20 GMT
I'm just gonna put this here...
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Post by yivit on May 2, 2016 0:23:25 GMT
I was reading this thread and, yep, I can count on one hand and have fingers left how many fucks I've given since DH died (and it's gotten worse - or is that better? - since my grandma and dad passed). Here's another song for our playlist, and it's in keeping with my non-paying job finding, interviewing and playing local musicians. Nicole Quinn - One Last Thing
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Post by marimoose on May 2, 2016 0:53:00 GMT
Good for you. I'm the same way. I hit 50 and now my "I don't give a flying f*ck" quotient has skyrocketed. I started a job and quit it the next day because it was so under-represented, even their own employee said as much. I may be doing so again for another job as soon as I find something else. I'm just too old to put up with so much crap for barely any pay. Trying to be the same way with the kids and hubs is hopefully next. DD is coming home permanently next month and I'll be damned if she'll treat me the way she did before she left. DS is on notice to pick it up also. I'm tired and getting moreso. Go you! Isn't it liberating? I hit 50 and decided that I was taking a stand too. Much happier this way and still a work in progress but going the right direction. Wish I had know this half a life ago or more....
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Post by baslp on May 2, 2016 0:53:21 GMT
I am also loving this thread. I agree when one loses loved ones it totally changes one' view of life.
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 2, 2016 1:10:41 GMT
Good for you. I'm the same way. I hit 50 and now my "I don't give a flying f*ck" quotient has skyrocketed. I started a job and quit it the next day because it was so under-represented, even their own employee said as much. I may be doing so again for another job as soon as I find something else. I'm just too old to put up with so much crap for barely any pay. Trying to be the same way with the kids and hubs is hopefully next. DD is coming home permanently next month and I'll be damned if she'll treat me the way she did before she left. DS is on notice to pick it up also. I'm tired and getting moreso. Go you! Isn't it liberating? I hit 50 and decided that I was taking a stand too. Much happier this way and still a work in progress but going the right direction. Wish I had know this half a life ago or more.... Thanks. Yes, go you too! 50 has been life-changing in many ways. Had no idea! Unfortunately some people are left with their jaw on the ground that I'm not the doormat I was, but oh well, too bad so sad.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 2, 2016 1:54:37 GMT
I've been there for years!!! I'm gonna be a hoot when I'm super old and lose my filter. I'm only 35 and my filter is looooong gone. I'm 68 and I've never had a filter.
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Post by vanessa on May 2, 2016 4:58:31 GMT
I'm 42 years old. I give about zero fucks about what anyone thinks of me. It's pretty freeing.
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on May 2, 2016 5:41:47 GMT
I think the same way.
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 5:43:34 GMT
Welcome to the fun side of life.
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Post by pjaye on May 2, 2016 8:24:04 GMT
I read the thread about the bridesmaid's armpit hair, and I think to myself: really?? You want to devote your time and energy to worrying about that?I was agreeing with you up to here. Seriously? No-one is curing cancer or brokering world peace here. It's a just message board and we're pretty much all wasting time and talking shit 99% of the time. I highly doubt anyone who posted on a thread about armpit hair is lying awake losing sleep over it. Implying that you're "too evolved/intelligent" etc to be talking about a certain topic here is a pretty pissy attitude and probably why you are getting some of those responses in real life too.
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Post by msliz on May 2, 2016 10:24:49 GMT
I thought she was referring to the mother who wrote to Dear Abby, not anyone here. The mom was lying awake losing sleep over it.
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Post by raindancer on May 2, 2016 11:30:55 GMT
My mother would argue that I hit that point when I was 12. Ha! My son was born this way. It took me a little longer...
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Post by Deleted on May 2, 2016 14:43:33 GMT
Why would anyone care if you were supporting your kid in a sport? There are some parents who may have misunderstood the OP when she yelled "good job" vs. "good effort" or "nice try" when her DD struck out. I know what the OP meant, but to others, it could be misinterpreted for not taking the game seriously and if this is middle or high school sports, parents can be pretty serious about the game. I've reached a point in my life where there are times I don't care and I have to tell myself that I should because my thoughts and actions can impact those I care about. In the instance above, should OP care what others think? Certainly not. But for me, if my DD's teammates were to judge my DD for my actions, then I likely would.
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Post by mikklynn on May 2, 2016 15:17:17 GMT
Yup, I'm at that point, too. I'm about to lose my filter at DH's mother...
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Post by 950nancy on May 2, 2016 15:20:12 GMT
Why would anyone care if you were supporting your kid in a sport? There are some parents who may have misunderstood the OP when she yelled "good job" vs. "good effort" or "nice try" when her DD struck out. I know what the OP meant, but to others, it could be misinterpreted for not taking the game seriously and if this is middle or high school sports, parents can be pretty serious about the game. I've reached a point in my life where there are times I don't care and I have to tell myself that I should because my thoughts and actions can impact those I care about. In the instance above, should OP care what others think? Certainly not. But for me, if my DD's teammates were to judge my DD for my actions, then I likely would. My kids were on dozens and dozens teams. Parents shouted all kinds of stuff at their kids. Unless they were being cruel to a child, I never saw anyone care what they said. You would have to be a pretty unhappy person to be that mean to your kid.
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Post by whopea on May 2, 2016 15:35:51 GMT
950nancy - it was my husband! He was criticizing me for cheering Good Job! He told me I should be saying Good Try. *rolls eyes* This isn't the first time he's done that when I cheered her on. Basically, I told him I was an adult, and I can cheer for my daughter however I damn well please! The other time just boggles my mind: I cheered her on after she did something (I forget what exactly), and he told me I shouldn't cheer for something that she should have done right, because it only would point out the times that she did it wrong. I still don't understand his thinking on that one. I think it's awesome to get to the point in your life when you live it on your terms without regard to what others think of *you*. When you involve others in your don't give a hoot attitude though, it's a different story. What I mean is, when you cheer "good job" to your dd for striking out, I imagine it's not only your dh who is looking at you quizzically. Sooner or later, a kid in the dugout is going to ask your dd 'why does your mom say good job when you strike out? - that's weird' or something like that. You don't want to put your dd in the position of having to explain mom's life view. I've spent years going to softball and baseball games and not once heard a 'good job' on a strike-out. I've heard 'it's all right', 'good try', 'shake it off' or all sorts of positive messages, but not good job.
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Post by scrapmaven on May 2, 2016 15:50:20 GMT
In my fifties and I don't have to care what others think. I made it this far and I have some gray hairs that let me know that I've earned my spot in this universe!
ETA: This doesn't mean that I have the right be mean or judgmental. It just means that I'm not a teenager and do not need to be self conscious and think the world is staring at me. My theme song wants to be, "I'm not getting older, but I am getting wiser".
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Post by oldcrow on May 2, 2016 15:57:17 GMT
I've been there for years!!! I'm gonna be a hoot when I'm super old and lose my filter. You don't have to be *super old* to lose your filter. I can attest to that.
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Post by cajeanne on May 2, 2016 15:59:13 GMT
After dealing with stupid $hit in my life and reading some crazy threads here, I have realized that I don't give a f*ck what anyone's opinions of me are, really. Not that I'm going to try and convince you otherwise, it's just that it doesn't bother me what anyone else thinks of me or what I do. I'm curious, if you don't care what anyone else thinks of you, why don't you just say fuck instead of f*ck?
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Post by oldcrow on May 2, 2016 16:00:59 GMT
I'm just gonna put this here... I love this. I really, really do.
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Post by femalebusiness on May 2, 2016 16:02:04 GMT
Yup, I'm at that point, too. I'm about to lose my filter at DH's mother... I'll give you a dollar if you lose it with her and then come back and tell us all about it.
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