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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 20:06:30 GMT
After dealing with stupid $hit in my life and reading some crazy threads here, I have realized that I don't give a f*ck what anyone's opinions of me are, really. Not that I'm going to try and convince you otherwise, it's just that it doesn't bother me what anyone else thinks of me or what I do.
You have a problem with me cheering "Good Job!" to my daughter after she strikes out in softball? Don't really care. I'm an adult and I can cheer whatever the poop I want to for my own daughter.
I read the thread about the bridesmaid's armpit hair, and I think to myself: really?? You want to devote your time and energy to worrying about that?
Anyway, just a small observation about my life that I wanted to share. Carry on!
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on May 1, 2016 20:10:21 GMT
Good for you. Some people never get to that stage in life and spend a lot of time trying to please everyone.
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 20:17:07 GMT
MDscrapaholic - I used to be one of those people! Now that I am in my mid-forties, have kids, and had a parent pass away, life looks a lot different than it used to.
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Post by beanbuddymom on May 1, 2016 20:21:52 GMT
MDscrapaholic - I used to be one of those people! Now that I am in my mid-forties, have kids, and had a parent pass away, life looks a lot different than it used to. Bravo, I am in your camp as well. I'm in my late 40s with 2 teen and a husband that is rarely home or able to support us physically and sometimes financially it falls short. After my dad passed a few years ago I really have a different attitude on life of not giving a crap who I offend because it's a struggle to get through the day some times. It's hard not to get pissed off about people I've donated many hours and time over and given hand me downs to thinking they're financially struggling only to later find they either don't give a shit about me or my help and they're doing fine thank you and logging their 3rd trip to Disney while I'm sitting here just trying to pay the bills eeny meeny miney moe style each month. There comes a time when you just have to be - so hats off.
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 20:26:24 GMT
beanbuddymom - we are so much alike, I have 2 teens (well, a 15 yo and a 12 yo old, both daughters) and my dad passed away just about a year ago. ((HUGS)) to you!
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on May 1, 2016 20:30:59 GMT
I agree that after a major life event such as losing a parent, your outlook/attitude on life does change.
Your world has changed, the axis is at a different degree and everything looks & feels different. Priorities may change and you really don't necessarily need to explain your views to those who ask.
Only if someone has "skin in the game" that I am in, I will consider what they have to say.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on May 1, 2016 20:34:27 GMT
First we spend a good portion of our life worrying about what people think of us.
Then we reach an age where we don't care what people think of us.
Then we reach an age where learn that people never spent any time thinking about us at all.
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Post by refugeepea on May 1, 2016 20:36:45 GMT
Yep! I'm at the point where I don't care to tell people IRL what I even do with my life. Don't give a damn what they think. I figure they've came to their own conclusions about me. I recently had an experience in a store with my son that would look odd to most people and one guy stared a little too long. I had zero desire to explain the situation to the starer. I actually found it humorous.
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Post by 950nancy on May 1, 2016 20:39:26 GMT
Why would anyone care if you were supporting your kid in a sport? I think the lesson I learned as I have aged is that we all have different experiences and opinions and that is fine. No one way is the right way. I have also learned that being kind is never a bad thing to do. Sometimes it is being kind to others, and sometimes it is being kind to myself.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on May 1, 2016 20:44:26 GMT
“You wouldn't worry so much about what others think of you if you realized how seldom they do.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
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Post by beanbuddymom on May 1, 2016 20:52:44 GMT
beanbuddymom - we are so much alike, I have 2 teens (well, a 15 yo and a 12 yo old, both daughters) and my dad passed away just about a year ago. ((HUGS)) to you! Hugs back - I am sorry for your loss. Something about losing a dad... My kids are 15 almost 16 and 11 almost 12 but girl and boy. They're both my greatest loves and at the same time the reason I want to drink heavily some days
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 20:56:58 GMT
950nancy - it was my husband! He was criticizing me for cheering Good Job! He told me I should be saying Good Try. *rolls eyes* This isn't the first time he's done that when I cheered her on. Basically, I told him I was an adult, and I can cheer for my daughter however I damn well please! The other time just boggles my mind: I cheered her on after she did something (I forget what exactly), and he told me I shouldn't cheer for something that she should have done right, because it only would point out the times that she did it wrong. I still don't understand his thinking on that one.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on May 1, 2016 20:57:09 GMT
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 21:06:55 GMT
PolarGreen12 - HAHAHAHA OMG!!!! THAT IS PRICELESS!!!! I need to get that chorus on my phone, so that when someone bugs me, I can just play that in a loop: How many f*cks do I give? How many f*cks do I give? NONE NOT ONE ZERO ZERO ZERO DONE!
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Post by BlueDiamond on May 1, 2016 21:20:20 GMT
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Post by beanbuddymom on May 1, 2016 21:26:06 GMT
OMG total theme song! Love it!
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Post by beanbuddymom on May 1, 2016 21:29:04 GMT
950nancy - it was my husband! He was criticizing me for cheering Good Job! He told me I should be saying Good Try. *rolls eyes* This isn't the first time he's done that when I cheered her on. Basically, I told him I was an adult, and I can cheer for my daughter however I damn well please! The other time just boggles my mind: I cheered her on after she did something (I forget what exactly), and he told me I shouldn't cheer for something that she should have done right, because it only would point out the times that she did it wrong. I still don't understand his thinking on that one. Oh that makes me mad - ! My DH tries to micromanage how I deal with DD and her sports as well. He was upset because I was pleased with her about making what I felt was a good mature decision (he thought she was running from a problem and I felt like she was doing well just not getting involved). I told him I was listening to what he was saying, but until he became a girl or had any experience being a teenage girl he reserved the right to keep such comments to himself. I was trying to be polite because I really wanted to tell him to go ... (insert theme song) ha ha!
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Post by beanbuddymom on May 1, 2016 21:29:38 GMT
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Post by 950nancy on May 1, 2016 22:03:34 GMT
950nancy - it was my husband! He was criticizing me for cheering Good Job! He told me I should be saying Good Try. *rolls eyes* This isn't the first time he's done that when I cheered her on. Basically, I told him I was an adult, and I can cheer for my daughter however I damn well please! The other time just boggles my mind: I cheered her on after she did something (I forget what exactly), and he told me I shouldn't cheer for something that she should have done right, because it only would point out the times that she did it wrong. I still don't understand his thinking on that one. Well, that explains that. Husbands. My son was the one who told me to not cheer. I do have a loud voice. He told me it embarrassed him. I didn't cheer for a while, but did on occasion yell out, "That's my baby!" He was never more happy to drop all of his sports except golf his junior year. I was even more happy to go from 7 teams to one individual sport.
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Post by freecharlie on May 1, 2016 22:05:54 GMT
Yes and I don't give a fuck if someone is offended at me thinking that armpit hair is gross and I wouldn't want it in my wedding g pictures.
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Post by disneypal on May 1, 2016 22:08:35 GMT
I agree that after a major life event such as losing a parent, your outlook/attitude on life does change. That is so true. My views on life, my priorities, the important things in my life....changed drastically after my dad passed away and then my brother passed away not too long afterwards. I just don't let little things bother me, I feel like I have a better clarity on what is important in life and what matters. I don't feel like I owe an explanation to anyone.
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on May 1, 2016 22:09:28 GMT
I've been there for years!!! I'm gonna be a hoot when I'm super old and lose my filter.
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Post by christine58 on May 1, 2016 22:10:02 GMT
Yes and I don't give a fuck if someone is offended at me thinking that armpit hair is gross and I wouldn't want it in my wedding g pictures. Me either....Oh and to the OP---I spent maybe 30 secs to respond so your comment about "You want to devote your time and energy to worrying about that" is kind of offensive.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 1, 2016 22:27:43 GMT
Good for you. I'm the same way. I hit 50 and now my "I don't give a flying f*ck" quotient has skyrocketed. I started a job and quit it the next day because it was so under-represented, even their own employee said as much. I may be doing so again for another job as soon as I find something else. I'm just too old to put up with so much crap for barely any pay.
Trying to be the same way with the kids and hubs is hopefully next. DD is coming home permanently next month and I'll be damned if she'll treat me the way she did before she left. DS is on notice to pick it up also.
I'm tired and getting moreso.
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Post by PolarGreen12 on May 1, 2016 22:39:08 GMT
I've been there for years!!! I'm gonna be a hoot when I'm super old and lose my filter. I'm only 35 and my filter is looooong gone.
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Post by Baseballmom23 on May 1, 2016 22:39:39 GMT
I'm with you all. One of my favorite songs is Jo Dee Messina, My Give A Damn's Busted.
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Post by kelbel827 on May 1, 2016 22:43:24 GMT
I hit that point last May after my bff's 4 year old was killed I an accident. I don't care what anyone says or thinks.
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Post by scrapqueen01 on May 1, 2016 23:03:22 GMT
Oh my gosh I love this thread. Where have those songs been my whole life? I started not caring what anyone thought as I got closer to my 40's. Actually I use to say I don't care to my mother a lot when I was younger and it drove my mother nuts.
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Post by hop2 on May 1, 2016 23:21:03 GMT
I honestly could not tell you if everyone shaved thier pits for my wedding. I had enough to think about without worrying about wtf others were doing.
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 1, 2016 23:21:49 GMT
Marking my place. This is so much better a response than "Talk to the hand." Thank you for sharing!
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