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Post by fredfreddy on May 3, 2016 1:27:28 GMT
Mine does not, much at all. Never has. I knew that going into it. I've met husbands who talk your ear off and I know I'd rather have mine, but....
Sometimes...He was gone for a week and said three sentences about that week afterwards. Sometimes it feels like we only talk when we have information to share. Casual talk is not in the cards. Our kids are growing up (five years until the last is at college) and I really don't know what there will be afterwards...It is worrisome. |
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Post by leannec on May 3, 2016 1:32:22 GMT
Mine is pretty talkative compared to me ... he's a realtor who is on his phone all the time and I'm an introvert  If I want to talk, he's always up for it so I guess I'm pretty lucky ... Sorry that you don't have that ... hugs to you! |
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Post by GiantsFan on May 3, 2016 1:35:58 GMT
Mine doesn't talk much either. To the point where people think he's angry all the time. LOL. But he's not angry, just quiet/shy. It doesn't bother me in the least. And it's just us, no kids.
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Post by Rachel on May 3, 2016 1:39:27 GMT
He never shuts up.
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Post by gmcwife1 on May 3, 2016 1:46:34 GMT
Does grunting count  He's not much of a talker, unless I'm trying to relax, then he can find the most random things to talk about! |
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Post by chirpingcricket on May 3, 2016 1:53:43 GMT
Wow. It really depends. When it comes to communicating information about people we know and the thoughts they have, my DH is monosyllabic. His 77-year-old mother called this evening to tell him that her cat is dying, and from the decibels coming off the phone, I thought it was his sister to say that her job had been discontinued. It was an hour and a half before he told me about his mother.
On the other hand, when he feels like holding forth, he just goes on and on and on, and I'm sitting here thinking, "OMG, just get to the point already." When we're volunteering with other people for some charitable thing, and he just started telling some incredibly boring, long story, I just want to crawl under a rug. I love him -- we've been married 29 years -- maybe familiarity breeds contempt? I bite my tongue. But geeeeeez. Get to the point!
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 3, 2016 1:54:00 GMT
Mine is not a talker much at all. I'm the extrovert with us. My neighbor however is the opposite, he can talk all day while the wife is quiet.
DH will talk more if it's something he's passionate about but otherwise, he's pretty quiet. We're going to a Marriage Workshop next month and from what I know, there is lots of dialogue between couples going on. Should be interesting.
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Post by ntsf on May 3, 2016 1:54:23 GMT
mine talks... we discuss books, the paper, his boat, what we are going to do when we grow up and retire.. the kids (misery mostly), money... relatives whatever... I talk more..but he talks to people for his living (manager)..so very verbal
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Post by countrychick on May 3, 2016 1:56:42 GMT
I would say he is pretty chatty. Especially if I am trying to read or scrapbook!!!  In a lot of situations like out with friends or xmas parties etc, he talks more than I do. |
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 1:57:24 GMT
If he had something to say, he'll talk. Otherwise, he's quiet. He says he doesn't talk to anyone at work. We've gone several hours without talking. I do most of the talking. Until we're in public. Then there's hardly any talking.
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Post by bc2ca on May 3, 2016 1:57:40 GMT
My DH is a talker. He can talk to anyone, anywhere about anything.
Sometimes, when life gets busy, DH & I can go almost all week without talking much but we do make up for it when things slow down. Do you & your DH do anything together, just the two of you?
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Post by IAmUnoriginal on May 3, 2016 2:03:31 GMT
My DH is a talker. He will talk to me. He will talk to you. He will talk to,the dogs. He will talk to the fish. He will talk to himself. Diarrhea of the mouth at times. I'm the more reserved, quiet one in our house.
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Post by milocat on May 3, 2016 2:03:42 GMT
Ugg, I feel you. Mine isn't much of a talker. Then sometimes he gets made when I've been on the phone with a friend, well it's not like he was talking to me. I try and strike up things to talk about and get one word responses, I just don't now how to deal with that I need a reply. Some back and forth to keep it going and get more ideas or thoughts on the topic.
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Post by paget on May 3, 2016 2:05:17 GMT
My dh lovvvvvveees to talk- like another pea said, to anyone, anytime, anywhere.
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Post by J u l e e on May 3, 2016 2:06:05 GMT
My husband loves to talk. I'm the quieter one. It's mostly a quality I love in him and occasionally one that drives me nuts.
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Post by bostonmama on May 3, 2016 2:06:54 GMT
That would be tough for me. DH & I talk about everything: our workouts, last night's dream, weekend plans, work stuff, homeschool stuff, his goals, my lesson plans, retirement, etc. He's the extrovert, I'm the introvert, so in social situations I'm much quieter. At home, though, we communicate equally. I love quiet time, but it would be hard for me to be with a partner who didn't really talk to me.
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Post by Peal on May 3, 2016 2:09:01 GMT
My DH can easily dominate the conversation in social situations if he wants too. Which sometimes, I wish he would listen more and talk less, but that's a personal preference of mine to not over share information. But personal communication, we've had ebbs and flows. Right now we are in a more communicative phase, a couple of years ago it wasn't very good and we could go a couple days with little more than forced pleasentries.
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Post by SabrinaM on May 3, 2016 2:11:43 GMT
He doesn't. It's a problem.  |
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Post by crazy4scraps on May 3, 2016 2:15:32 GMT
Depends on who he's talking to. If he's at one of his networking meetings or talking to a client or a friend, he's a regular Chatty Cathy! But after talking to people all day long, he's tired and I get (mostly) nothing. Which kind of sucks because I work from home by myself all day long so by the time he gets home it would be nice to have a little adult conversation. We do discuss stuff that is coming up, work things or stuff regarding DD. He does talk more when we're with friends or on vacation. We used to talk all the time, so maybe after 30 years there just isn't all that much that hasn't already been said.
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Post by melissa on May 3, 2016 2:28:31 GMT
Mine tends not to be much of a talker either. He sometimes "talks" to me more via text/IM than in person. Not complaining. Just the facts. It's who he is. I wondered how it would be with an empty nest. It's not too shabby. I feel like he is frequently planning vacations. He is a planner- loves to plan these things far in advance. I like to wait until I know everything else like when dd's performances will be and when my surgeries will be, etc. We also go to the movies several times each month because he has discovered DealFlix. |
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Post by kckckc on May 3, 2016 2:30:21 GMT
He doesn't talk much at all, but neither do I. We've been married 37 years and have been empty nesters for the last 10 years. It's not a problem for us.
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Post by padresfan619 on May 3, 2016 2:34:03 GMT
We can talk or not talk for hours and still find things to not talk about  . |
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Post by MaryMary on May 3, 2016 2:37:09 GMT
We can talk or not talk for hours and still find things to not talk about . LOL, us too! |
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Post by cmpeter on May 3, 2016 2:40:06 GMT
He's a regular talker, I guess. Not to chatty, but certainly up for conversation at any time. He leads a large team at work, so he's talking all day there.
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Post by sunnyd on May 3, 2016 2:40:40 GMT
The man talks nonstop. He will talk to anyone who will listen or pretend to listen. Drives me nuts sometimes but I think I prefer it to the other extreme: me. I guess we balance each other.  |
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Post by chlerbie on May 3, 2016 2:46:07 GMT
Mine is an absolute extrovert and will talk to anyone and everyone. We talk all of the time, about many things. He's not always great at talking about his feelings, but is super chatty in every other way.
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Post by 2peafaithful on May 3, 2016 2:58:10 GMT
Interesting question. I would say he is talker during the day in his job. He is in sales. We enjoying connecting and it is one of our strengths. But I see it like I do cooking. I really enjoy it. I find incredible nourishment and value in it but I don't have to start from 0 daily and make it to 100. Somedays I am really blessed by more quiet. Sometimes I am around a man that talks nonstop I am super grateful that my dh has good balance.
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Post by peasapie on May 3, 2016 3:00:57 GMT
Mine isn't a big talker, but if you get him going on subjects he likes (movies, books, tv shows) he will talk a lot.
When we were first dating he wasn't good at conversation at all. I made him practice conversation with me. Sounds silly, but focusing on it like problem that can be fixed helped him quite a bit. He would prepare a little for going out to dinner with ideas for discussion. Also, he had to learn to think of a response after I said some kind of conversation starter. I didn't let him just sit there.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 3:16:42 GMT
Mine isn't much of a talker generally, but we talk together for at least 3+ hours a day. Not just general "what do you want for dinner" chit chat. We recently took a 2 week driving trip and I don't think there was a period of 10 minutes at any time that we weren't talking - some of it deeper than other times but definitely good conversation. We tend to start a lot of conversations with "what do you think" or talk about where we go from where we happen to be at any point in our life. At one point on our trip, I did look up "conversation starters" but it was more of a way to find some things that we might not know about each other. I think I only ended up using one of those and it just naturally led to hours of conversation. (It was a LONG trip - from Dallas to Salt Lake and back - lots and lots of driving and hiking). If you could even count, I would also say that we laugh at least 20-30 times per day on days he works and easily triple that on days he is not working.
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Post by Nanner on May 3, 2016 3:19:51 GMT
Mine talks alot. He has no trouble carrying on a conversation with anyone, anytime, about anything!
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He's not much of a talker, unless I'm trying to relax, then he can find the most random things to talk about!
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