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Post by fredfreddy on May 3, 2016 3:35:45 GMT
Mine isn't much of a talker generally, but we talk together for at least 3+ hours a day. Not just general "what do you want for dinner" chit chat. We recently took a 2 week driving trip and I don't think there was a period of 10 minutes at any time that we weren't talking - some of it deeper than other times but definitely good conversation. We tend to start a lot of conversations with "what do you think" or talk about where we go from where we happen to be at any point in our life. At one point on our trip, I did look up "conversation starters" but it was more of a way to find some things that we might not know about each other. I think I only ended up using one of those and it just naturally led to hours of conversation. (It was a LONG trip - from Dallas to Salt Lake and back - lots and lots of driving and hiking). If you could even count, I would also say that we laugh at least 20-30 times per day on days he works and easily triple that on days he is not working. I want to LOL. I think we have talked a total of 3 hours together in the last 2 months (yes really really thinking about it) beyond "did you do this?" and "yes I did that" stuff.
Dh actually said "well we had that great conversation when we ate out" and I said "yes we did, with a bottle of wine and that was 3 weeks ago!". He didn't like me pointing that out.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 3:41:46 GMT
We're roughly equal, I think I talk a bit more - maybe we're 60-40 most of the time, sometimes 80-20 when one of us is tired and has nothing to say. One thing about him though is that he will go silent if he's interrupted, or if the other person picks up and starts talking before he's done. I'm still working on 1) not interrupting and 2) waiting a moment when he appears done to make sure he really is. I'm finding stopping interrupting nearly as difficult as quitting smoking.
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Anita
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Post by Anita on May 3, 2016 3:49:25 GMT
Well, let me put it this way...when someone asks me why I am so quiet, my stock answer is because I can't get a word in edgewise.
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oldcrow
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Post by oldcrow on May 3, 2016 4:38:09 GMT
He likes to talk when he is in the mood. When he talks he likes it to be a one sided conversation - he talks but does not listen. So I just sit quietly.
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azredhead
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Post by azredhead on May 3, 2016 6:04:44 GMT
We are probably equal depending on how we both feel. I'm probably more quiet than he is. I'm not a talker in person. Neither of us are around groups or people we don't know. If it's one or two good friends we do better. Big groups and parties aren't our thing unless it's family.
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Post by dealsamongus on May 3, 2016 6:45:54 GMT
My husband and I talk all the time. We sit next to each other while we are on the computer so we are always conversing about things. Plus my hubby works from home 5 hours of his 8 hour shift so we spend A LOT of time together.
My hubby is my BFF and each day I am thankful he listens to my babble - he literally listens to anything I tell him, no matter if it is 2 peas or just randomness.
Love him to death!
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 7:00:18 GMT
We're both equally talkative. We have good conversations about everything under the sun, we always have something to say to each other. I'm lucky that he's also good at talking about his feelings and our relationship, if we're having problems we'll talk about it. He's also the one person I can be totally silent with and it's never awkward.
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tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on May 3, 2016 7:10:08 GMT
We are equally matched. We are constantly talking to each other. I really enjoy his company and I assume he enjoys mine
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on May 3, 2016 7:13:42 GMT
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Post by gale w on May 3, 2016 7:40:19 GMT
Mine talks quite a bit. Most of our phone bill is his conversations and he uses his cell phone way more than I use mine.
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Post by KelleeM on May 3, 2016 8:22:58 GMT
Mine talks. He's a huge extrovert and the life of every party! I'm an introvert and enjoy quiet. We compromise at home but when we're with people all bets are off! It's one of the things that attracted me to him and continues to make me happy to be with him!
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Post by darkangel090260 on May 3, 2016 8:43:04 GMT
mine may talk once a day unless it to the kids. Some time grunts or something
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edie3
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Post by edie3 on May 3, 2016 10:01:35 GMT
I asked my DH if he ever ran out of words. Really pissed him off.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on May 3, 2016 10:06:22 GMT
Mine is not much of a talker at all. He could easily sit around all night watching TV and barely say a word. It's how he is and I'm used to it by now but I can't say I don't get bored or wish he was a little chattier.
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tuesdaysgone
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Post by tuesdaysgone on May 3, 2016 10:15:30 GMT
Mine loves to talk and loves to be around people. He'd probably complain that I'm too quiet; I love the sound of silence. Talking is one thing...communication is another. We've struggled at times during our 22+ years together with really communicating. As we get older (and wiser I suppose) the communication is getting better.
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Post by giatocj on May 3, 2016 10:28:58 GMT
I'm the non talker in our relationship. My SO talks way more than I do...usually when I'm trying to listen to the tv or radio? !
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Post by jassy on May 3, 2016 12:23:45 GMT
Most people would describe my husband as fairly quiet in social situations. Participates, but doesn't dominate. Now, we always talk to each other - text throughout the day, talk about big/little things, etc. We are really best friends and talk about everything. Also big fans of long car rides together where we seem to have our best conversations. Been married for 22 years this month. Interestingly enough. DH's father barely says a word to anyone. I don't know how his mom puts up with that. She has told me she's lonely in retirement
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 12:25:40 GMT
My husband's desire to talk to me is directly proportional to how interested I am in my book or whats on TV. Then when we're alone together in the car, he suddenly becomes moody and contemplative.
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brandy327
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Post by brandy327 on May 3, 2016 12:25:58 GMT
Mine is a talker in a big way. He's SUPER friendly and will talk to anyone about anything. I love that about him. I love to talk IF I'm comfortable with the person/people I'm talking to. I won't talk to strangers like he will (unless they initiate conversation) though.
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ellen
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Post by ellen on May 3, 2016 12:27:26 GMT
My husband talks all the time and he's really loud.
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Post by Sharon on May 3, 2016 12:34:17 GMT
Mine doesn't talk much but occasionally (especially when I'm on the computer) he wants to start asking me questions. He doesn't like my one or two word responses. LOL
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janeliz
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Post by janeliz on May 3, 2016 12:39:05 GMT
He's a talker. There are no short stories with him.
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scrappyesq
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Post by scrappyesq on May 3, 2016 12:57:32 GMT
I would say he is pretty chatty. Especially if I am trying to read or scrapbook!!! In a lot of situations like out with friends or xmas parties etc, he talks more than I do. This. DH has a knack for interrupting the most important scenes in a book with random thoughts on life.
But then sometimes he gets extremely quiet and I have to drag stuff out of him.
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rickmer
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Post by rickmer on May 3, 2016 13:03:05 GMT
DH talks A LOT as soon as i come down in the morning. he's been awake for 2-3 hrs and i have been awake for 6 mins and he peppers me with "did you see this?" or "i was watching this thing on the internet". so now i don't come downstairs til i have been awake for a while. however, when it comes to sports, kill me now.... he goes on and on.... not quoting stats about baseball players or anything, somehow it comes back to his glory days when he played double a baseball or was part of the wonder league of hockey or whatever. DH is 50. at a certain point, you can stop talking about your high school sports career and what a great athlete you were with all these "tips and tricks" you want to share. i was a competitive figure skater until i was 17 (and now have the knees of a 97 year old). i would say many of my friends and most of my colleagues would not even be aware of that. so when he gets in that mode, i casually wander over to another conversation. my kids just roll their eyes.
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Post by FLA SummerBaby on May 3, 2016 13:11:58 GMT
Not so much. It does bother me. When we were dating he would talk and talk and talk. But we were also long-distance relationship for many years. Now that he is around all the time, he is very quiet by comparison (yet he is quite the talker during the day when he is working.) I have discussed with him and he doesn't think he is "quiet" at home but I don't know how to improve that aspect of things.
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smartypants71
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Post by smartypants71 on May 3, 2016 13:18:59 GMT
All.the.time.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on May 3, 2016 13:28:51 GMT
My husband's desire to talk to me is directly proportional to how interested I am in my book or whats on TV. Then when we're alone together in the car, he suddenly becomes moody and contemplative. yes!! I can sit next to him in the living room watching what ever crap he's watching and he *might* say something during a commercial and blasts the radio in the car. But if I go in the other room to watch something else, is comes in every 7-10 minutes.
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Post by Deleted on May 3, 2016 13:52:15 GMT
I'm comfortable w our level of communication. Professionally, he speaks with dozens of people every day regarding government, politics and religion, so quite often he's looking for quiet and solace when he gets home.
I get that and I give him plenty of time for quiet.
However, he's my best friend. I expect to be able to talk to him as needed.
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freebird
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Post by freebird on May 3, 2016 14:20:40 GMT
my husband is such a story teller (and his outrageous stories are actually true lol). He likes talking, probably too much. I have to remind him to ask the other person about themselves and not just talk about himself sometimes.
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schizo319
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Post by schizo319 on May 3, 2016 14:24:45 GMT
Incessantly, UNLESS he's in a car. I was so excited the first time we went on a road trip, because I just knew he'd talk my ear off and entertain me the whole way. When we got in the car? Silence... for over an hour (I think that's the longest I've ever heard him go without uttering a word). I read him the riot act, so now, when we go on trips, he puts together playlists of comedians to fill the time.
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