psiluvu
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Jun 25, 2014 22:52:26 GMT
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Post by psiluvu on May 3, 2016 14:34:32 GMT
MY DH is a big talker and will talk to anybody about anything anytime. The only time it drives me crazy is when he gets home early from work, (he works midnights) we are just getting up and he is finishing his day and is way to animated for the first thing in the morning. We do talk a lot even though we are on different shifts. We talk about the kids and who has to be where when, sports especially baseball and hockey and life in general
Now my ds can put even DH to shame with his talking I swear he is going to be a politician some day because he is totally outgoing, talks up a storm and has never met a stranger.
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mallie
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Jul 3, 2014 18:13:13 GMT
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Post by mallie on May 3, 2016 15:22:29 GMT
My dh has gotten quiet over the last 5 years or so. He was never someone who talked incessantly, but he was a good and lively conversationalist. Then he just stopped. Even the kids have commented on it. I have asked him many times, the kids have asked him about it, I talked about it with his therapist about it and he insists that nothing is wrong or has changed. Clearly not true. The therapist suggested that I cut back on my own talking to "force" him to fill in the silent spaces, but nothing -- he will sit there in silence for hours if I don't say something. But I want him to tell me what's going on in his life. It's like pulling teeth to get him to say one word about his day or what he's thinking about on any topic. I'm an extrovert and to be honest, one of my skill sets IRL is getting people to open up and talk. But him? Nope. Honestly, with my chronic pain, I simply don't have the energy to work so hard every single day to get him to say two sentences. It's all I can do to get through most days without driving into a concrete abutment, so I don't need to come home and have to gird myself to find some strategy to get him to talk. So, after over 5 years of effort, I'm done. Talk or don't talk. Whatever.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on May 3, 2016 15:52:12 GMT
Mine tends to only talk to me when necessary we don't just chat. Most times it seems when he opens his mouth its to nag at me or the kids or to put down something. After awhile I tune him out because he starts to sound like the Charlie Brown teacher. He usually starts in on me or the kids soon as he gets in the door so the tuning out soon after commences lol.
He really only talks about stuff he is passionate about his work, his hobbies and his dogs. He is coming home from a 2 week trip and I honestly am dreading it because I will have to listen to him talk profusely about it and I really don't want to hear about it.
If he took interest in me as a person or my passions I would perhaps be excited to see him and hear about it but he's not. I have so enjoyed my alone time and am sad it's ending.
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Post by creativegirl on May 3, 2016 16:03:03 GMT
SO MUCH. Between him and my two year old, I'm surprised my ears haven't fallen off. I actually love this about the two of them- they both have fun, enthusiastic personalities and it comes out with lots of excited chatter. There are times though, where I wouldn't mind just a little peace and quiet....
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Post by mimi3566 on May 3, 2016 16:07:30 GMT
When mine was working full time before he retired he worked long hours and saw lots of different people throughout the day due to his job, he used to be pretty much non-talkative when he got home, but since he's retired he can't seem to shut up from the time we wake till I leave for work, and continues when I get home...LOL.
He's been working as an Uber driver lately off and on and was hoping that he would be all talked out by the time he got home at the end of the day, but that hasn't happened yet...
Most days I don't mind the chatting, but some days I just want to sit quietly and watch some YouTube vids, hang out in my craft room or read my book before going to bed and he just won't shut up...LOL
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georgiapea
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Jun 27, 2014 18:02:10 GMT
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Post by georgiapea on May 3, 2016 16:14:25 GMT
Way too much. I'm a quiet loving person so his constant talking gets annoying.
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Post by ilikepink on May 3, 2016 16:35:00 GMT
My XH spoke when he had something to say; lots of silence, especially in the car.
My bestguyfriend now - we go through our "spats" of his not talking to me for days, but when we are talking?? If I ask him what time it is, he'll tell me how the clock works.
men.
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Post by papersilly on May 3, 2016 17:38:15 GMT
not much at all. I'm the yakker.
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Post by hosschick on May 3, 2016 17:39:41 GMT
Mine is super talkative. He can walk into a gas station, end up spending 10 minutes in there, and then the next 20 minutes in the car are him recounting the life stories of the employee and 2 fellow customers. He's been working as an Uber driver lately off and on and was hoping that he would be all talked out by the time he got home at the end of the day, but that hasn't happened yet... Mine started ubering occasionally also, and I've found that's even more conversation because then I get to hear about the fun passengers he had and where they were going to/from.
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Post by cyndijane on May 3, 2016 17:57:05 GMT
Wow. It really depends. When it comes to communicating information about people we know and the thoughts they have, my DH is monosyllabic. His 77-year-old mother called this evening to tell him that her cat is dying, and from the decibels coming off the phone, I thought it was his sister to say that her job had been discontinued. It was an hour and a half before he told me about his mother. On the other hand, when he feels like holding forth, he just goes on and on and on, and I'm sitting here thinking, "OMG, just get to the point already." When we're volunteering with other people for some charitable thing, and he just started telling some incredibly boring, long story, I just want to crawl under a rug. I love him -- we've been married 29 years -- maybe familiarity breeds contempt? I bite my tongue. But geeeeeez. Get to the point! 15 years on the 15th for us- this is very much my husband. He isn't shy, just very choosy about who he shares things with. (Unless it's the Cleveland Indians... He'll discuss them FOREVER with anyone and everyone if given then chance!) However, he talks to me on and off all day. I'm his person, so I get an idea of most of his thoughts.
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 3, 2016 18:27:01 GMT
I am the talker and he is the listener. No seriously, he's really good at answering questions. If I ask him a question, he will respond. But he generally doesn't initiate much conversation. We talk most of the day via text message. And I have found that he is much more responsive with texts. When we are in person, he likes to relax and cuddle. So usually it's better if we can discuss all our business via text during the day and just relax in the evening together.
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Post by mimi3566 on May 3, 2016 19:08:03 GMT
Mine is super talkative. He can walk into a gas station, end up spending 10 minutes in there, and then the next 20 minutes in the car are him recounting the life stories of the employee and 2 fellow customers. He's been working as an Uber driver lately off and on and was hoping that he would be all talked out by the time he got home at the end of the day, but that hasn't happened yet... Mine started ubering occasionally also, and I've found that's even more conversation because then I get to hear about the fun passengers he had and where they were going to/from. You know you're right....he likes to tell me all about the interesting people he meets and where they are from...what they do and why they are here in town.
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Post by mandasue on May 3, 2016 19:33:55 GMT
Mine never shuts up. Ever. Mine on the other hand - not much of a talker.
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bklyngal62
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Post by bklyngal62 on May 3, 2016 22:30:34 GMT
My husband talks enough for both of us and the neighbors around us..lol He never shuts up !
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 3, 2016 22:50:38 GMT
Mine liked to read. Then he wanted to discuss what he read. Sometimes I would read the same book as he would then we would discuss the book. After he got into Chinese history (800 years ago or earlier) and wanted to discuss that I drew the line. I am happy he is so interested in reading and doing something besides drinking. I would like peace and quiet. I had the kid all day long and now I want to speak English and i do NOT want to talk deep philosophical subjects.
We also did not say a word from 8pm-8:50pm as Star Trek was on then and we had to watch it over, and over, and over. Every night. My saving grace was it was just Monday-Friday.
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likescarrots
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Post by likescarrots on May 4, 2016 0:28:14 GMT
He doesn't talk much to people he doesn't know, but he talks to me like crazy.
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