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Post by leannec on May 6, 2016 17:12:18 GMT
I'm sick and tired of being the one who has to cook and clean to make a family dinner for everyone and get nothing in return ... the grandmother's get flowers but not me  I told dh that since dd#2 and Grandma would probably not make it anyway (they are cattle penning) we should not plan anything ... he can plan something for his Mum with his siblings ... I'm over it ... Yup, I'm pouting  |
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Post by calgal08 on May 6, 2016 17:18:29 GMT
Not sure if boycotting is the right word for me. But, I think it's a dumb Hallmark holiday. I know many Moms who say they want to sit back and do nothing on Mothers Day, but the way I see it, whatever you don't get done that day is just more work another day. I hate the pressure it puts on the kids and dh. I'm more of the mindset, if you want to do something nice for someone, do it because you want to and not because it's an official holiday. I know, I'm probably in the minority.
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Post by cadoodlebug on May 6, 2016 17:21:41 GMT
DH always asks if I want to go out to dinner but I always want to order a pizza from our favorite pizza place and just enjoy the 3 of us being together. I hate to go out on holidays because it's so crowded. There are no other people to consider as it's just the 3 of us so it's all about me.  |
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Post by gmcwife1 on May 6, 2016 17:23:16 GMT
I'd offer you my gift, but you probably don't want it. This year it's a brand spanking new cat litter box I suppose as long as dh continues to clean the box for me, I don't care what box he gets, but it would be nice if he didn't call it a gift for me |
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Post by lucyg on May 6, 2016 17:24:04 GMT
Huh. I threw a temper tantrum about this very thing at least 30 years ago.  My SIL and I were providing dinner, clean house, good attitude, etc. so our DHs could treat their mother like a queen on Mother's Day. After a few years of that crap, I said NO. You guys want to honor your mother, YOU do the planning and the cooking and the dishes. We're taking the day off. My sister-in-law thanked me. |
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Post by msliz on May 6, 2016 17:26:43 GMT
You deserve better!
Take the day for yourself and treat yourself well!
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Post by scrapmaven on May 6, 2016 17:28:50 GMT
My fil passed away on mother's day several years ago. So, that put a damper on the big celebration. However, dh has tried to salvage it for us. I sort of like it now, but honestly after my mother passed away it is nice, but also a bitter reminder that I don't have a mommy. I sound like Scrooge. leannec, can you do something special for yourself on Sunday? Treat yourself the way you wanted them to treat you. |
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2016 17:31:12 GMT
I'd offer you my gift, but you probably don't want it. This year it's a brand spanking new cat litter box I suppose as long as dh continues to clean the box for me, I don't care what box he gets, but it would be nice if he didn't call it a gift for me Bwhahahaha!!! I actually could use a new litter box  |
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2016 17:34:57 GMT
Huh. I threw a temper tantrum about this very thing at least 30 years ago. My SIL and I were providing dinner, clean house, good attitude, etc. so our DHs could treat their mother like a queen on Mother's Day. After a few years of that crap, I said NO. You guys want to honor your mother, YOU do the planning and the cooking and the dishes. We're taking the day off. My sister-in-law thanked me. My SIL is a doormat so that would never happen here ... MIL and my Mum are awesome but I'm 49 years old and I believe it's time for me to be recognized too  |
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2016 17:38:14 GMT
My fil passed away on mother's day several years ago. So, that put a damper on the big celebration. However, dh has tried to salvage it for us. I sort of like it now, but honestly after my mother passed away it is nice, but also a bitter reminder that I don't have a mommy. I sound like Scrooge. leannec , can you do something special for yourself on Sunday? Treat yourself the way you wanted them to treat you.I will be doing my own thing ... drink some wine with dinner Dh is going to take his Mum out for lunch I think ... that means that I don't have to clean the house for guests  |
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Post by Dori~Mama~Bear on May 6, 2016 17:41:34 GMT
I like mother's day. I taught my daughter how to be creative and make something for all her grandmas and her mom. I also have been very spoiled by her in the past 20 years. She does really nice crafty cards and presents. Some have been bought but most of them have come with something hand made.
I know how you feel about doing all the work and getting nothing out of it. I wondered all the years when I was a kid that my mom, aunt and grandma did every mothers day dinner and fathers day dinner and usually the only thing they got out of it was the great food and great company. but the fathers and grandfathers all got a nice leisure day with no work at all. Never have understood. at least the rat bat either took me out for dinner or him and Amanda cooked for me.
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Post by anniefb on May 6, 2016 17:41:57 GMT
My fil passed away on mother's day several years ago. So, that put a damper on the big celebration. However, dh has tried to salvage it for us. I sort of like it now, but honestly after my mother passed away it is nice, but also a bitter reminder that I don't have a mommy. I sound like Scrooge. leannec , can you do something special for yourself on Sunday? Treat yourself the way you wanted them to treat you. |
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Post by smartypants71 on May 6, 2016 17:46:26 GMT
I'm divorced and ds is 14, so I don't get gifts or lunch or anything. I don't mind, though bc I treat it as a "me" day. I'll be laying out at the pool and enjoying a good book and a cocktail |
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Post by jeremysgirl on May 6, 2016 17:47:39 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break.  |
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Post by gmcwife1 on May 6, 2016 17:50:40 GMT
I'd offer you my gift, but you probably don't want it. This year it's a brand spanking new cat litter box I suppose as long as dh continues to clean the box for me, I don't care what box he gets, but it would be nice if he didn't call it a gift for me Bwhahahaha!!! I actually could use a new litter box See they always get us some how!! I hope you can take the day for yourself and do whatever YOU want to do |
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 6, 2016 17:58:03 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. You're not a bad mom. You need to re-charge! My son said "what do you want for Mother's Day?" Then he added "don't say the same thing you always do and that is for you guys to go somewhere for a weekend and leave me home alone." Ha! I do say that and that is what I want. I love it when DH takes them on a road trip. Doesn't happen often but I love being alone for a couple days! I won't get it this year, and maybe never again with teen work schedules, etc., but it's a nice though. We moms deserve to take care of ourselves sometimes! |
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Post by luvnlifelady on May 6, 2016 17:59:49 GMT
Our 22nd anniversary is Sunday (and it was Mother's Day when we got married--what was I thinking?). Anyway, I'd like a day to chill but we will probably go out to a sports bar and grab a bite to eat (our thing). DH will be traveling the following weekend to get our DD from college so I can chill that Sunday some maybe.
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Post by bigbundt on May 6, 2016 18:03:46 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. Not a bad mom. I truly think that a great Mothers Day is one in which I don't have to be responsible for anyone else the entire day. No waking them up, dressing, cleaning, cooking, answering question after question, refereeing play, playing bathroom monitor... I've told my DH that many times I just want a day to myself, not an hour or two, an entire DAY but it hasn't happened. Because of my DH's attitude about the day being about his mom and not me, I just don't care anymore. The last couple of years I just don't expect anything and I am no longer disappointed. I know he appreciates what I do and that I am a good mom but it is just another Sunday in our house. Like Valentines Day. |
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 18:04:33 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. You are not a bad mom. You are a mom that knows she needs to take care of herself. |
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 18:06:26 GMT
I never used to want to go out on mother's day either, but a few years ago, my son and DH made a reservation at a local wedding venue for a mother's day brunch. It is absolutely wonderful and we look forward to the time together each year. It has become a tradition for us. My kids and hubby have always made the day about me even when his mom and my mom were alive and we made it special for them.
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Post by leannec on May 6, 2016 18:08:20 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. Don't be down on yourself ... you deserve a break ... hugs to you |
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Post by scrapngranny on May 6, 2016 18:09:59 GMT
I'm sort of doing the opposite this year. I'm doing a Mother's Day brunch for my daughters. They are in the trenches every day and are awesome moms, who give 110% to their kids. I'm long past the hectic days of raising kids, so I thought instead of them having to plan something for me, I would make the day about them. I'm sure their DHs probably appreciate that they are off the hook for planning something too  |
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Post by ilikepink on May 6, 2016 18:16:19 GMT
You are not a bad mom - you are a smart mom. The best thing you can do is know when you need to re-charge. XH was always good about gifts and things - we would go away Fri/Sat of mother's day weekend and pick the boys up for dinner on Sunday. By that point I was glad to see them, and remember why I love being their mother. Living away is tough (although I went to see them last weekend), especially on days like mother's day. I'm either going to go to beach for the day (sounds good, but if I'm alone that may not be good), or doing some major work in the house. It's important we take care of ourselves. |
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 18:46:59 GMT
Sunday is ExH's birthday so I'll be spending tomorrow with DS. Much easier to eat out the day before.
DS is really quite good at showing me how much he cares and appreciates me year round. This is just an excuse to go out a bit fancier than fast food.
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Post by Delta Dawn on May 6, 2016 18:48:24 GMT
Huh. I threw a temper tantrum about this very thing at least 30 years ago. My SIL and I were providing dinner, clean house, good attitude, etc. so our DHs could treat their mother like a queen on Mother's Day. After a few years of that crap, I said NO. You guys want to honor your mother, YOU do the planning and the cooking and the dishes. We're taking the day off. My sister-in-law thanked me. My SIL is a doormat so that would never happen here ... MIL and my Mum are awesome but I'm 49 years old and I believe it's time for me to be recognized too The girls and DH don't take you out for dinner? Really? We have always celebrated Mother's Day in a big way! Breakfast in bed, presents and then dinner out. I am angry for you leannec. I mean really! |
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on May 6, 2016 18:48:54 GMT
Miss Lerin's birthday is Sunday (she was born on MD too), so we are celebrating her by going to a local amusement park, if it doesn't rain! More often than not, her birthday or party ends up falling on MD, so not much relaxation for me. I don't mind, she's a good reason to celebrate!
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 18:51:48 GMT
I'm one who doesn't care about mother's or father's day. I don't want cards. I don't want flowers. I don't expect gifts. I'd be perfectly happy to treat it like any other Sunday.
But no, if I don't do something with my mom, she pouts, gives my dad grief, and my sister calls me several names. Um, I'm a mom too.
I'll make dinner like I always do. I don't do any of the clean up anyways. But I'm going to enjoy a nice cold beer and my truffles.
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 18:56:38 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. You did exactly what every mom should do on Mother's Day: Whatever they want to do...or not do. Since my children got to be in their tweens/teens, that's how Mother's Day works here. I don't need a big gift (though it's nice). I don't need anything special done for me (but if someone wants to clean a couple of horse stalls, have at it). I want something good to eat (my choice...but I usually want something takeout, so it's easy...probably Chinese this year). And I want to do what I want to do or nothing at all. {{{{ hugs }}}}} |
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Post by Deleted on May 6, 2016 19:01:20 GMT
I am a bad mom. Seriously, my kids have seen their dad less than 24 hours since New Year's. I have been under tremendous stress lately, especially with my kids. I seriously called my ex-husband up and said, it's Mother's Day. Please take the kids for 24 hours. Give me 24 hours to recharge my batteries. Thankfully, he agreed to meet me tomorrow at 4 pm to pick up the kids and will bring them back at 5 pm on Sunday. I feel like a totally bad mom as I basically begged my ex to take my kids for an overnight and I will not be spending Mother's Day with my kids. But I just needed a break. you shouldn't feel like a bad mom! I wish I could have a day to myself as well. Why do guys get away with golfing all day on Father's Day - away from their families - and moms don't get a free day?
Years ago when my twins were in scouts they used to go camping on mother's day weekend. It was wonderful. Then someone complained and ruined it.
Me ? after brunch I am taking to the bed. With my ipad. And a "do not disturb" sign.
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Post by marysue63 on May 6, 2016 19:46:08 GMT
I have mixed feelings about MD this year. I always wanted it to be about ME because goodness knows no other day is! My daughter and I have lived with my mom since my daughter was an infant, so about 14 years, and my sisters and I always made sure my mom was treated extra special that day. Then I got married and I thought my DH could help make it about me for once. He did great last year but this year I'm thinking it might be my mom's last MD and it really does need to be about her. She's not sick, just getting older and slower. I still have plenty of years to be celebrated, I'll put that off until she's no longer around to honor.
Oh, but I did give DH my $40 of Kohls cash and a 20% off coupon with a list of ideas!
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My SIL and I were providing dinner, clean house, good attitude, etc. so our DHs could treat their mother like a queen on Mother's Day. After a few years of that crap, I said NO. You guys want to honor your mother, YOU do the planning and the cooking and the dishes. We're taking the day off.
