theshyone
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Jun 26, 2014 12:50:12 GMT
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Post by theshyone on May 25, 2016 22:47:51 GMT
I have no input on the discussion, but can I just recommend Nexplanon as an amazing option? Lowest failure rate, not dependent on taking pulls, lower hormones than the pill, lasts 3 years. Many people recommend iuds for teens for those reasons, but I'm not a big fan of the idea metal/pokey plastic all up in my uterus (even though they are incredibly safe). Nexplanon is more effective than any other form of birth control, INCLUDING sterilization. Which is insane. And it reverses as soon as it is removed. You can research Nexplanon, biggest downside is it can cause breakthrough or irregular/unpredictable bleeding. Anecdotally, my doctor told me if you have it put in the first 5 days of your period, she has seen less issues with irregular bleeding. My doc and most of her nurses used it themselves. Don't confuse it with Norplant, not the same even though both are arm implants. Nexplanon is very popular in the UK, and I was really frustrated when I learned about it and asked why no one had ever informed me about it, even when I pressed for options. It was always "pill, depo, or IUD." I'm on my second nexplanon and love it. No periods for 6 -12 months for me, then they go regular just like with the pill or when I'm not on anything. My doctor said because of the low dose of hormones, she has no issue leaving women on it up until 50 and then starts testing for menopause. Not relevant to your dd, but just sharing in terms of safety. It can be expensive, but if you are on an ACA compliant Healthcare plan, it is covered. I'm on a grandfathered plan where birth control is not covered and paid about $800 out of pocket for it. Worth every penny and cheaper than the pill over 3 years. I actually had my second one put in at Planned Parenthood because I was in a new area and wanted to go to someone who had put in lots of them. Stellar experience there. If she gets it, have her wear an ace bandage around her upper arm for a couple days to minimize bruising, makes a big difference. Mostly painless though!! Can you tell I love this thing? I know this isn't what you asked, but I just had to share because I was so so mad I didn't know about it sooner. I was perfect at taking the pill, but after a recall, I felt like I needed something different. Between my two Nexplanon, I did the pill for a few months, and it was awful once I was used to Nexplanon!! I feel like every woman should know about this as a choice. I've never heard of this either. My daughters in that age range and preventing accidental pregnancies is highest priority with her in her life as she wants her genetic condition to end with her. It's a different type of discussion. Doctors have never mentioned this.
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Julie W
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Jun 27, 2014 22:11:06 GMT
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Post by Julie W on May 26, 2016 2:02:45 GMT
Often they are prompted by things she shares about classmates...how the girl a year younger who used to be in my Brownie troop was caught giving her BF a blow job in a piano practice room at school. It all seems to be happening so much earlier these days. I remember a particularly awkward conversation around here after one of my older son's classmates was caught having a girl (not his girlfriend) giving him a blowjob in the boys bathroom. It was really hard to try to explain to them that they should try to figure out what exactly she was getting out of it...not just that it was one sided in the pleasure department, but in that what kind of emotional need was she trying to fill. That a girl who was willing to (figuratively or literally) get down on her knees in a public bathroom-self esteem issues? trying to get people to like her? etc. Tough tough discussion. I heard a radio interview with Peggy Orenstein, author of Girls and Sex, the Complicated New Landscape where she talked exactly about that point. Many of the girls she interviewed gave no thought to the fact that they weren't getting anything out of the relationship. Seems like an interesting book.
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Post by Hayjaker on May 26, 2016 4:07:56 GMT
I talked a lot to my daughter (19) about the emotional consequences of sex. Preventing pregnancy is important definitely but there is so much more than that to discuss! We talked about sex as a physical and emotional connection, how she viewed her boyfriend and his importance in her life and her Goals for life. We talked about how sometimes men and women view sex differently. I feel like my daughter is very grounded and these conversations helped. I also talked to her boyfriend about sex and their future and responsibility.
And then I never talked to her about it again in the context of her having a sex life UNLESS SHE BROUGHT IT UP. We talk a lot in general about our views and morality and her younger sister, but nothing specifically about her sexuality. (Unless she starts the conversation).
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Post by Hayjaker on May 26, 2016 4:11:21 GMT
Also, my daughter has used Nexplanon with no side effects. Her friend had horrendous side effects. Every body is different.
The nicest thing is it is implanted and can be forgotten. Huge peace of mind not to have to remember a daily pill!
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mlana
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Jun 27, 2014 19:58:15 GMT
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Post by mlana on May 26, 2016 4:26:54 GMT
I have no input on the discussion, but can I just recommend Nexplanon as an amazing option? Lowest failure rate, not dependent on taking pulls, lower hormones than the pill, lasts 3 years. Many people recommend iuds for teens for those reasons, but I'm not a big fan of the idea metal/pokey plastic all up in my uterus (even though they are incredibly safe). Nexplanon is more effective than any other form of birth control, INCLUDING sterilization. Which is insane. And it reverses as soon as it is removed. You can research Nexplanon, biggest downside is it can cause breakthrough or irregular/unpredictable bleeding. Anecdotally, my doctor told me if you have it put in the first 5 days of your period, she has seen less issues with irregular bleeding. My doc and most of her nurses used it themselves. Don't confuse it with Norplant, not the same even though both are arm implants. Nexplanon is very popular in the UK, and I was really frustrated when I learned about it and asked why no one had ever informed me about it, even when I pressed for options. It was always "pill, depo, or IUD." I'm on my second nexplanon and love it. No periods for 6 -12 months for me, then they go regular just like with the pill or when I'm not on anything. My doctor said because of the low dose of hormones, she has no issue leaving women on it up until 50 and then starts testing for menopause. Not relevant to your dd, but just sharing in terms of safety. It can be expensive, but if you are on an ACA compliant Healthcare plan, it is covered. I'm on a grandfathered plan where birth control is not covered and paid about $800 out of pocket for it. Worth every penny and cheaper than the pill over 3 years. I actually had my second one put in at Planned Parenthood because I was in a new area and wanted to go to someone who had put in lots of them. Stellar experience there. If she gets it, have her wear an ace bandage around her upper arm for a couple days to minimize bruising, makes a big difference. Mostly painless though!! Can you tell I love this thing? I know this isn't what you asked, but I just had to share because I was so so mad I didn't know about it sooner. I was perfect at taking the pill, but after a recall, I felt like I needed something different. Between my two Nexplanon, I did the pill for a few months, and it was awful once I was used to Nexplanon!! I feel like every woman should know about this as a choice. My DD has this and her experience hasn't been as great as yours but she had some problems with BC pills, too. At least this way she knows without a doubt that the breakthrough bleeding she experiences isn't from missing a pill. I don't know if she'd do this again, but I'm glad she's tried it and very firmly established that her problems with breakthrough bleeding were not always the result of skipping a pill. I had one of the older implants done a mo th after this daughter was born. For 5 years, I had no periods, no PMS, nothing. It was heaven. I had my first period the 61st month after I'd had it done, so it expired right on time. The sudden deregulation of hormones triggered my lifelong asthma big time and for over a year you would have thought I had COPD. I was glad to find out that the new implants don't contain as large a dosage of meds and are nowhere near as likely to cause this side effect. Marcy
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Post by AussieMeg on May 26, 2016 4:28:18 GMT
paid about $800 out of pocket for it. Worth every penny and cheaper than the pill over 3 years. Thanks for sharing this, I might get DD to look into this option for herself. I wish it was around when I was younger and on the pill! I'd be very interested to see how much it would cost in this country (assuming it's available). The pill only costs $16 for 4 months here, so $144 for a 3 year supply - MUCH cheaper than $800.
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AllieC
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Jul 4, 2014 6:57:02 GMT
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Post by AllieC on May 26, 2016 5:34:42 GMT
My dd is nearly 19 and has been on BCP for several years for period issues. She has always acknowledged that she is a bit hopeless at taking them at a regular time and often gets breakthrough bleeding because she has forgotten to take one. That was a good reminder for me to say to her that she couldn't rely on it for birth control when the time came. She now has her first serious boyfriend so I spoke to her about it early. She said that they hadn't had sex but had talked about it and she knew they needed to use condoms not only for birth control but for STD's. I reminded her that she was conceived while I was on the pill and she was like so that was a good personal story LOL. She has always been much conservative than I ever was at her age so we have talked about the emotional side of sex and that she needs to be ready. She tells me she is LOL and she has really lovely respectful boyfriend so I think her first experience will be a good one. I'm so glad that we had this relationship and can talk about things like this. As much as I love my Mum, she is from a generation that didn't talk about this stuff.
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scraptag
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Jun 28, 2014 23:03:10 GMT
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Post by scraptag on May 26, 2016 12:25:14 GMT
Funny - I spent a chunk of last night lying awake, because my 17 yo daughter told me on our way home last night that she and her boyfriend of a year have been having sex for awhile now. She's been on the pill for more than year, before she started dating him. We have had many talks about unwanted pregnancies, std's, the emotional consequences, etc. She tells me they are also using condoms, so I feel good knowing they are doing everything "right". But as I was lying there unable to sleep, I still worried about the what ifs, thinking they are so young (to me they are still young), and so on. I have to say I am thankful for our open discussions - but I admit my stomach clenched when she told me. I know it's normal, I know I am supposed to be "okay no big deal" but it was still a little hard to hear. Another one of those things that starts to prepare you for them growing up and moving on.
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Post by tarheelgurl on May 26, 2016 12:52:40 GMT
Have you had a discussion about abstinence with her. I would encourage it.
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Post by AN on May 26, 2016 13:40:17 GMT
paid about $800 out of pocket for it. Worth every penny and cheaper than the pill over 3 years. Thanks for sharing this, I might get DD to look into this option for herself. I wish it was around when I was younger and on the pill! I'd be very interested to see how much it would cost in this country (assuming it's available). The pill only costs $16 for 4 months here, so $144 for a 3 year supply - MUCH cheaper than $800. I bet Nexplanon is much cheaper there too. The pill was $30 a month for me, so $120 vs $16 for 4 months. Subsidies and pricing models for pharmaceuticals -- generally more expensive in the US because they have to fund the products in a country that will allow it.
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Post by anxiousmom on May 26, 2016 13:59:35 GMT
Have you had a discussion about abstinence with her. I would encourage it. I would venture a guess that a lot of us who have discussed sex and birth control and all the rest have also talked to our kids about waiting. It is just that along with that, I would prefer to also make sure that my children have all the facts they need to make the decision on their own. My personal feeling, and I am sure that there are many that will be shocked and disagree, is that because I do not have any deep seated religious views concerning sex outside of marriage and I recognize that my boys are sexual beings in their own right, I am not going to tell them that abstinence is the only option. Far better to educate than to forbid.
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brandy327
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Jun 26, 2014 16:09:34 GMT
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Post by brandy327 on May 26, 2016 14:04:59 GMT
I have no input on the discussion, but can I just recommend Nexplanon as an amazing option? Lowest failure rate, not dependent on taking pulls, lower hormones than the pill, lasts 3 years. Many people recommend iuds for teens for those reasons, but I'm not a big fan of the idea metal/pokey plastic all up in my uterus (even though they are incredibly safe). Nexplanon is more effective than any other form of birth control, INCLUDING sterilization. Which is insane. And it reverses as soon as it is removed. You can research Nexplanon, biggest downside is it can cause breakthrough or irregular/unpredictable bleeding. Anecdotally, my doctor told me if you have it put in the first 5 days of your period, she has seen less issues with irregular bleeding. My doc and most of her nurses used it themselves. Don't confuse it with Norplant, not the same even though both are arm implants. Nexplanon is very popular in the UK, and I was really frustrated when I learned about it and asked why no one had ever informed me about it, even when I pressed for options. It was always "pill, depo, or IUD." I'm on my second nexplanon and love it. No periods for 6 -12 months for me, then they go regular just like with the pill or when I'm not on anything. My doctor said because of the low dose of hormones, she has no issue leaving women on it up until 50 and then starts testing for menopause. Not relevant to your dd, but just sharing in terms of safety. It can be expensive, but if you are on an ACA compliant Healthcare plan, it is covered. I'm on a grandfathered plan where birth control is not covered and paid about $800 out of pocket for it. Worth every penny and cheaper than the pill over 3 years. I actually had my second one put in at Planned Parenthood because I was in a new area and wanted to go to someone who had put in lots of them. Stellar experience there. If she gets it, have her wear an ace bandage around her upper arm for a couple days to minimize bruising, makes a big difference. Mostly painless though!! Can you tell I love this thing? I know this isn't what you asked, but I just had to share because I was so so mad I didn't know about it sooner. I was perfect at taking the pill, but after a recall, I felt like I needed something different. Between my two Nexplanon, I did the pill for a few months, and it was awful once I was used to Nexplanon!! I feel like every woman should know about this as a choice. As an option, I LOVE this form. When I got my last one, it was Implanon but just called this week about getting my next one. The one I have now is the 2nd or 3rd I've had and am getting another. I truly love it for me. As far as talking to your dd - I think anything you say will show her how much you love and care about her. My parents never informed me of anything. I learned everything from school and friends. NOT the way to go at all.
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