Is your dh a "yakker"?

I have no advice in dealing with it, but mine is the same way. If I'm in the kitchen washing dishes and don't mind conversation, then he couldn't be less interested. Let me start watching a movie or reading and suddenly we need to discuss every topic known to man.

That is exactly how my brother is and it drives me up the wall. I see him at least once a week so I've learned to just not watch TV or new movies when I'm with him. The worst part is he's usually quiet during commercials but suddenly has to chat when the program returns. Thank goodness for the ability to pause and rewind.

No, my husband is the quietest person that I know. He is a thinker and when he says something it has weight. I throw words around like they are nothing, but he only speaks if it is worth saying.

Melissa

Yes! He talks all. the. time. And first thing in the morning is bad around here since our 2 daughters are like me and need time to wake up before comprehending his words. Then he gets mad that we aren't responding, but we've all talked to him about it and still talk to him about it, but he still insists on talking to us and asking a million questions.

Unfortunately, I have no suggestions. We've been married for almost 29 years and I don't think it will ever change. Good luck to you though!

Not a big talker overall, but we both get our space. Compromise is the key.

Hahahahaha! We must be married to brothers. Mine wakes up whistling and happy as hell. Makes me want to strangle him.  Just don't talk to me for thirty minutes after I wake up!

My DH has been a top salesman for over 30 years and he is a talker! I was on my own for quite a while before we got married (I believe you were as well?) and it was hard for both of us to adjust. As time went on, we both gave a little. I still have a *moment* every now and again where I will just look at him and he will know to tone it down. HOWEVER - sometimes the car is the worst. I am not a big talker in the car for some reason. Just pay attention to the road, please. When we go visit my folks, they pick us up from the airport and we drive 3 hours north to their lake house. DH talks to my dad almost non-stop. My dad isn't a talker in the car either. Mom and I laugh. Poor dad.

When I get home from work, I come back to the computer room, and RFPea or check out Pinterest or other blogs for about an hour. My quiet time. He watches tv in the living room or piddles in the garage. I need that bit of really quiet time to wind down from work.

He isn't and I'm really not , but our son is.

My ex-husband was a storyteller. Not a bs'er but I mean a storyteller. People would gather around him and listen to what he had to say. He used to read non-stop and watch documentaries and was just knowledgeable about many different things. I wouldn't call him an authority on things, but he was very well-informed. Marrying a storyteller to many is interesting to say the least.

Nope. I am. My dad is. It drives DH crazy when my dad is here visiting. He and I talk and talk and talk. Lol

No. He's extremely shy and reserved until you get to know him, but even then he is not nearly as much of a yakker as I am.

He's like you in the mornings. He doesn't drink coffee often, but I'd say he needs a good hour or more to wake up and be capable of any real conversation or discussion. I can start yakking shortly after waking up.

The thing that has helped me the most with getting used to our differences with talking is reading more about introverted vs. extroverted personalities. It has helped me understand where he's coming from when he requests space and quiet-especially in the morning. I think Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain is a good book to start with.

Also over the years, I have learned to spot that pained look on his face when I'm getting too yakky, and simply ask him if I'm being too talkative. After a couple of times where he got cranky or close to a meltdown and I got my feelings hurt, we had a discussion about it and I promised that I'd rather know I'm overwhelming him before he gets to total frustration point. So, many times I spot it and ask, and sometimes he has to tell me, "hey, too much talking." I do my very best to back off when he tells me he needs some space.

I know that sometimes our differences in this area get on each other's nerves, but mostly we just laugh and joke about it.

My DH is a consultant and he gets paid to talk. By the time he gets home, he's pretty much talked out. When we go out with someone who makes him nervous, he forgets that no one is paying him to talk. He tends to pick up on something in the conversation and then proceeds to tell everything he knows about the subject, even if the person he is talking to is a respected expert in that field. This is not only embarrassing, but is really frustrating when I've attended some event just for the opportunity to speak to the expert.

I used to remind him before we went in to the event that I was there to learn and I needed him to be quiet and let me ask my questions and hear THE EXPERT's answer, but that just made him pissy. We tried arranging a signal so I could let him know that I needed him to stop talking so I could ask my questions, but when I gave the signal we had agreed on, he just started talking faster, like he HAD to get it out or die. LOL. when we got back to the car, he was pissy because I had tried to shut him up, as we had agreed on beforehand, and I was furious that, once again, he had spent the time I'd paid for telling the expert information about the field he was an expert in. Long ride home for sure.

Marcy

Oh, yes... Dh has never met a stranger and feels the need to tell me the life story of every person he encounters through the day. He also gives me the play-by-play of his drive to work and everything that happens all.day.long! after he is finally finished telling me all about every moment of his day, he'll say, "so, how was your day".

I have to say, it makes me crazy when dh says "did you hear about xyz?" When I say yes, heard all about it, he continues to tell me all about it!!!

My dh is quiet and understands I'm not a morning person. My dd on the other hand? Ugh. Finally last spring I did the same thing and just snapped at her. I felt terrile. I apologized for being so awful and then we talked about it. She really fid much better.
Now she is a teenager, hates mornings too amd also wants to drink coffee in peace. We are a good team in the mornings now.