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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jun 6, 2016 11:33:13 GMT
I would find a funny way of reminding him.
I would probably point at my coffee and shush him while making a ridiculous face.
I need my quiet me time too.
You need to find a time and space that is just yours so that you can retreat when necessary. He needs to understand and respect that.
Then you need to stop get irritated with him.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jun 6, 2016 12:32:20 GMT
No but my daughter is. I worked an incredibly long shift the other day (gone 17 hours). I came home tired and she was mad because I didn't have energy to listen to her teenage girl drama.
People around here know that I wake up slowly though and talking to me before I'm functional is risky! Ha ha
I understand your annoyance. Sometimes you just want quiet time to think. My sister will come out of her room downstairs just to shoot the shit. I understand she's lonely (doesn't work or go out much due to no car). However, I'm not here to be her friend or confidante. She can volunteer at the nearby senior center for that!
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Post by fredfreddy on Jun 6, 2016 14:38:50 GMT
Absolutely not. As I have said before, his silence is the one trait that still annoys but I'll take it over a yakker any day,
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Post by River on Jun 6, 2016 15:01:49 GMT
OMG YES!!! He starts talking the minute he gets up, doesn't drink coffee ad he's wide awake before the alarm goes off. Me, I don't say a word for at least an hour and I have to have my coffee.
He'll start in with questions and I just ignore him. That gets him frustrated so I give him the look and say now you know how I feel when you start talking before I even pee. We've been married 22 years and neither of us can change how we are in the morning.
We each try to be sympathetic to the other with this during the day as he is always super chatty and I'm not. We've worked at it so both of us can easily tell the other what type mood we are in without getting our feelings hurt. I just give him a kiss and hug and say I'm sorry baby but I need some quiet time. He also tells me when he really needs to blow off steam or just yammer to help clear his thoughts.
We still fuss about it a good bit, its a trait we don't share and is super annoying to both of us. My experience says it doesn't change so talk to him and see if there is a compromise. Fussing about a trait that is so ingrained in a person just ends poorly and eventually can cause resentment.
Good luck as you work through this together.
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Post by pierkiss on Jun 6, 2016 15:54:38 GMT
Mine likes to talk, but not nearly that much thank god! That would drive me absolutely insane, because I too crave quiet time.
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Post by smcast on Jun 6, 2016 16:40:55 GMT
Mine talks a lot about nothing. He says the same things three times. Alright, I got it. I'm to the point, concise.
He doesn't just say things, he describes the process, what materials things are made up of. If I ask if he likes something, he can't get I'm asking a yes or no question about the looks of a garment. He goes into the type of material, durability, and on and on. Grrrrrrr! I feel your pain.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jun 6, 2016 16:50:23 GMT
DH is not a talker at all. He's quiet to a point where I will ask him "what are you thinking about" just to see if we can get a conversation going. I fear I'm the one who talks too much.
I'm going to feel bad for DS's future wife. He seems to think he has to fill the silence. I should start working on getting him to understand that silence does not need to be filled. This is DH & I. I appreciate quiet as much as the next person but sometimes it's like pulling teeth to get a conversation going. He could literally sit there and watch tv for hours and never say a word. To be honest, it gets lonely even though he's right there.
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Post by lbp on Jun 6, 2016 16:51:20 GMT
YES! Ask my husband what time it is and he will tell you how the watch works!!! I am chatty too, but he never shuts up. Sometimes I just yell "Silence" I keel you" (like the dead terrorist on Jeff Dunham) Usually I am just give him my evil eye look and he will quiet down a little.
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~Lauren~
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Jun 6, 2016 17:02:05 GMT
Mine talks a lot about nothing. He says the same things three times. Alright, I got it. I'm to the point, concise. He doesn't just say things, he describes the process, what materials things are made up of. If I ask if he likes something, he can't get I'm asking a yes or no question about the looks of a garment. He goes into the type of material, durability, and on and on. Grrrrrrr! I feel your pain. You and I must be married to the same man. LOL
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