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Post by shescrafty on Jun 14, 2016 2:55:44 GMT
Some of you read my post the other evening about the dilemma with my son's baseball team and borrowed players. Tonight was much worse.
My son's team was leading the whole game. Cam was pitching in the 7th inning. There is a racist kid is on the opposing team's bench who is yelling things at my son (who was born in Korea). He yelled things like brown rice white rice, ching Chong, and even told him to get back on a boat and go back where you came from.
Cam turned and yelled shut up at the kid. The umpire said to Cam something like I know what that kid said made you mad but I'm gonna have to ask you to sit on your bench for the rest of the game. So my son gets benched for the rest of the game in the middle of his pitching. No penalty for the racist kid yelling stuff at him even though he clearly heard it.
My husband came over fired up and got in the umpires face. He was about to get kicked out until another coach came and pulled him away. My husband is very slow to anger, but the racist things directed at our son that got our son kicked out of the rest of the game set him off.
Coach from the other team came over to ask my DH what happened and when DH was telling him he went back over and removed the racist kid from playing for the rest of the game. So kudos to that coach for doing the right thing. And apparently other players from that team also came up to Cam and apologized.
The racist kids parents did come up and make him apologize but apparently he said it in a nasty ass manner. What a prick!
We are just so upset for our son. It really hung a black cloud in what should have been a great night!
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Jun 14, 2016 2:57:40 GMT
How absolutely awful; I'm so sorry!
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Post by janeliz on Jun 14, 2016 3:03:16 GMT
I'm sorry. I hate that a fun season ended like that for your son. As I've spent time around youth sports, I've sadly grown accustomed to disgusting behavior from adults. It's especially disheartening when it comes from another kid, though.
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Post by tincin on Jun 14, 2016 3:05:31 GMT
That sucks, what the heck was the umpire thinking benching your DS. Yes, he probably should have told his coach and let the coach deal with it but better yet, the umpire should have put an end to it when it started.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 3:05:50 GMT
I'm sorry  Unfortunately, assholes are everywhere. It is a bit encouraging that the opposing coach removed the kid from the game. Not cool at all that umpire did nothing-not even speaking the other coach. How old are these boys? |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 3:07:40 GMT
That umpire was way out of line. And it's interesting to me that the parents insisted their kid apologize, because presumably, he learned it from somewhere. I'm sorry your son had to experience that!
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Post by scrapngranny on Jun 14, 2016 3:09:55 GMT
That is beyond awful, my heart breaks for your son. If there is anything good out of this, it's what the opposing coach did. Hopefully, the boy who made the comment learned a valuable life lesson and the other boys showed your son that there are kids who stand up and do the right thing.
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Post by shescrafty on Jun 14, 2016 3:11:49 GMT
We highlighted the positive behavior of the other coach (who we have known in baseball for at least 9 years) and the teammates who came and apologized. The crazy thing is that the dad is FB friends with my DH and the kid has been on our son's team in the past.
My DH is filing a complaint against the umpire and trying to get him removed from umpiring any other games for our league. We would love to have the kid banned also but that is less realistic.
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Post by valleyview on Jun 14, 2016 3:14:37 GMT
I'm sorry that the game turned out so badly. Kids are supposed to learn the good things from team play, not how to be cruel. |
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 3:16:08 GMT
We highlighted the positive behavior of the other coach (who we have known in baseball for at least 9 years) and the teammates who came and apologized. The crazy thing is that the dad is FB friends with my DH and the kid has been on our son's team in the past. My DH is filing a complaint against the umpire and trying to get him removed from umpiring any other games for our league. We would love to have the kid banned also but that is less realistic. That's what I'd do, too. Focusing on the positives, and the good people that did speak up. Love wins when we do that. I'm also glad that your DH is filing a complaint against the umpire. That kind of thing definitely needs to be addressed in the league. |
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Post by refugeepea on Jun 14, 2016 3:16:11 GMT
I am so very sorry. That is beyond terrible. If there was ever a time for a parent to become indignant and get in the umpire's face, it was tonight.
I am very impressed with the coach and his players that stood up for your son. If I had been a spectator at that game, I would not have kept quiet!
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Post by mom on Jun 14, 2016 3:27:56 GMT
That is horrible! Im sorry your son (and your entire family!) had to endure that crap. I am glad that some stood up for you, even if the Umpire didn't.
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Post by finaledition on Jun 14, 2016 3:34:11 GMT
That's horrible. I'm glad at least a couple people recognized the-unfairness, rudeness, racism-involved. I would take it a step further and report this to the league's president and board. No way should that have been the proper response from the umpire-paid or unpaid!
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 4:14:25 GMT
The kid should be banned forever.
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Post by Jili on Jun 14, 2016 4:26:04 GMT
That is absolutely horrifying. I'm so sorry your son had to experience that.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 14, 2016 5:38:34 GMT
I am so sorry. Absolutely crappy thing for him to be exposed to.
My grandson who lives with me part-time is half Cambodian. He doesn't really distinguish among races and ethnicities yet, although he has noticed that his skin is darker than mine.
But I am just waiting for the trash talk to start at some point. Already a little girl who's been in school with him for two years now asked me if he's "Chinese." I just said no, he's American, and left it at that. I am sure she heard that at home.
I may strangle the first asshole kid I hear talking to him that way. Your husband is a saint.
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Post by anniefb on Jun 14, 2016 6:01:13 GMT
How horrible. Sorry that you and your family had to deal with that.
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Post by Really Red on Jun 14, 2016 11:26:20 GMT
Unbelievable. All your son did was yell Shut Up? No bad words? I don't understand that ump's reasoning. Good on the other team's coach for doing the right thing. But wow. I'm sorry for your son  |
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Post by JustTricia on Jun 14, 2016 11:41:27 GMT
Good for the parents for making him apologize and the coach for removing him, but why did none of them nor the umpire who obviously heard it step in and say something while it was happening?
Did your DH have a rule book with him? He should have asked the umpire right there to show him the ruling that allowed him to bench your son. If it was due to general sportsmanship, since the ump said he heard it the other kid should have been thrown out earlier. Once your son was benched did your DH call for a league official?
That's just an awful way to end the season. We teach our kids to stand up for themselves and others when being bullied, and here he did and was punished for it.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jun 14, 2016 11:50:07 GMT
I am so sorry. That other kid said disgusting things to your son.
I am glad the other coach had the sense to pull him from the game, but honestly, for something so foul, I think the penalty should be being banned from playing with their team.
In my workplace, an employee could be fired for making bigoted comments like that. Not suspended for one day. Fired. Permanently.
That kid needs to learn right this very minute that that speech is unacceptable.
(((hugs))) to you & your son.
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Post by monklady123 on Jun 14, 2016 11:57:19 GMT
Awwww...I'm so sorry that happened! Good for that coach for benching the racist player but I think there should have been a more serious penalty. And I agree with whoever said it wasn't right to kick your son out for responding but do nothing official (meaning an official ruling from the umpire, not just the coach) to the racist kid. I'm glad the other kids came up to your son to apologize also. I think I'd be reporting that incident to the league. But I'm like that.  |
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Post by brookeq on Jun 14, 2016 12:45:23 GMT
If your son was pitching and could hear him yelling that how did no other adults hear and step in earlier.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 14, 2016 12:49:47 GMT
I'm so sorry your son had to endure that. If he could hear what that kid was saying, couldn't the other players on his bench, his coach, and the umpire hear it, too? Why didn't THEY tell him to shut up so your son didn't have to? I'm glad the coach and some of the players apologized, but I would respect them more if they'd had zero tolerance while it was happening.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 14, 2016 12:50:05 GMT
The opposing coach should have stopped it before the umpire got involved.
I'm so sorry for your son.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Jun 14, 2016 13:42:39 GMT
My Hubby is an umpire for high school boys baseball and girls softball. He does little kids in the summer, too. He said he would have thrown the kid out of the game and if he kept it up told his parents to take the kid out of the park. He wouldn't have taken the kid off the mound.
He said the coach from the other team did the right thing.
He said every umpire he knows would have taken the kid out of the game, too.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 14, 2016 15:10:44 GMT
Some of you read my post the other evening about the dilemma with my son's baseball team and borrowed players. Tonight was much worse. My son's team was leading the whole game. Cam was pitching in the 7th inning. There is a racist kid is on the opposing team's bench who is yelling things at my son (who was born in Korea). He yelled things like brown rice white rice, ching Chong, and even told him to get back on a boat and go back where you came from. Cam turned and yelled shut up at the kid. The umpire said to Cam something like I know what that kid said made you mad but I'm gonna have to ask you to sit on your bench for the rest of the game. So my son gets benched for the rest of the game in the middle of his pitching. No penalty for the racist kid yelling stuff at him even though he clearly heard it. My husband came over fired up and got in the umpires face. He was about to get kicked out until another coach came and pulled him away. My husband is very slow to anger, but the racist things directed at our son that got our son kicked out of the rest of the game set him off. Coach from the other team came over to ask my DH what happened and when DH was telling him he went back over and removed the racist kid from playing for the rest of the game. So kudos to that coach for doing the right thing. And apparently other players from that team also came up to Cam and apologized. The racist kids parents did come up and make him apologize but apparently he said it in a nasty ass manner. What a prick! We are just so upset for our son. It really hung a black cloud in what should have been a great night! I'm so sorry this happened to your DS. But, I am so glad the other coach stepped up and benched him. |
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Post by anonrefugee on Jun 14, 2016 15:31:05 GMT
I'm sorry!!!
It heartening to hear the reaction of the other coach. I hope the creeps parents were sincere too.
Nip this bad behavior in the bud, little jerk!!!!
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Post by eleezybeth on Jun 14, 2016 16:55:15 GMT
If your son was pitching and could hear him yelling that how did no other adults hear and step in earlier. This! I'm sorry your son had to go through this. That kid didn't learn that in the dugout though. I'd be pissed at his parents AND the coach and every adult and child who heard him and didn't make it stop. |
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jun 14, 2016 17:00:40 GMT
Wow, this just totally pisses me off! I am so sorry your son had to experience this from some assy kid.
I am glad your husband is filing a complaint.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 14, 2016 17:07:18 GMT
Holy crap, I would be livid. Around here that would have been shut down quickly from other kids and parents in the stands...heck from anyone that heard those racist comments.
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