ddly
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Jul 10, 2014 19:36:28 GMT
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Post by ddly on Aug 4, 2014 0:31:10 GMT
I'm sorry you are having to deal with this.
Lisa D.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Aug 4, 2014 0:35:07 GMT
Hopefully he will listen to you and apologize. Alcohol is no excuse for acting like a jackass.
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Post by Eddie-n-Harley on Aug 4, 2014 0:39:28 GMT
I am sorry you are in this situation. Next time it happens, if you have something with that function, RECORD what he says. (My MP3 player will record, I think some phones do, too.) I'm not suggesting you use it for anything other than demonstrating to him that he did, in fact, say hurtful things.
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Post by Blind Squirrel on Aug 4, 2014 1:17:13 GMT
I'm sorry for what you are going through.
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caro
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Jun 26, 2014 14:10:36 GMT
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Post by caro on Aug 4, 2014 1:22:03 GMT
I'm sorry. Don't let him bully you. Big hugs.
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Post by pb on Aug 4, 2014 2:10:40 GMT
Sending you positive thoughts and hugs
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 5, 2014 13:12:06 GMT
You know, in the original post, I just knew it was your husband. I'm so sorry. Please, do not let him off the hook because he was drinking. Do not let him make you feel as though you over-reacted. I don't think you did or are.
Be strong, my friend.
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akathy
What's For Dinner?
Still peaing from Podunk!
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Location: North Dakota
Jun 25, 2014 22:56:55 GMT
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Post by akathy on Aug 5, 2014 13:55:27 GMT
I recently read the quote " Drunk words are sober thoughts" and it really rang true to me. Don't let him off the hook because he was drunk. You deserve much better than that. Hugs!
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Post by alibama on Aug 5, 2014 13:59:30 GMT
Drinking is not an excuse. I am sorry!
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scrappert
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Posts: 7,960
Location: Milwaukee, WI area
Jul 11, 2014 21:20:09 GMT
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Post by scrappert on Aug 5, 2014 14:02:03 GMT
Sorry hurtful words have been said, over and over. I hope you can find what you need to do to bring peace for yourself. Thinking of you.
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J u l e e
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Location: Cincinnati
Jun 28, 2014 2:50:47 GMT
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Post by J u l e e on Aug 5, 2014 14:09:59 GMT
I'm so sorry. I've been there. It's awful. All of it. The alcohol, the words, the behaviors, the trying to make it okay, the believing it, the decisions, the divorce. I hope you find peace. You deserve it.
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Post by auntkelly on Aug 5, 2014 14:14:39 GMT
I am so sorry this happened to you. No one deserves to be verbally abused.
I am saying prayers for you.
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smartypants71
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Jun 25, 2014 22:47:49 GMT
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Post by smartypants71 on Aug 5, 2014 15:38:13 GMT
I recently read the quote " Drunk words are sober thoughts" and it really rang true to me. Don't let him off the hook because he was drunk. You deserve much better than that. Hugs! I do think this is true. I got into a little bit of trouble with SO where I was the one saying some not so nice things after having a little too much to drink. But once I thought about it, it was exactly what I was feeling but didn't have the courage to mention it at any other time. It wasn't anything hurtful - just VERY honest.
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Post by I-95 on Aug 5, 2014 15:48:53 GMT
I'm sorry sweetie. You deserve better. Abuse is abuse, whether it's verbal put downs or a smack upside the head....nobody should be doing that to another person. I think verbal attacks are the worst, they cut deep and are so much easier for the abuser to brush off. If someone slaps your face it's hard to deny, but nasty remarks are are much easier for them, and often you (general you) to excuse. Don't put up with it. If you want to work it out, great, but the abuse has to stop. I hate that you're dealing with this...you really do deserve better. <3
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loco coco
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Jun 26, 2014 16:15:45 GMT
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Post by loco coco on Aug 5, 2014 15:55:02 GMT
my dad would be so nasty and mean to my mom and when we left he was shocked, he had no idea why and didnt think he was "that bad". These people are delusional.
Dont let his mean comments or sickness tear you down anymore. If he is not willing to get help or understand what he says hurts then he is not worth your time or tears. I watched my mom be manipulated and even when they divorced he did this to her for years. 10+ years later she is the happiest and strongest Ive ever seen her. Good luck, I feel so sorry for you and want to give you a big hug.
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scrappinmama
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Jun 26, 2014 12:54:09 GMT
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 5, 2014 16:23:00 GMT
I'm so sorry, op. It is not ok. You don't deserve it. And someone who can't remember what they said or did the night before, has a drinking problem.
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