AmyS
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Jun 26, 2014 3:16:46 GMT
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Post by AmyS on Aug 3, 2014 17:35:25 GMT
Since then I have been to the police station, and have engaged a legal investigator with internet expertise. Monday I will be looking for an attorney. I have made sure this weekend to never be alone. Benem, I am very surprised this legal investigator did not strongly advise you to say nothing about this issue online. Public discussion could have a negative effect on your case. I'm pretty sure that if you find an attorney who believes someone has done something legally actionable against you, that attorney would also advise you not to discuss anything about the issue publicly online. It would probably be in your best interests to remove all the details from this thread, as it's also very likely that whoever did something through your blog could eventually find you here. Many of your old posts may still be available through Google cache or the Internet Archive. I don't think you need to stop posting here entirely. Just stop posting things about your personal life until everything about your current situation has been resolved.
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SweetieBsMom
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Jun 25, 2014 19:55:12 GMT
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Aug 3, 2014 17:37:15 GMT
I think if your safety is an issue, you should not be posting under ANY circumstances. You say you fear for your life however, you are here posting. Just doesn't track.
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Post by salem on Aug 3, 2014 17:46:10 GMT
Stop the drama queen crap. If you're so afraid for your safety, get off the internet.
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hello
Aug 3, 2014 17:48:08 GMT
Post by annabella on Aug 3, 2014 17:48:08 GMT
Benem - I'm sorry you're going through this.
cindyupnorth - you need to learn how to use the quote button.
I didn't see anyone quoting the OP on page 1, maybe it's been deleted, but if someone quoted her whole OP come now we all know that's just for drama. If she wants to delete this post tomorrow she has the right to, she's just checking in to stop all the assumptions of what was going on even though this thread is pretty vague. For someone who can't type very well, you sure did type a lot! lol
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hello
Aug 3, 2014 17:57:56 GMT
Post by twistedscissors on Aug 3, 2014 17:57:56 GMT
Benem stay safe and I hope you are able to come back soon. Love your Mr Darcy stories.
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azredhead
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Jun 25, 2014 22:49:18 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 17:57:57 GMT
Post by azredhead on Aug 3, 2014 17:57:57 GMT
if the police are involved why would you post anything but anonymous? Wouldn't that hinder the investigation? So confusing but I hope you figure things out in good ways. I would be taking a break and changing the way I would do things online.
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Kerri W
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Jun 25, 2014 20:31:44 GMT
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Post by Kerri W on Aug 3, 2014 18:01:35 GMT
This is bizarre even by pea standards.
So this has been ongoing/happened more than once? Girlfriend! minimize your risk. For crying out loud don't go back to the "scene of the crime" and stand out there waving a freaking sign saying "Here I am! Over here! It's me!"
I'm sorry this has scared you. I really feel for you in that respect. But holy hell use your head about this because you are really coming off as attention seeking.
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Post by houston249 on Aug 3, 2014 18:08:00 GMT
I am extremely happy you are ok. Thank you for checking in with us.
If there is anything we can do for you just ASK!
Remember you are not alone, we are here for you.
Edited to add *Getting on my soapbox* Please everyone, stop with the maybe, coulda, shouldas and the specation of what she should be doing! Stop shaming. We peas are, in some sense a family. We need to stick together on this. Offer support, ideas and help. Do this through the PEAMAIL. No sense letting the people behind the scenes causing trouble for one of our own to have a heads up. Thank you for listening. *Getting off my soap box and returning to the safety of the pod*
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mely
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Jun 25, 2014 19:51:59 GMT
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Post by mely on Aug 3, 2014 18:17:55 GMT
I'm sorry, I hope you stay safe. I clicked through on one of your posts to your blog. If you feel you are in danger, perhaps you may want to take that down too.
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inkedup
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Jun 26, 2014 5:00:26 GMT
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Post by inkedup on Aug 3, 2014 18:19:04 GMT
I am extremely happy you are ok. Thank you for checking in with us. If there is anything we can do for you just ASK! Remember you are not alone, we are here for you. Edited to add *Getting on my soapbox* Please everyone, stop with the maybe, coulda, shouldas and the specation of what she should be doing! Stop shaming. We peas are, in some sense a family. We need to stick together on this. Offer support, ideas and help. Do this through the PEAMAIL. No sense letting the people behind the scenes causing trouble for one of our own to have a heads up. Thank you for listening. *Getting off my soap box and returning to the safety of the pod* Shaming? Are you kidding me? If this was my family member, I would give them the exact same advice Benem is getting and I wouldn't be so nice about it. Frankly, she's behaving in an illogical manner (to put it mildly) and needs to take the advice she's getting here if, indeed, she is in fear for her life.
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msliz
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Jun 26, 2014 21:32:34 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 18:19:12 GMT
Post by msliz on Aug 3, 2014 18:19:12 GMT
I'm just here to send you kind thoughts and to wish you the best.
Be careful, sweetie. Some people are nuckin' futs.
I agree with the others who suggested you get off the interwebs and rejoin us later under a different name.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 3, 2014 18:39:01 GMT
" cindyupnorth - you need to learn how to use the quote button." Nahhhh...I think I'm just gonna keep doing it this way from now on. I don't like being bossed around.
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caro
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Jun 26, 2014 14:10:36 GMT
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Post by caro on Aug 3, 2014 18:44:19 GMT
" cindyupnorth - you need to learn how to use the quote button." Nahhhh...I think I'm just gonna keep doing it this way from now on. I don't like being bossed around. That's funny Cindy. Sorry Benem for whatever you are going through. Seriously, you need to take this whole thread down.
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Post by houston249 on Aug 3, 2014 18:59:09 GMT
inkedup you pointed out a great weakness (clarity) in my post and seriously, thank you for pointing that out. I want to make it clear you and the rest of the advice giving peas are totally on the mark about the advice given here.
To clarify the nature of my post I was really taken back by some of the content of some of the posts in this thread I think we can agree drama queen is not helpful and nether is insinuating someone is looking for attention. I sensed a pile on and frankly, I now think I overreacted. Maybe I am just suffering from a case of kumbaya. Sorry if I offended anyone.
OP-I do agree with the advice given here until your situation is resolved at your end.
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Deleted
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 19:04:11 GMT
"Shaming" is becoming the new overused and improperly used buzz word, as "bullying" has been the past few years.
Benem has been given some caring advice based on the fact that she's afraid for her life and afraid to post here. I'm mildly astonished that she hasn't deleted this thread and herself from this board (and any other message boards). Get yourself together girl.
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Post by elaine on Aug 3, 2014 19:43:28 GMT
I would think that danger to personal safety would more likely result from email interactions and flirtations with sadists who post ads on Craig's List that one finds hot and publicly expresses so, than from a message board full of scrapbooking women. Or interactions on the other types of message boards mentioned on that thread. If one likes to engage in risky behavior online, it is likely to have negative results from time to time.
While the attention received for writing about being a flirt on the internet can feel good, I imagine, I think it leaves one open for unwanted attention from people who are predators.
Benem, if your personal safety is at stake, please reevaluate your internet posting - style, content, and where. Stay off the internet for a while. If it is about your heart being hurt by Mr. Darcy, I hope it heals soon.
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craftchickapowpow
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Jun 26, 2014 16:12:18 GMT
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Aug 3, 2014 19:54:28 GMT
if you are "afraid to be here now," I'm wondering...why are you here now? If I were in your spot, my personal safety and well being would certainly outweigh any desire I may have to satisfy the curiosity of speculators on this board (myself included.) Matter of fact, that would be the very last thing on my "to do" list. I hope you stay safe.
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Nanner
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Jun 25, 2014 23:13:23 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 19:57:57 GMT
Post by Nanner on Aug 3, 2014 19:57:57 GMT
I'm not sure what happened, but you take care of yourself, Benem.
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scrapaddie
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Jul 8, 2014 20:17:31 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 20:01:44 GMT
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 3, 2014 20:01:44 GMT
No clue what is going on, but sorry and stay safe
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Post by I-95 on Aug 3, 2014 20:12:55 GMT
I'm sorry you have been threatened, or made to feel unsafe, but wasn't one stalking experience enough for you? I can't imagine posting anything like the stories you were posting about your office romance, if you'd had a previous scary experience. That's not being careful in anyone's book. If I were in fear for my life, I sure as hell wouldn't be back posting all about it, I'd be removing everything I'd ever posted on the internet, under any name. This is crazy. Get off the internet and stop making yourself a target. That would be the sane and sensible thing to do.
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ingrid
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Jun 26, 2014 0:52:41 GMT
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Post by ingrid on Aug 3, 2014 20:14:54 GMT
Yeah, I don't know. All the advice and stuff that's been posted and you only reply to say there is no romantic situation going on? It makes me feel like you may have over-done it on the "we just kept licking and looking at each other" weirdness and now this guy has learned about it and has an issue with what you've shared here.
People who are terrified for their own safety don't typically continue to expose themselves in a place where they feel vulnerable. Like another poster mentioned, a concerned investigator would likely tell you to shut down your online presence until things are under control, not let your "stalker" know you've hired an attorney and kicked-off an investigation.
I guess I could be totally wrong, but I've grown pretty cynical after years of pea drama and this all seems pretty hinky to me. I think you really enjoyed the attention you were getting with your Mr Darcy stories until something made you regret sharing. As someone who has actually been terrified for her life, we have very different ideas about the best way to stay safe.
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Post by Sam on Aug 3, 2014 20:17:34 GMT
"we just kept licking and looking at each other" weirdness That certainly qualifies as weird to me...
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hello
Aug 3, 2014 20:38:25 GMT
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Post by Zee on Aug 3, 2014 20:38:25 GMT
Not trying to join in a pile on, but this IS rather odd behavior if you're scared for your safety and are engaging in an investigation. I hope all is sorted out.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 20:51:56 GMT
I am extremely happy you are ok. Thank you for checking in with us. If there is anything we can do for you just ASK! Remember you are not alone, we are here for you. Edited to add *Getting on my soapbox* Please everyone, stop with the maybe, coulda, shouldas and the specation of what she should be doing! Stop shaming. We peas are, in some sense a family. We need to stick together on this. Offer support, ideas and help. Do this through the PEAMAIL. No sense letting the people behind the scenes causing trouble for one of our own to have a heads up. Thank you for listening. *Getting off my soap box and returning to the safety of the pod* Shaming? Are you kidding me? If this was my family member, I would give them the exact same advice Benem is getting and I wouldn't be so nice about it. Frankly, she's behaving in an illogical manner (to put it mildly) and needs to take the advice she's getting here if, indeed, she is in fear for her life.
If this was my family member I'd be at their house, telling them how idiotic it is to claim to be in fear for my life, all while in the same places as I was before. I'd then unplug their computer and pack it in a box to take to my house until the police had finished their investigation. Frankly, I find it difficult to believe that if the police, investigator or attorney were involved, they would've told her to stay online and fuel the fire. So I'm not really sure I buy what's happening here because it makes so little sense.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 21:06:42 GMT
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Post by gar on Aug 3, 2014 21:44:02 GMT
WTF-ness I like that:)
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Post by myboysnme on Aug 3, 2014 21:55:39 GMT
"we just kept licking and looking at each other" weirdness That certainly qualifies as weird to me... Were they licking ice cream or lollipops and looking at each other at the same time? Kinda made me get a craving for a twisted soft serve.
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Aug 3, 2014 21:57:55 GMT
Post by Linda on Aug 3, 2014 21:57:55 GMT
prayers Benem
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joelise
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Jul 1, 2014 6:33:14 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 22:05:34 GMT
Post by joelise on Aug 3, 2014 22:05:34 GMT
I have no idea what is going on here. I remember OP's thread on two peas regarding her giving a cup of coffee to an Irish guy at work (I think I've got that right) , so I've tried to follow this thread. This may be weird, but if OP seems to be changing her story, might someone else be accessing her account!
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AmyS
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Jun 26, 2014 3:16:46 GMT
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Aug 3, 2014 22:11:32 GMT
Post by AmyS on Aug 3, 2014 22:11:32 GMT
Joelise, I'm pretty sure the latest guy she's talked about is not the Irish guy you're thinking about. I don't think there's any worry that anybody else has accessed her account. (If it were a concern, the admin has tools to help figure that out. It's frequently possible to tell, but not always.)
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