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Post by LAM88 on Aug 3, 2014 22:15:48 GMT
Oh my, I'm glad I decided to read this thread because you can't make this shit up!
OP...seriously? I read none of your Darcy threads because they didn't interest me, but somehow you found a way to make sure that everybody on Refupea now knows your story. Nice work for someone who claims to want to stay anonymous.
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Post by quinlove on Aug 3, 2014 22:18:26 GMT
Just curious if this would qualify for our first "Gate" at our new locale.
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AmyS
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Post by AmyS on Aug 3, 2014 22:29:25 GMT
Just curious if this would qualify for our first "Gate" at our new locale. No, the first "Gate" was what we deemed "Refugate" or something like that, when we ran off Adam who tried to get everyone all excited to move from here to a new board he created, that he would have slapped ads on so he could make money from the Peas. Unlike our admin here who was a regular Pea who just wanted to provide a new home for everyone, he himself didn't have any real connection to the old board beyond being married to someone who had been a member for a long time but hadn't posted in a very long time. It was obvious he created his forum for the potential of making advertising revenue off the site.
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joelise
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Post by joelise on Aug 3, 2014 22:34:53 GMT
Joelise, I'm pretty sure the latest guy she's talked about is not the Irish guy you're thinking about. I don't think there's any worry that anybody else has accessed her account. (If it were a concern, the admin has tools to help figure that out. It's frequently possible to tell, but not always.) Sorry, I didn't explain very well. I don't think it's the same guy, I was explaining why the thread caught my eye and why I kept reading. I never read the Darcy posts so I can't comment on them. But these recents posts from OP seem very different from the posts I've read from Benem in the past.
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Post by inkedup on Aug 3, 2014 22:44:38 GMT
I would think that danger to personal safety would more likely result from email interactions and flirtations with sadists who post ads on Craig's List that one finds hot and publicly expresses so, than from a message board full of scrapbooking women. Or interactions on the other types of message boards mentioned on that thread. If one likes to engage in risky behavior online, it is likely to have negative results from time to time. While the attention received for writing about being a flirt on the internet can feel good, I imagine, I think it leaves one open for unwanted attention from people who are predators. Benem, if your personal safety is at stake, please reevaluate your internet posting - style, content, and where. Stay off the internet for a while. If it is about your heart being hurt by Mr. Darcy, I hope it heals soon. Wow....I'd also say that the Craigslist sadists are more likely to be stalkers than someone here or even at the blog, as has been speculated. If OP is playing around with people who are looking for sex on Craigslist, and is fearful for her life, and is still not compelled to stop posting here or anywhere else, well.... Maybe she's not as scared as she's making us think she is.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 22:47:36 GMT
I would think that danger to personal safety would more likely result from email interactions and flirtations with sadists who post ads on Craig's List that one finds hot and publicly expresses so, than from a message board full of scrapbooking women. Or interactions on the other types of message boards mentioned on that thread. If one likes to engage in risky behavior online, it is likely to have negative results from time to time. While the attention received for writing about being a flirt on the internet can feel good, I imagine, I think it leaves one open for unwanted attention from people who are predators. Benem, if your personal safety is at stake, please reevaluate your internet posting - style, content, and where. Stay off the internet for a while. If it is about your heart being hurt by Mr. Darcy, I hope it heals soon. Wow....I'd also say that the Craigslist sadists are more likely to be stalkers than someone here or even at the blog, as has been speculated. If OP is playing around with people who are looking for sex on Craigslist, and is fearful for her life, and is still not compelled to stop posting here or anywhere else, well.... Maybe she's not as scared as she's making us think she is. I didn't follow her threads closely enough to know that she was "playing around" on Craigslist. I still wish her the best and hope she's safe...but I may have to put her on ignore because I'm not sure I can read any more from her.
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Post by craftchickapowpow on Aug 3, 2014 22:48:57 GMT
This may be weird, but if OP seems to be changing her story, might someone else be accessing her account! French teenagers perhaps ;-)
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 3, 2014 22:54:17 GMT
This may be weird, but if OP seems to be changing her story, might someone else be accessing her account! French teenagers perhaps ;-)
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Post by elaine on Aug 3, 2014 23:03:17 GMT
Joelise, I'm pretty sure the latest guy she's talked about is not the Irish guy you're thinking about. I don't think there's any worry that anybody else has accessed her account. (If it were a concern, the admin has tools to help figure that out. It's frequently possible to tell, but not always.) Sorry, I didn't explain very well. I don't think it's the same guy, I was explaining why the thread caught my eye and why I kept reading. I never read the Darcy posts so I can't comment on them. But these recents posts from OP seem very different from the posts I've read from Benem in the past. Eh, I don't know. Benem first made it onto my radar on the old board with the thread asking us to vote for a creepy sadist for best Craig's List personal ad, because she found him hot. And then started an email exchange with him, including sharing various fetish sites with him that she read/knew people on. And it was a 50/50 split between peas who were disgusted and those who lapped it up.
I don't really see any difference with Benem here - someone who really enjoys the attention she gets from a number of peas who get vicarious thrills through her sharing things that just shouldn't be put out there on the internet.
The Mr. Darcy saga read like someone who was much more interested in enjoying having Benem like him and all the attention she gave him, than was attracted to Benem herself in a romantic way. I didn't respond because I was somewhat embarrassed for her. I think it is likely that her deleting everything here is most likely due to some rejection on his part than her own personal safety. If she truly was in personal/physical danger, she would have to be mentally ill, or incredibly stupid, to start and participate in this thread.
Benem seems like a fun woman, and she clearly was a bright spot in many people's days as they read her posts. I hope that she is able to come back and be a part of our community in a way that is safer for her personally.
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Post by joelise on Aug 3, 2014 23:06:00 GMT
French teenagers perhaps ;-) This is way above my head!
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 23:09:57 GMT
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Post by elaine on Aug 3, 2014 23:14:25 GMT
FWIW, I predict that this thread will be deleted in its entirety.
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Post by LAM88 on Aug 3, 2014 23:16:48 GMT
This is way above my head! This goes WAAAAAYYYY back to a Pea who tried to backtrack on some crazy posts by claiming that French teenagers who were staying at her house had logged on to her account and were the ones who had posted those things. Or something like that. It's all fuzzy ancient Pea History.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 23:18:01 GMT
Eh, I don't know. Benem first made it onto my radar on the old board with the thread asking us to vote for a creepy sadist for best Craig's List personal ad, because she found him hot. And then started an email exchange with him, including sharing various fetish sites with him that she read/knew people on. And it was a 50/50 split between peas who were disgusted and those who lapped it up. I have no words.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 23:20:35 GMT
FWIW, I predict that this thread will be deleted in its entirety. Oh yeah. At any time now. But we might catch a break and it lives just a little longer.
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Post by lovestocreate on Aug 3, 2014 23:20:50 GMT
And that CL post on 2Peas is still viewable.....strange that wasn't deleted somehow.
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Post by azredhead on Aug 3, 2014 23:21:43 GMT
Checking to see if this thread was deleted. Please get yourself safe - somewhere but here for now.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 3, 2014 23:21:59 GMT
I have a word. Oversharing.
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Post by Skypea on Aug 3, 2014 23:24:36 GMT
I hope they find whoever is doing it. I heard this past yr that someone was prosecuted for stalking / attacking (verbal I think) online (on a forum) - I was glad to hear it too. I know in the past some peas have tracked down some other peas and that is just way out of line! I certainly wouldn't hesitate to get the police involved or hire an attorney if that happened to me. People are just going to extreme.
stay safe! time to get a guard dog maybe?
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Post by scrapngranny on Aug 3, 2014 23:26:05 GMT
FWIW, I predict that this thread will be deleted in its entirety. I agree and it don't think we will hear from Benem again either. The whole thing is nuts. I'm not buying the stalking/in danger stuff. I think Admin got played with all the drama and pulling threads request.
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Post by Chips on Aug 3, 2014 23:26:57 GMT
Came in hoping far an update on Benem and hoped it explain what happened. Now I am just totally lost!
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Post by linda~lou on Aug 3, 2014 23:48:37 GMT
Whoa, I just googled the Craigslist thread from the old board. seriously? None of the links worked anymore, that's probably a good thing. That was one strange post. I mean really strange!
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Post by christine58 on Aug 3, 2014 23:49:52 GMT
FWIW, I predict that this thread will be deleted in its entirety. I agree and it don't think we will hear from Benem again either. The whole thing is nuts. I'm not buying the stalking/in danger stuff. I think Admin got played with all the drama and pulling threads request. The more I think about it...the more I agree with you. Something just feels "off"
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Post by caro on Aug 3, 2014 23:49:53 GMT
Not to make light of this problem, but every time I see the thread title I think, "is it me you're looking for ?" Anybody know what I'm talking about ?
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caro
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Post by caro on Aug 3, 2014 23:53:48 GMT
I have a word. Oversharing. That's funny.
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Post by christine58 on Aug 3, 2014 23:53:57 GMT
Not to make light of this problem, but every time I see the thread title I think, "is it me you're looking for ?" Anybody know what I'm talking about ? LOL>>>Lionel Ritchie!!! "Hello" I've been alone with you Inside my mind And in my dreams I've kissed your lips A thousand times I sometimes see you Pass outside my door Hello! Is it me you're looking for? I can see it in your eyes I can see it in your smile You're all I've ever wanted And my arms are open wide 'cause you know just what to say And you know just what to do And I want to tell you so much I love you I long to see the sunlight in your hair And tell you time and time again How much I care Sometimes I feel my heart will overflow Hello! I've just got to let you know 'cause I wonder where you are And I wonder what you do Are you somewhere feeling lonely? Or is someone loving you? Tell me how to win your heart For I haven't got a clue But let me start by saying I love you Hello! Is it me you're looking for? 'cause I wonder where you are And I wonder what you do Are you somewhere feeling lonely? Or is someone loving you? Tell me how to win your heart For I haven't got a clue But let me start by saying I love you
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Post by caro on Aug 3, 2014 23:58:51 GMT
You got it Christine. Good 'old Lionel Ritchie.
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 4, 2014 0:01:57 GMT
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Post by cindyupnorth on Aug 4, 2014 0:03:52 GMT
"Eh, I don't know. Benem first made it onto my radar on the old board with the thread asking us to vote for a creepy sadist for best Craig's List personal ad, because she found him hot. And then started an email exchange with him, including sharing various fetish sites with him that she read/knew people on. And it was a 50/50 split between peas who were disgusted and those who lapped it up." ---------------------------------------------
ahhh...WHAT?!! When in the heck did this happen? do you have the thread saved? I've been here forever, and do NOT remember this!!
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Post by YooHoot on Aug 4, 2014 0:07:41 GMT
Here you goI missed the original posting...didn't click on any links either.
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