I lost my mom to cancer, it's only been a month and I'm...

I'm so sorry, my heart is heavy for you.

I'm so sorry you're in this stage of grieving. It is hard!!! When my Dad died it was almost like I had been grieving him his whole diagnosis. So, the months after his passing, were not as hard as my trying to deal during his battle with cancer.

Now, when our daughter died unexpectantly after birth, I hit every "stage" of grieving like a raging mess!! There are stages to this. And you are in a beginning stage. I believe in signs , and looked everywhere for my daughter as well. So I want to tell you this......in my heart, I know your Mom is there. She will carry you, and your family, through these coming months. Let yourself work through these stages, and know that your Mom is so proud of all of you, and that she is watching over each and everyone of you.

I will keep you in my prayers. Be kind to yourself and take time to heal my friend!

I'm so sorry. 

So very sorry! Losing a wonderful mother is always difficult. My thought are with you. I wore something of my mother's for years after she died, usually a piece of jewelry. It comforted me. I still use some if her things and I have lots of dishes and the like in my house today.

I am so sorry for your loss. My mom died of lung cancer last October. She died in our home where we had been caring for her not knowing she would only be here with us two more weeks. I am past the numb and denial stage. I MISS MY MOM! We, too, were very close and talked at least once a day, if not more. She needed a lot of help and care her last year of life. I so wish I could go walk her dog or do her laundry for her or go get her and bring her here or to chemo or anything. But I am also so glad she is no longer suffering. She was very scared of the pain she would have to endure. I am glad that is over for her. In fact, I bought fresh flowers last night and am going over to her grave to put them there in a little while. We finally got her gravestone laid about two months ago. It's beautiful and just what I wanted. Getting that was the last thing I could do for my mom. Well, I do have her little dog with me now and I think of her every time I snuggle with him, feed him, whatever.

Blessings to you.

I'm sorry.  You are dealing with a huge loss and will need huge amounts of support to get through this.  I think a support group is a wonderful place to start. 

I wish I could offer more than words and virtual hugs.  I'm sorry for the loss of your mother.  It sounds like she was a wonderful lady.  

I'm so sorry.

I can't even imagine your pain.  My thoughts are with you!

I'm so sorry. I've also lost my mother and it's something that is just very difficult. Time will bring you some peace and I wish the best for you.

I am so truly sorry for your loss. Moms are very special people. I lost mine almost 26 years ago and it is still so very sad. People said that time heals. I don't think that is true. I think you learn to manage the heartbreak better and value the great memories. What I feel most fortunate for is that I had a wonderful mother that I could have these strong feelings about so many years later. When I see other people that just don't have that relationship with their mom, for whatever reason, I am so truly thankful that I had such a great one for whatever time I had. As far as kids go, mine never met her, but my youngest son reminds me of her so much that I feel like God did that on purpose! I am happy that both of my kids have some of her genetics. There are good things will come in time, now just isn't the time for you. Grieve any way you want to get through it. It makes you a stronger person.

I'm so sorry. I cannot fathom such a tremendous loss, and my heart goes out to you. 

I so feel your pain and understand your sense of overwhelming loss.

I lost my dh which was so difficult. Little did I know that my beloved Mom would follow my dh just a few months later. Grief has not absolutes. It's ok to feel what you feel.

Four months after my dh passed I began to journal. I found that I NEEDED to say things that I did not want to say to anyone. I needed to "talk" to my dh. This might sound odd but this has worked for me. I am able to just "get it out". The anger. The pain. The loneliness. I don't write every day now. But it is not unusual for me that if I wake up in the middle of the night with something nagging at me that I get up and journal. Somehow I am able to "let it rest" there on paper.

Each of us handle grief in our own way. It will get easier as time goes by. I did not believe this statement initially but it is true. So hold on and you will find your way.

Counselling would probably be helpful. Do what you feel comfortable with.

You will be in my thoughts.

I am so sorry to hear that you lost your mom. I lost mine too, years ago, and I still miss her. Starting a hospice grief group sounds great, and I also encourage you to consider getting therapy. Grief is so hard to go through and there aren't any shortcuts to doing it, but perhaps therapy could help. Know that there are people who are keeping you in their prayers, me included.