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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 20:26:50 GMT
What do you want to do? Can you send your husband with a baby gift? ANd money for Uber for the ride home? DH is just as irritated with it as I am. Probably more so because he's been frustrated with them on how they live, abusing the system, don't work, etc. I told DH that his mom will make a stink if we don't show, but I told DH if he isn't in town that wknd then I'm not going alone with DS. I'll Amazon Prime a baby gift and call it a day.
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Post by mom on Jul 3, 2016 20:38:57 GMT
Wait, I read that to mean there is a joint party for the 27 year-old and his 1 year-old son. Am I reading that right? If so, hell no, won't go. What she said. Hell no.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 3, 2016 20:59:55 GMT
I do not really have an issue with a combined party per se.
I have an issue with The drinking the swearing Etc
I'd Amazon prime a parenting book, an etiquette book and a baby book and call it a day
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Post by anniefb on Jul 3, 2016 21:07:45 GMT
I wouldn't want to go either. But, then I would also feel obligated to go and make sure someone sane was watching out for the baby.
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 3, 2016 21:10:03 GMT
I'd go because it is family. I would be telling people about the invite and I would be taking notes.
I know this is going to make the peas judge me,and I am okay with that, but often I feel a little better about my life after spending time with the extended family.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jul 3, 2016 21:12:21 GMT
I do not really gave an issue with a combined party per se. I have an issue with The drinking the swearing Etc I'd Amazon prime a parpenting book, an etiquette book and a baby boom and call it a day We do combined birthdays a lot in my family as several people have birthdays really close together. And...well, I have to admit, it wouldn't be unheard of for a few beers to get passed around. But the drinking to get hammered would never happen, that isn't our style at all. What we do usually do is grill out, have a bunch of friends and family enjoying the day, and yes, even a few beers will get drank (or is it drunk?) My issue would be that it sounds like the partying is the sole purpose-not the celebration.
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Post by myboysnme on Jul 3, 2016 21:24:59 GMT
At the hizzle?! Fo shizzle? I'm sorry.
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Post by Scrapper100 on Jul 3, 2016 21:27:06 GMT
Drinking and drunk people at a 1 year olds party. I think it's time for dad to grown up.
I d ont think there is anything wrong with combining parties but a 1 year old and a 27 really are different parties especially considering the language and intent to get drunk poor baby.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 3, 2016 21:30:47 GMT
I do not really gave an issue with a combined party per se. I have an issue with The drinking the swearing Etc I'd Amazon prime a parpenting book, an etiquette book and a baby boom and call it a day We do combined birthdays a lot in my family as several people have birthdays really close together. And...well, I have to admit, it wouldn't be unheard of for a few beers to get passed around. But the drinking to get hammered would never happen, that isn't our style at all. What we do usually do is grill out, have a bunch of friends and family enjoying the day, and yes, even a few beers will get drank (or is it drunk?) My issue would be that it sounds like the partying is the sole purpose-not the celebration. That's exactly what I meant. I don't care if your having Aunt Sally's birthday with cousin Bob, Grandpa and the dog. Whatever. I don't really care if people have a drink here or there. However a party 'for' a one year old with the purpose of getting smashed - ummm NO thanks I'll skip that. Especially if your going to 'demand' my presence with one of the most obnoxious sentances I've ever heard on an invite. The invite is written like a frat party flyer.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 3, 2016 21:32:04 GMT
It is such a shame that your poor little guy is going to come down with the measles right before the party. Or chicken pox. Ok, how about explosive diarrhea? That might be more believable than the measles.
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Post by pierkiss on Jul 3, 2016 21:36:32 GMT
HAHAHAHAH!!!!!!!
It's just so funny and ridiculous! Pleeeeeeease go and then come back and tell us ALL about it!!!
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Post by seaexplore on Jul 3, 2016 21:38:48 GMT
We have a family party for the kids. BBQ, hanging out, chilling in the blow up pool. Then we have an after party. The majority go home and a few select stay and party on into the late/early hours. Kids play and parents hang out and enjoy beers/wine/margaritas. When the kids get tired, they find a comfy spot and crash out. There is always a DD for each family and I don't drink at all (allergic to the stuff) so I'm always the sober one. Works well for us. It's never explicitly stated that there is an after party but we don't put an end time on the invite.
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Post by Suziee2 on Jul 3, 2016 21:46:24 GMT
Can you send DH (hopefully via Uber, not driving himself) and stay home with the baby yourself?
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Post by KikiPea on Jul 3, 2016 21:48:39 GMT
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 3, 2016 22:21:56 GMT
I do not really have an issue with a combined party per se. I have an issue with The drinking the swearing Etc I'd Amazon prime a parenting book, an etiquette book and a baby book and call it a day Oh, I totally agree. I'm not against combined parties. It's the invitation and the presumed drunkenness that will likely ensue.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 3, 2016 22:40:24 GMT
Ka-lassy...
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Post by littlemama on Jul 3, 2016 22:51:48 GMT
It is family, we would go, but we wouldn't be drinking and we would leave pretty soon after dinner. You have an infant- use the infant to get out of there. Just make sure you and dh are on the same page about the plan before you go. This is probably what will end up happening. I'm still just gob smacked!! And only the baby will get a gift! Absolutely. It isn't even a milestone bday for the 27 year old. Seems like he is jealous of the 1 year old. And kudos for using "gobsmacked". Very underutilized!
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 3, 2016 23:55:54 GMT
Sounds like a blast! My kinda gig! My son and I have a combined birthday party for the family to attend every year - our birthdays are 2 days apart. But I can assure you f*cking b*tches that we don't get drunk! DS also has another birthday party with his mates.
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Post by lisae on Jul 4, 2016 0:45:35 GMT
And who is watching the 1 year old while the adults are drunk?
No, I would not go unless it was to rescue your nephew.
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Post by txdancermom on Jul 4, 2016 0:45:40 GMT
Well in our family we had joint parties for dh and ds every year - cuz they have the exact same birth date, just 29 years apart.
DS usually got the more elaborate party - with friends, etc, and dh would get cards and some years his own cake.
But the kind of party you got the invite to - we would make an appearance and then leave.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2016 1:00:08 GMT
I really want to believe that invite was for her girlfriends.
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Post by mlynn on Jul 4, 2016 1:18:25 GMT
Won't your baby be inexplicably colicky that day? A screaming baby is a real downer at a party, not to mention at a public venue. You can't possibly go under those circumstances.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jul 4, 2016 1:20:22 GMT
Sounds like a classy bunch.
My neighbors just had a similar celebration for Father's day. The dad is in his late 20s, his mom came over to celebrate with him and his 18 month old baby. They started drinking at 10am, at noon they broke out the pot, and by 2pm the mom was screaming "THIS IS THE BEST DAY OF MY LIFE!!! I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!!" The best day of your life is day drinking and getting high with your son for Father's Day? Really???
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Post by StephDRebel on Jul 4, 2016 1:24:49 GMT
This is the kind of party facebook live was made for.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jul 4, 2016 1:40:10 GMT
Send one of those gallon sized plastic bottles full of generic beer with a bow on top that you see drunk people buy at 6am. Meanwhile, you and your baby stay home and avoid the drunks. EW!
ETA: I would send the baby a couple of books and a book for the parents, like something from Dr. Sears. That baby needs all the help it can get. Oy!
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Post by bosoxbeth on Jul 4, 2016 1:41:18 GMT
OMG!
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Post by littlemama on Jul 4, 2016 1:45:43 GMT
This is the kind of party facebook live was made for. YESSSSSSSSSS, PLEASE OH PLEASE OH PLEASE!!!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 4, 2016 1:45:47 GMT
I wouldn't want to go either. But, then I would also feel obligated to go and make sure someone sane was watching out for the baby.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jul 4, 2016 2:39:00 GMT
Oh....my.....
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Post by lurkingsince2001 on Jul 4, 2016 3:23:54 GMT
Congratulations @carblover443 with this thread you're officially part of RPea's history and lore! 'Cause you know this is one that going to come up again and again. It's a gift that keeps on giving, much like the hangovers some of the guests are going to get. I know I'll think of it every time an invitation thread pops up.
As for your MIL giving you grief if you don't show... you will probably do lots of things as a DIL and parent she doesn't agree with. You'll save yourself years of grief if you establish some boundaries and back them up now. Just because you married her son doesn't mean she gets to guilt you or take an attitude with you when don't meet her expectations. You can make an excuse, take a hard line, fob her off, whatever, but have a plan you can live with and make certain DH is on the same page.
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